POLL: Are you willing to stay at home?

[DapHnes_wOrld]

After working hard to get a degree, in the end would you be willing to stay at home and raise the kids if money is not a problem?

:)

[rains_delight]

of course. Besides I cansolicit clients and earn money even if I am at home.

[misbee]

i am more open to the idea now unlike before, i couldn't imagine myself as a stay home mom.

[mravel22]

hellno! no waay!

[angel_voice]

No Way as in No way..:D

[PinayAngel]

I really don't think so.

[Blister]

there's nothing more fulfilling than taking care of my kids and husband. pero, sana may sideline din na biz para hindi makaka bobo chaka i have something to do in the middle of any day :D

[pinkrose]

Nope. Eh di sana pala nag-aral na lang ako ng pagbuburda, pagluluto, pag-aalaga ng bata…yung lalake mag-alaga kung gusto nya :glee:

[mukhang_bata]

nope. sayang naman yung pinagaralan ko kung magsta-stay lang ako sa home.

[f3mm3_fatal3]

nope. i will just get bored to death... :bored:

[kath001]

no way:)

[jackmcph]

nope

[KiTTY2babe]

I will agree to stay only if I can work from home and if I can go out and socialize as long as the kids tag along with me. I get bored easily. I'd go crazy if it's going to be me and the children day in and day out.

[pink_five]

nope

:redsmile:

[sexychika]

:noevil:
no friggin way man..my parents did not spend thousands of pesos for my tuition for nothing..i would want to enjoy the feeling of working..for instance my m0m..she stopped workin after my elder sister was born..since my dad had a stable job and all..look at her now..she seems to have dis fear of lookin for one coz of her age nd all..now that we're sort of short with g's..she always tells us that she gonna look for work but she aint..i dnt want to be lyk dat..

[mintymalone]

Definitely, I'm more family than career oriented.

[LadyMarmalade]

yep. why not. it's all for the family's benefit anyways.

[Ada]

Definitely! I'd love to stay at home and raise my kids full-time. I'd like to take care of my husband too.

[BNierop]

Before reluctant ako...Pero since I could find a job for my hubby (He's a Microsoft Trainer), 2 weeks work lang sobra-sobra na ang biyaya.

Besides, hindi sa wala akong tiwala sa ibang tao, mas mabuti na yong ako ang nagpapalaki sa anak ko, my own way, and ang bond between me and him is stronger. I have a sis-in-law nga, nagwo-work, pagod na when she comes home, few moments lang with her son...when her son cries, he goes to his nanny...Ang sakit naman...

I used to earn a lot...mahirap i-give up. Pero, sometimes you have to make some sacrifices. Eh, pwede rin namang magtrabaho sa bahay...why not.

[sacha2002]

well ok lang for me to stop ...its for the family naman eh,,:) :) :)

[sagan]

Definitely...staying at home nowadays doesn't mean that you don't have to 'work' with today's technology. I'm a stay at home mom and also works part time at home doing software testing for utility companies.

[jaypogi]

maybe i should stay..

[p0werpuffgirl]

YUP! By then, my first priority will be my family so I am more than willing to be a full time housewife to my husband and a full time mother to my kids. :)

[Yvaine]

Originally posted by DapHnes_wOrld
After working hard to get a degree, in the end would you be willing to stay at home and raise the kids if money is not a problem?

:)

Yup. I'd gladly do that. It's my dream to just stay at home and raise the kids while my husband goes to work. I'd probably still have a small business on the side (like continuing my writing or maybe managing a little shop at home), but nothing full-time.

It would make me happy if I had a high-paying job and a great corner office, but raising a happy, loving family will make me feel more fulfilled.

[cmars2]

Definitely yes, as long as my husband is willing to raise our family the way my father did to us.

[BabyFATS]

Only if we were rolling in money. :rotflmao:

Seriously, I like working. I'm not really the domestic type. :nope:
But for my (future) kids and husband, I'm willing to make the sacrifice.
If I find though that I need to work to help my husband support our family, I will.

[mai_doze]

:ayaw:

no way..

what's the use of that degree if i have to stay at in the first place..

exploration doesn't end there!!! i'm the adventuruous type and like to meet new poeple...

you just need time managament to take care of both....

[ohsome]

Yes, definitely!

Being a CEO of my house/family is a great career.

[DapHnes_wOrld]

Thanks for the responses.....

D reason i asked this question is that a gal friend is getting married in November. Having a family is very important to her and the man definitely wants her to stay home.

She told me that it will be really hard.... but in the end she's pretty sure she will give up her career when she start having kids. She added... "i will have 20some years left and i can always go back".


more....more..... :)

[cruewela67]

yes,so long as he can provide me and his children adequately. :)

[pbrg]

definitely yes!

[Wittygurl]

Yep, I'm considering the idea of staying home while the chidlren are still growing up.. as long as there's a PC :D

Seriously, I would willingfully give up my career for my family coz I want my children growing up close to me... The reason behind this is that, I don't want us to have a gap just like me and my Mom..

[the_FLY]

hell no...i wanna be where the action is...i'll just get my arse bigger and my belly larger...if i relegate myself into being a couch potato or sumthin of the same kind...i'd rather have fun outside the house...than rot and stink in this hole...boredom is something i never enjoyed...

"Embrace The Darkness"
:evilgrin:

[dee-dee]

i have a whole life ahead of me. not now. definitely not now. but if ever i decide to settle down, i think it is unfair for me and my family if i simply slave myself for them. (i don't mind raising kids. but raising a husband?! come on...i'm not that deluded enough. :glee: )

[tina11]

whoever said taking care of kids is boring? :lol:

and staying at home doesn't mean you have to sit on your butt all day :glee: you can read books, study another language using tapes and books (always wanted to do that), start a home-based business like baking or freelance writing, jog or work out, etc :)

[*keyah*]

Hmmm.... I think yup I'm willing to. Pero ewan ko, baka pag nasa situasyon na talaga, baka ayaw ko. Hay! Bahala na.

*okay*

[Hunirata]

i've been staying home for 30 years now and i have no regrets why it's been that way. well, maybe it leaves me with no choice since i haven't finished a degree yet (hopefully this march) and since i am the remaining (live) daughter of my parents who are already in their late 60's.

i'm still "amenable" to the idea, just in case. :)

though, right now i'm thinking of the possibility of migrating somewhere else--within RP, of course.

i don't know. home is just a place like no other. plus, i don't want to leave my parents--my family--here. and of course, my dogs. :bungi:

[ansela]

Originally posted by sexychika
:noevil:
no friggin way man..my parents did not spend thousands of pesos for my tuition for nothing..i would want to enjoy the feeling of working..for instance my m0m..she stopped workin after my elder sister was born..since my dad had a stable job and all..look at her now..she seems to have dis fear of lookin for one coz of her age nd all..now that we're sort of short with g's..she always tells us that she gonna look for work but she aint..i dnt want to be lyk dat..

