How to heal a broken heart?

[MACKYMAC]

:(ever had dat dey? :( wen u finally got turned down or u turned down sambody u really like :( wen everything sims to be outta hand :( wen u feel dat sence of sadness going through u'r body :( the longing 2 be alone :( reminiscing every moment :( that such day :( when it comes :( hope it would end as soon as it comes :(

[13thfloor]

Get drunk
or go to the church and as God how

[emilie]

let it all out with a good, trusted friend...then keep busy...be so busy that you won't have time to think...because the cliche is true "time heals wounds".

[sickgirl]

1) maglasing ka
2) maghanap ka ng iba
LOL =)

[nix]

Do something constructive. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve when trying to keep your mind off something. Make money or get into sports!

[marooned]

a broken heart will only last until your next love. so hanap ka na lang agad ng iba.

[jack]

think positive!!! credit it all to experience..at least the next time u will be courting somebody..mas suave ka na :) pass ka muna sa babae at alak at this time..baka ano pa ang magawa mo!!! peace! :)

[This message has been edited by jack (edited 08-22-1999).]

[ann]

my prescription:
sleep ... then bath/shower in warm water, work up a lather ... make soap bubbles ... shampoo & condition hair ... rinse well ... pat body dry, towel-dry hair [take care not to pull on wet hair] ... lotion all over ... wear clean, comfy clothes ... take dog out to the park or ride around on ur bike or jog ... watch the sun set if late or wait for the sunrise if early ... at night, climb the roof and stare blankly at the stars [no thinking allowed!] ... climb down, shower, sleep ... tomorrow, go abt ur life the way ur commitments dictate [go to school, attend classes, laugh at jokes, etc], if u still feel blue, repeat cycle ... if this goes on longer than a week, see ur doctor, it might just be the chemicals in ur brain causing this depression ...

[ChiQui]

How to heal a broken heart? Hmmm...

1. Cry it all out. Talk to as many friends as you can. It'll help.
2. Go out and have some fun with friends. You don't have to necessarily find a replacement right away but keep youreself preoccupied.
3. Find a useful outlet for your anger. May it be sports, school, dance classes... anything, as long as you keep yourself busy.

[cbie]

hey man, oks lang yan. those sort of incidents can really be constructive. i think you should cry it out first. then, spend your time trying something new like a new sport. go out and eventually meet new friends. who knows, makikilala mo rin yung kapalit mo sa maga gimik na pinupuntahan mo. and you should think that it is her loss not yours.

[Ada]

Pray. :)

[Sweety]

Pray.
Do something different (from the normal stuff you do)that you really wanted to do before.
Talk, go out and have fun with your frinds.

Take care. It always gets better after.

[Nazgul]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[WINTER]

Hey, it aint th end of the world. Get on with ur life. Just dont get urself down just thinkin all th time bout what went wrong. Learn from th experience, come out better than ever.

[don]

Can't help replying to a Bee Gees's song (Ever see Notting Hill?).

Ganito ka-simple: Kung magpapakadalaga siya, magpapakabinata ako. Have fun. Go out with friends. Pick a fight in the UAAP forum.

[ann]

don: so that's why i see u there all the time! :D

MACKYMAC: i hope u're feeling much better now. :)

[This message has been edited by ann (edited 08-30-1999).]

[KATKAT]

I've been in so much hurt lately. It seems that I'm drowning in misery. I try to trust the person who have hurt me but whenever I do, something terrible happens. I really hate the way I feel. I've never felt so depressed in my whole life! Tell me, how do we heal a wounded heart?

[Ira]

Keep busy with friends. Dating up a storm doesn't help, you're only setting him up for comparisons. And know that one day you're just going to wake up and realise that you're not hurt anymore.

[slurbrun]

Yup Katkat, cliche as it sounds, it too will pass.

U said whenever u trust him u shatter urself more. I'd say resolve whatever u have to resolve w him once and for all (so that everything is clear - cut clean girl) and then holler all u want back home, then cry all u want. But after that, get urself some milk and cookies.

[BadGiRL]

kat kat: nakakarelate ako! super sakit no? :( pero yung akin lang nga hindi romantically speaking... medyo friend (now ex-friend ko na).... also happened recently...it hurt so much talaga... pero as the old cliche goes..time heals all wounds.. kaya cry if you must(hwag lang sa harap nya, medyo pride mo naman d ba?), scream if you must(do this in his face na), ilabas mo nalang lahat ng pent up hurt mo... tapos say a prayer, sleep on it. wake up the next day and forget about the person's existence na in your life... it would not be easy but still it would be for the best. how could you go on having a relationship with someone (romantic or platonic) if he keeps on making an a** out of you.... hope i helped...

[MarX]

hhhmmm me nilulunod ko sarili ko sa work. at least kumikita ako kesa naman mag-iiyak ako. :) pero ano pa ba mas magandang solution?

[jepoy]

Hey Katkat, like we've talked about before.. prayer heals all hurts. Trust in the only person that will never leave you nor forsake.. Jesus. No matter how hard it is to understand, you must remember that "All things work for good, for those who love God".. and i know that you do. There is always sunshine after the storm.. and this is not my guarantee but God's. Stay close to Him, and if you need someone to talk to you can email me, kay? Take care sweetie and God Bless.

GOD can, and HE will.. hold you now.

[PaTti]

Hi KATKAT :)
Jepoy is right...if anything else this is the right time to ask for His help! Let Him take away all your pains and hurts. Always remember that everything happens for a reason. Nothing may seem clear today, but sooner you will understand why it happened.
I will pray for you...I hope it helps because it did wonders for me.. :)

[MsEerie]

I suggest you cry all the pain out. Exorcise your hurt. It works, you know. Also try to always have friends around you but not all the time.

[nix]

I write. There's nothing like being able ro pour out your feelings to yourselfn to something concrete. I mean, I like to pour them out to friends as well, but there is something about loneliness that makes you want to be by yourself. And writing (as well as praying) can allow you to pour your soul out while remaining by yourself. You can even write your prayers there.

Reading helps too, especially reading the kind of material that uplifts your spirits. The trick is not to avoid your anxiety but to feed your soul that you may be stronger for what is next to come.

Whatever you choose to do, I am sure that your problems will come to pass.

[cathybee]

It's okay to cry your heart out coz one way or the other it can desensitize the pain...then pray too that this thing will past...and best of all, PAMPER YOURSERLF! Do things that could make you really feel good, sexy, and beautiful! Parang ganti na rin yan to the person for hurting you so much coz imbes na pinabagsak ka nang taong yun, nakabangon ka pa lalo. At mataas pa ang nabangon mo kse you're better than the person he or she has left and hurt. o di ba? :) Maniwala ka sa akin, kaya mo iyan! Mas maraming beses pa siguro ako nasaktan kaysa sa iyo :) Take care ha!

[venezia]

time heals all wounds...

[Ian Broudie]

play loud music

[???§ÎNNëÐ???]

surround yourself with the people who really love you.

[ctv]

katkat: Been there...done that...hated it....
I suggest you grab a hold of a couple of cd's and listen to its message. Try Michael Bolton's--Soul Provider, The Best of Tony Braxton and while you're at it try listening to Luther Vandross' The Best of Love. Only time will mend your broken heart. And what is there to do; is wait...of course it would be better to wait while listening to the cd's that I mentioned. It really will make you feel that the songs were made just for you and you alone.

[ross]

one night stand
o kaya solo flight

[KATKAT]

Wow! Thank you guys for the encouragement. As they all say, there will always be trials in relationships. It's just so hard to bounce back from that storm. And I really hate the way I feel coz I know that I'm making it worse. Though we're really struggling to get over that blast and start anew. I just can't help it sometimes if I doubt. But I know time and prayer will heal me from this hurt. Thanks again guys for being there! God bless all of you! :)

[ChiQui]

Keep yourself busy. Do the things you neglected doing because you were always spending time with him.

[Brutus]

post away ka na lang dito sa PEX para maubos oras mo! hehehe :) kasi oras lang naman katapat niyang broken heart mong yan.. tsaka pag na-inlove ka ulit hehe kaya habang hindi pa dumadating yung time na yun.. post away ka na lang muna dito sa pex...

>; hahaha antagal na pala nung post niya.. pero ok naman yung topic.. kaya post lang po ako :) <;

[baste]

HOW DO YOU HEAL A BROKEN HEART?? hmmmmm..... you don't!! it remains broken until you find someone to heal it for you! like what MAROONED said your heart will only be healed kapag may bagong love ka na. You know healig a broken heart is one of the hardest thing to do, and its just a fact that we can never heal our broken heart by ourselves, you need someone to put the pieces back together, 'coz we just can do it by ourselves 'coz everytime we try to bend down and pick up a piece by ourselves we just end up dropping the other pieces we had in our hands. We need someone to pick it up for us, whether he/she is the one who broke it or not.

[bLaCk]

you don't have to know how to...
because that's the beauty of healing...
you just let it happen.. without you realizing that it's happening to you....

[ghreyz]

just find another boylet

[chinita]

O my, that's a hard question...I had a really bad break up with my boyfriend and it took me a while to get over it. Well first I cried on it, then I cursed him, and then I prayed. After some time, I started going out. It's been two years already since we broke up, but I only got over him ( I think) recently when I got to spend time with him again and I realized he still hasn't changed. I guess what could heal a broken heart would be time, the realization that things could never really work out between you two, and the best solution of all....someone NEW! :) good luck! :)

[PuNkChick]

:( YEs MACKYMAC i've had that day when everything seems so god damn worthless kasi i got hurt and na turned down... :( it always hurts..no one knows kung pano ma iiheal pero the beauty of it is that u get stronger everytime this things comes along...
...i didnt know what to do...nag paka senglot nalang ako... i didnt wanna hear anyone kaya i listened to da loudest music i ever had...52 na ata ang volume ng sterio ko pero i swear i am still calm....what i did is i put on my head phones and there i am .... trying to forget the past and move on.... mahirap pero u'll get over it my pren

Take Ur TIme....No One IS RusHIng YoU... If She IS For U mApapasaYo Rin Sya...KunG HIndI...THEre Is SomeOne Out THere That Is WorTH All UR LovE :) ...DEhiNs MOng IpaKitang NaHIhiraPan KA.. ShoW Her THAt UR THe MAn!! NA piNalaMpas Nya... :) I HoPe U'll Be BeTTeR SooN :)

[Blister]

Make yourself busy.
Concentrate on work, or go out with your friends.
Most important, tell yourself that it was not really meant to be...

