He Says, She Says --- the Diversities of the Filipino Language

[ChiQui]

I received this through email and I couldn't help but laugh and agree with how how "different" men and women's minds work. What do you think? :)

FILIPINO - The Language of the Sexes :
Manspeak and womantalk are not too difficult to translate. Just read between the lines... What she says vs. what she means

She says: "Bahala ka."
She means: "Pagsisisihan mo ito."

She says: "Sure, go ahead."
She means: "I don't want you to."

She says: "Hindi ako galit."
She means: "Galit ako."

She says: "I just want a stable future."
She means: "I want to be rich."

She says: "Hindi ka marunong makinig."
She means: "Sumunod ka sa gusto ko."

She says: "Mahal mo ba ako?"
She means: "May ipabibili ako."

She says: "Gaano mo ako kamahal?"
She means: "Sabihin mong ako ang pinakamagandang babae sa balat ng lupa."

She says: "I'll be ready in five minutes."
She means: "I'll be ready in one hour."

She says: "Nakikinig ka ba?"
She means: "Sumunod ka na kasi sa gusto ko."

She says: "Magsine tayo sa SM."
She means: "Magsha-shopping ako."

She says: "Simple lang ang gusto ko sa buhay."
She means: "Alahas, kotse, mansion sa Alabang."

When asked by her boyfriend: "May ginawa ba ako?"
she says one thing but means another, as you can see:
She says: "Wala"
She means: "Marami."

She says: "Ayokong pag-usapan."
She means: "Bumubuwelo pa ako."

She says: "Wala talaga."
She means: "Hayup ka!"

She says: "Wala. Talagang-talaga."
She means: "Gusto ko nang mag-break."


What he says vs. what he means

He says: "Gutom ako."
He means: "Inaantok ako."

He says: "Pagod ako."
He means: "Pagod ako."

He says: "Gusto mo bang kumain?"
He means: "Gusto kong kumain."

He says: "Talagang gusto mo ang sineng ito?"
He means: "Ang corny."

He says: "What's wrong?"
He means: "Hay naku, heto na nanaman tayo."

He says: "OK naman ang haircut mo."
He means: "Ngiii!!!"

He says: "May nasabi ba ako?"
He means: "Tama na nga iyan."

He says: "Mag-usap tayo."
He means: "Makinig ka. Magsasalita ako."

What he says when shopping with his girlfriend:
He says: "Hindi bagay sa iyo."
He means: "Masyadong mahal."

He says: "Maganda iyan."
He means: "Mura."

He says: "Bagay na bagay sa iyo. Bilhin mo na."
He means: "Gusto ko nang umuwi."

[nix]

Yeah, I think I've received that mail too, and it is funny. I think that with girls, you shouldn't listen to them when they are talking to you, you should listen to them when they look at you. As for the guys, we are just so darned tamad.

[Aragorn]

Haha! I've got that one in my message box, too! Totoo 'yan...
Mas literal magsalita ang mga lalaki...except when they say things to make things better for their girlfriends. Guys would also rather get out of things quickly, rather than go through an entire sermon from their girlfriend...or an entire afternoon of shopping! =)
With girls, though, you've got to read between the lines. As nix said, you've got to know how to read their eyes...and the rest of their nonverbal communication. For many guys who don't pay too much attention to unspoken details, that's pretty difficult. I read somewhere that whereas guys only listen to your words and take them at face-value, girls 'listen' with all of their faculties. So does that mean girls have better EQ? For the most part, yeah, I guess so! =)

[Mavi]

That is so funny! This is actually the first time I've heard of it. When I read the part of girlspeak, I saw myself saying the same things! Why do we girls say things we don't mean? I've blurted out a lot of things without thinking first to people I care about . I've already lost count as to how many times it has gotten me into a lot of trouble...I still have yet to learn to watch my tongue.

Has anyone read the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? It's a very popular book but I haven't read it yet.

Do you believe that men and women should be boxed into a certain schemata?

[Aragorn]

you know Mavi, I didn't believe in "boxing in" men and women before...but as I got to know myself more in the context of relationships (or..."almost-relationships"), I realized that there were certain aspects which remained true to the "stereotype"...like relying heavily on the spoken word, and hardly noticing body language. Believe me, I've heard all of this before in Psych class, but I haven't gotten it perfected yet. Not even close.
I think that it's a matter of several things: upbringing, evolution and socialization. Like it or not, our bodies and brains have developed to specialize in certain tasks, thus the difference between men and women.

[ChiQui]

Thanks for all your comments. :)

Hey there Mavi!

You know what? I've been in the same situation before! Maybe it's because we ladies are really good at saying "white lies". You know the ones we usually say so as not to hurt other people's feelings? Sometimes they work...ehehehehe...sometimes they don't.


I noticed din that girls are more concerned with what lies between the lines. We do try to read the guys' eyes but most guys are very good in hiding their emotions.


Aragorn...
I don't know if girls have better EQ than guys but well... let's just say girls are more sensitive than guys and we pay more attention to details. And we're forever concerned about the feelings of the people we care about. I'm not saying that you guys don't... mas madalas lang kaming girls... ;)


[This message has been edited by ChiQui (edited 08-14-1999).]

