Romance at Work

[nix]

Well, why not? I'm sure that for as long as the prospects for a good time are there, then by all means, you should enjoy yourself.

[§ínned™]

Doing it right now. I'm glad she speaks good English or else I really have to polish my Spanish.

Love is all around. Love is in the grocery store. That is true when you have a good excuse why the need to go there everyday - Gilette shaving cream! She'll notice it for sure!

§inned™

[Maverick]

the aftermath? just make sure the things you say at the present cannot be used against you in the future. mahirap mag-damage control! also, try to be as eloquent as possible.

most important of all, do have a good time.

[nix]

Well, for as long as he isn't your boss (pwede rin but more complicated), then it really is a very normal thing to go out with an officemate. Just make sure that it doesn't affect your office work.

[Eterna]

Peps: ive been there.
hirap nga nung aftermath...especially when it came to a point that we were both due for a promotion.i got the position and he didnt.sama ng loob niya sa akin; it took almost a year before things started to get better.at least we've done efforts to transcend the things that happend.it was a slow process though, halos i would give up na nga eh.it did affect our work...as in kung minsan ang dami absences, dami unfinished reports.that isnt the worst yet, mas grabe yung effect ng office grapevine;below the belt kung minsan ang mga usap-usapan.at least this time,medyo tanggap niya na rin na ako na supervisor niya sa office ngayon...but i had to fight tooth and nail to gain everybody's respect kse naman dahil sa sobrang inis ng guy sa akin he tried to destroy all ive worked for.


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[Maverick]

Eterna: tsk! tsk! good thing naka-recover ka.

[Rydex]

I really don't see anything wrong with that just as long as both of you know your limitations. If ever complications arise, I'm sure both of you are mature enough to handle them :).

PEACE :)

[Eterna]

maverick: oo naman!(thank God). ;)

rydex:'tis easier said than done. you just dont know the extent of complications unless you've experienced it yourself.people can be so cruel.

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[Rydex]

Eterna: Tell me about it.

PEACE :)

[humane]

ive experienced it once but turned out good. maybe its because we're close friends before we go out for a romantic date.
but dating with your boss? it might end up too bad. you have to set boundaries coz your boss might think he/she still a boss outside the office.

[KuyaDanny]

I met someone at work on my first job, we started seeing each other and I ended up marrying her eight years later.

Since you'll be spending so much of your daily life at work, it's hard to compartmentalize your life and shut yourself out from possible romantic encounters. So I say, be open to the possibility.

But, as Eterna and nix have said, there are also potentially sticky situations. When you are aware that they may happen, you can at least attempt to deal with them before they happen.

You'll probably want to avoid going out with a superior or subordinate, though. It complicates things and ends up turning into a "work or relationship" decision - one which you'd rather not have to make.

[Gilbey]

avoid inter office romance at all costs

[Gilbey]

Nix, with your new work place - considering the beaties there - do you think it would be proper to have inter office romance?

[Seele]

"Never date an officemate" was my rule. The reason -- GRAPEVINE. This however does not stop me from going out and having fun with my officemates. In fact, I used to go out regularly with an officemate before. Sometimes we travel together on assignments. Now even if we're no longer officemates, we're still in touch. Nothing beats friendship!

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[tRiStAn]

there's nothing wrong about that as long as it will not affect your job performance.

[ChiQui]

I guess I would. But as much as possible, I'd like to avoid such an opportunity coz I really don't like mixing business with leisure. :)

[zimdude]

another case of "heart vs head" :)

[gem]

i cannot see why not ;)

[RuckuS]

avoid inter office romance at all costs







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[JDELEON]

No. You can date your officemate, but you would have to eventually
a) kill her.
b) marry her.
c) fire her.
d) quit your job.

Seriously though, romantic love compromises your professional objectivity. (Feeling frisky tonight? Do you think tanking her proposal is a good idea?)

But the beautiful thing about our world is that unique experiences require unique responses. Sometimes it does turn out okay. But that is simply not always the case. Best of luck.

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe

[zimdude]

Hmm what if I resign so that I could date my current officemate? ;)

[planetary]

I don't see how different this would be from any other situation. Difficult 'Aftermaths' also happen in school, among barkadas etc. It's probably just seems to be a more high-risk, high-return situation.