[blue babe]

:( love can hurt just as much as it can make you happy... sometimes, kung malas ka talaga... the hurt surpasses the joy

how to heal a broken heart?
1. let it out -- includes getting drunk, crying your eyes out, indulging in self destructive behavior (pero hinay lang dito, don't want to destroy yourself no... ;) ), bugging your friends to "talk" about it when all you really need is someone to listen

2. regroup -- after getting over the initial shock and hurt, time for some real thinking and soul searching. formulate your battle plan. what you plan to do with your life and how you want to go on to getting it. includes praying (a lot), being alone and thinking lang...

3. finding yourself -- this i think is the most essential part. kasi, from what i've been through, pain from a broken heart is the result of having someone one who used to occupy such a large part of your life, get up and go. kaya nga feeling empty diba? finding yourself is a way of telling you that may nawala nga sa iyo, but you're still whole... you can still go on, with or without someone else. this is where you can draw strength from to tide you through. in the end, the only person who can really help you is yourself...

:( haaay... life...

[KeyserSoze]

You see movies na puros sa point of view ng girls. Di nila alam nasasaktan din tayong mga lalaki. Why is it na pag naghiwalay ang isang couple, the preconceived notion is that the girl was the one who got hurt?

[eXbF]

In a very matriarchal society, where women are placed in pedestals as dainty and fragile artifacts that should be adored, adorned with gifts of shiny things; there is this midset that women are the agrieved party whenever something goes wrong - that is our cultural mindset.

We never see any movie, tele-drama, tv-movie or short story where men are the agrieved party - very few. Because men are not as expressive in their grief, anguish and angst as women. Men's sufferings are more internal, than external - and that my friend, is very difficult to portray on stage or on film.



[This message has been edited by eXbF (edited 02-24-2000).]

[green grin]

ross of "friends" come to mind. gerard depardieu's oafy french character in "green card." and of course, charlie brown, with the little red-haired girl.

you're right - not too many. is it because guys hurt girls more often than girls hurt boys? hhhmmmmmmmm?

(who's your favorite teletubby?)

[This message has been edited by green grin (edited 02-24-2000).]

[badtz]

Tama! Ako nga 3X na na-busted. Sabi nga ng tropa ko "Tigas, mo a kaya mo pang pigilin yung lungkot na nadarama mo!" Sabi ko sa sarili ko "Kala nyo lang yun pero deep inside there is that place where all things come, to the point where I would break down and .. alam nyo na." Pero di naman grabe. Di nyo naman ako kilala kaya ok lang sabihin to.

[KuyaDanny]

Tao rin naman kaming may puso't damdamin.

(Sniff, sniff, cry, cry.)

[wAgKaNgMaKuLoT]

awwww...der, der...tahan na

[Telcontar]

I guess I would speak for all the guys in this world that we HURT when we feel that we have given our all to a girl, shown our vulnerable side, and try to show them that we feel as much as they do. Then only to find that she doesn't want us because she is still waiting for the guy who doesn't even notice her.

*hikbi*

*sigh*

[RöttenMind]

it doesnt show...

why di halata?!?

[bLaCk]

well.. i guess.. everybody does....

[wAgKaNgMaKuLiT]

awww...

[KeyserSoze]

800 pesos para sa bulaklak...basta tanggapin lang nung girl...masaya na kami!
Nasasaktan din kami no!
Isa pa...wag nyo naman kamin ipaasa kung wala din lang patutunguhan!!!!!!

[wAgKaNgMaKuLiT]

aba aba aba... galit na yata...

[RöttenMind]

guys,

umiiyak din ba kayo?!?

[savage-]

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif engage urself in fun activities....teeheehee or better yet,get some1 better

[popscenester]

cry your hurt... and afterwards...try to keep busy...just so you will have other thoughts preoccupying ur mind

[silver]

some say "another love will heal you" ... maybe... but sometimes it might not be true... it only takes time to heal a broken heart... just like a physical wound... it takes time to dry up... and then it heals!... then leaves a scar...

[PINK-]

it's not easy to heal a broken heart.

let time heal...

but it takes a really long to heal it.

[moodswing75]

hello katkat!

i know how you feel and what everybody else said is true and these work talaga. just keep yourself busy. if you want to cry, then do it. no one is stopping you. ilabas mo na lang lahat. keep yourself preoccupied with other things. go out with friends (and ask them not to talk about him or whatever), watch a movie (yung hindi senti), go shopping ... do the things you have always wanted to do but never had the chance to do so.

When you're really really so sad na, just pray. It helped me a lot. Kasi nahihiya na ako magbuhos ng probs ko sa friends ko so dinaan ko sa prayers. alam ni God lahat ng woes ko and all (i even actually debated with Him a few weeks back pero what do you know, I lost. :D). Just keep on praying and keep yourself busy. One day, you will wake up and realize na ... you're okay.

my friend once told me na it's good that god gave our lives a lot of aspects. hindi lang puro love, puro career, puro friends. marami diba? so, sige, i-indulge mo muna yourself and focus on the love aspect of your life, pero remember that there are other things that need to be done too. baka sa kakafocus mo on the love aspect, you get to disregard na the others.

don't date others yet. agree ako kay IRA dyan. although others may say na the only way to get over a guy is to get another guy. I find that so false. you're only setting yourself up to more hurt. besides, i'm sure nasa "nothing-compares-to-you" mode ka. hindi fair for both of you diba? date again, only when you know that you are ready.

i posted a similar reply in another forum, i think it's the "what do you do when you miss someone so bad" forum. you read it kasi yung "advice" ko sa iyo, nanduon na.

you'll be okay. just give yourself some time to rest and to heal. One day, you'll be back to being your original happy self and you'll realize that you are a better person because of this heartache and then you will think that it was all worth it.

Peace! good luck! :D

[PurpleHaze]

I know how it feels...I've been there before and I really, really hated it! (it was the first time that I cut my hair which before reached my waist, until I had it cut upto my ears! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif ) Just keep yourself busy by talking to friends, friends you haven't seen in a long time and cry your heart out if you must. It's not good to keep your feelings deep inside. Once you've let it all out, pray and surrender your hurt to Jesus and leave everything else in His hands. You'll eventually get over it and someday you'll look back and see just how much that experience has helped you grow into the person you are now. Keep yourself busy by doing things you like. I find that really helpful for being alone only makes you emote even more... God bless and I hope evrything works out for you! :)

[EtErNiTy]

do things or get urself bz, so u wont think about it too much, but as the saying goes... "Only time can heal a broken heart"
:)

[eToiLe]

first thing... ACCEPTANCE...
accept everything that happened... forgive others...but most of all, forgive urself first....

its a learning experience for u. never regret that it happened. u r wiser not rt??? and shempre, learn from what happened.

never commit the same mistakes again.
wag ka gumaya sakin.

[cherrycola]

Tips:

1. Don't EVER listen to senti music, kahit yung slightly senti lang yung beat. Never a good idea.
2. Better yet, LISTEN TO DISCO MUSIC or basta light and happy music as much as possible. Have a copy of all your feel-good songs.
3. Make sure you have a friend you can talk to freely. Just speak your mind to that person, better pa if you have more than one person to talk to, and get it all out of your system. Just blurt out all your wonders, all your worries in a private conversation.
4. Go out especially at night if it starts to get lonely.
5. Find a relatively permanent chat partner on the net. Lubusin mo na, look for a potentially hunky one and exchange email with him. That might get your mind off things, especially if you find out that he's cute and all. I'm SERIOUS!

[cinnamon]

i'm into the same situation.....so i understand how hard it is....i've been going out with my friends almost everyday...i started making new friends and rekindle the old ones....i tried to look on the brighter side of the situation (although it was really hard...especially if you know that the person you love most is the same person who hurted you most)...there are times that i feel i'll burst into tears...but that's normal...we can't get over that feeling ovenight....i tried not to think about him instead focus my attention on who's with me, what i have, or who i have (like my family and friends)....i can feel the presence of people who love me and feel good about it....and you know what...focus on yourself...go to the parlor, have a new haircut http://www.pinoyexchange.com/silly.gif , create a new image :cool:, go to the gym , spa, pamper yourself http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif!!! and don't forget to pray, pray, pray http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angel.gif...it's the food of the heart, good for the soul.......that's life...learn to live it!!!! way to go girl!!!! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif

[SyLvEsTeR]

Eat, sleep, take a bath?! :D ah! just keep yourself busy. Call your friends, Share your problems, just let it go girl... You'll find yourself another guy. Anyway, it's not the end of the world isn't it? :)

[daki]

TIME can heal a broken heart.. just keep yourself busy .. with friends.. and other things !!! enjoy life !! :) :)

[bugsbunny]

whatever you do, dont keep it in... dahil lalong sasakit lang yan...comprende?
just remember that "This, too, shall pass..." http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angel.gif

[rogue]

i am in the same situation but i guess i am doing quite well in healing myself. i agree with most of what others are saying.
ACCEPTANCE,FORGIVENESS,PRAYER,KEEPING SELF BUSY,GO OUT WITH FRIENDS,READ BOOKS, WRITE WHAT YOU FEEL AND WAIT...TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS...THIS TOO SHALL PASS...

[p|nkLash]

there's no easy way to heal a broken heart...as in sobrang hirap ng situation mo!! pero trust me...u'll get through! kaya mo yan!! ang ginawa ko ganito..nirecord ko yung voice ko sa tape...nirecord ko lahat ng gusto kong sabihin...lahat ng sama ng loob ko...tapos paulit-ulit kong pinakinggan hanggang sa ako na mismo ang nagsawa and i decided na its time to move on na talaga!! i left everything behind. now im hapi na ulit!! basta its important na ilabas mo lahat ng feelings mo...cry all you want! and after that..hopefully u'll be able to learn to smile agen! :)

[Yummy]

Falling in love is probably one of the happiest moments one could experience. However, at the end of it all, parting is inevitable. You thought this person was the perfect one for you, until he leaves you for reasons you simply can't accept. After the love, what happens next?

:confused: :confused:

[Mister Dean]

Hi, Yummy! Nice nick!

