how does it feel to have a child at an early age?

[sakura7_15]

Is there anyone aout there who's had a child at an early age? How does it feel and how did you handle it?

[Gabriela]

I had a kid at age 21. hirap syempre, especially at that time i just graduated and just had my first job. plus it wasn't really expected so i was totally unprepared. plano ko pa naman mag-enjoy ng sweldo ko muna. pero sabi nga nila, basta nandyan na yan lahat kaya mong i-adjust.

i'm still struggling though. i have to attend to a lot of needs: work, kid, husband, household, personal. it can be emotionally & physically draining at times. i always have to rearrange my priorities. have to make sure that work doesn't get in the way of family and vice versa.

[gemyl]

I had a baby at the age of 18. Twas hard. Grabe! I am a sinlgle parent til now. ***** I'm 25 na.

[sakura7_15]

Originally posted by Gabriela
I had a kid at age 21. hirap syempre, especially at that time i just graduated and just had my first job. plus it wasn't really expected so i was totally unprepared. plano ko pa naman mag-enjoy ng sweldo ko muna. pero sabi nga nila, basta nandyan na yan lahat kaya mong i-adjust.

i'm still struggling though. i have to attend to a lot of needs: work, kid, husband, household, personal. it can be emotionally & physically draining at times. i always have to rearrange my priorities. have to make sure that work doesn't get in the way of family and vice versa.

hehe!! :) pareho tau. gusto ko pa sana ienjoy kaya lang nauna yung (landi)! But i love mmy kid yun nga lang hindi ka pa kaseh prepared kaya mahirap magadjust kaseh emotionally and mentally hindi ka pa ready.

[nerbie]

What age is early for you guys?

anyway, I got married at 23 years old. Although plano ko sana 22 years old may asawa at anak na ako. Right now I have two kids and i'm 25. Wala naman masyadong nabago... pareho pa rin although puyat talaga at magastos. How does it feel? well, its great... masaya may bata sa bahay.

[sakura7_15]

Originally posted by gemyl
I had a baby at the age of 18. Twas hard. Grabe! I am a sinlgle parent til now. ***** I'm 25 na.

hi! i hope you dont mind me asking...bakit single parent ka pa din? ako i would prefer it that way para isa lang iniintindi ko...

[gemyl]

Originally posted by sakura7_15
hi! i hope you dont mind me asking...bakit single parent ka pa din? ako i would prefer it that way para isa lang iniintindi ko...

uhmmmm me mga gusto p ako kasi gawin sa buhay eh. mga bagay na palagay ko ndi ko na magagawa pag me asawa na ko heheh. saka siguro havent found the right person. well i thought i did. pero uhmmm....wala pa din....ndi naman ako nagmamadali eh. :) ***** pa! :D

[kixter]

I had my first boy when I was 17 but and his mom wsa 19. we never got married though kasi ayaw nang parents nya....

and hirap, kasi financial support every month dapat 5000... tapos mag aaral na sya and everything gastos..... patay patay na naman pro i love my kids and when i see them smile at me and when they hug me and kiss me, nawawala talaga lahat nang problema at pagod ko.....

k!xT3r!!!
:hiphop:

[flavvvah]

I'm just 21. And I'm four months pregnant. The father of my baby and I have been together for about 3 years na. And hopefully, we'll stay together.

I think it's gonna be hard juggling a baby and my studies, since I have like a year pa to go.

It's hard on me now. With my dad ignoring me. With nosy neighbors talking behind my back...And so-called friends na kulang nalang isigaw sa lahat ng tao na buntis ako.

But I just want to say na never for a moment did I think about getting an abortion.

All babies are blessings. That's for sure.

:*)

[nerbie]

goodluck flavvah! Once you see your baby you'll be happy. Its really hard to explain how I felt when I saw my two kids came out.

Stay healthy!

[kixter]

Originally posted by flavvvah
I'm just 21. And I'm four months pregnant. The father of my baby and I have been together for about 3 years na. And hopefully, we'll stay together.

I think it's gonna be hard juggling a baby and my studies, since I have like a year pa to go.

It's hard on me now. With my dad ignoring me. With nosy neighbors talking behind my back...And so-called friends na kulang nalang isigaw sa lahat ng tao na buntis ako.

But I just want to say na never for a moment did I think about getting an abortion.

All babies are blessings. That's for sure.

:*)

Congrats GIRL!!!! :cheers:

Regarding your dad, once he sees his APO, everything will melt away and be forgiven.... my dad was the same on my first baby but when he saw him, you could see his eyes brightening up and holding his apo for the first time and from then on, everything was cool with us....

And about your riends, they are not really your friends if they are treating you like you did a very wrong thing.... just ignore them and once your baby comes out, you will have no time with those so-called friends of yours and much rather spend time with your baby!!!!!