I totally agree! If I were meant to stay at home and breastfeed, I shouldn't have been given a brain.

[saywhat]

Sure. Why not. Basta ba kayang-kaya niya kaming suportahan.

[Gabriela]

Friends call me a mother “with no motherly instincts.” I believe I’m not the domestic type so I’ll be better off as a working mom. 2 months of maternity leave bored me to death. Siguro I’d consider staying at home if my kid really needs me. Pero sa ngayon, pa absent-absent lang pag maysakit sya.

Ansela: Of course you still need a brain kahit sa bahay ka lang. Being a homemaker is not an easy task. I saw how hard it was for my mom to cope with staying at home after 14 fruitful years of hotel work. Pero she considers it parin as a relief kasi she doesn't have to feel like a needle is always stinging her @ss (baka layasan na naman kami ng maid, napainom ba ang mga bata ng vitamins, tapos na ba ang homework ng mga bata, sino aattend ng PTA meeting sa school, etc.). I see a homemaker as an Administration Manager, yun nga lang 24 hours ang duty. I’m very lucky that a close relative is taking care of my household.

[aajao]

yes, definitely. there is no place like home. i'm not very outgoing, either.

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Originally posted by Ada
Definitely! I'd love to stay at home and raise my kids full-time. I'd like to take care of my husband too.

upon reading this post, for a while I thought you are married already, Ads. :looking:


*peace*

err... to the thread starter, bakit walang it depends dun sa choices nung poll mo? di tuloy ako nag-vote. :D

[Sorsha]

I don't mind as long as I can take the kids out shopping from time to time. :glee:

[11# UST_guard'98]

I would love to be a stay at home mom.... if we can afford it, but I doubt it, it's to expensive her in jersey. Probably when we move to florida. Wala pa nga kaming anak ang dami na nag vo-volunteer mag-baby sit.

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[milkyman]

Originally posted by aajao
[B]yes, definitely. there is no place like home. i'm not very outgoing, either.

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upon reading this post, for a while I thought you are married already, Ads. :looking:

dadaanak muna ng dugo bago mangyari yun... :mad:

[Mickey2000]

http://www.homestead.com/disneywonder/files/loveforthemouse.gifFor a while, yes! but not for life, I want to spend more time w/ my kid(s),sobrang bilis lumaki ng mga bata,and at the same time I want to take good care of my hubby din syempre,ayoko rin magpa-baby-sit mahirap na hindi mo alam kung ano-ano naririnig at nakikita ng anak mo sa sitter nya or sa day care center,mabuti na yung ikaw mismo ang nag-alaga,feel na feel mo talaga pagiging mommy.and besides bago naman ako nag-asawa I'm done w/ my life na as a single and w/ a high paying career,so nagamit ko na rin yung degree ko.and also after a few years babalik din naman ako sa pag-wo-work.
Being a mom hindi lang degree ang kailangan mo,dahil mas marami kang magiging position,so it's not true na kapag nasa bahay ka at nag-alaga lang ng anak mo eh hindi mo kailangan ng utak,yung mga ganong klaseng stay-at-home eh yung mga nakikita nyo lang siguro na naglalaro ng bingo sa kalye or nakikipagchismisan,but if you are responsible woman,you will take good care of your family wisely.
Although it's hard for a few months or maybe years,katulad sa akin,nung single ako wala akong alam na gawaing bahay,katwiran ko kasi hindi ako sa bahay pinanganak,kundi sa opisina,kaya hirap na hirap ako mag-adjust from out-going to stay-at-home,but I must say its worht the sacrifice naman eh,and I have no regrets at all.:)

[Gabriela]

Originally posted by Mickey2000

Being a mom hindi lang degree ang kailangan mo,dahil mas marami kang magiging position,so it's not true na kapag nasa bahay ka at nag-alaga lang ng anak mo eh hindi mo kailangan ng utak,yung mga ganong klaseng stay-at-home eh yung mga nakikita nyo lang siguro na naglalaro ng bingo sa kalye or nakikipagchismisan,but if you are responsible woman,you will take good care of your family wisely.


Amen to that.

Originally posted by Gabriela
Friends call me a mother “with no motherly instincts.” I believe I’m not the domestic type so I’ll be better off as a working mom. 2 months of maternity leave bored me to death. Siguro I’d consider staying at home if my kid really needs me. Pero sa ngayon, pa absent-absent lang pag maysakit sya.

I read my earlier post and realized that yeah, I want to stay at home kahit temporary lang. my kid is growing up and is at a stage where she needs all the guidance of a loving parent. still, the hard-earned career comes to mind... :confused:

[minnow]

Originally posted by DapHnes_wOrld
After working hard to get a degree, in the end would you be willing to stay at home and raise the kids if money is not a problem?

D reason i asked this question is that a gal friend is getting married in November. Having a family is very important to her and the man definitely wants her to stay home.

She told me that it will be really hard.... but in the end she's pretty sure she will give up her career when she start having kids. She added... "i will have 20some years left and i can always go back".

:)

short answer is: yes, definitely!

long answer is:

been there...done that.
still there...still doing that... :)

i went through medical school, residency training (in ob-gyn), post-residency fellowship. i then went into private practice for two years and joined the faculty of a university hospital/medical school.

when i was about to get married, i re-assessed my priorities and realized that family was definitely, infinitely more important to me than career.

after getting married, i resigned from the academe, despite the mind-boggling opportunities then coming my way. obstetrics-gynecology is a rewarding field, but it is also very demanding, especially when you have a teaching position. the hours are irregular and unpredictable.

after giving birth to my first child (we now have 3), i decided to stop practising and became a full-time housewife and stay-at-home mom. kaya namang ipagsabay kung sa kakayanin (alam mo na-time management, giving your kids "quality time" etc.), pero hindi siguro ako masaya. para sa akin, hindi puwede ang puwede na, dapat hindi lang "quality time", mas gusto ko yung "as much time as i can".

now - almost six years later, i am proud to say that i have cared for our children, for the most part without the aid of a helper. i have breastfed all of them (no formula) for 1 1/2 to 2 years each. i bathe them and tuck them to sleep every single day. i bring my two pre-schoolers to class, fetch them from school, help them with their homework, attend all their school activities. i have not relied on the extended family or a yaya for support in caring for my kids.

