paano mo sasabihin sa guy friend mo na mahal mo sya without ruining the friendship?

[fuu_hououji]

HELP!
ang hirap talagang maging platonic ang isang relationship ng isang guy & girl. matagal na kasi kaming friends ni mickey & i have been carrying these feelings for about 5 yrs. now! i don't think i have the courage to tell him that dahil talagang feeling ko na baka magalit sya sa akin o di kaya naman ay pagtawanan nya ako. i couldn't stand what his reaction would be!
pero bakit ganoon? bakit parang ang sweet nya sa akin, pero lagi nyang sinasabi na friends lang talaga kami. hindi ko tuloy alam ang gusto nyang palabasin. natatakot ako sa maaring mangyari!
nagmumukhang ***** na nga ako rito dahil ang tagal-tagal ko nang naghihintay ng sign. sometimes i think i'm mistaking his thoughtfulness as something else. i couldn't seem to think of myself falling in love with anyone else but him. anong gagawin ko?

[jack]

ibuka mop ang bibig mo at guminhawa ka ng malalim... :)
kidding aside
it only takes courage although it has a big risk. I think you have a slight idea na about his reaction. there arre many ways to say it (puwede pa biro, puwede through a card, text . phone). its all up to you if you are willing to risk the 5 yrs of friendship. it's all or nothing.

[RöttenMind]

wow! ang dami namang mga naiinlove dito sa mga best friends nila!

fuu_, telling someone you simply like him, or love him is normal.. it doesnt make you less human..

if he's really a friend, nde ka nya tawanan and i guess, kaya lang nya sinasabi sa barkada nyo that you two were just friends is maybe he's also hesitated to admit that he's falling for you, even sa sarili nya..

i dont wannah give you false hopes or something.. but believe me, things will change..

just take care and goodluck!

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[gem]

take courage and talk to him abt it, things may change with ur friendship, but evrything may work out just fine too.

if u dont have d guts to say it, u may lose the chance to say so, di ba there's a saying na, "while u still can, tell those whom u love abt wht u feel, for, u may lose em forever..." and thus u'll just feel miserable abt it in the end.

i agree with jack, its a risk, but hey, a thought, EVERYTHING in life is a risk right? courage, timing, prayers, ur friends, these helps... no guts, no glory, no risks, no sense of fullfillment...

[green grin]

don't tell him. i suggest instead the following:

1) make yourself as attractive as you possibly can (hindi lang sa physical ha, kasama na yung mental and emotional).

2) continue being accessible (but not too accessible).

3) allow yourself to be courted by other guys.

4) don't respond to his being pa-sweet.

tingnin mo, matatauhan din yun.

[xywiz]

Try this:

1) be hot (dress like you're going to have wild sex with him always -- this will change the way he looks at you, he might get stiffy all the time)

2) tell yourself (NOT HIM) that you are willing to sleep with him anytime -- if he is not made of stone or steel, he will pick up the vibes from you.

3) give him compliments that you haven't given before (something about his personality not his looks that you really like)

4) let him touch you -- and "moan" while he's doing it. The sound of a woman moaning drives a man crazy ( I know -- I'm a guy)

5) If you can't say it directly to him, ask for your other female friends to sort of make a gossip "that you really,really like him" -- talagang torpe na talaga ang lalaking hindi matatauhan na may gusto ka sa kanya.

If all else doesn't work, sleep with him then while he's asleep, ride on him and wake him up with a pair of scissors on his **** then say " o ano, mahal mo ba ako o hindi?"

He's got to say yes... or else ... bye bye

[~supladita~]

xywiz: funny ng mga advice mo :D...oo nga naman, kung hindi pa naman mag-oo yun, bye bye nga naman! hehehehe

fuu_: well, i don't really know coz that's one thing that i'm thinking of also. papano nga kaya sasabihin? well, actually, i kinda said it indirectly through text last April fool's day..."i love you so much" gulat ka noh? happy APRIL FOOLS DAY!...hehehe, style ba!? reply niya: alam ko na yun...pero nagtxt back ako: alam mo na APRIL FOOLS ngayon? ah..mabuti! hehehe, binawi daw!
one thing kasi, parang mutual *** feelings namin...pero di ko rin sure (labo ba? problem ko rin kasi yang falling for my bestfriend eh...rottenmind, isa na ako dun :))

well, basta, good luck! one thing for sure, something will change sa friendship niyo...parang ngayon sa amin...pero ok lang...he's sweeter rin than ever...basta, malabo! GOOD LUCK!