Heartbreak is definitely one of the worst feelings to deal with, especially if the person who breaks up is not you. I know how it feels.

Trust me, though, when I tell you this: parting is inevitable only if you want it to be. If you truly love each other, you will find ways to make the relationship work. If it doesn't, you will learn from the experience and move on. Friends, family and other people will always be there for you, and maybe only then can we really see what's important in life.

You're young, you're probably intelligent, with a great personality to boot. Trust me, the right person will come along, who will treat you right.

I got this quote from a good friend, and I hope it helps: "Love may leave your heart like shattered glass, but keep in mind that there's someone who will be willing to endure the pain of picking up the pieces so you can be whole again."

Good luck!

[Yummy]

hey thanks!

failed relationships happen not only to give us pain and hearthaches, but also tons of lessons to learn from. i just hope there will come a time wherein, not only me but others who are mending their broken hearts, we all learn from this very important lesson in life.

[*g^o^s*h~~]

try again, never stop believing
try again, don't give up on your love
stumble & fall is the heart of it all
so when you fall down, just try again

smile now, let it go
hey, you will never be alone
i promise you
if you can't fight the feeling
surrender in your heart
remember, love will set you free

baby when a heart is crying
it sometimes feels like dying and
teardrops fall like rain
baby you thought it was forever
you would always be together
but someday you will find what
you're searching for

(westlife)

[PuNkChick]

PRAY http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angel.gif

[yax-ytterp]

move on... and for sometime, try not to look back kasi it's gonna add to all the pain n hang-ups... :(

[purple rain]

My ex got someone pregnant by accident even before we broke up. We had no choice but to sacrifice the relationship, and i did let him go. I was lost for quite sometime, some may call it baduy, but my world did crumble when we separated. Months later, i got this qoute from him...

Love till it hurts...
Love till it hurts some more...
Love till it hurts no more... :)

...i knew then what he meant by this- Love can surely break your heart and ONLY LOVE can bring back all the pieces together. Despite and inspite of everything, one should not be scared of falling in love again...
The only thing you could possibly do now is to accept the pain, CRY HARD then MOVE ON with your life :) DEFINITELY, THERE'S LIFE AFTER YOUR EX... :) :) :)

[DELISYUS]

first...you acknowledge that your heart is broken....

second...you go thru the rituals and the rites of being hurt...like blaming, crying, feeling insecure, being very senti, being scared, re-setting your standards, trying to enjoy parties that are actually boring etc.

third...you try and come to terms on why it was necessary to get hurt and let go...you reflect on what you both did wrong...on which things were inevitable, what patterns/cycles there are in your relationships...

fourth...you think you have moved on...and u enjoy yourself etc...

fifth...the world crumbles back down...and you get down on your knees...

sixth...then, you're set free...because this time, you make a plan to do things differently...

[christianna]

I absolutely have no idea!!!! pero ang sakit kapag kulang na lang eh mag-tumbling at mag-sirko ka sa harap niya , deadma pa rin, hay naku!!!! KAASAR!!!!!

[Gilbey]

paano nga ba? mahirap kasi aruking ang damdamin ng isang tao!

lumabas ka, ibukas ang iyong puso sa pagmamahal at alok ng iba. 8)

huwag kang magkukulong at ipagkait ang iyong kariktan sa ibang mga paru paro.

[aspen]

have you ever mend a broken heart? we'll did once but i can't explain how i did it. probably by extra attention, care and of course affection.

[Steven20]

turn to your friends and family. these are the times you need them most. of course, prayers help a lot. hey, there's a thread like this... survival guide for the suddenly single i think... look it up, it's got some nice advice for ya. :)

[vctor]

this would be the time to recollect everything you've done...
look at the past and try to improve yourself
we are given these heartbreaks to improve ourselves and not to "break" us.

[WICKEDQUEEN]

WELL FOR ME I'VE TREATED THE HEARTACHE A CHALLENGE MAKING ME STRONGER. PAPAYAG NALANG BA AKONG MAGPAKABABA NG GRADES NG DAHIL DOON?!? GANUN NA BA'KO KAHINA PARA HINDI ITULOY ANG SARAP NG BUHAY NA NAGHIHINTAY? GANUN NA BA'KO KAHINA PARA MAGPATALO?!HINDE. PERO SHEMPRE WHILE IN THE PROCESS OF HEALING THE WOUNDS, EVERYTHING DID NOT BECAME EASY. BUT TRUE TO WHAT THEY'VE SAID, TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS AND SOME TIME AFTER, YOU'D THINK AND ASK YOURSELF "NANGYARI PALA SAKIN YUN?" SO WHILE IN THE PROCESS I DIVERTED ALL THE ATTENTION TO INCREASING MY GRADES, BEING MORE AGGRESSIVE TO MY STUDIES AND WORK, DEVELOPING ALL MY GOD-GIVEN TALENTS AND MAKING MORE FRIENDS. AND I'VE THANKED THAT HARDSHIP BECAUSE IF NOT FOR IT, I WOULDN'T BE THIS STRONGER AND WISER AS I AM NOW. ;)

[Margarita]

I survived the first month by:

-not talking about it when I'm with my friends, para iba naman nasa isip ko
-laughed, ate, went out a lot
-allowed myself to cry
-kept the pictures and letters and gifts in a box, inside a cabinet para sure na di ko makikita
-honesty then acceptance =)

Good luck sa lahat ng may broken heart, I thought I would never get over it!

[newbiew27]

kept myself busy with school... prayed about it... talked to family and friends...

[byby]

Friends.. definitely! based from experience.. hehe

[marlbabe]

it's something that comes naturally.. bsta let the healing process begin by itself an sooner or later magigising k n lang one morning and ayun! *** n *** pain :)
don't worry... there are better things out there for you... kung hindi man kayo tlg for each other, there's someone out there who's also waiting for you right at this very moment...

[Minus Human]

I'd stitch myself together. As I've always done before.

http://www.vamp.org/images/goth-home.gif Barely breathing

[yax-ytterp]

listen to "our song" over and over again... hanggang magsawa ako! the next time i hear it, nandidiri na ko so i don't rush into tears na :D

[Cahdreis]

Well, I had to mend my broken heart before and I'm so happy I was able to do it.

Just go out and enjoy life with your family and friends. Better, find someone else to give your love to. Go out and date! Who knows! You might just find the RIGHT one! ;)

I did pray a lot also! Believe me! It's the most powerful and helpful thing to do!

[This message has been edited by Cahdreis (edited 07-05-2000).]

[rogue]

LEARN TO FORGIVE AND ACCEPT. :)

[baste]

.... you cant.... you just have to let it heal byitself thru time

[jean19]

* go out with your friends
* pamper yourself with facial spas, feet spas...and all other spas there is...if you don't have the dough you can improvise and do it at home with your chums...dats fun as well...
* have youself a good cry
* get in touch with old friends, forgotten high school seatmates, former yayas...
* talk it out with people who can understand you...
* keep away his things in a safe place if you think you're ready to move on and forget...after all, they were a part of you sometime ago...
* wait for healing to come in its own time...

hi rogue! miss you!

[mmm]

PRAY.
-that you learn to forgive the person
-for strength to move on

[kageri]

the thing is you don't.. let the wounds close on their own, but continue to live.. and breathe..

and i think, most importantly, shed the tears.. don't be afraid to break down.. release the pain, and don't keep it inside, or else you'll end up being cold as stone.

you don't mend a broken heart.. it knows how to mend on its own.. through time, the wounds will heal, but don't wait.. feel it as the bleeding stops, but don't wipe it off.. gradually accept the truth, but don't let go. don't let go of yourself.. hold on to your love for the person if you wish, but accept the uncertainty of its return.. let the scars remain, but not as a bitter reminder of how you failed, or how you were frayed.. but to teach you to be careful the next time you fall.

all you can do is continue living and continue to hope.. not necessarily for someone else to come, but just hope.. for better things and sunny days..

and smile, hard as it may be, try.. for it's where the healing starts.

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif

[YoBaKs]

FORGIVE AND FORGET
eat chocolates they're sweet!

peacelove!

[lonewolf]

If You Forget Me
by Pablo Neruda

I want you to know
one thing.

You know how this is:
if I look
at the crystal moon,
at the red branch
of the slow autumn at my window,
if I touch
near the fire
the impalpable ash
or the wrinkled body of the log,
everything carries me to you,
as if everything that exists,
aromas, light, metals,
were little boats
that sail
toward those isles of yours that wait for me.

Well, now,
if little by little you stop loving me
I shall stop loving you little by little.

If suddenly
you forget me
do not look for me,
for I shall already have forgotten you.

If you think it long and mad,
the wind of banners
that passes through my life,
and you decide
to leave me at the shore
of the heart where I have roots,
remember
that on that day,
at that hour,
I shall lift my arms
and my roots will set off
to seek another land.

But
if each day,
each hour,
you feel that you are destined for me
with implacable sweetness,
if each day a flower
climbs up to your lips to seek me,
ah my love, ah my own,
in me all that fire is repeated,
in me nothing is extinguished or forgotten,
my love feeds on your love, beloved,
and as long as you live it will be in your arms
without leaving mine.

it is hard to mend a broken heart... but it can be done... give it time, give it space, keep yourself busy...

[gato]

LAMBANOG+TEQUILA+GIN+BEER+ALL THAT STUFF!! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif
but seriously, it will just pass...

[yax-ytterp]

lonewolf, nakaka-iyak naman yung poem na ni-post mo... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[uptowngirl]

/me sings...do they find their way home?...

[WICKEDQUEEN]

depends on how you term "home", i guess. home for me was my old (wicked) self, my old friends, it became the time for me to rediscover myself and find happiness in solitude. it was such a great feeling, and i think i'll be coming back there.. ;)

[PuNkChick]

...they go to their room and blow their eyeballs out ... (base on experiences) ;)

[ndrew]

punkchick: BLOW WHO?

There are no broken hearts. Strategic retreats lang yan once it's recuperated at ready na siya uli SUGOD!! :)

[WICKEDQUEEN]

Originally posted by ndrew:
punkchick: BLOW WHO?