since we have lived on our own ever since our eldest was born, i also run the household, do the meal planning, sort out the clothes and place them in the closets, do the daily budgeting, take care of the bills, etc. etc. etc.

i still get my share of people "sayang naman ang pagka-doctor mo" , but i don't mind. to each his own priorities. iba-iba ang perspective ng tao. basta ang importante, happy na ako sa ginagawa ko, happy din ang family ko. besides, i can always go back to my career when the right time comes. pero hindi muna ngayon.

first of all, being a fulltime mom/homemaker has given me much happiness and fulfillment. i am seeing my kids through their growing years, which is very important to me. fleeting yan, ang bilis ng panahon. i can always go back to my clinical practice, but the children will be young only once. pag laki ng mga yan, aalis na sila sa poder ko. may kanya-kanya nang lakad at mga kaibigan. so i'm taking advantage of every single moment that they're with me. i have so many doctor colleagues na lumalaki ang mga anak sa yaya o sa lolo/lola, mas attached pa sa kanila kaysa sa sariling ina. i didn't like that to happen to my children.

true, there are trade-offs. the time when the kids are young and need your attention the most is usually also the time when you're just starting a career and when you're not yet financially stable. if you work really hard to get ahead and make money, you will not be able to spend as much time with the family as you want to. if you choose naman to devote more time to the family, you may have to pass up a lot of opportunities at work (e.g. if you're offered a highly demanding job, or an overseas assignment away form them) and you may not reach your full potential.

in my case, i know i will never get to be sent abroad for further studies, or be a topnotch professor in my field, or a bigtime consultant, or a famous national awardee. but i can *so* live with that. aanhin ko ang recognition, or awards, or a us-based fellowship kung hindi ko naman natutukan ang mga anak ko lalo na kung bata pa sila?

what matters most is that my children think i'm the best mom in the world, and that my children turn out to be very well-brought up individuals, largely because i was able to personally oversee their growth every step of the way.

is being a fulltime homemaker/mom hard work? you bet it is! you will never be able to understand until you actually go through it-if you are bored or naiinip, then perhaps are not the hands-on type and you have mostly delegated the children's care to the yaya, and the household matters to the helpers. which defeats the purpose of staying at home in the first place-might as well work na lang. a mother's work is never done-when your day ends you are so tired. but this is a different kind of "tiredness", not the one you feel after work. this one gives you a warm and happy feeling.

do i have any regrets? absolutely none at all. i like what i'm doing, and i am so pleased with the outcome. but then again-iba-iba ang tao. i like caring for the kids, i am used to doing household chores, and i am not an extremely, extremely driven or ambitious individual. i have no desire to be famous, or filthy rich. basta work enough, earn enough to live comfortably, okay na sa akin. life is short, might as well enjoy it.

but, *caveat*... in my case, the decison to stop working was made a lot easier because i was blessed with the opportunity to do so and everything just fell into place. tipong i would've been foolish not to take advantage of it.

first, my husband can provide for the family on his own. second, we belong to the same profession, so i can stop anytime and the practice continues, the patients will still be there, i can easily go back to it. may fallback ako.

[**i have a friend, an ophthalmologist, whom i think is far more noble. she also opted to be a fulltime hands-on mom, but since her husband is not in the same field, walang fallback sa practice. she opted not to get any helper (even if they could easily afford one), and has no plans to get one even now that she's expecting her 2nd child.wow!]

by the way, there is one important thing you have to know:

i arrived at this decision by myself, it was not imposed on me by anyone. my husband did not force me to/suggest that i/ imply that i stop working. that is a *big* factor.

for someone who feels she can't be happy in a similar situation, the best thing would be to follow one's heart. huwag pilitin kung ayaw. she will only end up bitter and resentful.

in my case however, it is probably the best decision i've ever made and i have no regrets whatsoever! :)

[eyedoc]

minnow - From a fellow doctor...bilib naman ako sa iyo for being able to turn your back on a hard earned degree and career for your family.

I'm not married yet, but, no, I don't think I can give up my career because I know I poured my all into it. I think I would end up bitter if I would be forced by anything (husband, circumstances, what other people say) to give it up. If I give it up, it really has to be my decision...but like I said, it would be a very difficult decision for me. I have found purpose and happiness in doing my medical work and leaving it would make me feel so empty.

Of course there are other reasons for me to continue working. First, I'm more senior than my bf (although we're the same age). I'm already a consultant but he still wants to undergo fellowship training. So the breadwinner burden will fall on me first. Also, I have too little interest in household chores (even if I know how) to do them on a regular basis.

I'm blessed though with an understanding boyfriend who's in the same specialty and who's willing to shoulder part of the housework, even if we don't have maids. We've talked about our situation after we get married and we have thought of dividing up our time (buti na lang pareho kaming doctor at parehong ophtha pa) so that when one is in the clinic, the other is home with the kids. He also believes that if he insists on me staying only at home, he is stiffling my growth.

But, it's different strokes for different folks. So, wala naman mas tama at walang mas mali about any of the choices that you will make. Basta no regrets with whatever decision.

[Mickey2000]

:handsdown: to minnow
That's the advantage of getting married at the right time and at the right place,you already spent time w/ yourself, build your own career,so when it's time to give yourself to others (kids,hubby) you feel happy and satisfied,you feel that you do the right thing.
Just like you,I have my own career and a good-paying job,and I thought that household chore is not my thing,but when my baby was born,it change a lot,my priorities,my decision,so up to now I'm still happy being a stay-at-home.
I would prefer to spend time w/ him than to spend money.
When I heard people say sayang-naman-yung-career-mo mentality,I don't think nasayang,kasi napakinabangan ko na rin naman,and besides,mas gusto ko na yung anak ko ang makinabang,lalo na pag nag-aaral na sya,he needs a tutor,ngayon ko nga lang narealized dapat mas maraming degree ang maging mommy,kasi hindi ka lang basta-basta mommy, kapag nag-aral na magiging teacher ka covering all the subject,kapag nagkaskait naman,hindi ka lang nurse,doctor pa,hindi pwedeng bigay ka lang ng bigay ng gamot,pag pinapakain mo,hindi pwedeng kung ano ano lang.but like what I said,It's really worth.Lalo na kapag super sweet ng anak mo,grabeh,I can't explain,like yesterday,pagbangon nya sa bed nakita nya nakapikit pa ako,(but I know he's awake though) lapit sya sa akin,tapos kiss nya yung lips ko w/ his mouth wide-open,kakatuwa,tapos sampa sya sa kama ko then nahiga sa tabi,then he put the blanket over me,kahit hirap na hirap sa pag-pull na moved nya ng kaunti then salita ng salita,I love my baby.:heart:

[glowingfairy]

honestly yes! i'm very willing to stay at home taking care of our kids & our house......if our finances are good enough & besides we can still earn from home right?! =)

[minnow]

Originally posted by eyedoc
minnow - From a fellow doctor...bilib naman ako sa iyo for being able to turn your back on a hard earned degree and career for your family.

