Do parents really affect a person's self-esteem? how?

[bjmedina]

does parents really affect the persons self-esteem? how? post your reactions

[dhurughistah]

yes... family is tha basic unit of society...
u learn values u posses ryt now...
parents influence a lot...
their been the teacher of morals and knowledge u have..:D

[ReLaTiViTy]

hmmm... i think parents do affect a person's self esteem. we grew up adoring our parents. we grew up believing in what they say. i guess of all people, our parents are the ones who really know the real us, maybe even before we knew ourselves.

if you were made to believe in yourself when u were young, because our parents believed in you... siguro maataas yung self-esteem mo. their opinions matter kse e. they molded us e.

[SaNdiE]

yes...just like what ReLaTiViTy said. :)

Originally posted by ReLaTiViTy
if you were made to believe in yourself when u were young, because our parents believed in you... siguro maataas yung self-esteem mo. their opinions matter kse e. they molded us e.

[Bea19]

Yup! dba kahit yung mga less dan a yr old na mga kids sinsabihan na " uy bad girl yan or uy gud girl yan" nag ststick sa mind ng mga bata growing up. Ako naman kaya medyo kahit paano confident naman ako kse lumaki ako na pinupuri ako ng parents ko kahit palpak ang mga nagawa ko. It relly helps the esteem of a child growing up.

[11# UST_guard'98]

yes. I know this girl from work that turned anerexia because of her mother. She said that her mother keeps telling her that she is so FAT, but she is really skinny.

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[DELISYUS]

In the end... the child will always have a choice... it's wrong to be a grown up and still be blaming your parents for evrything...

esply considering that some of the kindest, happiest persons I know come from dysfunctional families...

but a note to parents.... do not be the first to call your child names.... ... often kasi, they live up to that... even if the parent was wrong... or just simply cruel...

when i think of how often and how harsh my Mom had been in calling me UGLY all my growing up years.... ahehehehe, i thank God na lang talaga I had the grace to believe otherwise....

Pero if it's some other daughter siguro... super devastated na sya

at least ako.. sad lang :)

[Rambus]

Paano ninyo kaya ipapaliwanag ang dahilan ng mga ugali ng ibang mga manggagawa (laborer), lalo na sa construction industry? Yung bang tipong hindi kikilos kung hindi mo mumurahin?

Lumaki kaya silang minumura ng mga magulang nila?

[Mickey2000]

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Originally posted by Rambus
Paano ninyo kaya ipapaliwanag ang dahilan ng mga ugali ng ibang mga manggagawa (laborer), lalo na sa construction industry? Yung bang tipong hindi kikilos kung hindi mo mumurahin?

Lumaki kaya silang minumura ng mga magulang nila? Nope, siguro lumaki silang Tamad.
Mahirap kapag sa parents nakarinig ng negative comment ang anak,nakakalakihan na nila na doon sila nag-fo-focu kung paano nila ma-i-improved yung aspect na iyon,hindi na nila nare-realized na meron pa silang ibang talent na mas dapat nilang ipagmalaki,katulad ng sabi nga na "Mataba ka", kaya iyon kahit mala-ting ting na sa kapayatan,feeling mataba pa rin,kasi lagi naririnig iyon eh.

[tina11]

Paano ninyo kaya ipapaliwanag ang dahilan ng mga ugali ng ibang mga manggagawa (laborer), lalo na sa construction industry? Yung bang tipong hindi kikilos kung hindi mo mumurahin?

Lumaki kaya silang minumura ng mga magulang nila?
Hindi naman siguro mababa self-esteem nila, tamad lang o hindi sila motivated mag-trabaho kasi minimum wage lang ang bayad sa kanila.

[smilewarrior]

"Children learn what they live..

If a child lives with criticism, :bop:
he learns to condemn.

If a child lives with hostility,
he learns to fight.

If a child lives with ridicule,
he learns to feel shy.

If a child lives with shame,
he learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance, :D
he learns patience.

If a child lives with encouragement,
he learns confidence.

If a child lives with praise,
he learns to appreciate.

If a child lives with fairness,
he learns justice.

If a child lives with security,
he learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval,
he learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, *okay*
he learns to find love in the world."


It is not enough to teach a child what is wrong. What is more important is to teach them what is right.