Moms & Daughters : Best Friends or Worst Enemies?

[munik]

I used to have a strained relationship with my mom. Hanggang ngayon there are times when we fight a lot. Sabi nga, your mom can either be your best friend or your worst enemy?

[luya_9]

wowie! pareho tayo...

my mom is really cool... pero u know there are still times na away kami... and when we fight we fight a lot! as in! pero i love her so much... kaya k ***... we get along... =)

[piglet]

best friends... luv ko yata mom ko... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/blush.gif

[Gilbey]

moms and daughters? 8)

my mom has no daughter. i am the eldest and a spitting image of my mom. somebody saw our picture and describe it as before and after.... well at least as early as now i know how i would look 30 years from now or when i hit 60!

just remember... your best friend has the capacity to be your worst enemy... away bati din kami ng nanay ko... pero ako pa rin ang paborito so far.... may apo na kasi.. eh 8)

[babyG]

She's one of my bestfriends! :D
she knows everything about me. as in!

[Ben_Diablo]

admit it or not...Our mothers give birth to us, they are responsible for the buildong up of our character...though it leads to misunderstanding sometimes, but hey! Enemies fight to gain understanding...understanding leads to love. She's our mother for heaven's sake.

Immaturity is not an option...

[christianna]

I could never ask for anyone else when the topic's about moms. she's the coolest person I know. And I guess, I see in her how I'll be in the future. I may be just 17 and my mom's 43, but we're so alike that it's kinda like looking into a body-and-soul mirror...heck,we even look alike! But no matter how alike we may be, my mom always encourages me to create my own identity for which people would know me...as me, and not just "Laleen's daughter". So my mom's real cool that way. And that way, I'd say she's my best friend.

[*tRiShA*]

somehow my mom is my bestfriend kasi kami lang yung girl sa family namin kaya madali lang kami magkaintindihan. paminsan hindi naman enemy, ok lang, lalo na pag pinapagalitan ka paminsan nawawala sa isip mo na bestfriend mo mom mo
:)

[keith07]

Hi! for me, she's my bestfriend because i can share a lot of things to her, i can make kwento about what my experiences are towards my friends! but when it comes to my boyfriend, she's my worst enemy! sinusumbong nya ako sa dad ko kasi ayaw ng dad ko sa boyfriends ko kasi Filipino sya and i'm a half-chinese and my dad was pure! Contra sila pareho! kaya worst enemy ko sya kasi blinablack-mail nya ako about that matter sa dad ko pag naiinis sya sa akin! http://www.pinoyexchange.com/angry.gif

[@cinnamon]

BEST FRIENDS! :)

[BadGiRL]

hmmmm..not exactly the best of friends... we don't try to kill each other din....
siguro... ok lang. we are not close. d naman kasi ako lumaki sa kanya e.

[little girl]

i think my mom's my best friend, although we don't agree on everything and sometimes even have quarrels. I believe that's part of every relationship. :)

[botchok]

hindi ko maintindihan kung bakit pero mas komportable pa ako pag wala ermat ko...nagkakasala lang ako pag nanadyan sya kasi nalalabag ko ang ewan ko kung pangilang utos yun ng Diyos.....hindi talaga kami magkasundo..

[BODACIOUS]

My mom and I are the best of friends. We used to have lots of misunderstandings when I was a bit younger but now NEVER.

[munik]

I envy you whose moms are your best friends. The problem is she sees black when I see white. She wants to go left when I want to go right. Ganun ka-grabe ang differences namin. Don't get me wrong, I do love her very much. Oh well.......

[munik]

I envy you whose moms are your best friends. The problem is she sees black when I see white. She wants to go left when I want to go right. Ganun ka-grabe ang differences namin. Don't get me wrong, I do love her very much. Oh well.......

[KiTTY2babe]

It can be both.

When I was in high school, we had a lot of arguments and discussions. Especially that she's around 3 decades older than me so obviously, the generation gap is huge. Her upbring was just SO different than mine. Child of the 50's meets the child of the 80's. Clash talaga. As I grew older though, of course I knew better. Of course, we still discuss once in a while, but it's controlled na. I just learned to put myself into a limit. I don't want to ruin the bond my mum and I have kasi we are so alike pa naman. Plus, we kinda look alike too. Well, that's what my dad says anyway! :D

http://www.gigahosts.com/~c1003/aimicons/icons/Submitted/caticon.gif

[powerpuff]

worst enemies. we totally clash so we stay out of each others way. its better that way. more peace n quiet in d hz. :)

[free_arrow]

the mother daughter relationship is definitely one of the most complex relationships there is. i went through the usual period of resenting the things that she was doing but i think with time comes maturity and the realization that hey, moms don't always know what to do. as much as we crave love from them, so do they from us. my mom is the bravest person i know. she's been my best friend and worst enemy sometimes at the same time. i grew a lot when i finally accepted that she was not only my mom but her own person as well and tried to be more supportive of her decisions and pursuits.