I'm not married yet, but, no, I don't think I can give up my career because I know I poured my all into it. I think I would end up bitter if I would be forced by anything (husband, circumstances, what other people say) to give it up. If I give it up, it really has to be my decision...but like I said, it would be a very difficult decision for me. I have found purpose and happiness in doing my medical work and leaving it would make me feel so empty.

Of course there are other reasons for me to continue working. First, I'm more senior than my bf (although we're the same age). I'm already a consultant but he still wants to undergo fellowship training. So the breadwinner burden will fall on me first. Also, I have too little interest in household chores (even if I know how) to do them on a regular basis.

I'm blessed though with an understanding boyfriend who's in the same specialty and who's willing to shoulder part of the housework, even if we don't have maids. We've talked about our situation after we get married and we have thought of dividing up our time (buti na lang pareho kaming doctor at parehong ophtha pa) so that when one is in the clinic, the other is home with the kids. He also believes that if he insists on me staying only at home, he is stiffling my growth.

But, it's different strokes for different folks. So, wala naman mas tama at walang mas mali about any of the choices that you will make. Basta no regrets with whatever decision.

hello eyedoc ! i can *so* relate to you!

it wasn't always this way. first of all, city-born and bred ako so i was always used to a very fast-paced lifestyle. adreneline rush pa nga ang habol ko. that's why i went into ob-i felt a more sedentary field would bore me.

then, kahit na hindi naman ako sing-ambisyoso ng mga colleagues ko, when opportunities started coming my way-parang napag-isip ako na-why not? sayang naman. so biglang ang naging carrer-oriented ang mind-set ko. you know how it goes-fellowship, then states for further training, then stay with the academe while doing private practice. siyempre i was still single at the time.

then the time came na medyo i had to factor in the possibility of marriage and having a family. since ob ako, i had to think of things like-where to eventually live (gusto ko malapit sa hospitals where i would admit, and the university hospital where i am affiliated with. para mabilis lang ang travel time pagmay nag-lalabor. i was eyeing the roxas blvd, makati area), where to practise (UP-PGH, MDH etc).

and this is the funny thing-iniisip ko na dapat hindi TOXIC ang trabaho ng asawa ko kasi grabe ang schedule ko as it was. so when a friend set me up on a blind date with *another* OB-GYn resident from a different hospital, i vehemently refused. ano ako, baliw? eh kung magkatuluyan kami... paano na ang mga bata? one toxic ob in the family was enough!

the only reason i agreed to go out with the guy was kasi parang may signs-when i asked the opinion of my jr residents, kilala pala nilala (ka-rotate nila sa outside rotation). when i asked a non-ob friend (surgical resdient) kilala din niya. tapos pareho pa kami ng birthday!

yun pala, sign talaga, kasi if it were not for him, i would not be doing this now. first he liberated me from fast-paced manila kasi he went back to his hometown, a progressive city in laguna. panagalawa, since ob din siya, puwede kaming time-sharing. you are sooo lucky na ophtha din ang bf mo. contrary to my previous beliefs, mas marami palang advantages ang same specialty. buti rin ophtha ang specialty mo-mas maganda ang schedule mo but maganda rin ang revenue.

i forgot to mention that constantly asking for God's guidance was a big factor. without His help, i wouldn't have made those crucial decisions which turned out to be right after all.

i intend naman to go back to my career somehow-pero it will definitely be a laid-back type of practice. as for now, the most i do to stay in the loop and keep my mind from stagnating is that i accept invitations to give lectures in conventions, symposia etc. pero pinipili ko talaga-only those na walang conflict. so if i accept 3 lecs in a year, 30 minute's each, that's 1 1/2 hours of "work"
in 8760 hrs a year.

it maybe too early to think about it now, so i think that having it at the back of your mind is enough. tipong one step at a time. i'm sure you will now what to do when the right time comes. good luck! :)

[i]That's the advantage of getting married at the right time and at the right place,you already spent time w/ yourself, build your own career,so when it's time to give yourself to others (kids,hubby) you feel happy and satisfied,you feel that you do the right thing.
Just like you,I have my own career and a good-paying job,and I thought that household chore is not my thing,but when my baby was born,it change a lot,my priorities,my decision,so up to now I'm still happy being a stay-at-home. [/B]

Mickey2000 - you're absolutely right. alam ko na right from the start na i would not want to get married druing medical school, internship, residency or fellowship training. dapat tapos na lahat, kahit pa matanda na ako. dapat din i was able to practise kahit konti, so that i would have experienced how it is to earn my own keep. it was a case of right time, right circumstances, right man. hindi yon unplanned-it was Someone up there's plan for me-pero i had to work at discerning it. wala nga sa plano kong maging fulltime stay-at-home mom, but look at me now!

natutuwa ako to find a fellow-stay-at-home mom who also understand how it is. kitang kita sa post mo, lalo na sa last paragraph mo, how really happy you are and how much you love your baby and your family! alam mo, totoo yan-it's the little things and those unguarded, spontaneous, fleeting moments na i cherish. ang sarap ng feeling na mas madalas mong makita ito kasi you're with them the whole day! :*)

[Mickey2000]

http://www.homestead.com/disneywonder/files/loveforthemouse.gifyup!absolutely right,kahit ngayon nga parang hindi pa rin ako makapaniwala na naalagaan ko yung baby ko,kasi all my life,ako inaalagaan ng mom ko, :wink:, kahit working na ako,paggising ko sa umaga ligo at kain lang gawa ko nakaprepare na lahat,kahit washing machine hindi ko alam i-operate,pero ngayon,nagagawa ko 2 or 3 things at a time.
Saka sobrang bilis lumaki ng mga bata, everymonth binibilhan ko ng bagong damit pangbahay,pati shoes dahil yung bilis din lumaki,
Kapag tinitingnan ko nga yung Photo Album,parang kelan lang yung nakahiga lang sya sa crib,pero ngayon mas mabilis pa tumakbo sa akin, :lol:
and besides I prefer to have a failure in my career (w/c is not anyway),than to have a failure in my family.:)

[eyedoc]

minnow - You're right. I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get there. :) I know we'll be able to work it out one way or another. Wala pa naman ako sa situation na iyan.