Why not? If it works out, then great! If it doesn't then well, it's just like any other break-up in any other situation. There's the chismis, the controvery etc as Eterna said. But think of your break-ups in high school or college and the 'difficulties' you experienced then. Don't they seem trivial and petty now? I guess a break-up at work seems so grave now because we're currently in that situation. But I expect that when we're old and gray we'll just laugh at it.

Well at least, Eterna, I hope that's what happens... :)

[Gilbey]

go out as in office romance? NOOOOOO

believe me... it costs more than its benefits... forget it...

[Rorschach]

Me and my present girlfriend used to be office mates. In fact, she was my subordinate. At first it was a delicate situation, and word does travel fast over the grapevine. However, it all turned out well in the end. We were doing our jobs okay, and the rest of the office actually didn't mind the match. Time and attention may tend to get divided though, especially when you lose track of why it is your going to the office. Is it going to work or to meet your girlfriend?
We're working for different companies now, but we're still together. The problem for our old workplace was that, when I resigned, she followed suit. Imagine the problem I put my old boss in, having to look for 2 replacements at a time. Add that to the fact that besides my boss, we were a 3 man staff!!! Less 2 people, and you have only one technician left to run a company!?!
Having a relationship in your workplace is fine. Just keep in in check though. Preferably, you're in separate departments. Also, people tend to frown on a superior-subordinate relationship. I remember the time my girlfriend talked to her friends about me, saying that I'm her boss. Everyone thought I was a DOM until she explained that I was only 2 years older than she was. Anyway, nothing is really wrong with it, but I'm sure management or the company owners won't like it.

[NoisyCricket]

there's really only one question you have to ask yourself, and that's is she/he worth it? that's the most important. if she is, then you know what to do.

for me, my relationship with my present girlfriend is one of the most impt things in my life :) and I met HER at my former job, which was teaching in the Ateneo HS. So dating a co-teacher has different nuances than dating an "office-mate" but I did that too. Things didn't really go "bad". I mean we don't talk anymore, but that was because I really knew how to pick them. She was a different religion, had different interests, and so it just wasn't meant to be. Doesn't make me any less of a person just because I don't keep in touch anymore.

When I took the teaching job, I just saw a connection between me and my gf. To me, there was only one important thing: and that was the promise of something truly FANTASTIC! I didn't let the fears or the negatives stop me. In love, like in life, one must never let the negatives drown you out. "Look on the bright side," people always say. That's something parents do sometimes. They always look at the negatives first, and what things can go wrong. And plan from there, assuming worst case scenarios. That's no way to live life.
Always being afraid of some things.

This is not economics, whether you lose or gain face, and there is no law of supply and demand. This is not a game where you either win or lose. This is about the dynamics of being human :) and that means knowing what you want, and what you are willing to do for it.

yes the friendship factor is something to be considered, but if you were really friends, then friends would still be friends through thick and thin. would you rather not do anything at all, and spend the rest of your life wondering what could have been? (man that sounds like something from dawsons)

and as for the prying eyes and the nosy grapevine. screw them. it's usually the single and very available who have nothing better to do than spice up their own boring lives with your relationship. just ignore them completely. it's your relationship not theirs. they don't and will never profit from it, but you will. SO they have NO SAY whatsoever.

Would you place yourself under the microscope for the chance at true love? Hell, man. I would. I have. And I couldn't be happier. (man that sounds tacky hehehe)
:cool:

[Gilbey]

if you find yoruself asking this question.. dont!

if you are not asking it - and you are the typical, proverbial blind fool in love, it would not matter. you are so damn in love you would not be rational... so go ahead...

[zimdude]

Well, if your life is lived only in the office and the house, where would you meet anyone else?

[virgo14]

zimdude: um, at PEx... ;)

seriously though, there's nothing wrong with establishing a good rapport with your peers but a romantic entanglement? i don't think so. office politics are hard enough to deal with as it is. someone's feelings will invariably be hurt, affecting job performance and creating tension in the work environment.

[NoisyCricket]

thinking negatively, yes, that could happen. Things could not work out and blah blah blah there goes your career and your friendship down the drain (yeah right - it heals).

thinking positively, it works out and you live happy ever after. I'd take that chance every single time. :D

[zimdude]

any new thoughts on this? I have this interesting officemate now... hmm :| hmm

[zimdude]

... but I still don't dare. :*)

[junh]

Why not?????

