need advice pls - work sit

[sharkbait]

just want to ask some advice,

situation: i'm at the middle of doing a project and i had some questions on my mind regarding the project. i approached one of my officemates (who was senior to me) and asked the questions. the officemate answered me in a manner na medyo mayabang ang dating, and then started saying things which i already new about and i felt a little hurt (my pride...?) because the tone of his voice was parang nayayabangan ako... i didnt really answer back anymore coz i dont want to, i dont like arguing even if sometimes i know i'm right. how should have i faced situations such as this?

after assessing the situation, i sort of concluded na, sa work, one needs to be mayabang sometimes so others wont think that you dont know half as much as they know... ? what do you guys think about this? kung baga para hindi ka-iismall-in kailangan bang maging medyo mayabang??? i always thought na no, but after the event, parang oo....?

[SpellbindMedia]

I don't think the solution is to be mayabang yourself. Being mayabang won't hide the fact that you don't know some things - you'll need to study for that. Besides, what's wrong if you ask other workmates if their are things you don't know? Hindi naman lahat ng tao alam na nila ang ginagawa nila the moment they start their work/project.

I guess you need to:

- develop assertiveness and self-esteem. Show that you can't be pushed around, that you're serious when it comes to work and that other people can depend on you when there's a crisis.

- understand that there are many types of people in the (corporate) world. There are those who would use you, abuse you and confuse you. There are the backstabbers and finger-pointers, the buck-passers and the coporate ladder climbers. Hindi mo maiiwasan yan. Learn to see what people are really like when it comes to work. Choose your work friends as well and don't let work issues compromise your friendship.

- learn to deal with office politics. May mga situations na ginagamit ka na hindi mo pa alam kasi iniisip mo the things you do are all part of your work or because you're dealing with much senior officemates.

- learn not be sensitive or take things seriously. I was once part of a company where the tempo was always fast-paced and where the superiors expected output. If you don't deliver sisigawan ka. Although marami na ang umiyak, every one understands that it's part of work. Kung hindi mo nakayanan yun, paano pa kaya sa mga bigger corporations (or even international companies) where foreign superiors are more frank and straight to the point?


These things you will learn throughout time. That's how things are, and these (among many other) are some of the things they'll never teach in school.

[sharkbait]

thanks very much! :)

[orangebleach]

i didnt really answer back anymore coz i dont want to, i dont like arguing even if sometimes i know i'm right. how should have i faced situations such as this?

there are times that its better to keep your mouth shut but there are situations that you have to show your balls. If you don't want to be pushed around, then at least try to prove your point once in a while.

after assessing the situation, i sort of concluded na, sa work, one needs to be mayabang sometimes so others wont think that you dont know half as much as they know... ? what do you guys think about this? kung baga para hindi ka-iismall-in kailangan bang maging medyo mayabang??? i always thought na no, but after the event, parang oo....?

To each his own. May mga tao na talaga ang ginagamit na"shield" ang kayabangan sa mga ego nila. If you feel comfortable being mayabang then get on with it. But I believe there are other ways to show what your worth like being assertive (like what spellbindmedia pointed out) and being firm. Practice ka pa, marami ka pa makikilala na mas worse pa sa kanya. Goodluck.

[orangebleach]

sorry double post!