[jobin]

i dont know which one are we. all i know is we always fight even in some little things. no matter how much i try, i always end up with..."*******-***** kasi!". it hurts that's why i never confide ih her. she's too childish, everytime i got proud of some of my accomplishemnts she'd think na i'm being "big-head" with the comment na..."kala mo kung sino". it's irritating, honestly once i wished na sana hindi nalang siya ang naging mother ko. She always contradicts me, i cant even tell her about my lovelife or my plans with my life dahil there'll always be a disagreement or hurtful words akong matatanggap.

dont get me wrong, i love her for she's my mother and i even "miss" her sometimes but i think we're born to hurt each other. i'm not saying na we fight all the times just most of the times na we're together. maybe becuase she just couldn't accept the fact na i can now come up with my own opinions/decisions without asking hers and i'm no longer a child who obeyed her whatever she said.

basta she thinks na i'm totally against her but no matter how i tried to explain she wouldn't understand. And for her, i have no right to tell her what i think, i have no right to disobey her, blah...blah...

she even told me once when i was a kid na "my minced body isn't enough to pay her hardships for bringing me up"

my mom is not a perfect witch and i'm not a perfect daugther either, maybe her past is the reason why but i'm human and i have feelings too, i get hurt so maybe we're not the best of friends. basta for her, I'VE DONE NOTHING RIGHT in my life! :D tawa na lang ako :D, mababaliw ako pag sineryoso ko pa eh dahil matindi kasi ang sakit...as in!

[Triglyceride]

Growing up, I never had gotten along with my Mom. When I was little, being affectionate was the last thing our family would do. Everytime I see my cousins and how affectionate they are to their Mom, I realized how "emotionally retarded" :) our family was. All through out elementary school and highschool, I could say that I have only kissed my mom about 3 times and never once did I hug her. I never "talked" to her about my troubles.

But all of that has changed.Now that I'm older, I guess I could relate to her more and I believe the distance makes her miss me so much:D hahahaha. For the first time, I could now say " I love you" to my Mom upfront, hug her whenever I feel like it and have no problem bawling at the airport terminal:D whenever I drop her off. I now have a good relationship with her and I am now more open to her. What made us closer? I believe both of us had changed over time. And I believe I am more emphatic to my Mom now and vice versa.

Thankee thankee:D

[jobin]

Originally posted by Triglyceride
I realized how "emotionally retarded" :) our family was.

yun ba yung terms dun? ganun din ata ako dahil i never hug nor kiss her, I love u's??? nangingilabot ako...eh wala ganun niya ako pinalaki eh....

[11# UST_guard'98]

Friends... we joke around, pro' I don't really tell story's about guys...

[VaMpeEh]

ok lang..

minsan she's lambing, minsan she'll drive me crazy with her unpredictable ways...

yep, that's my mom! :)

[yehveybey_14_gsmb]

Definitely, She's one of my BESTFRIENDS! labs na labs ko mommy ko eh!:D

[CityGaL]

i used to fight wid my mom a lot! but starting last yr ive started to open up more sa kanya, now wala na akong tinatagong anything from her. bestfriend ko mom ko! :D

[cherub_08]

when i was a kid i was scared of my mom. not that she's mean or anything but i would always think that she'll get mad when i don't practice playing the piano or not read at least a paragraph of the book i was supposed to read. i guess being a kid, i felt i didn't really have any voice in the family. thinking about it now, i didn't really have any reason to be scared of her. she would always be there for me, protecting me, encouraging me. and since i was a kid, it became customary for us kids to kiss them (mom & dad) before they (or i) go out of the house and once they arrive. never did we have curfews and she always trusted us in our decisions.

we have a very good relationsip. yeah, she's my best friend. i tell her everything. though there are times that she's really annoying :D . i love her so much.

[walangdila]

my mama and sister argue a lot. sakit sa tenga. taurus si mama, tapos leo si sis. oh well.

[sofia g9]

i envy the relationship my older sister has with my mom. they have always been close. My mom and I are close too pero iba yung sa kanila ng ate ko. maybe it was because my ate was a late bloomer pagdating sa mga social ek-eks and gimiks.
kahit bata pa lang kami, sila na yung magkakampi.
i remember nung mga 6 or 8 years old ako, nag-away kame ng ate ko. Pagnag-away pa naman kame nung bata kame talagang di ako papatalo, i would kick and scream talaga. as in no mercy. as usual non, talo ako, kaya cry to the max naman ako. before going to bed, nagsumbong ako sa mama ko. and syempre kumampi siya sa ate ko. i remember saying na she didn't love me after all, and that I knew naman na she loves my sister, ako hindi nya mahal. those sort of things.