I don't see what's the big deal!

[trixxie]

i won't. i always put ethics above personal benefit.

[yourstruly]

Personally, no, I would rather not get involved with
someone at the office. Maybe, if it's just hanging out together and having fun, ok lang siguro yun. Mahirap kasi
pag may emotional involvement, kung hindi mag work out,
yun ang mahirap. It is very uncomfortable...But my close
friend met her husband at work, she had to quit her job
though coz of all the hassle sa trabaho and gossip...

God Bless... *orangeangel*

[DaNa8]

Ok lang... But I'm just not into dating now. I'm actually avoiding this officemate who kept asking me out.

[zimdude]

I think it would also depend on the size of your company. Right now, at 100 people, our company is still small enough for the grape vines to grow. Maybe if your company spans multiple floors of a building, or multiple buildings. Then, if bad stuff happens to your relationship, it is easy to avoid each other :glee:

[Agimat]

It doesn't matter how big your company is ... there's always people who don't have things to do but talk about inter-office romance ....

[Agimat]

I dated an officemate once ... barkada ko pa ... naging talk of the company kami :)

But its not easy. tuwing lalabas kayo, laging merong tsismis. ang hirap pa nun, same department kami so lagi kaming nagkikita at nag-uusap tungkol sa trabaho.

It's hard to ignore the feelings that I have for her even at work. kung baga e di ako maka-concentrate. siya din. feeling niya un-comfortable siya. tapos everytime na may meeting, di naiiwasang mabanggit yung tungkol sa amin.

nahirapan kami so we decided not to continue our 'relationship' :) we just became friends. para di complicated :)

[Medar]

My friend was fascinated with the way how she was treated by her boss...and then suddenly ..una crush lang but then love nya na pala..ano kayang pwede nyang gawin....mmmm?;)

[KuyaDanny]

This is rarely a sustainable situation. She should be prepared to choose, as soon as possible, between being the guy's lover or the guy's subordinate, not both.

If she chooses love, she should find another job and quit the present one. If she chooses work, she should get over the crush or whatever related feelings she may have.

[bUrAoT]

Baka naman infatuation lang yan....

Love? Do your friend knows her boss personally? I know her boss is just an ordinary guy that can have a relationship with, but if her boss wants to have a relationship with her then better tell your friend to move out of the company because her career will be greatly affected.

[pinbox]

Medar behave. :lol:

[tazbivr]

Tell her to submit her resignation verbally to the Boss and tell her to divulge the situation. What happens next is either disaster or another love story. Radical dude,simply radical.

[ü fLiK ü]

naku ang hirap nyan.. kung saka-sakali:

pag umaga sa work: ang lalaki ang boss!

pag gabi sa bahay: si babae na ang boss!

:D

[rabbaddal]

I'll introduce the topic with an article from the MBA Jungle magazine. Even those at the higher ranks fall into the trap.:D

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The Perils of Office Romance: Why Don't We Do It in the Cube?

In case you had any doubt: love and work usually don't mix. Here's why.
Dating in B-School: Mergers and Acquisitions

Somewhere, very soon, in a small office or a large high-rise, two pairs of eyes will meet -- then lock. A lunch date will follow, or perhaps drinks, and suddenly the workaday grind will become a heart-stopping romance, filled with excitement, drama, and danger. The simple truth is that as long as humans work in close proximity to one another, sparks will fly. The not-so-simple truth is that an office romance can have a dramatic impact on your company or even on your career. Below, seven stories of professionals who followed their hearts, only to find themselves in surprising -- and sometimes horrifying -- places.


1. If you date the boss's boss, you can kiss your job good-bye

The flirting began after Linda*, a young vice president for a division of CBS, gave a presentation at an out-of-town convention. Maybe it was something the supremely confident VP said, or the way she said it, or how she looked -- but something caught the eye of Matthew, a top CBS executive who was in the audience. After the presentation, Matthew approached Linda and began his pursuit. "He was in my face everywhere I went," she says.

