Yayas: bad experiences [Merged]

[dudelish]

while there are lucky people who got the best yayas, i'm pretty sure that's more of an exception than the norm.

anyway, post your yaya scary stories here that you know or you experienced yourself.

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one of my titas one time had to fire the yaya of her 20 month old kid because she caught her sniffing rugby.

[joben]

your right to be scared about yayas from hell. In our case weve had our share. One of my yayas was fond of socializing so she hosts parties and get-togethers in my house (of course I was catering) and sends my son off to play outside the whole afternoon. Each time I ask how come last sunday's groceries is almost gone, the standard answer was 'malakas pong kumain si Junior, lumalaki po siya'

[m_i_c_o_y]

nakakatuwa naman tong thread na to, nways my mom hired this yaya when im was 3 yrs old, then theres one time my mom is in the office, eh sa sobrang kulit ko pinagtripan ako ni yaya, kumuha sya ng gunting tapos she tried to make me "tule" (circumcise). talagang umiyak ako noon kasi para talagang totoo, hinatak nya yung balat nung alaga ko tapos talagang aktong gugupitin nya. tapos nung incident na yun sinumbong ko sa mommy ko, pero mommy ko ayaw maniwala kasi super hindi makabasag pinggan yung mangkukulam kong yaya. nways matagal na yon at di ko na alam kung nasaan na siya, siguro nagtutule na.

[joben]

pero mommy ko ayaw maniwala kasi super hindi makabasag pinggan yung mangkukulam kong yaya

micoy,

close call ;) but think about it, kaunting topak pa and you'll be the first eunuch na alam ko

but to me, the first sign that something is wrong is exactly that, when my son says something against the yaya.

In one instance, we noticed na when we were at home, my son would show hostility and open anger towards the yaya. Not knowing any better, we reprimanded the boy for *undesirable* behavior. It turns out that this yaya would scare him and shout at him when we were not around. My son didnt tell us because it might get him into *more trouble*.

Since then, anytime my son would show any sign of anger towards the yaya, I would make sure the yaya gets a piece of my mind before I send them packing.

[Gabriela]

When I was very young, we had two yayas na mag-ina. My mom was working then and she'd cook food for us before she leaves for work (di kasi masarap magluto mga katulong namin). One night daw I asked my mom to prepare mantika and toyo for me kasi iuulam ko raw sa kanin. My mom was surprised why I was asking for toyo & mantika eh puro masarap naman ulam namin sa house. I told her daw na kasi yun pinapakain sakin ng mga maid namin. Kaya pala i was so skinny while the 2 yayas were getting bigger everyday. plus, sila din umiinom ng freshmilk ko. (di ko na maalala ito, kinwento nalang sakin ng nanay ko).

[m_i_c_o_y]

Posted by joben
micoy,

close call but think about it, kaunting topak pa and you'll be the first eunuch na alam ko

TOPAK? Thats really what happened. And its really vivid in my mind thats scenes. Oh....Your lil jobens are really smart!? PARE exeptional ka! I wonder nga kung ano ang itsura mo sa personal, siguro your one of the "great english" teachers out there? teka major mo ba "psychology"? o baka di ka nag aral? very intriguing word "eunuch" (teka good memorization skill), whats that? pasensya ka na im not that great in vocubulary hehehe. :director: GET A LIFE!!

[joben]

TOPAK? Thats really what happened. And its really vivid in my mind thats scenes. Oh.

I was referring to the maid :p ... and as for eunuch, it was said that they chose to be *castrated* since they were dedicated to a life of priestly duties in ancient egypt.

cheers

[PennyLane]

so far, i'm lucky to get yayas whom i don't have any horror stories to tell. baka kasi im a stay-at-home mom so was able to keep a keen eye on them.

anyway, share ko lang ang ibang mga horror yaya stories:

1. sa preschool ng anak ko, there's a pavilion where all the yayas are staying. iba naman ang lounge ng mga parents. one time, while me and my friends were stayig in school, i saw one of the yayas come in and took a sip from the juice na baon ng alaga niya. pa-discreet pa siya eh kitang kita namin.