There are no broken hearts. Strategic retreats lang yan once it's recuperated at ready na siya uli SUGOD!! :)

aaahh parang "consolidate your forces and fire the first headshot!" 'k! 'lam ko na. :D parang gusto ko nang mag-counter strike uli. :D

[luya_9]

post na kyo agad plzzzz! broken hearted ako ngyn and i would like to know what you guys say bout the topic =/

[BadGiRL]

me? hmmm.... the nearest supermarket. pakyaw ang chocolates! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/yummy.gif

and tsaka...chocolates are better than boys!

[:Þ]

Trash can

[*g^o^s*h~~]

the nearest bar to drown their sorrows?
(oopsh. huwag magpakalahsheng. tulok na langsh. hik.)

[marlbabe]

read chicken soup for the couple's soul.. you'd realize that the love you had lost was not, by any criteria, to be considered as the greatest love in your life.. that there are even more overwhelming experiences that could happen to you..
then read chicken soup for the single's soul.. it'll help you realize that you don't need anyone else to make you a complete person.. all you need is yourself :)
and of course, friends, family & God are the ones who'll always be there for you.. gf's/bf's come and go, but the people who truly love you and care for you will always be in your life..
trust me.. i know :)
good luck!

[ChaRoJ]

What do you do after a heartbreak...and what to do with your broken heart when its so full of hurt and pain?

[Kit21]

I play basketball. ;)

When you feel bad, work it out. If you've into martial arts, get a punching bag and use it.

But of course, that doesn't always work for some people. And so, go out on a group date, have fun and bond with friends. You'll only feel bad when you're alone thinking about it. Don't wallow in sorrow. Go out and have fun. Sooner or later, you'll forget how hurt you are.

[SaintOfKissers]

I believe the best remedy for a heartbreak is to cry it all out. There's no use trying to perceive what's better out there immediately after a heartbreak because right after your basketball game or your gimik with your friends, it's all going to come back to you when you're on your own... alone. And that's when you feel worse because you realize that you've just been trying to fool yourself into that 'goody-up-in-the-sky' feeling as if nothing's wrong, when there REALLY is. Maybe going out and taking your mind off the breakup is one thing people immediately consider as good advice, but I really don't think it is. It's similar to taking drugs (without the addictive properties) because it enables you to forget (for a while), but when you're in the right state of mind, it's still there and it's not going to go away. It's only good advice AFTER the person has DEALT with the heartbreak, not before.

So following that train of thought, the best remedy is to DEAL with it (as difficult as it sounds); not by fooling yourself but by accepting what's happened. Learn how to accept the past and bury it. That's the only way you're going to learn how to move on.

[Kit21]

Originally posted by SaintOfKissers:
I believe the best remedy for a heartbreak is to cry it all out. There's no use trying to perceive what's better out there immediately after a heartbreak because right after your basketball game or your gimik with your friends, it's all going to come back to you when you're on your own... alone. And that's when you feel worse because you realize that you've just been trying to fool yourself into that 'goody-up-in-the-sky' feeling as if nothing's wrong, when there REALLY is. Maybe going out and taking your mind off the breakup is one thing people immediately consider as good advice, but I really don't think it is. It's similar to taking drugs (without the addictive properties) because it enables you to forget (for a while), but when you're in the right state of mind, it's still there and it's not going to go away. It's only good advice AFTER the person has DEALT with the heartbreak, not before.

So following that train of thought, the best remedy is to DEAL with it (as difficult as it sounds); not by fooling yourself but by accepting what's happened. Learn how to accept the past and bury it. That's the only way you're going to learn how to move on.
======

How true. :)
You have to go alone to sleep and dream sometime, right?

Well, :D then play basketball till you're dead tired, and then sleep!


Just kidding. Actually, the hanging out with friends and basketball and martial arts thing is only to deal with the stress of losing somebody you love.

Tears are for learning to accept what happened between both of you, as well as for any anger and sorrow.

But smiles are what you share with friends and that's what will get you through when everything is finally over.

Take care :)

[UgLyGURL77]

well.. me, I cried it all out. I cried and cried... and asked my self what went wrong? I listened to music, those music na para bang nakakaintinde dun sa feelings ko, like the song of Devorah Cox.. it goes like this

"I never knew that you would be the one, come along snatched my heart and run; I never knew what we have would die.. I never knew, please tell me Why?"

then I just cry, after crying i felt so tired and I sleep... Good thing I workm atleast pag nasa work ka makakalimutan mo yun sa sobrang busy..

"I don't know how, I don't when, but I know.. I'll never Love this way again..."

Keep smilin' :D

[SaintOfKissers]

UgLyGURL77

It's not criticism or anything k? Just wanted to tell you that one thing I learned from getting over someone ISN'T to listen to songs that remind you of them, or songs that seem like they're written just for you. Gone through that and I'm sure you have too. Only after months did I realize that doing so actually makes moving on much more difficult to do. Because everytime you hear that song, it's associated to that person or to that event. And that's one thing you're going to remember for a very, very long time.

I hope, and I don't think... this applies to me alone. But if it does, well, to each his own. ;)

[jnco]

yeh ryt...going out,playing basketball,having fun (feeling as if ders no pain)...simply doesnt work...coz during d tym ur having fun, u 4get ur prob...but if d tym comes dat ur alone...maiisip mong ang bigat na ng mundo mo and u want to cry!!!la namang masamang umiyak eh...just go to ur bed cry it a little...den makakatulog ka na...den ala na problema mo!!!he he he!!!wen u wake up namamaga na mata mo!!!he he he!jks...but seriously...just cry!!!

[jnco]

additional: listen to trance music!!!da best...nakaka-soothe ng mind!!!isayaw mo na *** baby!!!

[TheWeakenedQueen]

Well right now I'm crying and drowning myself into these really sad songs. I don't even know if I where to start now. I'm numb, I'll be off to work in a couple of minutes, and I don't even have an idea if I can stay strong with this dilemma. I'm a crybaby myself, my eyes are already blotched with tears. Will I overcome these fears? But what I plan to think later is that I'll live myself as it is, live my life in stride, and it will depend what will happen next. I want to go to a nearby church and cry myself out...infront of Jesus Christ.

[Shinigami]

I don't really know if you could consider it as a heartbreak... it's more like absolute confusion... :confused: Puwede na rin siguro, since my heart suffered greatly while my ordeal lasted...

As for what I did... I kept it all inside and the pain ate me from inside... I seemed to be a happy guy, but inside, all I could see was confusion... I know what I did was wrong... I became a dark person, I was on the brink of insanity, but I never really showed it, magaling akong magpanggap eh... And so, my sickness got worse... I started being an emotional masochist... I was punishing myself... I became evil... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/evilgrin.gif I almost went as far as killing a friend (kunyari kaibigan) of mine... All I could think of was doing bad things... I just didn't care about anything anymore... But nevertheless, she stayed with me as a friend... Still, I couldn't tell her how I felt because I was afraid it would ruin the friendship which has just been revived... Pero I had to do something... And so, I did what I had to do and the final results were good... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif No more confusion for me... But still, the darkness remains...

If you keep your pain to yourself, you'll be immune, eventually... but it's not a very good way to cope with the pain... You're going to be dead cold... You'll go crazy... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crazy.gif :eek: http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crazy.gif You should tell your friends about it... That should ease your pain a little bit... And take a look around, there are plenty of fish in the sea... Think of it this way, it's his/her loss... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/boom.gif

[Shinigami]

Release your pain... Pumatay ka ng taong talagang kagalit mo... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/evilgrin.gif

[yax-ytterp]

Originally posted by Shinigami:

Release your pain... Pumatay ka ng taong talagang kagalit mo... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/evilgrin.gif

oh hey shinigami, finally saw one of yer posts... didn't know you were brutal pala :D

bout the topic, what worked for me before was when i cried it all out... as in talagang hagulhol before i go to sleep and when i wake up. talagang kinakawawa ko yung sarili ko just to convince myself na ako ang agrabyado. after about 3 days, i got so tired na and parang i didn't have tears na to release. AYUN! tapos ang dilemma ko... :D

[virgo14]

oo naman! no one ever died of a broken heart. you'll live and love again. promise! :)

[DELISYUS]

hmm.....andaming places eh........

they go to ONS, Hurtland, Copeland, Unwanted Pregnancy of the Philippines, Bar Hopping Academy, Phil. Mental health Association (?)....san pa ba...........

others just hang out in Diaries....Friend's shoulder......

others naman...........they bungee jump to hell.....

others naman.........they just go to THE NEXT ROMANCE....

tamad ako mag isip...soweee ha

[marlbabe]

hm... i'd say go to the nearest PC and vent your anger, frustration, and agony by posting here at PEx.. that's what i did and look at me now!! i'm a renewed woman!!! :)

[DELISYUS]

asus....... :)

[maximus_gluteus]

where? to a place where IT WILL NEVER BE BROKEN AGAIN. once you get through it, nothing will ever hurt you again as long as you learn the lessons real well.

[Jennifer]

Preconscious memory.

[only1]

me cry n cry muna then take a deep breath tapos share ko sa close friend ko para mabawasan yung sakit. AND i play tennis para yung inis ko eh isasama ko sa pagpalo ng bola. Ganun!

[Mikebravo]

Hope hindi namin ng BABY ko maranasan ito...

[DELISYUS]

but broken hearts always happen......thats part of loving to the fullest my darling mikebravo.....

(insert nde-me-baby-nya-ha look here)

[queue]

drowned thyself into writing ... it's a way of releasing all the heartaches that are buried deep within one's heart ... then one time you'll realize the heartache's gone ...

[joyski_05]

...brokenhearted pa rin ako till now (naks, it's been almost 3 weeks already. included na yung first 2 weeks of the 'root problem'). kaya my broken heart goes to the following santuaries:

1. punta sa arcade, laro ng time crisis 1 & 2, Crisis zone, Zombie Revenge at Daytona USA 2. o di kaya, rent sa cafe(network games), laro ng counterstrike, broodwars at quake 3.

2. laro ng billiards sa bahay pag-uwi from work, laro hanggang 12 midnite. pagdating sa room, nood sa cable, pag nabato ulit, laro naman ng play-station...sobrang engrossed ako ngayon sa syphon filter 2.

3. pag nasa ofc naman na. bukas internet, log-in sa pex at irc (#pinoyexchange), basa ng mga new topics then post ng replies ta's chat...(but at the same time keeping myself soooo bz sa usual assignments ko todits sa O.P.S.)

