Serious problem you want to discuss with parents but can't

[Reflection]

Some parents are easy to approach, some are not. Usually moms are more understanding but sometimes it is the dad who listens better.

Did you ever have any problem (money, study, love/crush, drugs, bullies, etc.) which you wish you could discuss with your parents but were too scared to talk about it?

[bugsbunny]

sex is always a hard subject and i have never discussed/asked this to my parents or even anyone in my family...
love is something i dont ask my parents, they dont even know who my crushes are. well except for one guy...
friends are something i dont talk to my parents about because ang mangyayari lang nun my mom will end up just "insulting" my friends and maiinis lang ako...
its not really im scared to talk to my parents. its more of i dont think they'll understand coz i have like close to a 40-year gap with my parents... im the youngest kasi kaya ang feeling ko they wont be able to relate. i only talk to my parents about sports or public issues or school (sometimes), or shopping, stuff like that, yung medyo neutral baga :)

[bLaCk]

sex... as in the gender and the verb...

i can't imagine how bisexuals, lesbians and gay people tell their parents about it...

diba?

[wAgKaNgMaKaLaT]

for me its money since i spend
my allowance very fast...i am
afraid to keep asking for more
kse me sermon muna about how
money does not grow on trees. :)

[davanita]

I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who gets along with their parent. I say parent because, mom na lang ang present, my dad died years ago, so extra lucky pa kasi pareho kaming babae, and I think moms are more understanding. Medyo mas liberated pa nga ang mom ko, so I can talk to her about most anything...

[Lonely Boy]

My father is very hard to talk to. He rans the household like the military man that he is. My mother is better in listening to my problems and I can discuss many things with her.

The one thing I don't want to talk to my parents about is my love life, or lack of it. I am afraid they will make fun of me for being torpe, or worse. They may even think I am gay and I am definitely not.

[PuNkChick]

hmmmm failing GrAdeS SA ScHoOL .... DEHIns KO NaLanG PiNaPaKiTA PAg MABaBA Or I DonT DisCuss WhY Im FaILiNg The SuBJEcT :( and LoVe LIfe .... HiRaP ExPLAiN Ang MgA BreAk-Ups anD BF

[tr|n|ty]

haaay my mom has always been there for me..sobra nga paminsan but there are still things i can't talk to her because we are filipinos and we are brought up to do certain things and to avoid others. My mom has always supported me with my choices and encourages me to be the best person i can be.
Around 2 years ago, i've always told my mom little things about my love life. She was really supportive of my relationship with this one particular guy and in all honesty, the only reason it lasted is that she really liked the guy for me but i really wanted out na and start dating others. So eventually, it was a big brouhaha and after that, i just decided not to tell my mom about the guys i'm dating from then on. My mom kasi has certain standards and they are sometimes too high and i don't want to be overwhelmed with meeting those as of yet. When i was home last month, i totally felt sad because things didn't work out with this guy i liked. I was crying in the bathroom while my family was partying in the Pen during new years' eve. It was really hard to hide it but i did. I still feel that the only time i can tell my mom about my relationships is that when i know the guy is really worth it and passes my mom's "standards". And by the looks of it, with all my luck with such jerks, it's a long way to go.

[Cala]

my parents may not be the most liberated people, but generally, it's not too hard to talk to them. the most difficult times is when you have to talk to them about major decisions you're making... the whole thing about them wanting what's "best" for you and you wanting to live your dream. in my case, it took a long while before we actually *mentioned* what i was to do for the rest of my life.

[Lo Lo]

Bagama't totoong may mga magulang na mahirap kausap kagaya ng militaristang ama ni Lonely Boy, mas marami pa rin ang mga maunawain na magulang at madali silang lapitan. Bigyan ninyo sila ang pagkakataon na tulungan kayo.

Ang mga kabataan, sapol pa noong panahon ni Limahong, ay may kani-kanyang sikreto na itinatago sa magulang dahil ayaw makarining ng masamang opinyon tungkol sa bf/gf o kaya ang hindi pagsangayon sa kanilang asal.

Ngunit habang tumatanda kayo (lalo na pag naging magulang din kayo) saka pa lang ninyo mauunawaan kung bakit ganoon ang pangaral ng inyong magulang.

Eto naman ang payo ko sa inyo: Bago ninyo talikuran ang payo ng inyong magulang, isipin nyong makailan kung ano ang nakikita nila na hindi pa ninyo nararanasan. Huwag muna kayong sumubo sa kumpromiso ng hindi nakamulat ang dalawa nyong mata.

[This message has been edited by Lo Lo (edited 02-07-2000).]

[sampaguita]

I'm a Papa's girl as well as the bunso. But it's still a little hard for me to talk to my Papa about love or anything that's bothering me. He thinks so highly of me that I'm afraid of maybe disappointing him by approaching him with my problems. With Ma I can open up more.