This is the question I'm most afraid of: If I continue working, even part time, would that make me a worse mom than if I just stayed at home? Maybe a working mom could best answer this question.

[BuDwEiSeR#8]

Originally posted by eyedoc

This is the question I'm most afraid of: If I continue working, even part time, would that make me a worse mom than if I just stayed at home? Maybe a working mom could best answer this question. I'm not working,but I think its how you handle the pressure,siguro the worst thing could happen kung magiging shock absorber yung mga anak mo bec of the pressure.:)
Wait na lang natin yung mga working-mom

[Gabriela]

Originally posted by eyedoc
This is the question I'm most afraid of: If I continue working, even part time, would that make me a worse mom than if I just stayed at home? Maybe a working mom could best answer this question.

I'm a working mom. Depends kasi how you define a "good" mom. Ako kasi I define it as someone who don't only provide financially but also being there physically for the kids. On that premise, medyo bagsak ang rating ko sa latter. Pero you have to consider yung fulfillment mo rin. I mean, you can stay at home to look after the kids and the household pero personally hindi ka fulfilled. Yun din ang dilemma ko eh. My hubby (who's an MD) wants me to stay at home pero iniisip nya rin kasi yun personal fulfillment ko (well aside pa dun sa income I get so I have my own money).

Being a good mom comes in many ways. Although nothing can replace the physical attention that our housewives here give to the kids, we can still show our own kids our love in different ways. You said naman that you can work part-time. That's good kasi it means you'll have more time for the kids. Ako naman I'm trying to compromise by looking for a job na mas malapit sa bahay and a job na I don't have to come on saturdays to work. I sometimes bring the kid with me at work (pag saturday).

Malalaman mo naman if it will not work for you. Like the mothers here who stay at home, sila din nag work dati. They really felt the need to be with the kids physically and they did drastic changes to do it (sana ako din magawa ko yun). But as long as you can manage being a career woman and a mother, then good for you. :)

[minnow]

Originally posted by Gabriela
I'm a working mom. Depends kasi how you define a "good" mom. Ako kasi I define it as someone who don't only provide financially but also being there physically for the kids. On that premise, medyo bagsak ang rating ko sa latter. Pero you have to consider yung fulfillment mo rin. I mean, you can stay at home to look after the kids and the household pero personally hindi ka fulfilled. Yun din ang dilemma ko eh. My hubby (who's an MD) wants me to stay at home pero iniisip nya rin kasi yun personal fulfillment ko (well aside pa dun sa income I get so I have my own money).

Being a good mom comes in many ways. Although nothing can replace the physical attention that our housewives here give to the kids, we can still show our own kids our love in different ways. You said naman that you can work part-time. That's good kasi it means you'll have more time for the kids. Ako naman I'm trying to compromise by looking for a job na mas malapit sa bahay and a job na I don't have to come on saturdays to work. I sometimes bring the kid with me at work (pag saturday).

Malalaman mo naman if it will not work for you. Like the mothers here who stay at home, sila din nag work dati. They really felt the need to be with the kids physically and they did drastic changes to do it (sana ako din magawa ko yun). But as long as you can manage being a career woman and a mother, then good for you. :)

i know what you mean Gabriela. iba rin ang feeling ng someone who used to work and earn her own keep. somehow, working not only gives one a feeling of self-fulfillment and boosts one's self-esteem. for instance, iba rin yung you earn your own money kasi feel mo you can spend it any way you want, kasi tutal kita mo yon. kasi minsan, kahit napakabait ni hubby and binibigyan ka ng personal allowance, you tend to hold back kasi nakakaguilty nag-splurge.

that's precisely why this is a tricky, touchy issue which one must tread on oh so carefully, kasi hindi puwedeng mag-generalize. meron din naman akong mga kilala na "forced" to stay home kahit ayaw nila-ayun, miserable, feeling bitter, and daming what if's and what might have beens.

but one can definitely be a working mom and yet a very good mom-ito yung sinasabi ng iba na ayusin lang ang priorities, gandahan lang ang time management etc. it's a give or take thing-one just have to know when to prioritize what.

someone just sent me this anecdote about a man reminiscing about his childhood-when he was a child, his dad had planned this trip to the circus for the whole family. then as they were getting ready, the dad received an important call from work, and the kids dreaded that it wouldn't push through. but the dad said to the caller, "no i can't go today, it would have to wait." when the mom heard this she smiled and told the dad "the circus always comes back anyway..."

and the dad answered "but childhood doesn't..."

in the end, the only thing you can take to heaven is your family. :)

[BuDwEiSeR#8]

Originally posted by minnow
i know what you mean Gabriela. iba rin ang feeling ng someone who used to work and earn her own keep. somehow, working not only gives one a feeling of self-fulfillment and boosts one's self-esteem. for instance, iba rin yung you earn your own money kasi feel mo you can spend it any way you want, kasi tutal kita mo yon. kasi minsan, kahit napakabait ni hubby and binibigyan ka ng personal allowance, you tend to hold back kasi nakakaguilty nag-splurge.
I can relate here,isa pa sigurong dahilan bec of our upbringing,na nung single tayo,hindi tayo nasanay na "pa-asa-asa",kaya kahit na yung pera na bigay ni hubby,as in allowance and out of household budget na,kakaguilty pa rin minsan,iba pa rin yung "personal income",and of course miss ko rin mag-shopping ng walang humihila sa kamay ko,as in care-free shopping,but what the heck,"been there,done that" :)

[doc_irene]

yup...been doing it for almost 2 years na since we came here sa US. kakatuwa kasi they used to call me "doc I" at the clinic when i was still practicing my profession. ngayon tawag sa kin ng mama ko "inday" 'cause sa bahay na lang ako. :D

[working mom]

:)

ako siyempre gusto ko stay home mom kung di problem ang pera. kahit makukulit ang kids, gusto do pa din sila kasama, sumalubong sa kanila from school, to prepare merienda at kung ano ano pa to serve and be with them. been a working mom eversince. how i wish, di problem ang pera para pati si hubby stay home na rin hihihi

working mom:p

[maxieGRL]

i would definitely stay at home lalo na yung formative years ng mga anak ko..:beam:

[sodemntough]

Return to work or stay at home?
by Lisa Schulman

One of the more difficult decisions for new parents to make is determining whether to return to work or stay at home with the baby. For some, the choice is made for them, as finances warrant the fast road back to work. For others, numerous factors emerge that contribute to the final decision. No matter what the outcome, families are oftentimes plagued with guilt. A surefire way to combat this useless and taxing emotion is to accept one's own choice, while supporting the varied decisions made by other parents.