Back at the company's New York offices, Matthew started calling her to chat and ask for advice about the business. "It was flattering. And it was comforting to know that the guy in charge thought I was doing a great job," recalls Linda, who was one of the few women in CBS's senior ranks at the time. Before long, the honcho, who had seldom been seen on the floor where Linda worked, began appearing at her office. "It became uncomfortable. Every time he showed up, it caused a big stir."

Linda says that her immediate supervisor, Bill, seemed particularly annoyed by all the attention Matthew was lavishing on her. But despite the bad vibes, Linda jumped into a romantic relationship with Matthew. When he wanted to meet on Sixth Avenue late one afternoon, Linda admits, she got a rush from the risk of being caught in broad daylight.

As Bill's irritation grew, Linda decided it was best to come clean with him and ask for his advice on how to handle the situation. She told him about the romance but assured him she wasn't encouraging -- and was uncomfortable with -- the extra duties Matthew was giving her. " was very fatherly," she says. "He said he would take care of it. But the way he took care of it was to fire me at the earliest opportunity. I'd been there for eight years and was doing a great job, but none of that mattered." Linda threatened to file suit and wound up with what she says was a nice settlement.

Looking back, Linda blames herself for not seeing the real problem with dating someone so powerful -- it sent a signal to her boss that she was getting favorable treatment from the top brass. "It's too bad," she says, "because in this industry people already think that women sleep their way to the top."

[b]2. If everyone is doing it, you can kiss your company good-bye

The Silicon Valley headquarters of the @Home Network was buzzing on the morning the news was announced that the company had bought the Web portal Excite. But not because of the supposed synergy of the tech companies involved in the merger: "Excite was known for its good-looking men," says Emily, then a 27-year-old technical manager. "The attitude was 'Ohhh, fresh meat.' "

At the new company, high-speed Internet provider Excite@Home, intraoffice romance became as routine as intraoffice mail. "For three straight years, everybody I dated came from work," recalls Emily. But, she says, she never went as far as the employees who were caught in flagrante delicto in a senior VP's office. When management sent a memo to employees after a particularly raucous party, demanding they "remain professional, even after office hours," no one paid much attention.

Employees considered the free-love atmosphere -- along with the on-site chef and the slide that ran from the second floor to the first -- part of what made Excite a cutting-edge company destined for greatness. But in fact, the love fest became a serious drag on productivity and a factor in the company's eventual demise. "I would guess most people spent at least 10 percent of their time at work discussing their love lives," Emily recalls. "Everybody was madly messaging one another all day, doing postmortems on who did what to whom over the weekend."

Even decision making at the firm seemed more a product of office romance than sound planning. Employees knew that if they needed one particular VP's approval, they would get faster results by going through one of two assistants he was sleeping with. And business trips often had little to do with business. "At one point a senior exec asked in our weekly meeting if all of our business trips were based on who was dating whom," says Emily.

As the firm disintegrated, the sexual playground became more of a battleground, marked by petty bickering over broken relationships. "There'd be snide comments from co-workers and occasional stalker-ish behavior," Emily says with a shudder. Meetings became more like couples therapy: One jealous guy Emily had briefly dated developed a habit of blowing up and verbally attacking her other male friends.

Excite@Home went bankrupt in 2001. Analysts laid blame on an embattled board and rudderless management. They can add romance-obsessed employees to the list.

3. If you think breaking up is hard to do, try breaking up at work

Shona would be the first to admit that she had a thing for powerful men. But it wasn't just Joseph's position as an executive VP at a California bank that she found alluring. He was good-looking, too, and Shona, a lending officer in her mid-twenties, was ripe for the plucking. "I was young. I was on the rebound, and when he suddenly propositioned me over drinks, I thought, 'Why not?' "

Shona and Joseph, a married man 15 years her senior, spent their first year together enjoying the illicit nature of their romance, leaving separately for lunch and then meeting at restaurants. They eventually let their guard down and started flirting in front of colleagues. Gossip about their affair moved quickly up the ranks, and soon Joseph's boss pulled him aside. "He was too valuable to be disciplined," Shona says, "but he was told, 'If you're going to do this, you've got to be discreet.' "

The incident added to Shona's doubts about dating a married man. Meanwhile, she started going out with a guy who didn't work at the bank. When she told Joseph, he blew up. "He started leaving me freaky messages. He became mean and told stories that didn't make sense, like that he thought I had talked to people at the office about our relationship, that his wife knew, and that he couldn't stand to lose me. It started getting scary."

