[Merged] How to tell ur boss that you want to leave the company

[miles_away]

my friend is just a few months employed in the office but she's looking for other companies...she doesn't know how to tell her boss about this..i can't help her our either...should she tell her boss about this?

[KuyaDanny]

She must first plan for possible contingencies.

1) What are the boss's possible reactions when he finds out?

a) Why are you thinking of leaving? Is there a problem with your job? How can I convince you to stay?

b) Bahala ka sa buhay mo.

c) Really? Pack up your things and leave this building in 15 minutes. I'll have security escort you out.

Is she ready for any of these (or other) possible outcomes?

2) Is the boss open to discussion, or an a$$hole? If he is open, then why not ask for a few minutes of his time and discuss this privately. If he is an a$$hole, type out the resignation letter and hand it to him.

[skywalkr]

for me i do think its improper telling her boss she has plans of leaving the company (unless if they're close and open with each other)....so either she resigns or stick to her job first while looking for other job..if she decides to stick to her job ..marami naman ways para magpalusot sa boss (for tests, or interviews etc..

[TNT2bluz]

A resignation letter I filed over a year back.

Dear Mr. Boss, [real name supressed]

Pleasant greetings and hope that you are in the pink of health!

My assignation as a consultant beginning March of this year, was for the purpose of facilitating the formation of a Data-Exchange Network/Internet Utility business, in which I would step in as an industrial partner who will oversee operations upon its commencement. Though these efforts have been present since October of 1998, unforeseen developments have occurred which has not allowed the consolidation of this operation.

Nonetheless, in the course of this assumed collaboration, a good number of studies involving the technical, financial, and other aspects of the project have been rendered and revised according to the changes brought about by the delays.

Though I have willfully withdrawn myself from receiving any more financial compensation from the company for the month of May, I have continued to fulfill my responsibilities relevant to my purpose in entering as a consultant. I have continued to communicate with the prospective suppliers and partners and at many times, conducted meetings with them.

As evidenced by recent events, the priorities and the orientation of the company has shifted to a point wherein my inclinations have become gradually divergent with it. In such a case, I see no purpose for my continued involvement with the company as I believe it would seemingly be an incessant expense of resources and time for the firm.

With these concerns in mind, I would like to respectfully pass my resignation effective this day, June XX, 1999, and ask that it be noted.

My thanks for having the opportunity of working with your company.

:D :D :D

[hudyat]

My experience when I told my boss that I wanted out...

It was our weekly meeting, and as usual, I had another long talk with regards to our flagging product... after all assignments had been discussed, I handed her the letter of resignation that I had spent a week typing. It shocked her that I was looking for another job behind her back the entire time I was employed in the company and that I had actually gotten a go that I would be employed by that company I had applied too. I was honest and brutally frank that I wanted out and she let me go just like that... It was very satisfying for me, natangal ang lahat ng angst ko by being very honest, but I don't think she enjoyed that moment.


[This message has been edited by hudyat (edited 07-30-2000).]

[JDELEON]

Resigning from a job is never easy. And it isn't always smart.

Allow me to be the contrarian for a moment.

Before leaving ask your friend to consider:
1) Why is she leaving?
- Is there a better opportunity ready for her?
- Is she just plain unhappy?
- Are work conditions terribly unfair? oppressive? evil?
- Is the position a deadend?
2) Will moving to another job make things any better?
- Are there opportunities in her current workplace that she hasn't noticed yet?
- Will another office make her any happier?
- Will the new company be more fair? wonderful? blessed?
- Is there another position in the company she might be happier and better at?

While I am all for career and personal advancement by taking a zigzag route to the top, I caution against running away from problems. Before leaving my job, I made damn sure that the problem was with my job and not with me.

There is an almost sure fire way to find out if your friend will like her new officemates... ask her if she liked her old ones. Please do not be offended, it is not my intention to trivialize your friend's work situation. But I am asking her to take a second and third hard look.

She has only been working a few months. In many cases, there is a lot more for her to learn and adjust to.

Hope this helps. Best of luck to her.