Wishing you all the luck flavvah....*party*

k!xT3r!!!
:hiphop:

[bummer]

i'm 22 and seven months pregnant. although i already graduated last year and i have a stable job, i wasn't planning on having a baby this young.

but perhaps God has other plans for me. at first it was hard esp. because i greatly disappointed my mom, who was hoping that i would walk down the aisle first before having a family. but eventually, things got better and everyone has accepted my fate. now, lahat excited na makita ang baby ko! :)

i guess i am very lucky to have a good hubby-to-be who takes care of me, a family who is supportive, and friends who are simply happy for me. i know it will be hard adjusting to my new life once the baby has come out. but i know i can make it through because of the people around me :*)

[flavvvah]

Thanks, you guys. I know I can handle this. I can't wait to see my baby na rin. :*)

[sakura7_15]

flavvvah i also have 1 year to go pa. at first it's hard pero kailangan tisin talaga! it's hard to leave your baby the first time but when i think about it...para sakanya din naman yun once i graduated eh.

your dad? give him time...msakit **** yun sa parents natin but "time heals all wounds" and i know he'll forgive you!

Good luck!

[purplemahal]

i got pregnant when i was 18...a mother at 19. now i have 4 kids at 23 kasi twins *** last (i have 2 boys, 2 identical girls).
my first baby have a different father and i'm still single though kami pa rin ng bf ko kasi i don't want to get married pa rin. i'm happy although ang daming tsismis and maling balita. but promise ko sa sarili that i'll work hard for my kids and di ako aasa sa mga daddy nila esp. sa first.

[sakura7_15]

Originally posted by purplemahal
i got pregnant when i was 18...a mother at 19. now i have 4 kids at 23 kasi twins *** last (i have 2 boys, 2 identical girls).
my first baby have a different father and i'm still single though kami pa rin ng bf ko kasi i don't want to get married pa rin. i'm happy although ang daming tsismis and maling balita. but promise ko sa sarili that i'll work hard for my kids and di ako aasa sa mga daddy nila esp. sa first.

ako nga ayoko pa din mag-asawa makulit lang tatay ko eh!! buti ka pa!!

[ChiQui]

I had my first baby last April and I'm 22. It was hard being pregnant and going to school at the same time. My memory detriorated and it was hard to focus in school.

But other than that, having a child at an early age is great! I have the stamina to take care of my child without a yaya and I'm hoping I'll have a better chance at going back to my pre-pregnancy state than my aunts. :)

[hannah17smb]

[i'm editing what i originally posted because some people are just pure âsses. :rolleyes: respect yourself first, don't call my bestfriend names. don't call my group of friends prostitutes. you don't have a clue. you don't know us. it's so aggravating. :ferocious:]

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[JoYcE`TiK]

got pg when i was 19. married at 20. got pregnant again after that. now i have two kids, i'm working, and i'm planning to go back to school this fall. it's hard but it's all worth it!! lalo na kung nakikita mong masaya mga anak mo.

[sakura7_15]

Originally posted by hannah17smb
[i'm editing what i originally posted because some people are just pure âsses. :rolleyes: respect yourself first, don't call my bestfriend names. don't call my group of friends prostitutes. you don't have a clue. you don't know us. it's so aggravating. :ferocious:]

Hi! I'm curious coz I don't see anyone in this page who's disrespecting you or anybody else for that matter.

I made this thread because I just wanted to know what it feels like to be a mom in an early age, in the perspective of other people. Some people may not be able to understand what we've been through but then, who cares? I've had my share of people making snide remarks about me but I just shrug my shoulders...They're not the one feeding me anyway!!

Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I think the people in this thread are mature enough to understand the different situations that we are in and that nobody's calling you names.

I regret that what you posted has caused you so much aggravation.

[WICKEDsister]

reading this thread, narealize ko nde *** *** ako ang nasa ganitong situation, i had my first baby wen i was 22 , got pregnant again the following year,ngyun im rearing the kids alone with the help of my family, mahirap **** sobra lalo na pag mag kasunod babies mo, parang kambal. away ** away dun, linis ** linis dun. Pagod ka na pero u still need to play with them. sacrifice mo yung time mo for ur self, sa situation ko marami akong iniho hold for a while pinalalaki ko muna sila.
Saka na muna yung personal life, i need to make a stable foundation for my kids since nde rin ako umaasa sa walang kwentang dad nila.

[sodemntough]

got married at 23 and had my 1st child at 24.. Akala ko ready na ako di pa pala.. But no regrets my child is the best thing that ever happened to me. Kahit anong pagod ko basta nakita ko na sya wala na lahat yan..

