Parenting tips

[sakura7_15]

Parents, please share any parenting tips you have.

Here's mine.

1. Talk to your child even while he/she is still in your womb. Have the baby listen to classical music.

2. To raise bilingual kids, talk to them in english and in tagalog (or whatever combination) right after they are born.

3. Kiss your baby in the forehead while he/she sleeps! :)

[IncX]

i'm not a parent but since this is such a lonely topic i'd add a few things:

* learn to be happy, because if you are a happy person, your child will learn that.

* find yourself... for how else can you raise another life when you yourself don't know what you want (and no, "wanting my children to be succesful" isn't counted)?

* never grow old, and i don't mean the youth formula here :)

* let them learn at least one musical instrument and two kinds of sports. music calms the soul, sports is of course healthy, and will teach the value of "with hard work, comes great rewards."

* talk to them about the shows they just wacthed ... this of course requires you to be interested in whatever they are watching ... remember "never grow old?" this will be put to play here. why should you do this? so you'll know that their view of life isn't distorted.

* smile! :D




-IncX

[hooch]

respect your child's opinion and thoughts no matter how silly they may seem to you.

[BuDwEiSeR#8]

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Originally posted by sakura7_15
2. To raise bilingual kids, talk to them in english and in tagalog (or whatever combination) right after they are born.
I read in some books that this is not advisable bec its confusing,it is much better to start when they are already talking or at least they are in school but not as early as a day old. :)

for tips:

Don't yell at them,it is demeaning and they will lose their self-confidence.

Praise your child in public,correct them in private.

Tell them everyday how much you love them,even if they do some not-so-good things.

Teach your child to obey you bec they respect you not bec they are afraid of you.

If they did something that is bad,tell them it is their hands that is bad and not him.

[Dom]

is it bad to force a 4 yr old boy to eat and yell at him at the same time?

for example, like this: "EAT NOW OR U WILL GO TO THE BASEMENT!" :rolleyes:

[sakura7_15]

Originally posted by Dom
is it bad to force a 4 yr old boy to eat and yell at him at the same time?

for example, like this: "EAT NOW OR U WILL GO TO THE BASEMENT!" :rolleyes:

I think you should explain to him why he has to eat or why you're mad at him. Baka ma-trauma naman yung kid mo kung pagagalitan mo na sha, tapos paupupuntahin mo pa sa basement.

anyway, i heard that strollers are not adviseable anymore...does anybody knnow why?

[Mickey2000]

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Originally posted by sakura7_15
anyway, i heard that strollers are not adviseable anymore...does anybody know why? Kung naglalakad na rin naman yung anak mo, palakarin na lang, para daw maexercise,hindi yung lagi na lang naka-upo,ako nga naluma na lang yung stroller nya,kasi hindi na nagamit since natuto syang maglakad.:D.Tapos holding hands pa kami pag naglalakad.:)

[sakura7_15]

BuDwEiSeR#8

dapat 1 language per caregiver. your hub can speak to your kid in english while your wife (dunno if you're a girl or a boy sowee!) can speak in tagalog. That won't confuse the kid because he/she will be able to associate the words with the person/caregiver. :)

[ChiQui]

1. Not everything can be learned from parenting books.

2. Every day is a different day. Appreciate every little thing that happens between you and your child.

3. Treasure every moment with your child. They grow up so fast!

[honeyangel]

:~( Treasure every moment with your child. They grow up so fast!

***Too bad i'm not with him to at least have those happy moments togehter. I'm working abroad and have to sacrifice for his future. I was not beside my baby to witness all the FIRST'S in his life, and am afraid he won't even bother to hug and kiss me when i go on vacation to be with him....sigh!***:depressed2:

[BuDwEiSeR#8]

:imu: Spend time w/ them instead of spending money.

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[aajao]

Originally posted by honeyangel
:~( Treasure every moment with your child. They grow up so fast!

***Too bad i'm not with him to at least have those happy moments togehter. I'm working abroad and have to sacrifice for his future. I was not beside my baby to witness all the FIRST'S in his life, and am afraid he won't even bother to hug and kiss me when i go on vacation to be with him....sigh!***:depressed2:

hey, don't be sad. you're a real hero to your child. ;)
while it is normal that your child will be not so at ease with you at first, he will learn to develop the "son instinct" that bonds him to you. you have the same blood, anyway.
just see to it that when you get your vacation and have the chance to be with him, alot more time with him. although pasalubongs for him can not be neglected, it is your presence, your quality time with him, and the bonding that you will have to develop that will have to count most. :)

[foxxxxy]

Parents shouldn't fight in front of their kids.

[sodemntough]

Never spank your child when you are angry.. Because you end up hurting your child more... If your child did something bad give yourself enough time to calm down.Pag feeling mo calm ka na then puede na kayo mag usap..