May Angels smile upon you (and your friend),
Joe
ps. I have said this before,but browse through the Careers section of www.fastcompany.com, (http://www.fastcompany.com,) a lot of good ideas and food for thought.

[sardonic wench]

before telling your boss that you want to leave the company...

a. be sure that the boss is an a-hole.

b. you have another job to land on.

c. you have made a very good impression on all the contacts you've had because if you want to work for the same field, chances are you will bump into them.

d. you have done exceptional work in the company and even if your boss hates you so much, he/she cant speak badly of you in terms of work quality.

e. get every proof that you have done good work.

f. you will never regret leaving the company because you know that you're saying goodbye to all the stress, the low salary and the office politcs you cannot stomach because your boss is the son/daughter/niece/nephew of the higher ups and she/he makes backbiting an olympic sport.

[hudyat]

Gusto ko lang sagutin ito

before telling your boss that you want to leave the company...

a. be sure that the boss is an a-hole.
- A big A-hole
b. you have another job to land on.
- Yup, did that.
c. you have made a very good impression on all the contacts you've had because if you want to work for the same field, chances are you will bump into them.
- I did, but I'm never going back in that field again, ever.
d. you have done exceptional work in the company and even if your boss hates you so much, he/she cant speak badly of you in terms of work quality.
- That seemed to be a point which my ex-boss acknowledged.
e. get every proof that you have done good work.
- The product is still alive and kicking.
f. you will never regret leaving the company because you know that you're saying goodbye to all the stress, the low salary and the office politcs you cannot stomach because your boss is the son/daughter/niece/nephew of the higher ups and she/he makes backbiting an olympic sport
- AMEN! :D

[JDELEON]

Sounds like you have decided. This article can be found in www.fastcompany.com. (http://www.fastcompany.com.)

Since you are moving, it might be really helpful. There are related articles that you might even more helpful. (Your First 60 Days, Your First Impression--- all from the June 1998 issue of FastCompany.)

May Angels smile upon you,
Joe
ps. Kuya Danny, if you have any ideas on how I can better share/present these articles, pls let me know.

Your First Seven Seconds

Media expert Roger Ailes gives advice on making great first impressions

by Cheryl Dahle
from FC issue 15, page 184

You've got just 60 days to prove yourself on a new job - and just seven seconds to make a good first impression. Seven seconds is all that people need to start making up their minds about you, says Roger Ailes. Formerly a top Republican strategist and now chairman and CEO of Fox News, Ailes is one of the world's leading practitioners of the smart art of personal persuasion. He is also the author, with Jon Kraushar, of You Are the Message, an insightful guide to mastering public and private speaking. Here are three of his best, battle-tested tips for delivering your message quickly and powerfully.


Amp up your attitude.


"When meeting someone for the first time, concentrate on one thing: your energy level," Ailes says. "If you don't demonstrate an energetic attitude on your first day, you're already screwing up."


Recognize face value.


"Many people, particularly business executives, believe a poker face is a strategic advantage," writes Ailes. "Sometimes it is. But often, you only gain complete credibility with an audience when they feel you're completely open. The viewer generally perceives the warmer, more vulnerable personality as being stronger and less afraid."


Give your message a mission.


"Let other people just blab. But when you talk, have an agenda," he says. "True story: As we neared the launch date for the 24-hour Fox News channel, people were burning out. So I started holding 4 a.m. meetings as a way to force a change in people's attitudes. The meetings helped me discover who could stay on their feet - and who would get crushed."

[miles_away]

Thanks for all the suggestions! These will be of great help to my friend.
___________________________
She must first plan for possible contingencies.

1) What are the boss's possible reactions when he finds out?

a) Why are you thinking of leaving? Is there a problem with your job? How can I convince you to stay?

This is the exact reaction of her boss. She told the boss the she doesn't find any challenge with her work and ofcourse the boss tried to convince her. But the problem really is just that she's not happy with the company and that she wants to work to a bigger company which gives her more satisfaction.

She did not made it final yet that she's going to resign because she's not yet sure if she'll be hired by the other company which is a competitor of her current employer. She's having difficulties of finding valid "palusot" for being absent to take the exam and interviews.