[odiva]

i got pregnant last sept 2002 at age 23, got married last dec 2002, graduated last april 2003 and gave birth the following month of may at age 24. i've always dreamt being a wife and a mother so i thought i was ready (at least emotionally) to become one but since i gave birth to my baby via c-section up to now that i take care of her...ang hirap pala! there are times when i feel depressed kasi there are so many things that i want to do pero hindi ko magawa since i have to take care of the baby. gusto ko mag-work pero wala namang ibang mag-aalaga sa baby ko. feeling ko naka-jackpot na ko 'pag naiwan ko sandali ang anak ko sa tatay niya o sa isang kasama namin dito sa bahay para umalis sandali. i thought i was mature enough to handle things since 24 na naman ako pero ang hirap din palang mag-adjust plus ang dami ko pa palang dapat matutunan. now, saludo talaga ako sa mga young parents na talagang pinagsusumikapang alagaan at palakihin nang maayos ang kanilang mga anak. :)

[sodemntough]

To be honest i really feel sad whenever I hear that this child is already pregnant.. Kulang pa kasi talaga tayo information about Sex and Birth Control. Mothers dont want to talk about it with their kids. If hindi parents ang magtuturo sa kanila nun. Sino ba dapat? Better for a child to learn about this things from the parents kaysa sa barkada nya matutunan.

[koopz]

Got 2 kids.. teh eldest is 9 and the youngest is 2. both boys. and im 26 years old... you do the math!:D

well, having a kid at a very young age... change me a lot, for the better of course. made me more responsible, more open-minded and a lot more things. and what i am right now... i owed it to my 2 boys. if it hadnt been for them, i wont be a better person now. yup, its true that sometimes, you cant enjoy your social life. but the enjoyment of seeing your kids grow up the same time with you.... its the best feeling a person could have! :*)

[tortangpagong]

it's overwhelming! especially those times when you think of how you imagined your life would be and you realize being a parent wasn't part of it, at least not in the near future... it can get quite depressing...

as for regrets, personally there is only one. i wish i had been responsible enough to wait until i am capable of giving our baby everything i would want her to have. i'm speaking financially here, cause we all know love is all you need is just a bit too idealistic when we're talking about parenting.

but all it takes to vanish the not so good thoughts is remembering how amazing and wonderful it is that love can have such a beautiful outcome.. a whole new person that only you and your partner could have brought into the world. *princess*

[sodemntough]

ok na rin siguro na may teenage pregnancy what I dont subscribe too is abortion kasi dito napapatunayan yung kasabihan 2 wrongs dont make a right..

[dirby88]

I had a baby at 19 and this was 13 years ago. I married and am still married to the dad. The baby part was easy. I eased into parenting and loved it. I guess the best advice is to shower your child with love and support and impose strict disciplinary boundaries for him to manage. Now that my son is an adolescent, I find the small age gap a positive because I can relate well to him. However, it was and still is hard to maintain a marriage since we were both kids ourselves.

[chkby4]

I had my son when I was 20. He is almost 2 now.


His mom and I broke up last year. We thought we were ready to settle, but it turned out we weren't right for each other.


I give monthly support for my son. Kahit medyo gipit ako, when I see it goes to him, I am happy.

Its hard being a parent, pero masarap. Especially pag nag lalambing and he kisses me. Iba yun feeling.
:)

If your parents arent talking to you guys cuz u r pregnant, it will change when the baby comes out. LOL

[Wittygurl]

I just gave birth 2 months ago and I'm only 22 but no regrets, i love my son so much and his dad as well.. having a baby is so overwhelming!At first, I thought di ko kaya.. but things all went so smooth.

Sabi nga ng hubby ko "nanay na nanay" na daw ako! wag lang sana sa appearance :glee:

[ChiQui]

I had my first baby 5 months ago at age 22 and it feels great! :) I had gotten married last year and having this little bundle of joy around is so fulfilling. :)

[ilpadrino]

Heh. Imagine telling your Dad that you're his "Father". :D

[CoolCucumber]

naku, napadpad ako sa thread na 'to kasi friend ko nasa states siya ngayon at nabuntis. excited na nga kami sa magiging baby niya e. she's 22 at lalaki ang magiging anak niya :stan:

[sakura7_15]

CoolCucumber

goodluck sa friend mo! kapag girl magastos!! :D hehe!! kaseh mahilig ako bilan ng costumes baby ko eh...cute cute!

sodemntough

right! no to abortion no matter what! i learned that when i knew i was pregnant i wanted to abort the baby but now i regret na naisip ko yun! she's God's gift to me..

[ecarg88]

i had my first baby at age 20, his father at 18, just because we are still young.. nag kahiwalay din kami ng father nya, ako na ang tumayong mom and dad sa kanya for almost 9 years.. she is now 14 and i'm 34, now we are just like sisters, and she's doing good in school, ( at least nag reach ako sa age na ito na malaki na ang anak ko, at konti na lang ang magagastos sa schooling) hehehehe

[rykiel]

I had my son at age 22, it was tough for I had to work 2 months after giving birth. Now he's almost 3, I barely notice the changes in my life. Perhaps I was able to adjust more than I have expected. ;)

[avacamille]

i was only 19 when i had my first baby we were in our last sem in 3rd year luckly the teachers wasn't able to notice that i am pregnant and we were able to graduate on time. at first it was really hard to be a parent luckly i have my husband and our parents to help us both financially and emotionally. Now the our son is 2 and half years old were happy that we see our child grow and develop new things.