During the course of my growing up, eventually, kumakampi na rin sya saken and our relationship ith each other has reached a point na masasabi kong ang swerte ko na siya ang mom ko :beam:
Now that i'm older and wiser, I have realized that my mom has never really sided with anyone. she was just trying to be, well, a mother. Ngayon, close na rin kami ng mom ko. Since my father died in 97, we have actually become a threesome (ako, my ate and my mom). :D

:smokin:

[No_Comment]

pareho kami ni gilbey... parang before and after pag pinagtabi yung picture.. kaya lang after ng pumango ang ilong. Sobrang tangos kasi ng ilong ng nanay ko eh. Me lahi kasing spanish.

Our relationship is the best a daughter-n-mother could ever have. I remember when i was in hs, we weren't that close pa maybe beacause i was afraid then to talk about guys and talk to her everything under the sun. Pero since nung nagcollge ako, superduper close na kame. As in pati sa guys, sya pa nagaadvice sa akin when to dump or when to say oo na. yun ganon. lalo na ngayon na me apo na sya, sya yung pedia ko pati yung mother-in-law ko... how i lucky with my two mothers.
:teehee:

[munik]

Hmmm, I didn't know this thread was ressurected.
The funny thing is, since i posted this thread, my mom and I had a cease fire :lol: and up to the present we haven't been fighting as much as we used to. We even talk more than we used to and even though we haven't become "best friends" i'm happier with how we are now.

Still, we argue about the business kasi I work for her :)
The problem with being involved in a family business is that my working hours doesn't end at the office. Minsan sa bahay na ako nagpapahinga and my mom would still want to talk about work stuff. :nuts:

[No_Comment]

Originally posted by munik
Hmmm, I didn't know this thread was ressurected.
The funny thing is, since i posted this thread, my mom and I had a cease fire :lol: and up to the present we haven't been fighting as much as we used to. We even talk more than we used to and even though we haven't become "best friends" i'm happier with how we are now.

Still, we argue about the business kasi I work for her :)
The problem with being involved in a family business is that my working hours doesn't end at the office. Minsan sa bahay na ako nagpapahinga and my mom would still want to talk about work stuff. :nuts:

Good to hear that..... at least you're better now. Anyway, don't feel bad if she talks business even in your resting hour.. maybe it'sjust her excuse to be able to talk to you though, the real purpose is to let you feel that she's there..Parang pinaparamdam nya sa yo na "Anak, i'm here, your mom, wanna talk about sumthing?" parang ganun. :)

[cherub_08]

hi munik!

i'm glad to hear that :). i understand how you feel about your mom talking about business even at home kasi i have a friend who used to work in their family business and she would complain about her mom. kasama na raw nya sa work, kasama pa nya sa house. so what she did was she rented a room near the office. and since it was also near our school (in college), kasama nya sa boarding house mga friends nya na nag-school pa. i guess moms are like that, if there's a chance to talk to their kids, they would - whatever topic it may be. i think it is also one way to reach you.

me naman, before, even if my mom would ask how my day was, sagot ko lang - ok. hindi talaga ako nagku-kwento. stage lang siguro kasi now, lahat kaming magkakapatid, we can tell anything to my mom.

*offtopic: it was nice meeting you at the outreach :) *

[munik]

cherub: dapat pala i get my own place na no :)
We talk more than we used to now na rin e kahit it's not about work. Last sunday nga she asked what I did in Manila and I told her about the kids. She asked me whose project it was and I told her the same people I went to Enchanted Kingdom with. Bilib nga siya sa PEx eh.

*off topic*
Late ka dumating nung outreach 'no? Nung nilabas na yung chickenjoy dun lang kita nakita eh :lol: just kidding.

[cherub_08]

*offtopic* hindi naman munik, nung nalaman kong malapit na mag-lunch, nagpakita na 'ko :lol: . . . actually, i was also at EK kaya lang super late na 'ko dumating, siguro around 6pm na and i was texting babyfats kaya lang i think she doesn't have credits anymore . . . tapos nung uwian na, i was thinking na pexers 'yung nasa may bus sa tapat ng entrance kaya lang hiya akong lumapit eh :shy: */offtopic*

*on-topic* hindi ko naman suggest na to get your own place! :bop: seriously, i'm glad that you two are talking 'coz it helps diba? mas closer na kayo :beam:. me and my mom, we talk a lot - about anything. sa work, sa pex (syempre kwento ko 'to), about my friends. kilala nga nya lahat ng friends ko eh, both HS and college tsaka 'yung ibang officemates. and kinukulit nya 'kong magka-boyfriend! :lol: and she would tell me how she was growing up. minsan sobrang nakaka-touch.