4. pero pinaka therepeutic so far eh ang mag-barhopping ako every thurs, fri and sat nite., nite-out's with friends....hanggang sa sumikat na ang haring araw!

[palawiwi]

yeah.. crying is good. pero not to the point na yun na lang yung ginagawa ko. i try to focus my attention to other things(although medyo mahirap yun, i talk to friends and......... shempre.. naghahanap ako ng bago!

[Mokkori]

Personally... martial arts is certainly a good recourse! Physical effort and pain seem to help alleviate deeper set sorrow that only time can truly heal. That's just me though! ;)

I dunno... I just seem to be the type to welcome physical or mental pain more than emotional pain. But yeah... it is sort of a nutsy way to looks at things! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/silly.gif

But believe it or not... I often find that martial arts can lead back to God... funny! But very consoling. :)

[Mokkori]

Getting back into training works for me! Nothing like throwing a few good kicks or punches! Much easier to forget stuff that way! I ain't violent... I just think it's a better recourse than alchohol or drugs, training's healthy for ya! ;)

[karinavasquez]

in the same place where your heart once was, nothing changes, except for the fact that it's broken

[lonewolf]

they go have those long walks to wherever their feet take them...

[Acid Burn]

love takes time to heal when you're hurting so much... (mariah carey)

nyek!

basta, let time heal na lang broken hearts. mahirap kalabanin ang puso! :P

[ndrew]

Our hearts learn just like us natututo tayo. kung bumagsak ka tayo uli, nothing bad ever comes from a broken heart puro good kasi natututo ka so magiging stronger ka the second time around. :)

[Abby McBeal]

Originally posted by lonewolf:
they go have those long walks to wherever their feet take them...

True... Someone else mentioned going on a strategic retreat of sorts... True din. Me, I withdraw (in that state, actually) until such time I feel I'm in some semblance of being whole again. You take it a day at a time, coping in the best way you can.

[This message has been edited by Abby McBeal (edited 07-18-2000).]

[dee-dee]

...i stay with the person who broke your heart. *** nga you sort of feel incomplete dba? <;tnx nga *** to rhea for letting me read jordan's story "the collector of hearts">; http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[ChaRoJ]

;~( you know what i do...i write poems...and i cry over them coz i remember all the things that happened between us and on the what IFs and MAYBEs...then i continue to cry...after that i try to keep in touch. tough i know na it would never be the same...maybe i was just trying to hold on or letting go slowly...it really hurts so much.

so just for the heck of it...i try to look for a new one to divert my attention...pero and hirap lalo na kung ang lakas ng hang-over mo sa taong iyon...

so yun...ok *** ba yun...though i did go to the gym, play bowling...pero pag-uwi at mag-isa na ako...ayan nag-iisip na naman... :(

[jean!e]

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif find something that you like doing that you never had time to because you were in love. take up a hobby, start a craft or join a sports. if you're the literary type, write a poem. it eases the pain to be able to put it in solid, tangible words.
http://www.pinoyexchange.com/love.gif But the best advice i can give is this (having survived from numerous heartbreaks myself), allow yourself to mourn or grieve. give yourself a chance to cry just like you've given yourself a chance to fall in love. but in the process of your mourning, don't forget to remember that even if you've lost the one you love, you've still got other things to look forward to. madaling sabihin, mahirap gawin. pero that's what usually happens. in the end, more often than not, we get over it, somehow. if it helps, know that others have gone through what you are going through or evn worse and have survived so chances are you will too.

[Lynelle]

what I did was cry and cry then scold myself and ACCEPT wholeheartedly that we're never meant to be...then i do things that will make me happy and not to think about it anymore...kung baga close book na yun...start a new book and move on...

[TiNTiNTooT]

to the clinic for first-aid...

tapos sabak nanaman sa wonderful thing called love...

[YoBaKs]

HOLY CROSS MEMORIAL PARK there i find the peacefulness and silence that i deserved. And there i search for answers ans reflection...kse feeling ko close ako kay GOD. :)

peacelove and godspeed http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angel.gif

[*g^o^s*h~~]

what NOT to do:

* wallow in self-pity
* stop living
* tell your story over & over again to all the people you know
* get into a violent fit
* curse everyone who has the same gender as your ex
* get someone else immediately to take the place of the one you lost

[* LiLaC *]

cry,cry,cry,cry...
blame, blame, blame...
and in time it'll fade away http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[rhytz]

->;try not to think about it and pity myself.
->;spend time with friends and family.
->;divert my attention to more meaningful and productive fun hobbies.

and if the three above doesn't work...
look for another prospect <;lol>;

:D

[Abby McBeal]

me? i cry. i kind of wallow in my pain for a while (not healthy, i know, but i tend to feel things just a tad more than most people)... withdraw from most of the world (save from one or two really close friends who help me keep sane) until the time comes when i feel i can *really* cope once more. i try to keep myself busy, too, immerse myself in work or other things. mostly, i write.

[winterswirl]

Originally posted by SaintOfKissers:
I believe the best remedy for a heartbreak is to cry it all out. There's no use trying to perceive what's better out there immediately after a heartbreak because right after your basketball game or your gimik with your friends, it's all going to come back to you when you're on your own... alone. And that's when you feel worse because you realize that you've just been trying to fool yourself into that 'goody-up-in-the-sky' feeling as if nothing's wrong, when there REALLY is. Maybe going out and taking your mind off the breakup is one thing people immediately consider as good advice, but I really don't think it is. It's similar to taking drugs (without the addictive properties) because it enables you to forget (for a while), but when you're in the right state of mind, it's still there and it's not going to go away. It's only good advice AFTER the person has DEALT with the heartbreak, not before.

So following that train of thought, the best remedy is to DEAL with it (as difficult as it sounds); not by fooling yourself but by accepting what's happened. Learn how to accept the past and bury it. That's the only way you're going to learn how to move on.

well said SaintOffKissers http://www.pinoyexchange.com/inluv.gif
i really loved the last part of your input---
"the best remedy is to DEAL with it (as difficult as it sounds); not by fooling yourself but by accepting what's happened. Learn how to accept the past and bury it. That's the only way you're going to learn how to move on."

WOW, that is soooooo nice http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif
That's the way to handle a heartbreak!
But then this is really hard to do :(
(based on experience...really, really hard) http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif
But we have to move on. The world has a lot to offer and so do we. :)

The lesson from an experience is the most important :D

[ChaRoJ]

Originally posted by winterswirl:
well said SaintOffKissers http://www.pinoyexchange.com/inluv.gif
i really loved the last part of your input---
"the best remedy is to DEAL with it (as difficult as it sounds); not by fooling yourself but by accepting what's happened. Learn how to accept the past and bury it. That's the only way you're going to learn how to move on."

WOW, that is soooooo nice :~)
That's the way to handle a heartbreak!
But then this is really hard to do :(
(based on experience...really, really hard) http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif
But we have to move on. The world has a lot to offer and so do we. :)

The lesson from an experience is the most important :D



YES i totally agree! thanks you both for your thoughts...i really appreciate them :)

[YoBaKs]

after a heartbreak...

i'll just go on with my pathetic life...nuff said!

[* LiLaC *]

i go crazy...like not being myself...my mood shifts so fast that sometimes i could be so bubbly and the next second im getting so sentimental and lonely...its hard to pretend all the time but i ges that's my only defense to keep my mind out of the sad memories and pains...

[trixxie]

i cry until there is no more tear to shed.
i keep myself busy.

[This message has been edited by trixxie (edited 07-25-2000).]

[mark_mark]

i spend time with my barkada...

[* LiLaC *]

though i know its hard to do anything to divert your attention from sadness and despair and hurt...its the best ESCAPE...at least to give yourself a break from your 'heartbreak'...

after you've cried your heart out...seek whatever can comfort you...

but of kors it wont take away what you're feeling that easily and quickly...but at least care for yourself also...you'll always have friends to support you...but u also have to support yourself

[Jasper]

How can you cope when someone you love breaks-up with you?

Jasper

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[Assassin_Mage]

there is no sure way to do it..
you just do the best you can..

You try not too dwell too much on it...
Do other things.. get your mind busy and enjoy life with friends..
Do not go drinking your sorrows away...

just remember..

Life will go on whether you like it or not..
sp better go on with it..

[PuNkChick]

i can only suggest one thing.. Pray


S PuNk me hard.

[ulicqeldroma]

Originally posted by Assassin_Mage:
there is no sure way to do it..
you just do the best you can..

You try not too dwell too much on it...
Do other things.. get your mind busy and enjoy life with friends..
Do not go drinking your sorrows away...

just remember..

Life will go on whether you like it or not..
sp better go on with it..

couldn't have said it better.

well said. very well said.

[YoBaKs]

just relax...

watch a basketball game, movie, TV, or do something to help you out change your scenario. A broken heart is the easiest thing to rebuild...and when you're done rebuilding your heart. You are now more prepare to face a brand new happiness that love can bring to you. But if don't do anything to rebuild your heart 100%. You're heart will always end up broken...

it's just a matter on how you handle your heart. if you can't handle your heart properly...then what's the use on taking care of it...and giving your heart to others.

bakit ka magbibigay ng bagay na sira-sira o hinde pa gaanong matibay na ihanda sa anumang pagsubok sa taong gusto mo? :)

peacelove and godspeed :)

[palaso]

go out with friends more...talk it over with a counselor, a peer, or someone you trust...grieve. you have no idea how cathartic grieving can be unless you admit to yourself that you got hurt and cry...work!work!work!

[mark_mark]

tell me more please...

[Assassin_Mage]

more http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif

seriously, think of it htis way..
if you mope around, sighing at every memory that enters your mind, drinking your life and savings away at bars, and become irritable, where will your life lead?

Will it being her back? Will it make you happy? Will you be doing something to become happy again?

NO!

Doing any of those will not do you any good. you are just going to be doing those things as a way to make those people around you feel your hurt. And they do not deserve to get hurt!

Life is too short.. do not waste it by trying to hold on to the past. Remember the past but do not live in the past. The possibilities of the future is boundless. Explore and find your happiness there..

[DELISYUS]

be honest with urself.....let ur anger and hurt out....in a constructive way that is...like punching a pillow or playing sports...

acknowledge that things will never be the same again

learn what you can....start righting the wrongs u've made....and thinking of how to avoid the same situation again

keep in mind that the world doesn't stop for ur grief....

move on...