[honeyangel]

Originally posted by aajao
hey, don't be sad. you're a real hero to your child. ;)
while it is normal that your child will be not so at ease with you at first, he will learn to develop the "son instinct" that bonds him to you. you have the same blood, anyway.
just see to it that when you get your vacation and have the chance to be with him, alot more time with him. although pasalubongs for him can not be neglected, it is your presence, your quality time with him, and the bonding that you will have to develop that will have to count most. :)

Thanks aajao, at least i'm relieve now....:spinhalo:

[hosel]

Originally posted by BuDwEiSeR#8
:imu: Spend time w/ them instead of spending money.

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Right - quality time and make it fun!

:)

[sodemntough]

Being a parent can be a joy, but it's also a tough job. No parent is perfect. We all make mistakes. Even loving parents sometimes do things they don't mean to do, like slap a child or call a child a bad name. But if you think you're having trouble controlling yourself, get help so a pattern of abuse doesn't start.

There's not just one right way to raise children. And there's no such thing as a perfect parent--or a perfect child. But here are some guidelines to help your children grow up healthy and happy:

There's not just one right way to raise children. And there's no such thing as a perfect parent--or a perfect child. But here are some guidelines to help your children grow up healthy and happy:

Show your love. Every day, tell your children: "I love you. You're special to me." Give lots of hugs and kisses.

Listen when your children talk. Listening to your children tells them that you think they're important and that you're interested in what they have to say.

Make your children feel safe. Comfort them when they're scared. Show them you've taken steps to protect them.

Provide order in their lives. Keep a regular schedule of meals, naps and bedtimes. If you have to change the schedule, tell them about the changes ahead of time.

Praise your children. When your children learn something new or behave well, tell them you're proud of them.

Criticize the behavior, not the child. When your child makes a mistake, don't say, "You were bad." Instead, explain what the child did wrong. For example, say: "Running into the street without looking isn't safe." Then tell the child what to do instead: "First, look both ways for cars."

Be consistent. Your rules don't have to be the same ones other parents have, but they do need to be clear and consistent. (Consistent means the rules are the same all the time.)

[advancement]

Say this prayer:

Build Me A Son


Build me a son, O Lord, who will be strong enough to know when he is weak, and brave enough to face himself when he is a afraid; one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat, and humble and gentle in victory.

Build me a son whose wishes will not take the place of deeds; a son who will know Thee-and that to know himself is the foundation stone of knowelede.

Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort, but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenge. Here let him learn to stand up in the storm; here let him learn compassion for thoses who jail.

Build me a son whoses heart will be clear, whoses goal will be high, a son who will master himself before he seeks to master other men, one who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.

And after all these things are his, add, I pray, enough of a sense of humor, so that he may always be serious, yet never take himself too seriously. Give him humility, so that he may always remember the simplicity of true greatness, the open mind of true wisdom, and the meekness of true strength.

Then I, his father, will dare to whisper, "I have not lived in vain.

Gen. Douglas MacArthur

[Maire]

My son has light spots on his face. Does anyone know what causes this and how to treat it? I give him a multi vitamin every day and Ive been using moisturizer, but nothing is helping.
I hope I posted this correctly. This is my first time on this thread.
Thanks

[advancement]

Try Tinactin.

[Maire]

Thank you for the suggestion. I will try it:)

[sakura7_15]

Maire

baka sa sabon ng baby mo. try using Dove soap for your baby. Yung unscented.

[tina11]

Elizabeth Pantley is the author of No Cry Sleep Solution (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0071381392/sr=8-1/qid=1144148496/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-9373018-4970436?%5Fencoding=UTF8) and other parenting books. Here's an article she wrote that is really applicable for husbands and wives who don't have yayas or family members to help in the day-to-day tasks of raising kids.

How to Have a Happy Marriage When You’re Busy Being Parents (http://www.kellymom.com/pantley/pantley13.html)

An excerpt:

To create or maintain a strong marriage you will have to take the first critical step: You must be willing to put time, effort and thought into your marriage. When I made this statement during a lecture, one woman spoke up. She had a quiet voice, but she spoke with determination, “Elizabeth, I hear you, and I know what you say is right. But I have three preschoolers! I work part time, do all my own housework, cooking, and laundry. I just don’t have any more energy at the end of the day to “work” on my marriage.”

I noticed that several other women in the room were nodding their heads as she spoke and they waited for my response. “I certainly understand! I have four children and my own business, I know how busy life can be. But let me ask you one vital question: how would you like to have three preschoolers, work part time, do your own housework, cooking, and laundry, and do it all as a single mother? Because if you take care of everything else, and neglect your marriage, that’s what could happen.”

Suddenly every mother who nodded a minute ago was looking at me with wide eyes. The thought that their marriage, which was at the very bottom of their priority list, could be in jeopardy, hit them very hard. I noticed that I now had the complete attention of several of the fathers who earlier had seemed lost in their own thoughts.

[slowjamz21]

Say No to Honey....Honey contains bacteria that can be harmful to young children. It should not be given to any child under the age of 18 months.

[Sweetkay]

Give him lots and lots of hugs and kisses while he's still a baby so that he may grow up to be a secured person. Besides, pag laki ng mga babies natin, they might not let us kiss and hug them as much as we would want to.