For those able to stay at home, the rewards are many. One of the most important benefits is being able to observe and contribute to the child's development. Often, parents perceive that the care provided at home is more comprehensive than the standard day care. In addition, the stay-at-home parent has the assurance that the child is being raised in a healthy, positive environment.

However, staying at home is not always an ideal answer. Delaware mother Jeannette Larock explains that, "Sometimes I feel like I've done myself a disservice because I was able to make significant contributions to the company that I worked for." While Jeannette acknowledges that her daughter "has a mom who is devoted to her needs," she also points out that her decision to stay at home continues to be a difficult inner struggle.

In John Rosemund's article, "Women Need to Keep Promises, Too," printed in the Marin Independent Journal, the journalist states, "women became persuaded that the mother who paid the most attention to and did the most for her child was the best mother of them all. As a consequence, the mother-child relationship, is more often than not, dominated by the child." While the article does not specifically point fingers, such opinions can create doubts among stay at home parents about how their presence will ultimately affect the child.

But is the working life ideal? During the day, working parents enjoy adult interactions and rewarding careers. Their children may thrive in a daycare environment, learning important social skills. Furthermore, two working parents bring in more income, contributing to the family's financial success. Michigan resident Tracy Dusenbury comments that her job "helps us pay off debts. And I like to know that I have my own spending money."

However, the decision to return to work is not without its own baggage. As working parents attest, putting their children into day care for up to ten hours per day can add to the painful sense that they are missing their children's growing-up years. Hearing about a daughter's first step, or a son's new word from a child-care provider can be an anguishing experience. For parents who return to work solely because of financial reasons, the guilt can be even more unsettling.

Some parents have the best, and the worst, of both worlds. They contribute to the family's financial bottom-line while taking care of their child on a full time basis. Jackie Mygrant, from Arizona, runs a home-based Discovery Toys business. She enjoys being home with her daughter, Kyra, and comments that, "I get to be there for every step of her development. I am in control of her well-being." However, Jackie admits that it can be difficult at times, "putting things off until someone else can watch her, or during her infrequent naps."

All in all, there is no perfect solution. Parents must acknowledge that they have arrived at the decision by carefully examining the needs and desires of family members. Displaying confidence in the choices you make will only affect children in a positive manner. At the same time, it is vital that parents view other's decisions with the same kindness and understanding. Everyone is, first and foremost, a loving parent who has the same common goal in mind: to raise spirited, happy, healthy children who will contribute greatly to the world in which they live

[amegs_VA]

yes!

when you're married with kids, this is the most ideal set-up for moms, for the kids, for dads.

bored people are boring people, you don't have to be staring at the wall or the ceiling. there are so many things to do when you're at home, much much more than if you're working outside your home. and it doesn't mean just household chores, you can make your mind busy with some other things too.

i think that if you're able to make it as a family to have this kind of set-up, it's an achievement. nobody should say that, "you're just a stay-at-home mom" or "stay-at-home ka na lang." people must say, "good for you! stay-at-home mom ka na!" -- it's like a promotion because not everybody can do this.

kids today need someone to take care of them more than anything else, and who else can do this better than their own parent(s).

[ilpadrino]

Yeah, me too. But how do you fellas define "home"?

[the_BuGs]

teka para sa babae pa to o para sa lalake??

lalaki kasi ako eh...


sa opinyon ko naman... kung me pera at negosyo naman kami na kayang bumuhay ng long term hanga't makatapos yung mga bata hangang kolehiyo why not... sarap magpalaki ng bata na nsa tabi mo no... at yung communication ng magulang at ng anak magiging maganda.... kumbaga buddy buddy mo anak mo...

[cmax]

I am willing to stay at home and be a fulltime housewife, but like most people, our finances will not be able to handle it. We really have to work full time to sustain a living for the family.

[your_angel]

Originally posted by ohsome
Yes, definitely!

Being a CEO of my house/family is a great career.

very well said.. cheers to that!!!

[tina11]

Would like to be a full-time mom for a year... but then again there's this great position at work that I'm being considered for. I don't know whether to hope I get it or to hope that I don't get it. Ang gulo :lol:

[avonlea]

i didn't expect i'd be willing to stay home to take care of my husband and our baby (soon!)...

more than making lots of money, i think mas exciting pa ngayon magpalaki ng anak...

[sophiegray]

i chose and still choose to become a stay at home mom. when i was still small, si yaya ang nag-alaga sa akin. i didn't receive much care and attention from my mom. so when i became a mom myself, i told myself that i cannot forgive myself if my child feels the way i felt - neglected and unloved. i wasn't also given quality care, so medyo mahina ang katawan ko. i will not regret having no success in career but i will definitely regret not being able to see my child grow up. i also don't believe in "quality time". i believe in "quantity time".

[Tarbosh]

Yes, definitely!

Being a CEO of my house/family is a great career.

Excellent answer.

[DaNa8]

I'd love to but I'm a single mom so I have no choice but to work and provide for my kid. :(

[liza_zam]

yes, definitely! I'm sure any mom would like to stay at home and take care of her kid/s. Iba pa rin kasi yung ikaw mismo ang nagpapalaki and nag-aaruga sa mga anak mo especially when they're in their formative years. But then again, not everyone is born an ayala-zobel or a lucio tan so some of us have to work for a living and trust that our babies are safe during those few hours that we don't have them in our sights.

[ripcurl]

I'd love to but I'm a single mom so I have no choice but to work and provide for my kid. :(


ako din...

[cRzYcHiQa]

^^ dont worry dear...we'll take care of her for you. :)

[Noglues]

Yes, I love to and want to be a stay at home mom. :) The time I'll be spending with my family is invaluable and incomparable.

[killerabs]

I totally agree! If I were meant to stay at home and breastfeed, I shouldn't have been given a brain.

I disagree!!!!!!!

I don't think it's an either-or decision. I stay at home but manage my own business. I get the best of both worlds. I get to use my brain (in fact more so than when I was in law school when all we did was memorize) and breastfeed :rotflmao:

In fact being a mom has given me more focus. Never have I been more decided to do well in my career. Maybe it's because the focus is no longer on just myself, taking care of other people has made me a better person. Less selfish :)

I guess it's the idea that stay at home moms are women who are perenially in "dusters" (sp?), with rollers in their hair, with children crying at her feet. I don't think this is true anymore.

[avonlea]

i saw this program in 2004... very interesting...