[tamisguy]

I agree with her. The first part of moving on is being honest with urself that it is over. Till then you'll always be trying to figure out why it happened. I've been there, bro. I know and i feel for you... By the way, ur not only sexually delisyus, but you also have a deep, sympathetic side...Miss delisyus. :D

Originally posted by DELISYUS:
be honest with urself.....let ur anger and hurt out....in a constructive way that is...like punching a pillow or playing sports...

acknowledge that things will never be the same again

learn what you can....start righting the wrongs u've made....and thinking of how to avoid the same situation again

keep in mind that the world doesn't stop for ur grief....

move on...

[Mikebravo]

Right now, i'll just pray, hope and still believe that someday, someday we will be happy again. I'll probably go on with my life alone. I was like this na naman before i met her eh.

[DELISYUS]

thanx tamisguy.....syempre naman, tao lang din ako (na may animal appeal ha!), nde lang ako sexual n social being...emotional being din... :)

good am guys...buti na lang nakaabot ako sa flag ceremony namin... :)

lotsa lix Jasper...hope the morning wasn't too hard for you...

[ChaRoJ]

what else can i do??? help?

[gagay]

me, i go out with friends...pray....and look for another, sabi nga if you lose one you gain a lot...smile darling...

[marlbabe]

Originally posted by DELISYUS:
syempre naman, tao lang din ako (na may animal appeal ha!), nde lang ako sexual n social being...emotional being din... :)


yup! i agree with you 1,000 %!!! :p

neway jasper, just remember that life, with all your trials, tribulations and experiences, can only be summarized in 3 words: it goes on.
forgiving, forgetting, moving on & letting go will only happen when the time is right. don't force yourself to smile and say everything's okay until everything really is okay. just take the healing process one day at a time and you'll be amazed to wake up one morning and realize that there really is life after the love has gone :)

[DaNa8]

My bf just broke up with me. He said he's not giving me enough time na dapat para sa ken. I think I saw it coming. Kasi lagi na lang kaming nag-aaway dahil sa lack of time nga. Sabi nya naaawa na raw siya sa ken kasi i'm being taken for granted na. I don't know what to do. I'd thrown another relationship na naman. Napapagod na ko. I can't help but think that something's wrong with me. I need help. Alam ko dapat expert na ko ** kasi 3rd break up na to. Pero it just hurt so bad. What do I do?

[roydz]

alam mo ganito lang yan, do something else to take to take up your time. try anything under sun that would help keep you from feeling hurt.

with regard to your past relationship, it's not something to feel sorry about. he felt the need for you to break up coz he had his reasons. maybe he wasn't really ready for the relationship and that's why he didn't find time.

cheer up, there are more fish in the sea.

[DELISYUS]

again....the heart will break yet brokenly live on...

at least ur ex was man enuff to tell u na he can't give u the tym u need...this may not seem valid enuff for u...but at least he didnt keep u hanging....

the best thing u can do ryt now is keep stock of the points/lessons of this experience....

maybe next tym u can choose someone who also values making time for a partner...

regarding the hurt....embrace that...the deeper it goes...the deeper u must have loved him...surely, in tym, that will be something to smile about...after all...not everybody can say that 'they have loved'...

be patient....and don't wori much abt this being ur 3rd break up...as long as ur able to feel...u'd do alright... :)

[DaNa8]

Tnx for the advice. I'll try that.

[virgo14]

don't take it too hard. okay, try not to take it too hard. :)

i think a lot of people underestimate the fact that it takes more than just "feelings for each other" to make a relationship work. it also takes a lot work and commitment. and it's a two-way street too: one cannot be doing all the giving while the other does all the receiving.

but before all that, one has to actually make the decision to put in all that effort into making it work. DaNa8, from what you've related, i don't it means he doesn't love you. rather, i think he loves you enough to be honest with you about the fact that right now, he just doesn't have it in him to make that commitment. maybe he's trying to do well in school or trying to get ahead in his career. at least he was unselfish enough to set you free.

but what if you don't want to be free?...i think you should use the time to explore your own interests, learn more about yourself. oftentimes, we tend to make the ones we love the centre of our very being. and when they go away, we're lost. try to focus on yourself; it's not about being self-centred, it's about finding your self-worth.

good luck. i'm sure kaya mo yan! :)

[winterswirl]

"Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to,
doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have..."

it just so happened that whatever you experienced is somewhat similar to my case...
except that my ex was having hard time because he lives too far from my place and he can't sacrifice as much as i would for the relationship...he was immature kasi , that's why.

but i'm thankful he broke up with me, kasi at least i knew that he can't hold on any longer...it's more pathetic if he stayed in the relationship kasi naaaawa siya sa akin or whatever...it's better na he ended the relationship na...

it really hurts like hell...lalo na during the healing period...

but then you have to move on...
life goes on...

good luck, dear :)

[raffyp]

Life goes on Dana, you wouldn't believe what I did after my break-up. Here are some tips:
1) Don't try to forget him, that would make things worse lang, he will evetually be out of your mind in a few months
2) Do something creative in your spare time, read a good book, cook or bake, clean the house, post a message/topic in the Pex, write poems, patulan ang Videoke channel if possible (hehehehehehe)
3) Sunday night movies with friends (trust me, I've done it with a record of 6 or 7 movies every Sunday with the boys, it helps)
4) Go out, have fun, drink till you drop
5) Hatch a scheme to kill your ex (joke lang)
6) Makeover (some girls think its good for you, although not conclusive)
7) Go to the gym, magpaganda ka!
8) Sports, anything that might help release undue stress
9) Watch Toni Braxton's MTV "He wasn't man enough for me" a hundred times (if that wouldn't help, try Jolina's Chuva Choo Choo)
10) Pray ka kay Lord (na kunin na siya? huwag! masama yan!)
Peace! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/smokin.gif

[Quentin]

DaNa8 ... be GLAD u went through this girl !!! you HAD the opportunity to LOVE and BE LOVED, even if it didn't last. that alone is satisfaction enuff (i dunno for you though). LOVE is CREATED. so don't worry, there will be no reason to be loveless, ever.

now that you are single, go back to being yourself again ... the days when you don't have to worry about boys ... lam mo na, DO the other THINGS that you haven't done when you're with yer x. like rock climbing.

ako nga nagtatamiya eh. hehe. gusto mo laro tayo? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/reddevil.gif

[Free Agent]

Well, I know how you feel pero you'll get over that someday. It'll help if you find someone to admire right away para yung thoughts mo nasa guy na yun lagi. http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif It helped me when I got broken-hearted too. I tried to distract myself with this pretty girl and in the end, kahit hindi naging kami nitong girl na 'to, I got all over it. Having a barkada helps too. Sila yung nagpasaya sa akin nung heartbroken ako lalo na kasi pa-graduate na kami that time. I spent time with them instead so todo gimik kami! :)

[vvv49]

just live your life to the fullest !!!
think of your past as a lesson for you !!!
hope for the best next time !!!

[danhua]

you can't always see it as a "glass half-full" thing, rather than be negative about it.

you broke up because there's a better world out there for both of you ... malay mo, kayo rin pala in the end ... life just made both of you better people first ... para sulit yung "second" time around ...

am not saying na umasa ka .... i just think that you try and move on muna ... kung kayo, life will find a way to bring you together ...

and yeah, its hard to explain ... but no matter how you think about it ... if it hurts, it really hurts ... nice thing about it is that you'll eventually get over it ... when is that? only you can tell ...

in the meantime, tama yung iba ... try mo maging busy ... in work/study, with friends and gimiks, etc ...

[yax-ytterp]

C - R - Y .

hanggang mapagod ka. then you'll realize afterwards that life doesn't really have to stop with your heartache.

don't force yourself to get over it at once dahil just once you think it's over and it hits you back, it'll hit you real bad. it'll take time... pwedeng matagal, pwedeng sandali lang pero it'll definitely take time.

there're a lot of guys out there... i'm sure marami pang iba who's worthy of your love... http://smilecwm.tripod.com/net3/outtahere.gif

[jopert]

Don't be depressed dana8. its really part of life. at least now, you know what went wrong in your relationship. Thats whats important. smile ka na lang! :)

[MJ]

what to do? fall in love again!

be strong and learn from the experience. never lose hope. the right time for the right guy will come...

[DaNa8]

Wow! I didn't imagine that a lot of you guys would take time to help. Thank you very much. Medyo ok na ko. Inuman kami ng Toska sa bahay ng friend ko kahapon. Umaga na nga ako nakauwi eh. It's a blessing I have them around. They cheer me up. I talked to my ex, kind of clear things up. Medyo, nag-ask pren ng recon. Kaso he said he really couldn't give me that. So ayon, accept na lang ako. What else can I do? Medyo ok na ko. Inalis ko na nga yung pictures niya sa wallet ko at tinago ko na sa senti box ko. I'm moving on, hopefully.
http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif

[Quentin]

time to get evil then !! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/reddevil.gif

[shey_anne]

enjoy, enjoy, enjoy at higit sa lahat enjoy!

[MJ]

nice to hear that DaNa8!!!

good luck!!!

[Free Agent]

Goodluck! Nice to hear that! :)

[BetchaGollyWow]

Happy to hear that DaNa8.... always try to think of happy thoughts and focus yourself with work/study, time with your family and friends...and remember you are not alone..

I just want to share a portion of a song from the play Joseph the Dreamer.. It helps me a lot everytime i "break down" ... at least it gives me enlightenment:

There is no problem too big, God cannot solve it...
There is no mountain too tall, He cannot move it...
There is no storm to dark, God cannot calm it...
There is no problems too deep, He cannot solve it...

If He carried the weight of the world, upon His shoulder...
Surely, my brother that He will carry you....

