Your Boss Doesn't Like You

[Britneys_Jugs]

Hi!

I need some guidance lang. I've learned that my boss doesn't like me, but she didn't tell me. I lacked initiative daw and I wasn't always there when she needs me, which is not entirely true. Kasi, andun naman ako pag gusto nyang i-paphotocopy yung ganitong file, or kunin yung ganitong file kay ano, or things like that. Or yung initiative naman, I was the one who did the sales and marketing report without her telling me. Nung first day ko nga, yung sheet of paper na nakalagay yung dapat nyang i-turn over sa akin, ang sabi nya, "Ay wag muna ngayon yan, chaka ko nalang sha ituturo". So, puro parang secretary ang dating ko tuloy, which is fine with me kasi I want to work my way up. With my position, I have to work closely with her. The job is really what I want, but with her attituted towards me, it might jeopardize my stay in the company. What am I to do? Should I open up to her that I'm still adjusting (I just started last month)? Or should I resign?

Please help.

[Pin@tubo]

How reliable is the person who told that your boss doesn't like you? Sorry but I've been in the career world long enough to know that it's the survival of the fittest and some employees will stop at nothing to advance at the expense of another. My sister who just had her first job a few weeks ago will be resigning because of some rumor that stemmed from a backstabbing colleague. I suggest that you examine carefully the intentions of the person who shared this info with you. Or baka naman overreacting lang sya sa pagsabi sayo.

Granting that indeed it's true that your boss doesn't like you, resigning is not always the solution. Take it as a challenge. Ask her how she want things done and what she expects from you. If you think you are proactive and she thinks that it's not good enough, you might want to improve pa. If she's stressed out, maybe a simple offer of sandwich on missed lunches will help bridge the barrier between the two of you.

Now, if you believe you've tried hard enough and things don't improve, you can talk to her and discuss your working relationship on a deeper level. Malay mo madiscover mo na may nagfe-feed pala ng rumors about you that has somehow affected your boss' perception of you.

Good luck!

[KuyaDanny]

Do not base your decisions on what you hear from others about what your boss thinks. Get the news straight from the boss first. Then come back and tell us how your conversation went.

[Britneys_Jugs]

Thanks for the advices.

Actually, someone let me read an email from my boss to another boss talking about me. So talagang sa kanya nanggaling, it's impossible to tweak an email kasi may "from" yun di ba? It's really her word, trust me on this.

So how do I address this issue? How can I open up to her? I'm not kasi the type who gets chummy-chummy with a boss kasi I don't want to appear as if I'm kissing as$ to earn my way to the top.

Thanks again.

[pepperprone]

hi britney. that happened to me too. but in my case, hindi ko na overhear from somebody. it came from my boss herself. it was my first day on the job and she told me that she hired me na kahit pa mukhang wala naman akong talent talaga. that was at 8am on my first day and i had just arrived. (9am ang time ko so i was early pa.)

from that day on, naisip ko, i'll prove to her and to everybody who might think i don't deserve to be there and be in that position. and i did. when i left later to move to a better job and a better company, i knew that they were just petty people, exercising their crab mentality simply because they were insecure.

so prove to them you're good. heck, do better! prove to them you're the best!!! :)

good luck! ;)

[KuyaDanny]

Talking to your boss to find out what he expects from you and how you can improve yourself is not getting "chummy-chummy" and "kissing a$$".

Every employee should do this regularly so that expectations and objectives are clear. This is for the good of the team and your company.

[Krakista]

Originally posted by Britneys_Jugs
Actually, someone let me read an email from my boss to another boss talking about me. So talagang sa kanya nanggaling, it's impossible to tweak an email kasi may "from" yun di ba? It's really her word, trust me on this. Spoofing email is one of the easiest things to do. The content of the email is another matter. Your boss may have a certain writing style that's not easy to pattern after.

[mark_mark]

my boss doesnt like me.

[bosstl]

if the boss doesn't like you, well, it will show.

it's really hard to work in a stressed environment such as yours. weigh your options. it's up to you to decide if yo wnna quit. anyways, it seems to me you're already acting roles that doesn't fall under your designated position (what's that word again? mmm... i forgot what it is).

[mark_mark]

dont quit because of your boss. better yet look for a another job that pays better

[sugarfree-]

assess the situation first. be more observant of how your boss acts towards you.on what she says and what she doesnt say.body language is always a good indicator. always extend a helping hand to her even when she doesnt ask for it and even to your other colleagues if you have one to spare.its hard but you can actually use this experience as a tool to motivate you to prove to your boss that you kick ***! :)