2. may nangyari rin last year na nahuli ang isang driver at yaya na making out (as in they were caught on top of the other) sa pajero (siyempre nakabukas ang aircon) ng amo nila on broad daylight. nahuli sila ng guard kaya pinatawag ang amo nila. i dunno what happened basta hindi ko na nakita ang yaya na yun after.

so parents... watch out!

[makulit_ako]

I'm going out on a limb here...


Hindi naman ako naka-experience ng ganyan nun bata pa ako, PERO meron akong kalokohan ginawa sa yaya ko dati :) nung bata ako I stripped the clothes off my yaya, touched her breasts and kissed her (sucked her breasts and kissed her passionately). my reason? I was just curious, I guess I really can't wait to grow up back then. :D

[soulthird]

Originally posted by makulit_ako
I'm going out on a limb here...


Hindi naman ako naka-experience ng ganyan nun bata pa ako, PERO meron akong kalokohan ginawa sa yaya ko dati :) nung bata ako I stripped the clothes off my yaya, touched her breasts and kissed her (sucked her breasts and kissed her passionately). my reason? I was just curious, I guess I really can't wait to grow up back then. :D

masarap ba gatas ng yaya mo? hehehehe joke

[vclim]

i have a yaya, who is disrespectful to us. she is also quite defensive, yun tipong hindi mo masabihan. all because she feels that mas magaling siya in child care (totoo naman, since first time parents kami) kaysa sa amin. her working attitude is okay, responsible naman. the only problem is her attitude. kung kayo, will you tolerate this kind of behavior or u say goodbye to her and find another one?

[grumpybear]

i have a yaya, who is disrespectful to us. she is also quite defensive, yun tipong hindi mo masabihan. all because she feels that mas magaling siya in child care (totoo naman, since first time parents kami) kaysa sa amin. her working attitude is okay, responsible naman. the only problem is her attitude. kung kayo, will you tolerate this kind of behavior or u say goodbye to her and find another one?
tolerate the behavior? nope.
if hindi sya masabihan, it looks like she wants to be in control when ultimately, you and your husband, as parents are the ones that should be in control.
if i were in your position, i would hate it when down the road may mga matututunan ang anak ko that i don't agree with pero too late because i gave someone the controls over how care for my child should be.
i'd go look for a new one ASAP.

[cake1988]

Kung ganyan ang yaya mo..isa lang ang masasabi ko..."BUKAS ANG PINTO....PWEDE KA NA UMALIS"

Kahit first time parent ka...don't allow na maging under ka ng isang yaya...remember ikaw ang nagpapasweldo. Kung ganyan ang attitude nya...may tendency na...ang bata nag gagawin nyang pang threat sa iyo.

Habang maaga pa....change mo na ang yaya.

kasi for me...ang ***** na katulong pwede mo turuan...pero kung masama ang ugali ..di mo na ma-change na maging mabuti ang ugali.

[bettiney]

The same thing happened to me several times. My son is 5 months old now and I am a first time parent. I must have changed yayas 3 times, all on the 1st month. The first one was really nice but i was experiencing post-partum blues so i fired her. The second one was really good but she was acting as if she was the boss and treated both me and my husband shabbily. I fired her too. The last one was alright but i caught her dozing off while feeding my baby. In the end, I decided to care for the baby myself. I learned by watching the yayas i fired how they did things. In addition, you can get support from your friends and family who will be very willing to teach you. If you can care for the baby yourself then there's nothing to be afraid of. That was my mindset. I just felt that with P6500 a month salary, these yayas should treat me very well and they should very well be worth every centavo I'm paying them. Don't let your yaya intimidate you. Worse comes to worst, you can do it.
One last thing. I feel that the best person to really care for my baby is myself. I might not be the most informed person. I might not be as good as the yayas that I fired but I am this one person who wants the best for my child.

[vclim]

what's stopping me from firing the yaya is if i change a new one, baka worst pa, since i've already heard lots of horror stories about yayas, esp those wearing white uniforms. baka the new one do something to my child. i heard a story about a yaya giving the bb cough syrup para makatulog ang bb. meron din yun utang ng utang. meron din yun nagnanakaw.