[womanontop]

just write a resignation letter and give the co. 2 weeks notice.

[roxyd3428]

miles_away,
thanks for this topic.
am also in the same siutation as your friend.
this has been very helpful.
new here so hi to all of you ...

[Cute_Piglet]

I am planning to resign from my current job. This is my first job and I have no idea of what the etiquette for resigning is....

Do I tell my current employer that I am leaving because I am joining another company?

Does my current employer have any right not to accept my resignation?

What do you mean by a "mature and professional resignation"?

[mart1]

Look inot the eyes of your boss and say "Boss, you are the weakest link, GOODBYE". hehehe

I take a mercenary approach. You should be most loyal to yourself and your family. Corporate loyalty is a thing of the past.

My advice? Excellence in everything you do. Why? If you resign, you just may receive a counter offer to make you want to stay (golden handcuff) . If you don't, move on. O before you do, make sure you have a job to go to. NEVER leave without a firm offer from another company.

Do you think I am mean? Ask any headhunter. They will tell you the same thing.

[gemyl]

ei mart1 head hunter ka ba?

[KuyaDanny]

Originally posted by Cute_Piglet
Do I tell my current employer that I am leaving because I am joining another company?

Does my current employer have any right not to accept my resignation?

What do you mean by a "mature and professional resignation"?

I prefer to keep resignation letters concise. Two to five sentences should do it. Say that you are resigning. Declare an effective date, and thank your boss and the company. Reserve everything else (reasons, suggestions, etc) for the exit interview.

I think it's a little awkward and unproductive for any employer to "force" an employee to keep working in the company against the employee's will. However, your employer might do one of these things:

1) Persuade you to stay and maybe make a counteroffer;
2) Insist that you move back your effective date to whatever minimum period the employer is entitled to by law; or
3) If you are under a special employment contract which binds you to keep working for them for a certain period, they may wish to exercise their remedies as stated in the contract.

[nance]

There's a site devoted to resignations! :)

I-resign.com
http://www.i-resign.com/uk/home/default.asp?p=r

Quick links:

Resigning with Style and Dignity
http://www.i-resign.com/uk/workinglife/viewarticle_4.asp

Resignation Letters
http://www.i-resign.com/uk/letters/

[Cute_Piglet]

I like the site that you referred to me nance. Thanks! I think I got most of my inquiries answered...if not all...

well, i'll be verbally resigning in a few hours...texted my boss last night for a talk today...medyo napa-nervous ko ata siya...but i should also think of my future di ba...

counter offers may or may not come...actually di ko na inaasahan. m just too eager to announce my resignation...so i guess i simply want to leave...

[Claudine]

what is the most ideal excuse for quitting? my boss has been very supportive of me from the time that i was newly hired. however, i realized that this isn't the job for me. i dont' want to say anything concerning my work since everything there is to know about the job has been thoroughly discussed w/ me during my interview....i

any tips? a friend of mine advised me tell my boss that i found a better job offer.....actually, wala pang bagong job offer but i'm not really sure if i could stay any longer! help!

[ilpadrino]

Ask your boss about the last time he/she ate or drank a LOT that he/she couldn't take anything anymore. Wait for a few seconds then blurt it out. :D

[nance]

Hi Claudine,

Check out this thread:
How to tell ur boss that you want to leave the company (http://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/showthread.php3?threadid=10452)

[KuyaDanny]

Thanks, nance. ;)

Claudine, why should you be looking for an excuse when the truth will work fine? Tell the truth - the job is not for you. It seems that the job is yours as long as you want it. If you don't want it anymore, I don't see how your staying around can be good for anybody.

[Claudine]

hi kuya danny! i know it sounds immature to consider coming up with an 'excuse' to be able to quit. u see, my boss could possibly react in the most 'unexpected way'...heheheh..she could be very tactless and brutally frank when it comes to expressing her disappointment. Just want to make sure that i won't be having any clash with her.;)

[KuyaDanny]

Fair enough.

If that is the case your problem is more about finding the right TIME rather than finding the right EXCUSE. I suppose you know your boss well enough to be able to detect when she is more open to bad news. Choose the right time, and tell the truth.