[Ada]

ChiQui's post just proves once more how different men are from women, which is actually good since I dread to think what would happen if men and women were always on the same wavelength -- what a dreadfully boring world it would be! ;)

I saw the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus in Oprah one time and he said that the differences between males and females only become a problem when one of the sexes tries to force the other to become more like it (didn't quite get that, didya? ;)) For example, it's a known fact that men aren't great listeners (ok guys, you can flame me all you want, but I have yet to meet a guy who can disprove this. ;)) and women are. So when women try to force guys to listen to them for hours on end, it's like trying to teach a fish how to play chess. ;)

PS. What's wrong with shopping!? It is fun! ;)

[ChiQui]

Guys...

Don't think of shopping as a waste of time and a drag. Think of it as a time for bonding. And who says that only girls are into shopping? My dad shops and when he bargains...nakow! Daig pa ako sa pagtatatawad! Hehehehehehehe... ;)

[Aragorn]

ChiQui: it's interesting because I was talking to a friend who said that most of us guys seem to be so manhid...even without meaning to be. So I agree with you...you girls definitely take more notice of the smaller details, or at least most of you do.

Ada: It's part of my job to be a great listener, but I'm not saying it's an easy one...I try, though! =)

And yes, I agree with you about that shopping comment. I learned it eventually...when you go shopping with the girl, you just gotta have fun with the entire experience. And besides, I like shopping too...especially to tiangges like the one at Greenhills. Nakakatuwang maglibot, mawala at maghanap ng kung anu-anong mga abubot na nakatago sa mgs sulok-sulok niya! Therapeutic, even!

[Mister Dean]

My theory has always been men are torpe, women are pakipot. Heheh.
Great thread, Chiqui!

[ChiQui]

Hi Mr. Dean!

Thanks!! :)

P.S.
Men are torpe? I couldn't agree with you more!
Women are pakipot? Hmmm... kailangan kse eh...hehehehe... it's all part of the "game".. ;)

[glass house]

Aragorn...
Shopping is definitely therapeutic! I can get lost in a mall for all I care! This may sound corny, but its my sanctuary. I didn't want to leave San Francisco before because the mall was a few minutes away! I find it really amusing that you like it. I would love to have you as my shopping partner. Its rare to find a guy who likes to go shopping.

[cbie]

hi guys! hey chiqui, that really cracked me up! that is very true. ang galing naman nang gumawa niyan. it exploits the difference between men and women. pati na rin yung katamaran namin guys when it comes to shopping!!! hehehe!

[ChiQui]

Hey there Cbie! Galeng noh? I was laughing so much when I first read it! The person who made this probably got it from his/her personal experiences... :)

[zimdude]

Just another way of restating the fact that he and she complement each other.

[FarOutFreak]

Women

Says: "Do I look fat in this dress?"
Means: "Better not tell me I'm fat or I'll kick your ***."

*when asked about someone who has a crush on her*
Says: "Mabait naman siya, a."
Means: "Panget nga lang."

Men

Says: "You look very beautiful."
"You seem nice."
"I like you."
"You have beautiful eyes."
"What nice teeth you have."
"Let's talk again sometime."

Means: "Let's have sex."

Dunno. Is this true?

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/silly.gif

[tina11]

She says: "Ayokong pag-usapan."
She means: "Bumubuwelo pa ako."

This is so true, my husband can tell you that. :rotflmao:

[ski_JeRZe]

^^ Tina! tayong mga babae nga talaga . . .

I can't help but smile while I was reading it. Totoo naman kasi, eh (for the most part :glee: )

I have to show/translate it to hubby, :lol: so malaman niya yon hidden meaning ng mga sinasabi ko.

[1718]

He says: "Gutom ako."
He means: "Inaantok ako."


eh?! :hmm: mejo weird itong part na to

[shychic]

Here's another set of She Says/She Means. You refers to men . ;)

Fine
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

Five Minutes
If she is getting dressed, this is half an hour.
Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given 5 more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

Nothing
This is the calm before the storm. This means "something" and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine".

Go Ahead
This is a dare, not permission, DON'T DO IT!

Loud Sigh
Although not actually a word, the loud sigh is often misunderstood by men. A "Loud Sigh" means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over "Nothing".

That's Okay
This is one of the most dangerous statements that woman can make to a man. "That's Okay" means that she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

Thanks
This is the least used of all words in the female vocabulary. If a woman is thanking you. Do not question it, just say you're welcome and back out of the room slowly.

[tina11]

I have to show/translate it to hubby, :lol: so malaman niya yon hidden meaning ng mga sinasabi ko.
I'm sure he'll get a kick out of it (and learn something about how Pinay women think and act!) ;)

[Posh21]

shychic, i totally agree with this...

[alaina_05]

tuwing nababasa ko yan, naaalala ko yung huling naging bf ko. only this time, sya yung nasa SHE SAYS area, at ako ang nasa HE SAYS part. siguro dating babae yun nung past life nya. :p

***peace...ex-bf. alam kong lagi kang online dito sa pex at binabasa ang mga posts ko. :p aminin!

[lilsue]

i've received that kind of email too, and all i can say is...GIRLS can really be such a spoiled brat...:lol::lol::peace: ...to make things clear I'm a girl too

[ayane]

i've received that kind of email too, and all i can say is...GIRLS can really be such a spoiled brat...:lol::lol::peace: ...to make things clear I'm a girl too

mabait naman ako ah!

:rotflmao:

* i can't even say it with a straight face! :rotflmao:

[ako si..]

Fine
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.


Nothing
This is the calm before the storm. This means "something" and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with "nothing" usually end in "fine".

Go Ahead
This is a dare, not permission, DON'T DO IT!



:bop: *okay* :bop: :D

[flimmeryrose741]

extreme paranoia