[bettiney]

The yayas that i got, the ones that i fired were all the type who wear white uniforms. I was paying them P6500 a month. But as i said in my previous post, if you can care for your child yourself, then firing them should not be a problem. But if you're the type who just cannot not sleep at night and if you can't care for you child yourself, tiis nalang. You are aware of your limitations so only you can tell if you can do it.
Hey. I noticed that you've had this dilemma since april pa. Well, it seems you're able to tolerate your yaya's bad behavior then tiisin mo nalang siguro.

[bleh]

hired one once. swerte ko lang magaling mag-alaga ng bata. swerte rin nya hindi ako pakialamera, nag-oobserve lang. kung anong kelangan, sinasabi nya, binibili ko agad. nakikita ko namang nagagamit ng maayos at healthy ang anak ko. eh umalis na kasi nagdramang hindi na raw sya kelangan (trying to sweeten the pot you know) eh ako hindi namimilit, pinayagan ko. hagulgol sya ng byebye bago nya iwanan alaga nya. hindi ko galit sa kanya kasi magaling nga sya eh yun nga lang hindi rin ko madramang tao.

anyway, papalit palit mga yaya ko while i was growing up. mga psycho ang iba don. hindi maganda kasi naging maladjusted kid ako, yun bang mababa ang EQ kasi hindi naman responsive sa bata mga yaya na ito eh and naturally very bad examples sila.

yun lang. if you think your kid is not developing properly, may speech problems, payat, tulala, etc, palitan mo ang yaya o ikaw muna mag-alaga para malaman mo talaga anong problema. most of the time it's not the kid.

[JETTO]

hired one once. swerte ko lang magaling mag-alaga ng bata. swerte rin nya hindi ako pakialamera, nag-oobserve lang. kung anong kelangan, sinasabi nya, binibili ko agad. nakikita ko namang nagagamit ng maayos at healthy ang anak ko. eh umalis na kasi nagdramang hindi na raw sya kelangan (trying to sweeten the pot you know) eh ako hindi namimilit, pinayagan ko. hagulgol sya ng byebye bago nya iwanan alaga nya. hindi ko galit sa kanya kasi magaling nga sya eh yun nga lang hindi rin ko madramang tao.

anyway, papalit palit mga yaya ko while i was growing up. mga psycho ang iba don. hindi maganda kasi naging maladjusted kid ako, yun bang mababa ang EQ kasi hindi naman responsive sa bata mga yaya na ito eh and naturally very bad examples sila.

yun lang. if you think your kid is not developing properly, may speech problems, payat, tulala, etc, palitan mo ang yaya o ikaw muna mag-alaga para malaman mo talaga anong problema. most of the time it's not the kid.
MAy contact number ka pa ba nyang yayang madrama? Parefer naman please we need a yaya kasi manganganak na misis ko... email me @ cyko_freaks@yahoo.com

[JETTO]

hi baka may kaibigan or kapatid yung mga yaya mo na gusto rin pumasok na yaya. i need one kasi manganganak na misis ko. if you can help please email me @ cycko_freaks@yahoo.com

[vclim]

my yaya criticizes the way i make my bb sleep, and even said that di ako marunong magpakain. i'm planning to fire my yaya as soon as i've found a new one( a yaya again, or just a maid with a bit experience on child care). she is super bastos and super yabang. her name is lilia bello, 56 yrs. old. i got her from venus eva. don't hire her.