I think there's also a gap in our language. Though I can understand Tagalog to the core (almost), it's hard for me to translate what I'm thinking in English to them in Tagalog. Even though they speak and understand Enlgish perfectly, I think we just grew up in different environments that I think it's a little hard for them to relate to my situations.

Nevertheless, I love them with all my heart. Our relationship has actually gotten stronger since I left home for college. And I'm just thankful for the opportunity.

[clone]

Well said, Lo Lo. Thank you for such words of wisdom.

One of the topics I am having a lot of reservation and hesitation about is how to approach my parents about making a will. It has nothing to do with greed on my part because I am financially independent and it is perfectly alright with me if they want to donate all their assets to charity. I just need to know their wishes on how they want to dispose their assets to avoid any legal or estate tax complications.

They are both in their mid-50's and healthy. That is why I don't want them to think that I am "rushing" things. But things are so different in the U.S. when it comes to taxes.

[wAgKaNgMaKaLaT]

clone: grabe problema mo...
baka nga isipin nila gusto mo
na sila mamatay agad...ngeek!

[BODACIOUS]

One's sexuality!!!

[Ada]

clone: My mom had a similar problem. My grandfather left some land here in the Philippines under his name. In the event that he died, whoever inherited it would have to pay some sort of inheritance tax, which amounts to something like 70% the worth of the land. Well, my grandfather died three weeks ago and the land is still under his name. Had he transferred the ownership to one of his children, no tax would have to be paid. But my mom didn't want to point it out to him while he was still alive because he might think that my mom was you know, nangunguna. Now they have to find a way to make it appear that one of my aunts/uncles bought the land from my grandfather so they wouldn’t have to pay such a huge amount of tax.

Stuff I don't talk to my parents about? My lovelife. My mom thinks that a crush is someone you're gonna marry sometime in the near future. ‘Nuff said. ;)

[egg]

I can talk to them about love, sex, friendships, heartbreaks... the one thing I can't seem to get them to discuss with me is their marriage. :depressed:

[jerk8_16]

I really can't talk about my boyfriend with my parents! lam mo un it's like they know naman na meron akong boyfriend pero they don't accept him... sa but true! :(

[cmars2]

Sex, kahit na close kami ng mom ko I find it hard to talk about that topic. Sometimes napapag usapan pero jahe eh. :bleh:

[teri1977]

why my mom was never a mom to me esp whenever i need her beside me.. i tried to discuss this with her, but i failed.. i can't talk to her anymore abt it coz she refused to understand it..

[JaY_aRe_Dee]

well, i juss had an argument with mah mom this weekend and i really hate the way that argument turned out :grrr:

i've actually been always open with mah mom, i've tried telling her private stuff about me but i guess i juss couldn't get her to trust me with regards to dating guys :shrug:

i understand i've made a mistake before but i've talked abut it with her and she seemed okay with it already but still, everytime i ask for her permission if i could go out, she'll always bring "it" up!! and what pisses me off is the fact that she'll appear nice to the guy i'm dating but behind his back, she'll be sayin a lot of mean things about him!! i mean, there he was thinking that mah mom was so nice to him, little did he know!!

i wish i could talk to mah mom about this... it's not that i haven't tried, i did a lotta times already! i'm juss not making it sink into her thick (oops! :D) head...

[cissy]

boyfriend.




:beauty:

[the_FLY]

well...
i simply refuse to discuss my grades(of course when they are low) and my vices with my mom...

Her being nosy...doesn't make things any better...

:evilgrin:

[KiTTY2babe]

I'm lucky that I have parents that I can rant to when things get heinous. I remember the times my mom and dad saw me bawling because of a dude on separate occassions, they're like the ones telling me it'll be all right. As much as they are open about the opposite sex, dating, school, Greek orgs and vices (well except my MOM who can be real conservative :p ), I simply cannot tell them on what REALLY goes on in gimmicks and parties. I think they're going to be shocked...

Plus I hate it when they talk about my past mistakes. They seem to enjoy rubbing it into my face and somehow think of a connection between what happened to me THEN to what will happen to me NOW. They just cannot grasp the concept that as people grow older, they DO learn.

[eddabedi]

I want to be a nun... pwede ba MOM?

[ReLaTiViTy]

definitely sex. and its serious complications in the long run.
what else pa ba?

one thing good with me and my folks is that we communicate. they know what i like a certain guy because i tell them about him. pero siempre, nde lahat. nde naman kse lahat ng guys tipong you'll be proud to have your parents meet. yugn iba kse gulo nang utak e. there was this friend that i wanted my parents meet, e ast minute nagcancell siya. so yun, may parents think of him bad na. :)

[soulthird]

hmmmmm.

my being in a course I am barely interested at. They don't realize that the reason I'm not excelling is that I am not having fun learning about my course.

and also my plans for the future. what if I want to migrate abroad? I don't think they would be amenable to that.

[jmparker]

baka nde me makagraduate this year beacuse my failing grades. the worst, baka ma- kick out ako form school tapos last yearko na to sa college.:mad: :(