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2004/10/08/60minutes/main648240.shtml

[honeymom]

For me, being a stay home mom was the best thing that ever happened to my life. In my case, I married at 33 gave birth to our first child (boy) at 34 and at 36 to our 2nd child (girl). I stopped working when I gave birth to our first child until now. Katwiran ko ang bilis ng panahon, I wanted to be with them from the time they learn how to say their first words. Gusto ko yung every detail from them alam ko. My husband is a freelance web programmer so he also stays at home and his income is big enough to sustain our needs and the kids as well. So dalawa kaming tutok sa dalawa naming anak and for us it's a blessing. We're blessed to experienced this kind of life that we have now

[michelle005]

When I was a kid, I used to envy my classmates whose Moms are the so called working moms..Kasi di pa masyado uso yun noon ang most of the moms before really are plain housewife. But now time changed, even if you want to be with your kids you just can't. Moms today need to work just to make ends meet. Lucky for others who are financially able and the decision will be much easier.They can always go back or resign without regrets but for us the middle incomers...there's no choice. I envy Moms who can stay home and be with their kids. Sana ako rin. I don't care much about self fulfillment becoz pupunuan yan ng fulfillment and contentment when we see our kids grew up the way we want them to be..Nothing is more fulfilling than that. Whenever I come to work and say goodbye to my son, I feel my heart break into pieces.I can see it in his eyes that he wants me to be with him and not leave him. I want to savor those moment kasi it will only come once. Kelan natin bibigyan ng time ang anak natin? Kapag di na nila tayo kailangan? Pagnakakatayo na sila sa sarili nilang mga paa? Too late.

[pattybee]

After working for 15 yrs, I decided to let go of my career and become a fulltime Mom. It was a huge leap of faith on my part. I had several sleepless nights and shed some tears while I was carefully weighing my options. Not even my partner's constant assurance that he would support my decision to stop working convinced me at first. I was afraid of many things, mostly the financial part. I never depended on anyone (not even my own parents) for sustenance. I was afraid of having to depend on someone entirely for survival. It was something that I wouldn't have considered years ago.

I still don't know what made me consider giving up my career and I can't say at this point that I have no regrets because it's only been a couple of months since I resigned (I'm also expecting my 2nd child in a few weeks). But I continue to pray that I won't be sorry later on.

Now I'm just waiting to give birth and looking for a home-based business I can get into so that I'll get to have my own income as well.

[Ellheym]

siguro ako magstay ako sa bahay, pero i tuloy pa rin ang business ko. kasi madali akong mainip kung wala akong gagawin kaya stay home with baby pero may business na inaasikaso. :)

[jovhelle]

yes kc gusto ko sa akin masasanay *** bata at hindi sa ibang tao o kamag anak. . . di din kc sure kung tama ba o mali *** tinuturo sa bata eh. . . kaya mas ok sa akin na mag stay sa haus para maasikaso ko ang baby ko pati na ang asawa ko. . .

[camgray]

Yes! I made the decision almost 2 years ago.. And seeing the results now, it was all worth it.. Mahirap, madaming sacrifices and changes, esp. sa lifestyle and spending.. we're not rich, but we get by, the budget was adjusted and tightened a LOT(no more weekly footspa or new shoes every payday).. but nothing could be more precious than being with your kids, seeing them grow and really change before your eyes.. No high position or salary could ever be worth the time taken away from your precious children. That's just my opinion. ;)
Besides, there's lot to do here at home.. I work from my home office as my hubby's sexy-tary [read: (USUALLY below-)minimum wage earner.. hehehe..]

pattybee: i understand you so much! Ang hirap no? How are you now? Sometimes.. many times! i get those regret moments too, but then i turn to my kids and i'm refocused. *okay*

[msbles]

I was able to use EVERYTHING I learned in the UP College of Education to raise my kids. It is infinitely satisfying to see him grow up with every physical, emotional and intellectual advantage that only an educated mom can give him.

Of course, if your salary is that huge, perhaps you can hire a college graduate, multi-lingual caregiver for a yaya. I just don't know how comfortable you will be when she gives your baby the all-day snuggles, hugs and kisses that should have been coming from you.

But on a teacher's salary, I figured I better give myself to my baby than waste all my intelligence and terrific teaching skills on other people's kids while my own languishes with a high school grad yaya.

Sometimes, I miss my salary, but looking at it another way, I'm lucky to have a husband who's willing to feed me.

[purpleheadd07]

if only i have someone else whou could sustain our needs then why not! add pa 24 hrs internet connection and cable tv at home solve na ako. then at least i'd get to go malling once in while and get to read all the good books i could get my hands on para d **** kalawangin utak ko then i guess it would be great to just stay at home and play mommy to my Xan. ;)

[ricass]

why not?? being a fulltime mother is not easy..its a very hard job.gusto ko ako talaga ang mag aalaga sa anak ko.. nothing could be more precious than being with your kids.. No high position or salary could ever be worth..iba talaga kapag ikaw mismo ang mag aalaga sa mga anak mo..

[avonlea]

after reading this post, i felt so lucky... we're not rich but i can afford to be a stay-at-home mom right now... awa lang ako sa hubby ko kasi i know he would like to be a stay-at-home dad din... kaya walang tigil ang pagbili namin ng lotto... :D

anyway, buti na lang my windows messenger... naka-webcam kami at naka-online lagi si hubby

by the way, korean women can have up to one-year maternity leave with three months being paid leaves... and men also have up to one-year paternity leave (unpaid though) but i guess there aren't a lot of men taking that leave

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http://boards.babycenter.com/n/pfx/forum.aspx?nav=messages&tsn=1&tid=15735&webtag=bcus1418520

Ladies -

I'm just needing to type all of this out. Jake is 6 weeks old as of Monday. I have my doctor's appointment on Wednesday and will be returning to work on Thursday. My MIL will be watching Jake in our home and that is a blessing.

I knew this day was coming, but I actually broke down tonight when we were doing a midnight feeding b/c this child looked up at me and gave me the sweetest smile. Dear God.....how can I leave this boy? I'm his mother....it's my responsibility to take care of this child. My job to raise him. My job to be there for his first word, his first steps......sigh. I cannot quit my job b/c (1) can't afford to financially and (2) my DH doesn't have the option of insurance through the company he works for which is a small business. I honestly didn't think I'd feel this strongly. I mean, I knew it would be difficult, but I really did not prepare myself for this. I told DH that for the next year, we are going to get intense on our debt and hopefully by next year, we shall be in a better place so as to allow me to be a SAHM. I envy the women who are able to have that wonderful title and am aware of the sacrafices those of you make to do so. My mother was a SAHM, coupon cutter dejour and garden in the backyard for food type of gal all to allow us, her children, the benefit of being there for us at all times.