Take care and God bless.. :)

[marlbabe]

cry until you just can't cry anymore... it may sound like such a cliche, but crying your heart out does work...
cry for what you thin you've lost (the guy, the love, the future together), but be happy for the experiences and lessons you've gained while in the relationship. cry and get mad at him for not loving you enough, for not giving you what you truly deserved, but rejoice in the though that he loved you in the best way he could. weep because of the hurt and pain you're experiencing right now, but celebrate the wonderful memories you have of the time you spent together.hate him for leaving you, for making you suffer through this loneliness, but afterwards startu to pick up the pieces of what's left of you and start rebuilding your life.
just cry, cry, cry until your eyes get all puffy and your head hurts like hell.
and you'll just wake up one day realizing that you still have a life, a life that's all your own, a life that doesn't include him.
life does go on. :)

[AltarBoy^_^]

Originally posted by DaNa8:
Wow! I didn't imagine that a lot of you guys would take time to help. Thank you very much. Medyo ok na ko. Inuman kami ng Toska sa bahay ng friend ko kahapon. Umaga na nga ako nakauwi eh. It's a blessing I have them around. They cheer me up. I talked to my ex, kind of clear things up. Medyo, nag-ask pren ng recon. Kaso he said he really couldn't give me that. So ayon, accept na lang ako. What else can I do? Medyo ok na ko. Inalis ko na nga yung pictures niya sa wallet ko at tinago ko na sa senti box ko. I'm moving on, hopefully.
http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif

Masama Toska. Medyo taksil yan kung tumama. Anyway, kung ayaw niya na, hayaan mo na siya. If you love someone, set them free, if he comes back to you, you know the drill. Peace! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/smokin.gif

[jergo77]

well just make yourself busy para in a way makalimutan mo na yun everyday routine nyo. marami pa naman dyan eh. punta ka nalang sa punchline para humalakhak at makilimutan malay mo may magpikilala syo doon na worthy kasa dating mong bf. kaya mo yan!!

[This message has been edited by jergo77 (edited 08-13-2000).]

[ulicqeldroma]

Originally posted by DaNa8:
Wow! I didn't imagine that a lot of you guys would take time to help. Thank you very much. Medyo ok na ko. Inuman kami ng Toska sa bahay ng friend ko kahapon. Umaga na nga ako nakauwi eh. It's a blessing I have them around. They cheer me up. I talked to my ex, kind of clear things up. Medyo, nag-ask pren ng recon. Kaso he said he really couldn't give me that. So ayon, accept na lang ako. What else can I do? Medyo ok na ko. Inalis ko na nga yung pictures niya sa wallet ko at tinago ko na sa senti box ko. I'm moving on, hopefully.
http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif

ROLL OUT THE BARRELS, ROLL OUT THE BARRELS OF RUM! YE! YE! YE!

CELEBRATE WITH C88! CELBRATE WITH C88!..PANGMATAGALAN!

ILABAS ANG PULUTAAAANNNNN!!!! (di kasi ako umiinom kaya ito na lang ang babanatan ko - hihihihi) :D

[fReAk]

Originally posted by DaNa8:
Wow! I didn't imagine that a lot of you guys would take time to help. Thank you very much. Medyo ok na ko. Inuman kami ng Toska sa bahay ng friend ko kahapon. Umaga na nga ako nakauwi eh. It's a blessing I have them around. They cheer me up. I talked to my ex, kind of clear things up. Medyo, nag-ask pren ng recon. Kaso he said he really couldn't give me that. So ayon, accept na lang ako. What else can I do? Medyo ok na ko. Inalis ko na nga yung pictures niya sa wallet ko at tinago ko na sa senti box ko. I'm moving on, hopefully.
http://www.pinoyexchange.com/girl.gif


buti naman nde mo punit.. wawa naman ex mo..

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[DELISYUS]

hmm......glad ur feeling better sis... :)

aside...ulic....dapat kasama kita pag ako ng uminom para me mag-aalaga sakin :)

[DaNa8]

Originally posted by fReAk:

buti naman nde mo punit.. wawa naman ex mo..

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/reddevil.gif



:eek: D ko alam na nahanap mo pala tong thread ko.

DELISYUS: Sure ba, sis. Inuman tayo. Ako hahagod sa likod mo pag nagsuka ka.

Maraming salamat sa tulong, ppl. Ok na ko. Keeping myself busy. Prelims na bukas kaya aral muna ako. At pati nga videoke, pinatulan ko nung mag-isa ako sa bahay. Niways, ok naman kami nung ex ko. Tumatawag pa rin siya kaso minsan na lang chaka sandali lang kami mag-usap. Hiram ko nga calcu nya para sa test nmin sa numerical analysis sa monday. Tnx again, guys!!!

[BetchaGollyWow]

Originally posted by marlbabe:
cry until you just can't cry anymore... it may sound like such a cliche, but crying your heart out does work...
cry for what you thin you've lost (the guy, the love, the future together), but be happy for the experiences and lessons you've gained while in the relationship. cry and get mad at him for not loving you enough, for not giving you what you truly deserved, but rejoice in the though that he loved you in the best way he could. weep because of the hurt and pain you're experiencing right now, but celebrate the wonderful memories you have of the time you spent together.hate him for leaving you, for making you suffer through this loneliness, but afterwards startu to pick up the pieces of what's left of you and start rebuilding your life.
just cry, cry, cry until your eyes get all puffy and your head hurts like hell.
and you'll just wake up one day realizing that you still have a life, a life that's all your own, a life that doesn't include him.
life does go on. :)

Very well said!! Tama ka diyan, sis!

[DaNa8]

He called para pag-usapan namin kung anong oras ko kukunin yung calcu sa kanya bukas. Tapos we ended up screaming at each other and he, putting the phone down. I felt like crying again. Tas nagtxt ako sa kanya: Dumping me doesn't give you the right to treat me like trash. Tas nagreply siya na pinapagalitan siya sa bahay kaya niya ko binabaan ng phone. Tas sabi ko ok lang. Ok lang na babaan niya ko ng phone. Ok lang na lagi siyang nagmamadali pag kausap niya ako, na parang ayaw niya kong kausapin. Tas sabi niya ayaw ko raw maniwala nagsasabi na nga siya ng totoo. Tas sabi ko: Gusto ko lang naman na maging consistent ka on what you want. F u want to be frends or u want me to hate u. F u want me to ** or not. F u still love me or not. (Pathetic!) Tas d na siya nagreply. After mga two hrs nagmisscall siya. Ts nagtxt ako, tanong kung bkit siya tumawag. Tas tumawag siya, saying sorry. Tas sabi ko ok na. Tas nagtxt pa siya after that: Frnds, m i frgvn? Tas sabi ko oo, tawag na lang siya bukas para malaman ko kung anong oras ko kukunin yung calcu. At lahat ng yan ay dahil sa calcu. :sigh: E d ibig sabihin non, he wants us to b friends. Nahihirapan kasi ako. I haven't really let go of him. Umaasa pa akong babalikan niya ako. Na hindi na yata dapat. Kasi naman, kahit siya ayaw niyang linawin kung anong gusto niya. Parang he still cares na d ko naman malaman kung anong irereact. Kahit kasi siya, parang he's not letting me go yet. Kahit classmates niya, d alam na wala na kami. Pero *****, ok na rin to. Bka d ko rin maaccept pag ***** niya sakin kung ano talgang gusto niya.
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[roydz]

"Love and hate may fade but friendship is forever..."

at least that's in my opinion. give it a little more time. baka kasi either you or your ex is still in the rebound and denial stage.

in my case naman, after a few months after we broke up, my ex called me up, askin how was i... i told her straight-forwardly that i hated her very much. tell him how you really feel...it would take a substantial amount of weight off your shoulders.

time heals, now we're friends again.

[DaNa8]

roydz: Good for you. Kaso kasi lahat ng ex ko d ko friends. D ko na kaclose. Pano ko siya magiging friend when i still feel more than that for him. At pano naman ako maggeget over eh anjan pa rin siya. Still letting me feel na he cares. :sigh: gulong-gulo ako.

[cianoy]

Here's a bit of contrarian advice. Indulge in your passions for a while. Make your life fulfilling, but you don't have to let go. If you truly believe that there's something workable between the two of you, just hang on even as you try to get him out of your daily thoughts. I know how it is to be a guy. If there's something about you, then he will realize it soon enough, perhaps in a couple of months. Break contact for a while to let tempers cool, and hurts heal. When things have settled down a bit, both of you will think more objectively.

[DELISYUS]

Dana.....

nobody can tell you that you and this guy will never be friends...can never be friends...should never be friends...

but....i am telling you now....u cannot be friends w/ him immediately after ur break up....

u need to have some time alone for urself....and a world where he doesnt exist anymore....

u cant be friends w/ him now for the simple reason that you wouldn't know how to be friends...after all, he was ur sweetheart/lover...the old expectations of loving will still be there...add to that the fact that ur still hoping for a reconciliation (thus, defeating the purpose of moving on)

ppl who break up always want to stay friends....a natural enough reaction, esply since this person has become an important part of you...but look arnd....few actually become friends...

[DaNa8]

We just met yesterday. I borrowed his calculator from him. He stayed at school until my dismissal to get the calsulator coz he was to use it for the next day. He called me at home. Even kidded that the calculator was stolen. He said he was just taking a break from studying. Then, he said goodbye. I do not know what to think anymore. It's like he wanted to stay friends. But like what you guys said, we cannot be friends immediately. Not until the both of us had recovered fom the breakup. It's like he's not yet letting me go. He did not asked me to wait and he neither said that he wanted a reconciliation now or in the future. But that is what I'm reading. I don't know if what I think is right. I don't know if I have to let go or to wait and expect for our reconciliation. I don't know if he want us to get back together. I don't know if there's still something left of the relationship to be salvaged.
:confused:

[DaNa8]

We just met yesterday. I borrowed his calculator from him. He stayed at school until my dismissal to get the calsulator coz he was to use it for the next day. He called me at home. Even kidded that the calculator was stolen. He said he was just taking a break from studying. Then, he said goodbye. I do not know what to think anymore. It's like he wanted to stay friends. But like what you guys said, we cannot be friends immediately. Not until the both of us had recovered fom the breakup. It's like he's not yet letting me go. He did not asked me to wait and he neither said that he wanted a reconciliation now or in the future. But that is what I'm reading. I don't know if what I think is right. I don't know if I have to let go or to wait and expect for our reconciliation. I don't know if he want us to get back together. I don't know if there's still something left of the relationship to be salvaged.
:confused:

[crafter]

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This is me, __________ (my name in printed literature)

I live my life to the fullest; not forgetting to live each day, one day at a time.
I am not afraid to take chances -- it is in these things that I
discover life's treasures and true meanings.