[Denise`]

sad to say but that's always the risk... something's definitely going to change once you admit your feelings for him... but i don't believe naman na anything can "ruin" a friendship unless one of you will let it be "ruined"... don't let it, if ever... but if you feel na doesn't want talaga... respect his decision and make it clear to him that you still want to be good friends with him... he'll come to his senses! heehee!


good luck! *hugs* :) hope i helped...

[millethsky]

i don't know what to say but i want u to know that i've been there also (the difference is matagal na kayong friends, kami for a while pa lang).. :)
what i did?, i just let him do lang his sweetness & thoughtfulness, but in the end when i really realized na friends lang talaga kami (i really don't what's the real score between us), i said to myself na "he's really not the guy 4 me, na somebody will come na mas deserving pa sa kanya". Pero, i try to be friendly pa rin naman sa kanya. ;)
I didn't have the courage na sabihin sa kanya *** feelings ko kasi wala naman siyang cnasabi sa akin tungkol sa feelings niya, baka kasi nami-misinterpret ko lang yung sweetness nya eh. Mahirap na. :(

[BlackUndies]

you don't have to say it directly that you love him. you just have to drop little hints: be overly sweet, pacute.... and if he feels the same way about you, mapapansin mo naman eh.

[AAA111]

meron na pala nitong thread na ito eh...

[*keyah*]

Aminin mo pabiro! Hehe!

*okay* *pusa*

[BadAssGoddess]

someone who's close to both of you would be a big help... malay mu naghahanap lang sya ng tyempo or kaya naman humahanap pa sya ng assurance kung may pag-asa ba sha kung sakaling manligaw sya... ganyan ang karamihan sa mga lalake... wud rather take a risk, wag lang mareject.... well that someone who's close to you both can make a move para magkalapit kayu or kaya naman you can use her/him to fish info's from him, but beware dapat mas close sayu yung tao para hinde ka mabenta.. mas maganda kung babae din kase mas magkakaintindihan kayu.. well at least hinde direct from your mouth manggagaleng... at pwede ka ren ilakad nung friend mung yun... she should be also close to the guy para it's not hard for her to approach him at para at least walang negative na dating dun sa guy kung anu man gawen nung friend mu, parang ang dating lang tinutukso lang kayu sa isat isa since magkakabarkada naman kayu... goodluck!

[bigbobsbbs]

Originally posted by xywiz
Try this:

3) give him compliments that you haven't given before (something about his personality not his looks that you really like)

5) If you can't say it directly to him, ask for your other female friends to sort of make a gossip "that you really,really like him" -- talagang torpe na talaga ang lalaking hindi matatauhan na may gusto ka sa kanya.



For me itong dalawa na ito ang pinakamagandang gawin.. heheh wag naman yung sobra sobra hehehe...

[bigbobsbbs]

Fu: I'm a guy.. for me walang problem na aminin sakin ng bestfriend ko na mahal niya ako kaso tatanungin ko *** kong kaya niya na maging ndi kami.. kasi kong ndi ko talaga *** mahal as lover I'll explain to her na medyo may problema na ndi magiging kami just not to hurt her feelings..

Dati nangyari na ito sakin e sa totoo lang nagulo ang friendship namin as in ndi na kami gaano nagkita or naguusap kaso tiniis ko lahat yun dahil sa friendship namin so noong ready na ako at natanggap ko na bumalik ako sa kanya at sinabing "Pre okey na.. lets be friends again" kaso matagal mga 1 taon hehehe

Madaling ibalik ang friendship pero mahirap yung ndi ka magpakatotoo hehehe

[wkt]

tell him u love him
sabay hirit ng "yaakk!! as if!!"
sabay bawi ng "...pero malay naten..."

gdlk :)

[danicalstix]

two options... u tell him or shut up to death...

in my case, id rather let him feel it... and let him believe whatever it is he wants to believe... bahala na c God...