Shona attempted to assuage him by meeting his many demands, like downplaying the relationship at work and even talking with his wife and denying any romantic involvement. But nothing seemed to calm him down. "The whole situation at the bank was exploding," she says, "and I wanted out of the relationship." And that required Shona to come to terms with a stunning realization -- she would have to quit her job. Leaving the bank was the only way to escape Joseph's rage; moreover, she felt her reputation had been damaged beyond repair despite having received stellar performance reviews. "I was viewed as a 'little cookie,' " she says.

Shona went on to get an MBA and now works as a marketing manager at a blue-chip food manufacturing company in the Midwest. Reflecting on her experience, she offers this advice: "If you're going to get involved with someone at work, understand the ramifications of that romance possibly ending, which can be far worse than breaking up with someone outside your place of business."

4. When the charge of romance turns into a charge of sexual harassment

Eric's first contact was innocent enough. In the break room at work, he merely recommended a particular brand of cold medicine to Alicia, an ailing co-worker who was standing nearby. She responded with a thank-you, and within days, a steamy e-mail flirtation erupted between the two employees at a West Coast lending company. "We started having lunch together and meeting for drinks or dinner after work," Eric recalls. "She was very exotic. I was smitten almost immediately."

Alicia had told him at the outset that her husband was abusive and she intended to get a divorce. But as she continued to return home to her husband night after night, Eric began to question Alicia's story. So he confided in a close friend at work. "He told me that Alicia had pulled this on someone else prior to my arrival at the firm, and that she'd gotten the guy fired," Eric says.

Eric immediately dashed off a letter to Alicia, accusing her of being dishonest about her marriage and ending their contact. Days later, the firm's HR director called him into her office. "Alicia was there and had with her the letter I wrote. She was using it to position me as some sort of stalker," he says. "She said that I'd created a hostile work environment for her, that I'd been sexually harassing her. It was mortifying."

HR launched an intensive investigation of Alicia's claims, requiring numerous meetings between Eric and his boss, who dug into the particulars: How long did the relationship last? How serious was it? Did he ever force himself into Alicia's life? Desperate to put an end to the inquisition, Eric provided HR with all of his and Alicia's mostly racy e-mail exchanges. The e-mails had violated company policy prohibiting the use of office property for personal reasons. Still, says Eric, "I felt like I needed to make crystal clear to everyone involved that this had been a mutually consensual relationship, down to the day before I'd written her that last letter." The e-mail record ended the controversy. Wiser now, Eric admonishes anyone who is romantically involved with a co-worker to document everything.

5. The price you pay can go beyond your reputation

Rochelle had been working at a real estate firm in a large city for two years when the firm's president introduced her to Andy, a former business-development specialist who was new to the industry. When the president asked if she would show the tall, dark, and lithe recruit the tricks of the trade, Rochelle was, she admits, "giddy. I really was a complete goner from the get-go. It was embarrassing, and I'm not a shy person."

For two weeks, the broker, who had been briskly selling $1 million-plus homes in a red-hot market, took Andy to look at properties and meet her clients. That led to late-night dinners and, in Rochelle's eyes, true romance. "I actually phoned my mother and told her that I was dating her future son-in-law," she says.

As Andy struggled at his new job Rochelle played the role of the supportive girlfriend, even giving him some of her best clients -- and thus commissions -- to help him get established. "Real estate is all about who you know. I know lots of people in this city; he didn't. I was looking at the relationship as a long-term proposition, an investment," she says. Andy thanked her with extravagant dinners and concert tickets.

After four months of dating, however, Rochelle began to suspect Andy's motives. Even after giving him clients worth about $40,000 in commissions, Andy kept asking for more, making Rochelle fear that he was using the relationship for leads rather than love. When she finally got the nerve to tell him she couldn't afford to give away more of her business, he became petulant. "He started acting like a child and suggesting, pretty bluntly, that I was greedy. It was crazy. Never mind that this is how I make my living, too."

Rochelle finally ended the relationship when she discovered that Andy had begun cold-calling clients she'd introduced to him in social settings. "I was furious," she says. "And I'd be a lot farther along in my own house payments had I not gotten mixed up with him."