[bleh]

Hi Jetto, i have the contact number of the agency where i got her. it's the same agency where my mom got my first few nannies (after them they opted for the cheap ones, and the psychos were among them). i'll pm you when i find the number. it's filed away with the contract number eh.

vclim, kay Venus? yung malapit sa mayon? that's where i got my nanny rin. si Yaya Miniang. pero di naman sya sintanda ng nanny na nakuha mo. i think people tend to be more melodramatic as they get older. they start acting like the know-it-all condescending lolas. but i think it's part of their being protective of their alaga, they truly care. maybe you'll agree with me that they invest a lot of themselves (physically and emotionally) in maintaining our kids in the best shape, like luxury cars nga i think. so it's disheartening for them to see their alagas get less quality care from inexperienced hands (be it from us or a temporary nanny standing in their absence). but then again we can also say it's also their insecurity that makes them assert their usefulness, ie by implying only they can give our kids the best care. if i remember it right, yaya lilia is yaya miniang's most disliked yaya. almost nobody in the agency can get along with her daw. basta pangit ugali daw. you know these yayas, they like to gossip hahaha!

[vclim]

hi bleh, yes, venus eva is located at mayon. just curious, is yaya miniang still working for you? my husband said that if i get a new yaya, chances are ganun din daw yun. kung hindi mayabang, baka naman nagnanakaw o mahilig mang-utang. so far, etong yaya ko di pa namin nahuhuli nagnanakaw and hindi naman siya nang-uutang. so far, we have the peace of mind kung naiiwan siya at ang bb ko sa bahay. based on your post, it seems that you have already hired and changed quite a number of yayas already. with your experience, do you agree with what my husband is saying? because if my husband is right, what's the point of changing yaya? tnx and hope to hear from u soon!

[itt]

pashare po. mas okay ata pag di sa agency kukuha kasi mahirap minsan kasabwat *** agency pag magloloko yung yaya. mas okay kung magparekomenda nalang hehe

:bluefish:

[bleh]

i only hired one. when she left, that was it. i can't bear seeing my kid experiencing separation anxiety. she was clingy for a week after her nanny left. basta nag-iba ugali. i did grow up with a lot of nannies and know my cousins' nannies well too (we all grew up in the same neighborhood and see each other everyday) so we have a lot of yaya stories. what i do think is that yayas who are protective of their alagas are the type that cry when they leave. what they do for the kids are more than just what people would do for money. there really is genuine care.

i only have good commendations for yaya miniang. she is honest. lots of times when she comes back from her day-off (overnite yun coz she's entitled to 2 days off a month di ba?) she would make comments like "payat na naman alaga ko" or "mata na lang natira" which are funny. she would ask how much milk or food my baby's had while she's away. genuine concern yon. it's not easy to feed baby especially mine had reflux. tyaga nya magpadede ng madaling araw kahit suka ng suka. one time yaya miniang got very ill and took a week off. Venus sent a temp. forgot the name. bata pa and medyo yoohoo. when yaya got back, the temp was lucky she left before yaya discovered baby's rashes. it was terrible. kaya pala laging pulbusado anak ko na parang espasol. she was so mad at the temp, nagsumbong kay venus. my mistake was i trusted the temp coz i thought she was really qualified to take care of newborns. yun din sabi nya kay venus. hindi naman pala.

so i think if you want to replace your nanny, (may six months na ba? kasi pwedeng palitan at no extra charge di ba?), it's advisable to choose one that venus has known for a long time or at least check their employment history. for me lang, ok yung nakakatagal ng 1-2 years (yung talagang for newborns). i understand why they don't stay longer if they're 40 and above. di na nila kaya makipaghabulan sa bata. pero the skill they have in looking after newborns, the younger nannies can't match that.

itt, i would recommend venus' agency. more than 25 years na sya. yaya ko nung baby pa ko kinuha rin ng mommy ko sa kanya. *** mga yaya kong kinuhang galing probinsya majority nyek. if you are opting for other agencies, i suggest ones that have catered to extended families. mabilis mag CI ng yaya. chismisan lang yon hehehe.

[maimow]

what do i do with yayas that steal?

[Samoyed]

Nag-uuniform ba yayas nyo?

[junior01]

my experience with yayas. when i was a kid matanggal na yata tenga ko sa kokorot kung hinde ako natutulog sa hapon at poro lang laro :)). i love my yayas back then they are like my second mothers. :)

but the yayas now naku nakabayad ako ng 10 000 pesos telephone bill, lahat tawag niya at lumayas siya, kaya di namin nasingil yun bruha na yun. :(