[moonster]

sweetkay: naku, i agree. tsaka hold hands with your baby while you still can kasi lalo na pag boy, d na papahawak ng kamay yan paglaki.. gagawin ko talaga sa baby ko to.. :D

[avonlea]

eto... bathing your baby...
http://www.babycenter.com/headtotoe/?_requestid=15443

[contrarian]

Re: Skin discoloration question

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My son has light spots on his face. Does anyone know what causes this and how to treat it? I give him a multi vitamin every day and Ive been using moisturizer, but nothing is helping.
I hope I posted this correctly. This is my first time on this thread.
Thanks

It would be better to consult a doctor first before trying any kind of medication. The product you have in mind or recommended by friends may be effective, but they may not be suitable for children.

[msbles]

sweetkay: naku, i agree. tsaka hold hands with your baby while you still can kasi lalo na pag boy, d na papahawak ng kamay yan paglaki.. gagawin ko talaga sa baby ko to.. :D

ako din, i hug my son ALL the time because one of my issues with my own parents is how hug-starved they let us be.

LALO na kung girl ang baby ko, all the more I will hug her, kasi baka paglaki nya, sa ibang tao pa sya maghanap ng hugs...

WALANG LIBRENG HUG NA GALING SA IBANG TAO! :angry:

[msbles]

This thread is really nice. We all want to be better parents.
It would be nicer, though, if we could *also* have parenting tips on how to make parenting EASIER and LESS EXPENSIVE. I dare say single moms and moms without helpers could make much use of those too.

For example, any tips on how to clean the house, wash the dishes and launder the clothes with a clingy toddler in tow? (I generally use a sling, but Josh is nearly 2 and getting heavy, so...)

And do any of you know of any cheaper substitutes for baby wipes? (Sure, I wash his bottom, but they won't let me do that in the mall. And it's hard to wash a newborn's bottom.)

[DaNa8]

^^^
When you're at home, you could use cotton and tap water. SM's Baby Co's baby wipes are only priced at 99 bucks for 2 pieces.

[tina11]

I use cotton balls and water pag wiwi lang naman ang lilinisin :)

Right now we put big Enfant cloth diapers on top of baby's plastic changing pad, but she's becoming more malikot than ever. I read a great tip somewhere that you can use big pillowcases, just slip the changing pad inside and baby can squirm all she wants, di matatanggal yung pillowcase :D

[slowjamz21]

Baking soda does more than eat up odors in the fridge.

--To remove traces of food odors, soak plastic food containers overnight in a baking soda solution or rub dry baking soda into your wooden cutting boards with a damp sponge and rinse clean.

--As a paste made of three parts baking soda and one part water, use it to polish silver. Just apply the paste with a damp sponge, rub until clean, rinse and buff to a shine.

--In your bath, use baking soda paste to smooth away rough skin on elbows, feet and knees.

--Out of deodorant? Apply a small amount of baking soda to your armpits.

--In a solution of four tablespoons of baking soda and one quart of water, use baking soda to clean chrome car bumpers and trip as well vinyl upholstery.*okay*

[tina11]

Baking soda is so useful... you can also sprinkle some in your trash can para hindi mangamoy.

[i'm all yours]

more tips:

1. aside from HUGS, practice saying "I love you" to your child as often as you can. even if she cannot speak yet, when you are away, or say in the office, try to call her at least once a day and tell her you love her. let her feel you are thinking of her even when you are away.

2. to practice object recall and verbal skills, especially for 2-4year olds, write down on strips of paper the names of things you see in the house and tape them next to the item. for example, write down "TABLE", "CABINET", "ELECTRIC FAN" onto strips of paper and then paste them into the respective objects.

3. sometimes, it pays to let your child get dirty. don't spank her if she got her socks soiled or her shirt muddy, or her fingers made some chocolate whiskers because of the chocolate chip cookies she ate. allow her to explore her surroundings, but of course be on the lookout for things that can endanger her.

[slowjamz21]

Never put adhesive bandages on infants or small children's fingers. When they naturally put their hands into their mouths, they may inhale the bandage and choke

Never Give Aspirin to Children
Over age two, children's aches and fevers can be treated with children's acetaminophen. Never give children aspirin, which can cause Reye's syndrome, a potentially fatal disease.

[msbles]

^^^
When you're at home, you could use cotton and tap water. SM's Baby Co's baby wipes are only priced at 99 bucks for 2 pieces.

Hehehe, me being the super kuripot mommy, of course I used cotton and water at home! And I'm thinking now maybe I'll just pack some more wet cotton for when we go out :bashful:

But those wipes ARE inexpensive! (Hmm, how come they've eluded me this long???)

Oh btw. mommies, I have this great website for teaching your child the alphabet!
http://www.sesameworkshop.org/sesamestreet/games/flash.php?contentId=9495524

Instead of letting him watch TV, I put Josh in his highchair and let him play on my computer's keyboard. (He pounded it at first, but with a little guidance, he soon got the hang of the gentle one-finger tap). Gives me time to wash the dishes :)