I'm sure this will get better, but I'm so down and upset about this now. I love my son. More than I thought was possible. I want to be so much to him. Right now, I just want to be his main caregiver....his mother.

Thank you for the opportunity to get this out.


Katie

[Amphitrite]

I'm a stay-at home mom for almost a year now... It's a little hard to keep my self-esteem most especially when I can't contribute with the family's finances. As of today our baby is 1.5 years old, we hired a yaya so I can go to work part-time as a Real Estate Sales Manager. :D

[princess_bubup]

Hehehehe... Y not! if money is really not a problem, bakit ndi... hehehehe... at least i will have more time kay bubup ndi katulad ngayon once a week ko lang *** nakikita because of work...

Pero, i'll make sure that mag open ako ng home business para ndi ako maciado mainip...

[msbles]

Hehehehe... Y not! if money is really not a problem, bakit ndi... hehehehe... at least i will have more time kay bubup ndi katulad ngayon once a week ko lang *** nakikita because of work...

Pero, i'll make sure that mag open ako ng home business para ndi ako maciado mainip...

Well, "inip" is seldom a problem, and I dare say most other SAHMs will agree. I don't know about moms whose kids are going to school, but while my baby is at home, there's not much free time while he's awake, and when he's asleep, it's time for housework and a little rest for myself. When I do get "too much" free time, that's a luxury I cherish :)

Btw, sisters, I feel my last post in this thread was a bit --um-- hostile. Please forgive me. It's been two years of people (read: mothers from the women's lib generation, my own mom included) asking me why I "waste [my] intelligence" by staying at home, and it's getting on my nerves. I find it insulting to my baby, that my time spent on him is considered by anybody to be a waste. *Sigh*

[princess_bubup]

Well, "inip" is seldom a problem, and I dare say most other SAHMs will agree. I don't know about moms whose kids are going to school, but while my baby is at home, there's not much free time while he's awake, and when he's asleep, it's time for housework and a little rest for myself. When I do get "too much" free time, that's a luxury I cherish :)

Btw, sisters, I feel my last post in this thread was a bit --um-- hostile. Please forgive me. It's been two years of people (read: mothers from the women's lib generation, my own mom included) asking me why I "waste [my] intelligence" by staying at home, and it's getting on my nerves. I find it insulting to my baby, that my time spent on him is considered by anybody to be a waste. *Sigh*

hehehehe... ok lang un, that's your opinion naman po and everybody respect that po... i honestly dont know what to say :rolleyes: ... but i kinda envy you, honestly... at least you have time to be with your bebe... the longest time that i ever held and be with bubup kasi is during my maternity leave lang then after nun, once a week ko na lang *** nakikita and nakakasama. We are working here in Manila wherein she stays with my mom at the province. mahirap mag uwian kasi ngayon commute pa kami eh.. but we are working on it...hehehehe... and em getting excited with that kasi pwede na kami umuwi and stay with my bebe anytime we want.. hehehehe

[msbles]

the longest time that i ever held and be with bubup kasi is during my maternity leave lang then after nun, once a week ko na lang *** nakikita and nakakasama. We are working here in Manila wherein she stays with my mom at the province. mahirap mag uwian kasi ngayon commute pa kami eh.. but we are working on it...hehehehe... pwede na kami umuwi and stay with my bebe anytime we want.. hehehehe

Good for you! Are you moving to the province??

Kami naman, may full-time mom nga baby ko, wala naman si Daddy kasi he has to work in Davao :( Haaaay! Hard to have everything talaga. (We hope to follow him in Davao soon, though. Can't have everything but we can try, diba? :))

Good luck to you and your hubby, too!

[psychosonicindy]

i didn't work to be with my daughter for the 1st 4 years of her life and i would do it all over again..i'm working now and i'm making real good moolah but if i cld spend more time at home with my daughter,i'd say amen!yes siree!I'm trying to actually work something out so that i cld be home more..I mean, being in an office makes u more conscious of the way u look(read:'di ka mukhang losyang),u may have more friends and be more in touch with the world outside,receive accolades and bonuses etc but i'd give it all up if i cld work at home and spend more time with my daughter...i don't think i cld do practically nothing at home; I'd always find a way to earn some income in some way...as for education? I studied at international schools and was educated abroad but my daughter is worth more than all that...my life ends where hers begins..in order for her to become more than what we are (me and my husband),we have to make her our priority and in turn, hopefully, she'll be that kind of mother to her children too...

[princess_bubup]

Good for you! Are you moving to the province??

Kami naman, may full-time mom nga baby ko, wala naman si Daddy kasi he has to work in Davao :( Haaaay! Hard to have everything talaga. (We hope to follow him in Davao soon, though. Can't have everything but we can try, diba? :))

Good luck to you and your hubby, too!

No po.. :D ; actually we are planning to buy **** murang sa2kyan lang para anytime na gusto namin umuwi ng bulacan maka2uwi kami... nahihirapan kasi kami mag commute kaya e2 medyo higpit muna ng sinturon para makabili na kami asap... :rotflmao: atat na talga kami makasama ng matagal *** baby ko.

wag na u malungkot, magka2sama narin kayo ng hubby mo and i wish it will be soon para ndi mo na *** mciado mamiss.. as of now, tambay lang muna tayo ** para ndi tyo mciado malungkot... :D

[camgray]

Btw, sisters, I feel my last post in this thread was a bit --um-- hostile. Please forgive me. It's been two years of people (read: mothers from the women's lib generation, my own mom included) asking me why I "waste [my] intelligence" by staying at home, and it's getting on my nerves. I find it insulting to my baby, that my time spent on him is considered by anybody to be a waste. *Sigh*

I totally agree and empathize with you! I've received similar reactions from people i consider closest to me..sad, isn't it? I am just glad i have the support of my husband.. He is the one who actually encouraged me to be a SAHM. And only now did i truly realize how important and rewarding this CAREER is! ;)

[avonlea]

In today's Oprah, they discussed about being a working mom and a stay-at-home mom. Highlights of the episode are available on their website, www.oprah.com.

My son's eight months old now and yet I still don't have that feeling of wanting to go back to work. I don't feel that I'm missing something. I actually feel lucky that I can stay at home and personally take care of my son. I'd never thought I'd say that considering that I started working while in college and at one time, I had two jobs while also attending school on the weekends.

[tina11]

avonlea I know how you feel, my baby's going to be starting daycare in about a month and I'll be going back to work soon but I'm dreading it :(

camgray I'll take it a step further and call being a SAHM a CALLING, not just a career :) we have to keep our minds sharp though, because most of us will probably go back to work or start a business when our kids start daycare or go off to school.

[jona_024]

i can't even if i really want to :bashful: