A Problem-Parents Thread

[aajao]

if parents become "irresponsible" and makes the family life miserable, how must children deal with it without losing their respect to their parents?

[doc_02]

at one point yes, mawawala nga ang respect nila kc iisipin nila bakit hindi nila pinaghandaan ang pagkakaroon ng pamilya?, or bakit ba nila kami mahal?


so dapat ipakita na mahalga sila sa inyong mga parents, have a good communication with each other, kc ang miserableng buhay... natural na yan sa buhay ng isang pilipino. at least with that they feel valuable

[aajao]

now, how should the parents deal with the children when they (children) lost their respect to them (parents)? :shrug:

[pattybee]

By exercising authority, of course. Personally, I don't believe in spanking (unless absolutely necessary). I believe more in punishment by taking away certain privileges. An open discussion when possible is also advisable.

[aajao]

how could the children listen to the parents in the open discussion when the children see the parents as irresponsible?

[the_BuGs]

daming tanong ni aajao ah...

[xueli]

my bestfriend is in that situation right now. she'd totally lost respect for her dad since he was a drug addict. he just got out of prison coz her mom paid the bail.

i think you could not do anything about it specially if the situation is that bad. the parent would just have to accept responsibility for his action. he should try to change for the better to win back the respect he'd lost.

[Fairy_nd_meadow]

How must children deal with irresponsible parents? Hmmm...

By being the best they can possibly be and doing the right thing always - making sure they are studying even though there are problems in the family, by preparing a good life for themselves and not making excuses for not having a good future for themselves.

It takes a lot of courage, patience, and hard work to be able to come out successful in spite of problematic parents who weren't able to fulfill their duties as parents, but then again, we all have our lives and no one can make us miserable if we don't want to be.

In dealing with these kinds of parents we have to remember that they are human too, prone to mistakes and that they have their own lives to live, and it's just sad that they weren't able to live up to their own duties as parents. So children should take it as a lesson in their own lives, remembering the pains it caused them, so that in the future their children would not have to suffer. Forgiveness is often the key to a peaceful life.

[the_BuGs]

problem child ***** si aajao :glee:

[aajao]

thanks for the input, Fairy_nd_meadow :)
two people i know who consider their own fathers irresponsible are behaving-well, except that sometimes, they do tend to say some unacceptable things about their father. it just hurts me knowing that these fathers do not realize how their children see them. :(

off-topic: the_BuGs, can't you see my title? i'm well-behaved! :haloangel:

[ChiQui]

How can children deal with irresponsible parents... I don't think there's any fool-proof solution or formula for that. I think that the only thing kids can do is be mature about it and think that it isn't just kids who need growing up -- parents need to do that to. Sabi nga nila, "mahirap magpalaki ng magulang"...

[nicaching]

Children come first policy: Everything we do is for the children.

- We are service oriented, serving the cute ones.
- We are training oriented, personally teaching the cute ones.
- We become responsible parents.
- We give our best to work at a great marriage.
- We work, earn money, do business to earn money for the children.

Selfishness has no place in our family.

[aajao]

that's a pretty cooL policy you got there! :)

[aajao]

bump. maybe we can have more thoughts on this matter. :)