6. Losing your job is nothing compared with losing your entire department

For more than a year, Candace, a 25-year-old brand manager at a midsize consumer packaged-goods company, enjoyed the benefits of being part of a smooth-running six-person international marketing team. Her team's collaboration led to new partnerships, new products, and a 36 percent increase in the brand's annual market share. Then Candace, who oversaw a $2 million marketing budget, began to date Jason, the handsome, older team leader.

As Candace and Jason began to spend more time together in the office, other team members figured out that a romance was under way -- and they were less than thrilled about it. The delicate balance of power among team members had shifted in Candace's favor, making her suspect. Prior to the affair three members of the team whom Candace had mentored would regularly come to her with questions about Jason. But now the three more or less avoided confiding in either of them. "The team was upset because the equilibrium had been altered," she explains. "We stopped doing things as a group, and that created a separation between us and them."

The distrust among team members turned to disgust as the couple engaged in a very public, two-week-long breakup. Behind office windows in full view of the team, the lovers quarreled, screamed, and slammed doors while their co-workers ducked for cover. One teammate, Carl, foolishly stepped into the middle of the fray by saying things that suggested he had taken Candace's side. His relationship with Jason quickly soured, leading Carl to quit the firm. "The situation couldn't have been worse," Candace recalls. "Everyone on the team stopped talking to one another. Everyone retreated into their own camps." Desperate for advice on how she should deal with the crisis, Candace confessed everything to the HR manager, who later called in an irate Jason to discuss the matter. The upshot? The entire international marketing team was, in the words of management, "reorganized." Jason was sent to Europe to launch an overseas division. A few months later Candace was transferred to another supervisor and then left the company altogether. The remaining members were moved to different departments.

No one was more surprised than Candace at how one bad relationship could alter the careers of six people. "Everyone was disillusioned, including myself," Candace says. "I was thinking that it was such a waste. I definitely felt responsible, but I certainly didn't foresee this outcome when we started dating."

7. Sometimes honesty is the best policy

Melody and Jonathan did what most smart, levelheaded people do when they have an office romance: They kept their mouths shut. They promised each other they wouldn't tell anyone at work, even their friends, even after a few too many at the bar.

They were peers in a New JerseyÐbased publishing company. Staying undercover seemed like the best way to protect their careers. "We thought it could be uncomfortable because we worked in the same department," says Melody, a project manager in her mid-twenties at the time. If her boss knew, Melody feared, she'd be written off as a flake and perhaps penalized; some people might second-guess her decisions. And she cringed at the thought of co-workers gossiping about her romance as if it were a soap opera.

As the romance grew more serious, relations at work took an unexpected turn -- the duo started to feel increasingly isolated. When colleagues wanted to know what Melody had done over the weekend, at first she would make up a plausible tale. But that started to feel sleazy, so instead she tried to avoid chitchat altogether. That, in turn, left her feeling supremely frustrated. "Here I was in the midst of the most important romance of my life and I couldn't share it with friends at work," she says.

The couple managed to keep things hush-hush for two years, until they decided to marry. "When we got engaged, we figured it was time to tell people," Melody recalls. Reactions varied. "Some people were very shocked, and some had had an inkling that something was going on. But there were ultimately no negative repercussions."

Melody now realizes that she could have handled things differently. Once the romance became serious, it would have been fine to tell her colleagues and supervisor. After all, she and Jonathan didn't work together directly, so there was little chance of favoritism or other work conflicts between them. "It would have been more fun if we had been honest," Melody says with a sigh. "We could have let people know. We just didn't know how."

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Your thoughts & expreriences are most welcome.

[bullion]

as much as possible i hate the idea of getting involve romantically with any of my opismeyts. dami dito nagkakariran pero ako hanggang sulyap na lang.
kayo from experience okey ba ang romance na bugbog sa pressures at deadline sa work?

[mickaela]

hmmmm.... ako walang experience jan.. hehhe.. naintriga lang ako kaya ako andito.. =P

anyway, pov ko lang.. mukhang mahirap ata un... ako kse *** bf ko nagwowork sa call center tpos ako rin i was looking for a job in the same industry but i didn't dare apply in the company he works for. coz although lagi nga kame magkikita.. i don't wanna be compared kse.. heheh.. tsaka mahirap paghalo *** personal and professional relationship kahit anong industry pa yan... pero shempre.. meron pa rin nagwowork.. ako, ayoko lang..

