don't wait 4 the right one go out with the wrong pipol

[emilie]

Who says you need to go out with someone to avoid loneliness...Just having a lot of good friends or interesting hobbies can be enough.

Also, don't judge people immediately... someone you originally thought was "mr or ms wrong" could be "mr or ms right"!

But be careful, going out with "the wrong people" could hurt your chances of finding the "right one". Mr. Right can be standing beside you but you never notice because you keep yourself busy with the wrong ones.

[iwis]

hey guys,

i have a question here. While I was watching Ally Mcbeal last night, i could not help but make a what-did-she-just-say look on what Ally said,

"i think we should not wait for the right person to come, let's go out with the wrong ones, it beats the loneliness"

ano sa palagay nyo peeps? is loneliness really a major problem and couplehood is the only key here, no matter how wrong or right the person is?

your views would really help. thanks :)

[nix]

Personally, I don't believe that any one person is meant for the other. I'm not fatalistic at all. That's why a couple must really work hard on their relationship in order for them to last the years, and maybe even, a lifetime.

To judge people right off the bat without really giving them the light of day to find out who he or she really is, for me, is a mistake. I've seen too many instances where-in a girl totally disliked a guy before but ended up falling for him anyway. You wouldn't go out naman with a person who you are totally disgusted with would you?

[glass house]

Loneliness is not a problem and couplehood is NOT the ONLY key here. A person doesn't really need a partner to be happy. Happiness is a lot of other things. Some would say that finding your other half and having a family of your own is the ultimate happiness one could have. But what if I don't want that? What if I'm not happy with that? We're all different especially on how we view life. If you find fulfillment, happiness or the feeling of being complete in whatever you're doing or what you have, then that's it! You have found your "key" to a great life. It may or may not be a person. Besides, you still have your family and friends. Now being absolutely alone is a different thing.
As for the "wrong" people, you'll never know. Sometimes those people who, in your opinion, are the wrong ones can be the right ones for you.

[This message has been edited by glass house (edited 09-22-1999).]

[babes]

sometimes you find the right people in the wrong ones

[wolverine]

correk ka dyan babes...

[Cy]

what if u dont even love the person? kahit na anong gawin mo wala talagang feelings? hindi ba mas waste of time yun?

[glass house]

Cy...
then don't force it. Kung wala then wala.

[psylocke]

question: how can u tell if someone is the 'right' or 'wrong' one for you?
btw, i think that the song 'sad to belong' is really stupid. i mean, why go out with someone then think that somebody out there is better than him/her?

for me, as long as i deem him worthy of my time and affection, i wouldn't think twice of going out with him. hindi ko na kailangang i-categorize if he's the right or the wrong one. besides, hindi ko nga alam kung anong criteria for that di ba? kailangan lang niyang pumasa sa criteria na nai-set ko. ;)

[*~AzY~*]

my interpretation of what ally said was that you shouldnt take life too seriously at such a young age. sometimes we get really rigid and we put up all these barriers and identify people as right or wrong guys when we shouldnt. what she meant was it's not like you're sayin beforehand that you're the wrong guy or somethin but that you should give them the benefit of the doubt and wonder if they're the one for you or not. basically, we ought to to take the risk of goin out and havin fun with other people who might not actually fit our description of what we'd want our husbnad to be cos who knows he might just end up as your spouse. Most often than not, we set certain standards that dictate to us who we should date or not when we know for a fact that the person we will truly love will always be an exception to the rule.

:)

[This message has been edited by *~AzY~* (edited 09-26-1999).]

[iwis]

psylocke,
actually, kahit ako i wouldn't know kung right or wrong you isang person 4 me. Sabi nga nila the 1st/2nd/3rd time you met the person eh, hde pa raw yon talaga yng kung sino talga sya. I mean everybody new to you would certainly be on their best behavior to impress or to any hidden motive. Pag naging "kayo" na that's the time that you would know
kung sino talga sya. Tapos that's when you will realize na he/she is wrong 4 you. hirap no? unfair?

siguro the best thing to do here, is to risk talga. You have to take the chances. And besides sino bang nagmamahal na hde nasasaktan? siguro part na yan ng lesson ng life. We just have to deal with it na lang.

[weye]

i agree with emillie and glasshouse. happiness is not just with finding the 'one for u' (of there ever is such a thing). let's not allow ourselves to be taken with the flow of romance and love that is in the air. let's remember that happiness is not just settling down with a husband/wife and children. happiness is relative.

[sabine]

if you go out with someone thinking that it's only to feel less lonely, make sure that he/she's aware of it somehow. i think it would only be fair. how would you feel if the tables were turned? wouldn't you feel used???

[cathybee]

Ang hirap nun. Hindi mo talaga malalaman agad kung sino ang right or wrong person for you. Just like what others have said, sometimes, you think you're with the right person but eventually, you will find that he or she is, in fact, the wrong one. Or, you think you met the wrong person but later, you'll find you have given up the right person for you. I may be fatalistic but don't you think that each person that we met in our lives are meant to be met by us. There are a billion of people living on this planet and you can get to meet and know only a handful ones and not because you picked them or they picked you, but you all are meant to meet one another. So, all of this has a reason and perhaps, we can make out something from this reason whether it be good or bad. :)

[derfor]

First of all, i think that whether a person is right for you or not is how you accept the person. it's not about his qualities, but how you accept him and your choice of being influenced by the qualities he has to offer. i think anyone, even the wrong ones, can be right...it's up to you. that's why go out with all the wrong people, and make one of them the right person! they might be the wrong people for you, but you might also be the right person for them. take the chance.

[barfly]

bump

[PinayAngel]

bumpybumpbump

[mai_doze]

there's no such things as right or wrong...it's how you find him/her...and how you get together..