[Li_Meilin]

count me in! i'm 23 and i just learned that i'm 3 months pregnant 2 weeks ago. problem is my bf who's 22 doesn't have a stable job coz he didn't finish college. and i'm currently unemployed coz i quit my job last august, not knowing that i'm pregnant. i'm looking for a job at the moment. the thing is i'm seriously thinking if i should get married. i love the father of my child but i don't think he would be able to support me and my baby. add to the fact that my parents would be furious if i tell them. my ate has been in a similar situation. she left her husband coz he was irresponsible and now she's living with us and gets all kinds of criticisms from my parents. i'm quite confused on what to do now. i don't know if i should really get married. :(

[khatya]

i got pregnant at 18 and became a mother at 19. Im now 20. i call my son "baby", but sometimes i call him "pare". i feel very young kc when im with my son. feeling ko kachokaran ko lang sya!we watch cartoons together and laugh together. masaya naman kahit mahirap kc nga im still studying and i have many plans for my lyf. but now, mas naging malinaw lahat ng plans ko bcoz may pinaglalaanan nako and my son made me see things and see the future clearly. my son takes away all the pain and he undoubtedly makes me happy.

[babynibhie]

im 8 months pregnant and im only 21..feeling?? masaya exciting na mahirap...kase u will be a lot more responsible sa buhay kung date pa easy easy ka lang u can go wherever u want and buy all the things that u like ngayon d na pwde kase me little angel ka na...

hindi lang sa pagbubuntis at sa baby ako nag aadjust kundi pati sa relationship namen ng partner ko kase wala pa kame 1 year pero magkakaron na ng baby...hehehe so mahirap kase para kameng bata na away bati paren...pero babies are blessings kaya masaya din..

[sakura7_15]

Li_Meilin

If I were you I'd get married AFTER I deliver the child. The church also suggests the same. Don't commit the same mistake that I did. Don't get married for the wrong reason. You should be ready once you get married.

Kapag newly wed couple kaseh usually mejo maraming expectations ang guy and girl. Kaya nga adviseable na after getting married ienjoy niyo muna yung isa't isa. Kung magpapakasal kayo tapos after ilang months lang manganganak ka na, baka matorete ka. I was like that until now. Torete! :D

But if you think you can handle it, then why not? GOOD LUCK!

[LlnKnown]

Originally posted by kixter
patay patay na naman pro i love my kids and when i see them smile at me and when they hug me and kiss me, nawawala talaga lahat nang problema at pagod ko.....


I agree...Had a boy when I was 21. Totally unexpected and was born 1 month premature. Now he's 2 yrs old and just melts my heart to see him smile and run up and give me a nice hug and kiss

:)

[GForce]

t'was kinda lonely kasi lahat ng contemporaries ko mga "nag-e-enjoy" pa ng pagkadalaga o pagkabinata ... we can't relate ... alam nyo ba yun feeling na yun? ... pero ngayon, inggit sila kasi malalaki na mga chikiting ko. sila hirap pa sa pagpapalaki. :)

[conman]

Originally posted by GForce
t'was kinda lonely kasi lahat ng contemporaries ko mga "nag-e-enjoy" pa ng pagkadalaga o pagkabinata ... we can't relate ... alam nyo ba yun feeling na yun? ... pero ngayon, inggit sila kasi malalaki na mga chikiting ko. sila hirap pa sa pagpapalaki. :)


yeah, we have our own time in this world.

its a matter of preference though. i remember i was caught between being tied with early marriage responsibilities and my late night escapades. if i chose the latter, i might have been miserable by now.

by heart, i knew i made the right choice.

[xueli]

sakura, thanks for the advice. actually, i listened to what my bestfriend had to say about this. she said that it wouldn't be a problem for me if i get married after the baby's born. that's one issue off my mind now.

the thing is i just left home after my parents discovered that i'm pregnant. my boyfriend and i were already planning to break the news before december ends but my dad noticed my belly when i was wearing the car seatbelt last sunday. my dad's initial reaction is that he wanted me to abort the baby. my mom said that she'd bring me to the province. i left our house because of this and now i'm staying at my boyfriend and his family's place. i really felt sorry and guilty. but i know that my parents wouldn't be able to accept my boyfriend at the moment and i don't want to be apart from him specially now that we're having a baby. now i'd have to stick with my decision even if it'd be very difficult for me. :(