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Ako ang dami kong experience na ganyan. Isa doon sa unang company ko, nakasagutan ko yung isang marketing officer sa kabilang department. Ngayon, naging bad trip kami sa isa't isa, kaya para magkaroon ng goodwill, niyaya ko siya mag dinner. So kumain kami sa Cravings sa may Shangri-La noon at habang nag-uusap, napansin ko na cute yung mata niya (very light brown) at napaka smooth ng balat niya. So kinamusta ko yung boyfriend niya ay sinabi niyang: "boyfriend? ano yun?" So yun ang naging hint ko. Puwede pa, at lalong lumagkit ang titigan namin. Pagkatapos kumain, naglakad lakad kami sa mall at habang paakyat ng escalator, hinawakan ko yung kamay niya at hindi naman pumalag. Humigpit din siya ng hawak. Tapos nun, nag suggest ako na manood kami ng sine at umoo naman siya. Kaya ayun, pumasok kami sa Mulan at siyempre dun kami sa pinakamadilim na parte sa likod. Back there, we made out and did some things indescribable here. Nagkaroon kami ng mga subsequent trysts sa motels at room niya pero nagbibigay siya ng hints na gusto niya makipag commit sa akin. Eh ako ayaw ko pa nun kaya I just skirt the issue. Tapos nagkaroon pa ako ng experiences sa dalawang kliyente namin. Yung isa papunta na ng Italy pero ang landi. OK naman siya at ang galing. Yung isa naman super sexy at grabe talaga. Tapos nun, nag abroad ako. Nagkaroon naman ako ng experience sa isang taga mainland china. Manager siya ng Motorola noon pero bata pa at ang ganda. Yun na yata ang pinakamaputi at pinakamakinis na balat na masarap sipsipin sa lahat ng naka experience ko. Nagkakahawakan na kami during Office Hours pero patago. Pero ang pinakamatindi nun ay nung nag overtime kami isang Sabado at kaming dalawa lang ang nasa office noon. Nasa upuan ko ako noon at inupuan niya ako, grabe tapos naghubad sa harapan ko at ang sarrrrrrap! Siyempre nasundan ng mga episodes sa motel at sa kotse... ngayon sa bago kong kumpanya... girlfriend ko yung pinakamagandang accounting clerk... ;)

[Dunedain]

If it's just for the sex - OKs lang. If things get serious - very bad.

[Fairy_nd_meadow]

A BIG NO.

Para akin lang, if you wanna get romantically involved with someone, not with your co-workers please..... it makes work rather complicated. Enough with the "inspiration" stuff.... one should be inspired to work even without a love interest. Minsan, nagiging complicated tuloy ang dealings kasi you have to consider pa those "love" issues.

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Hindi totoo yan. Nasa tao naman yan eh. Kung immature sila at nakaka-interfere sa trabaho ang mga "extra curricular activities" eh masama nga yun. Pero kung hindi, hindi naman. Just be discreet at huwag pahahalata sa madla. Huwag din gagawin kapag oras pa ng trabaho o may mga kailangan pang tapusin. Bakit yung mga iba mag-asawa pa sila partner in running the business. Meron pa nga sa US army mag-asawang parehong Colonel na assign sa parehong lugar and they work together fine. Kami nga nung isa pagkatapos ng overtime namin, we rewarded ourselves by pleasuring each other for jobs well done. ;)

[jeff_kaith]

if you're in the same department, most especially if you're in the same office room - try not to

if your office location is different, maybe different floors or even different buildings if your company is that big - it's much better though it's not a guarantee to shield you from the perennial office grapevine

there's nothing really wrong provided both persons are able to handle the relationship well. after all love doesn't choose locations, it chooses the person.:inluv:

[commander]

ok *** yun...there's nothing wrong **** basta d nkakaapekto s trabaho yng relationship...my uncle met his wife s office nila same department...nung nging mgboyfriend *** ngptransfer to another dept yng uncle ko *** wlang conflict daw s trabaho...same company yun