I see people as special individuals who have feelings and needs of their own, with personal agenda and life foci; I try, though at times I fail, to live up to my and other people's standards. I am human (and that is not an excuse!).

I try my best to become a pillar of strength to those who need me. For them my God-given talents will always serve as an oasis in the dessert of wanting and need.

I hope to always appreciate the natural beauty around me -
the sky,the sea, the fields, the mountains, the flowers and trees...It is only with nature that I commune and find innermost repose and peace.

I try to have an open mind, heart, soul and hand to others, yet, I'll never know if my simple gestures can make a whole difference in their lives.

I am a child of God; with free will and conscience, created in his own image, born of love and beauty.

Often, I ponder the true meaning of life, love, relationships and the way to eternal salvation. I have a past, I live my present, I look forward to a future!


At the end of my road,

I would have lived well and not yearn at all to live my life all over
again(?).

[jopert]

all I can say is time heal all wounds! you have to move on. take is as an experience. I know its easier said than done pero thats how life goes.

[SHAYCUTE]

what do you usually do when you are brokenhearted? kakabreak lang with the one you're soooo in love with.... well, it really takes a lot of time, pressure, guts to recover lalo na if you are in a serious relationship, diba? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[greenlady]

hello SHAYCUTE! brokenhearted....hmmn...yeah you're right! it really takes a lot of time to recover but you have to move on. be strong!

[Mulder12]

Me...i regretfully say that i am broken hearted...just broke with my gf last saturday, while she was all the way in australia...pinagpalit ako for a 6-footer who looks like rudy hatfield.

and i feel like crap...

[cutey4u]

i guess you have to divert your attention to something else. life has to go on and getting hurt is just a part of the relationship. move on and this things will always make you a better and more mature person

[seeke]

Ika nga ni Alanis Morisette (you cry u learn
u love u learn)!!!!

Diba nga!!!!


heheheh!!!

[ianski_24]

Originally posted by SHAYCUTE:
what do you usually do when you are brokenhearted? kakabreak lang with the one you're soooo in love with.... well, it really takes a lot of time, pressure, guts to recover lalo na if you are in a serious relationship, diba? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif



i just keep myself busy... ofcourse dapat maganda ang paghihiwalay nyo... i mean no hard feelings ika nga... if there still are, work this our first... only then will u be able to accept everything...

anyway, r u from valenzuela? u might know me so email na lang if u r who i think u r...

[Free Agent]

I know it's easy to say but hard to do... BUT I'M GONNA SAY IT ANYWAY... MOVE ON!!! :)

There's life after that heartbreak! Cheer up! See the sunny side of things. Be happy!

[wantutri]

bruken-harted? di na uso yan!

inom na lang tayo. *hik*

[G8WAY]

Originally posted by SHAYCUTE:
what do you usually do when you are brokenhearted? kakabreak lang with the one you're soooo in love with.... well, it really takes a lot of time, pressure, guts to recover lalo na if you are in a serious relationship, diba? http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif



time heals all wounds but then again there would always be the scar...

i had to break up with my girlfriend a month ago because i was studying abroad... and now i miss her more than ever. what a bad way to break up!!!!

[Ahlvhyn]

Love takes time to return again if the heart hurt so bad. http://www.pinoyexchange.com/crying.gif

[Mudbug]

Originally posted by Free Agent:
I know it's easy to say but hard to do... BUT I'M GONNA SAY IT ANYWAY... MOVE ON!!! :)

There's life after that heartbreak! Cheer up! See the sunny side of things. Be happy!

HA! Easier said than done.

[tsArming dAw]

ilang shots lang ng tequila, o kaya shoppppppping to the max, okay na... well, that works for me, though. ewan ko lang sa iba. http://www.pinoyexchange.com/evil.gif

[KapuTt]

so what do u do after having a broken heart?
ako iba iba eh. minsan makikinig ng mga dance na new wave songs then makikisayaw na lang. minsan naman matutulog na lang.

[fifteen15]

me, nothing serious, the last time? i just looked for another one, but dont think that m not serious with my last one, i am but the point is, i cant let my self drown into tears while i learn deep in me that our relationship was the best but we are just not ment to be...sad but true, there are really some that are not really ment to be even if their happy with each other!

[hershey_ _gaile]

im trying to move on na...hanap ng iba...kaysa magmukmok ako ng buong araw sa kaiiyak...go out with some friends and have some fun!!!! :eek::angel::bop:

[FiRe`oN`iCe]

juz open ur heart ...

[hey]

Go out dancing with friends....http://smilecwm.tripod.com/asian/blobflower.gif magpakasaya.....yung parang walang nangyari....http://smilecwm.tripod.com/asian/bloblaugh.gif

[*happy*phantom*]

I don't think there's an easy way to go through a broken heart. Speaking as a psychologist, I would say that cry it out and go through the motions of your broken heart. Reflect on the relationships and see what went wrong (and not just on your part). The pain is part and parcel of broken hearts. Once you pass through this, you'll be ok.

[mataray79]

WHAT I DID BACK THEN WAS I TOOK IT BY HANGING OUT WITH MAH HOMIES GO CRUISIN' GO, GO CLUBBIN', GO TO THE PLACE THAT WE WENT B4(EX)...(PRETTY STUPID) BUT THAT WAS THE EASIER FOR ME TO EASE MY PAIN IN JUST ONE "SNAP"...I CRIED BUT ITS THE TEARS OF JOY AND PAIN, THAT I FINALLY GOT OVER WITH IT...BUT MOST THING THAT HELPED ME OUT OF THAT SITUATION IS.....I REALLY THINK HARD EVERYTHING BAD THINGS HAPPENED AND WHAT PEOPLE SAID ABOUT HIM(ALL NEGATIVE STUFF)..."HE AIN'T NO GOOD 4 YOU"...2 MONTHS JUST LIKE "THAT":boom:

[tamisguy]

Time and also love and tenderness fr a new person. :)

[maxinegirl]

cry your heart out, talk about how you feel, listen to sad songs and cry your heart out some more, write down your feelings, have some wine and chocolates, pray...

do this for about a week, then go on with your life and never look back! :D

[Kerrigan--]

awww.. k lang yan KaPuTt... I know you can't get over me. Hehehe. =o JK!

[KapuTt]

Originally posted by Kerrigan--
awww.. k lang yan KaPuTt... I know you can't get over me. Hehehe. =o JK!
hahaha ikaw nga cure ko eh !

[AltarBoy^_^]

I went to the gym. Went out for a drink with my buddies. Even went out on sunday nights to watch a movie with my pals. No distraction from any women, no need to get laid and just stay steady. I memorized a piano piece for a month and then moved on to another piece and just let time pass by....:smokin:

[cUtEe]

1. keep yourself busy
2. date other people
3. as much as possible,see to it that youre in the company of other people..
4.[b]ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT ITS NOT YOUR LOSS:lol:

[gara]

as for me, it hapned so many times but the last one was the feeling na 'sobra' as in "nakakamatay" but then i just had to move on, alam ko naman 'yon eh.. but thanks to my friends, they were there for me during those times na i felt really bad...yun nga lang, wala na rin sila ngayon....

[anna_reilly]

tulog..
iyak..
nood movie..
tulog..
eventually, you'll forget about it. just give it time.

[Deeyanne]

YEAH, ALWAYS THINK THAT'S NEVER YOUR LOSS if you gave the person all your love!

The best medicine for me is not just to distract yourself, although it helps a lot.. family and friends are very important always!
The best medicine is not just to cry and cry.. let it all out.. grieve!
It is not just keeping distance from one's ex.. which i'm doing..
But it's learning to forgive yourself, and seeing and believing that all you did was to love the person. Then peace will dawn on your heart because you know you've truly become a better person.

[Quentin]

only one has been effective for me.

time

[blue17]

cry for sometime. alone.
tuloy ang buhay! :D

[FineST]

forgiveness and forget the past.

[Steven20]

- Cry
- Open up to a friend... just having someone to listen to you helps a lot
- try to keep yourself busy

... just give it time, you'll get over it...

hope this helps :)

[archicual2pards]

i usually go out and watch a movie.
you'll never whom u might meet.
destiny perhaps do't know.
watch na lang Ang Kailangan Ko'y ikaw

[chinkyeyes]

get back to fighting form... as in magpaka-sexy at magpaganda ng husto para pag nagkita kayo...i'm sorry nalang sa kanya :evil: :evil: :evil:

[gasoline]

---cry
---read a book
---talk to a friend
---PEX
---go out and unwind

:girl:

[acidgurl]

time heals all wounds hekhek....

[Kerrigan--]

Originally posted by KapuTt
Originally posted by Kerrigan--
awww.. k lang yan KaPuTt... I know you can't get over me. Hehehe. =o JK!
hahaha ikaw nga cure ko eh !

Ay oo nga pala. hehe =) 4 months na tayo ah. HAHA

[rachelle51972]

Originally posted by acidgurl
time heals all wounds hekhek....


yeah...time heals all wounds but it doesn't necessarily erases all scars....

wooaahh...i just went through all these trying-to-recover stuff...it's really not easy..nakakaloka at kasumpa-sumpa! don't want to get into the same thing again..(1.) crying would be the next best thing to do! it really helps..(2.) be in the company of your friends..and talk it out with them..(3.) go out (4.) never try to see him (5.) talk to him also about what went wrong..in short labas mo lahat ng galit mo! (6.) and finally consider him as somebody you're not mad at anymore..i know this won't be easy! i am not saying befriend him...just let your anger fade..siguro, this you can do if the break-up is about 5 or 6 months ago. it's so hard kasi if you still have this burden at hindi mo matatanggal yan if ur not civil with each other....this is what i'm doing now. if he calls me, ok i'll answer. if he txts me, ok i'll text back..ganun..PERO i just don't want to see him...not now...maybe in the future..katakot baka bumalik yung feeling, d b?

[vandark]

ang mapapayo ko lang eh... makukuha yan sa cleansing diet... o kaya attend ka na lang sa seminar ko sa may kamies, Q.C. ... next caller please.

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[KapuTt]

Originally posted by acidgurl
time heals all wounds hekhek....
eh ano yung gagawin mo in the meantime ?

[roydz]

the world is such a big place to journey on, so many things to do. . . so try and do them all. :bop: