Would you rather leave while you're in love or when the love has gone?

[uptowngirl]

What do you think?

[yax-ytterp]

a lot of people say that it's better to leave while there's still love left, diba... but i think i'd rather leave kapag wala na talaga. it's because mapupuno naman yung life ko ng mga what if's and sana's if i leave still loving the person. i'd rather be in a state na wala-na-talaga-eh! kesa naman thinking that there could've been something pa na magagawa to salvage the relationship... :D

[ndrew]

if you leave while your still in love, ask yourself this.
Why? If you can give it a justified answer then I guess leaving would make sense, somehow.

tama si yax... maraming what if's and minsan magkakaroon ka ng sayang's.

[Methodman]

one way of paving your future with a clear path is by trying to get rid of doubts, the what if's, and "what might have been" paranoia. i think it's always nice to leave relationships when there's a measley portion of love's left, that way u'll be able look back with the a smile, and not mope in regret. the latter is most likely to happen when there's zero to nada love left.

[*g^o^s*h~~]

why leave if there's still love left?
babatsi lang ako pag totally ayaw na namin sa isa't isa. if we've exhausted all means to keep the love alive yet find that not even one ember is left, then that's the only time we'd say bye bye.

[DaNa8]

What's the point of leaving if you still love each other? You'll only be filled with regrets if you will.

[:Þ]

I would prefer to leave when she gets pregnant..

[yax-ytterp]

Originally posted by :Þ:
I would prefer to leave when she gets pregnant..



hehehe... http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif

[marlbabe]

Originally posted by :Þ:
I would prefer to leave when she gets pregnant..


that's a really MANLY thing to do...
shows how RESPONSIBLE guys can be...

[Jennifer]

I think belat said that in jest.

I'd choose the latter. I couldn't imagine leaving the person when I'm still in love with him. I could try though, but I know I'd just end up getting back with him.

[uptowngirl]

What if you still love your s.o. but you know in your heart that nothing good can come out of the relationship? Let's say you're really really sure that you're not meant for each other.

[*g^o^s*h~~]

originally posted by uptowngirl:
What if you still love your s.o. but you know in your heart that nothing good can come out of the relationship? Let's say you're really really sure that you're not meant for each other.

under what circumstance/s can you be sure that nothing good can come out of the relationship? i can think of only one: if either of you is already married. if that's the case, i'd say, nip it in the bud.

[fridoh]

the fact na iniwan mo na means hindi mo na mahal. at kung may natitirang pagmamahal, hindi mo siguro maiisip na iwanan sya.

[:Þ]

Originally Posted by marlbabe:
that's a really MANLY thing to do...
shows how RESPONSIBLE guys can be...


Thank You. :)

[byby]

why'd you leave when ur in love??? sakit naman yata yun..

[DELISYUS]

ano ba yung s.o. talaga??? up to now nde ko pa alam...lolz

i'd leave when i want to...when i feel na it's the ryt thing to do...regardless of whether there's still love.....

[virgo14]

s.o. = significant other

if you really think it's pointless to go on, then maybe you should get out of the relationship. there's no point in wasting his time and yours. i mean, even if you still love him you gotta be unselfish and let him go. i don't think you'd be a coward for bailing. in fact, i think it takes more courage to let go of someone you still have feelings for.

question is, how sure are you that things won't work out?

[celeb]

agree with sila ndrew... if you both still love each other may chance pa to work on the relationship... pero pag tinabangan na iyong isa kahit anong kapit nung kabila useless kasi no love left eh.

[TheWeakenedQueen]

We left each other when love between us 2 is still waiting to be poured all out...Because we need to examine ourselves further if its really love we feel. It depends on what circumstances e.

But of course, the sayonara speech left me devastated....

[Blister]

takes 2 to tango.
pag wala nang love coming from sa isa sa inyo, time to go. :D

[powerpuff]

if there's no more love, y bother stay together? we'd just make each other's lives hell whereas we can both be happy with someone else. :shrug:

[xtx]

Originally posted by uptowngirl
What if you still love your s.o. but you know in your heart that nothing good can come out of the relationship? Let's say you're really really sure that you're not meant for each other.

there are instances wherein things are too complicated for both sides. it just happened to me.

i'll leave while love is still there, if i need to.. if i must.

i just did.

[chinkiechina]

Originally posted by xtx
there are instances wherein things are too complicated for both sides. it just happened to me.

i'll leave while love is still there, if i need to.. if i must.

i just did.

But complications should give you the challenge that you both need to hold on to your relationship no matter what, for as long as you are both still looking at the same direction.

Quitting is never an option in true love.

[xtx]

Originally posted by chinkiechina
But complications should give you the challenge that you both need to hold on to your relationship no matter what, for as long as you are both still looking at the same direction.

Quitting is never an option in true love.

holding on to what we had would make things worse. it was never meant to be in the first place .. it was very wrong.

sometimes, there's no point in holding on (there was none in my case). it's just wrong.

and you have to let go.

[LaTtE`M]

I won't leave 'til I have to, love notwithstanding.

[tsokolat]

i dont wanna have regrets, *** mga what if's..
il only leave pag *** n ****..pigang-piga n..

:sunnysmile:

[Sweetkay]

I'd rather leave when the love is gone because I know I can't leave if I am still in love. I would fight for it until there is nothing left anymore adn when there is no longer anything, then I will leave.

It's better to love that way ... giving your all. At least, you will never be left thinking "what if" and "if only." It's harder when it's like that.

[pukits]

This is actually very situational....but I really don't get the question din. Most of the time, you leave your girl/boyfriend because you're not in love with him/her anymore. Hence, you leave when the love has gone. On the other hand, you leave even while you're still in love because of factors like trust issues, etc.

But really, who'd rather leave someone while you're still in love with that person? I've tried doing that and it's like slowly killing yourself. Unless there is a really strong reason behind the leaving, yung tipong there's no way you can salvage the relationship anymore or the other person doesn't want to be with you anymore, then you'll just end up really trying to make things work again.

[chinkiechina]

Originally posted by xtx
holding on to what we had would make things worse. it was never meant to be in the first place .. it was very wrong.

sometimes, there's no point in holding on (there was none in my case). it's just wrong.

and you have to let go.

Why was it wrong? What was it?

[xtx]

Originally posted by chinkiechina
Why was it wrong? What was it?

hayaan mo nalang yun.. huwag mo na isipin. nahihirapan ako pag naiisip ko yun..

[chinkiechina]

Originally posted by xtx
hayaan mo nalang yun.. huwag mo na isipin. nahihirapan ako pag naiisip ko yun..

I'm sorry. It must be hard on you. I hope you get to find your own peace of mind soon.

[the_shining]

Originally posted by :Þ
I would prefer to leave when she gets pregnant..

Iha, sa Family, Friends and Society ang mga threads para sa mga kagaya mo.

:grinroll:

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[REIGNE24]

i'd never leave him. i'd stick by him like super glue...hehehe. as long as he still loves me, whats the use of ending a good relationship.

now pag ayaw na ng isang party, oh well...crying game.

[chinkiechina]

Originally posted by xtx
holding on to what we had would make things worse. it was never meant to be in the first place .. it was very wrong.

sometimes, there's no point in holding on (there was none in my case). it's just wrong.

and you have to let go.

Feelings are always valid, whether they are negative or positive. Loving is never wrong because it is a feeling, itself. It is okay to love. It is never wrong. Kahit anong situation pa yan, as long as it is sincere, it is never wrong.

[xtx]

Originally posted by chinkiechina
Feelings are always valid, whether they are negative or positive. Loving is never wrong because it is a feeling, itself. It is okay to love. It is never wrong. Kahit anong situation pa yan, as long as it is sincere, it is never wrong.


"holding on" and not setting the person free so that he could go to where he truly belongs ... are wrong.

being selfish is wrong. choosing to continuously own/love him while knowing that it would be bad for both sides... is wrong.

chinkie.. it really depends on the situation.

[kewl_freeme]

For me, i would rather leave when love has gone.......It's hard to leave the one you love specially mahal na mahal mo pa. And why wud nuisance to continue when love isn't there anymore.

[kykcz]

it really depends on the situation. i am presently experiencing this. It's really hard to leave if you still love the person.. there are many things that u are considering.. there are things that keeps you on holding on. maloloka ka lang kakaisip nito !! sakit sa ulo. !

[chinkiechina]

Originally posted by xtx
"holding on" and not setting the person free so that he could go to where he truly belongs ... are wrong.

being selfish is wrong. choosing to continuously own/love him while knowing that it would be bad for both sides... is wrong.

chinkie.. it really depends on the situation.

I now get what you mean. If you're talking about a one-sided affair/relationship, then holding on to what you thought you had might be wrong .. or let me rephrase that. it is not wrong but it may not be the best thing to do. but the feelings of loving that person is never wrong.

[amoundici]

love to the fullest. :redsmile:

make the most out of a relationship and i'm sure agree that it'll be the best feeling in the world. :lovesigh:

[Dew77]

I don't believe that there's such a thing as "wala nang love" or "hindi na in-love", maybe your love for this person diminishes in a certain degree but I believe that once you've loved someone, di na ito mawawala forever, he would always have a space in your heart. . . . so if I decided to walk away it's not bec. I "fell out of love"... it means we are growing apart...that we are not meant for each other...for whatever reason...and not bec. "wala nang love" :p

[sickNtyrd]

iiwan mo lang siya kung hindi na enough yung nararamdaman mo para sa kanya...kahit may love na o wala...there are people na nag-stick together for the wrong reasons...so it doesn't matter kung mahal mo pa o hindi...

[xtx]

Originally posted by chinkiechina
I now get what you mean. If you're talking about a one-sided affair/relationship, then holding on to what you thought you had might be wrong .. or let me rephrase that. it is not wrong but it may not be the best thing to do. but the feelings of loving that person is never wrong.

:)

im not talking about a one-sided relationship.. but that doesn't matter.nevertheless, i think you already (or quite) know what i'm trying to say.

[art727]

:rolleyes: Leaving before the love has gone sometimes is the smart thing to do..You can't be blind of the shortcomings that will happen to both of you in the near future..if I knew! I am sure she also knew that to continue our relationship will be useless, . For me, it is better to open the next page and go to the next phase..I dont want to act as if I don't care about our future..Like! "Bahala na kung ano mangyari sa amin!..sakali at magkatuluyan kami..!"I think leaving her early will suit both of us well at this stage and in some respect..good for both of us...If we meant to each other I am sure our path will cross again..in some way or another..Kaya? Sana!

[Vanzki]

i guess sometimes we give up a relationship not bec. we don't love the person anymore...its just that maybe hind na ganun yunf filings natin sa kanila... i do believe that once you loved a person it would always be there no matter what... no matter how much he denied it.... in my case i broke up with my bf kahit mahal ko sya bec. he's having an affair na with somebody else... kahit masakit i accepted it... if you really love the person you become selfless and you will let him go... until now i still feel d pain that it cause.... but life is like that di ba!!!! :*) :rolleyes: :*)

[batuts]

it really depends on the situation,,, personally though i would stay until i feel like it's really not working for the both of us anymore,, but i mean if there's love, there's really no harm in giving it another try,, and also depending on your partner too,, i mean what if your partner doesn't want to stay anymore,, i guess that is really the time to say goodbye,, the most important thing is that you still have respect for one another though you will go in different directions,,even though there's no love anymore at least try to keep the respect,, it's different when you go and you're still in love with that person,, you'll always wonder,, as long as you love the person and if you feel like he/she is worth your time,energy,tears,fears, happiness etc. i think you really have to take everything into perspectives and see how things will go for you,,,

[chill_2029]

i'd rather leave when the love's gone so it wouldn't hurt as much!

[pseudonym]

I would only leave if there's a reason to do such otherwise, I'll stay as long as I can hold the relationship.

It's harder to look back asking yourself "what ifs." ;)

I want to avoid regrets as much as possible so I love and hold on to a relationship for as long as I can. :*)

[bolster]

WHelp!

I'm too much glued to my bf perhaps bcoz the whole 3 yrs of college we've been inseparable, bestfriends, barkada, blockmates, groupmates, gimickmates, etc. I've tried breaking up wd hm bcoz many times I feel so empty anymore but it just didn't work maybe bcoz we've been through so much. I went back to him and now its hapenin again. I dunno if its time to go or if there's really love left. Because if there isnt any, I dunno how to let go. It's more on feeling pity for him.

So, what do you think should I do? :confused:

Oh, and one thing I'd definitely like to suggest: Dont get too close with your mate! Leave some space for yourself. Believe me! I learned it the hardest way! :rolleyes:

[*keyah*]

We parted ways, and we still love each other, so it's the former.

:(

[popgirl]

i guess it's better to leave while you're inlove and there's something to cherish... kaysa naman wala na and wala ka nang tinira para sa sarili mo. no goodbyes, no i love yous, wala nang sabihan ng sama ng loob... just walk away.

[switbebe]

for me, its easier to leave if there's no more love left.

[babynibhie]

hello guys,

i find this topic very interesting pero bago pa lang ako sa PEX. well, there's nothing permanent naman in this world. for me id rather leave kahit na me love pa im talking based from my own experienced. what if lagi kang sinasaktan ng taong mahal mo to the point na hindi mo na kinakaya hahayaan mo bang ganon ang mangyayare?? if u think sobrang hurt kna do u think love ka pa nung guy. pero if u think malaki pa yung chance na mapabago yung sitwasyon why not stay dba?

ska one more thing kahit naman maghiwalay kayo ke me love o wala na kung kayo kayo **** dba.

lets just think na kung ano man mangyare GOD has a purpose ska wag nyo mashado ibuhos lhat para sa love nyo prang ako hehehe kase kyo lang ang talo in the end prang feeling nyo pinaglaruan kayo.

live life to the fullest :newbie:

[amber15]

for me...ill leave na habang maaga pa cause i wont allow myself to get hurt again..hirap ng feeling na u knew that u gave ur best pro la din nangyari ...d ka mn lang binigyan ng consideration...damn...kc after non la ka na ngang pride sa sarili mo dahil lahat ginawa mo *** lang wag ** umalis pro la nmn na ngyari...tpos bababa pa *** self-esteem dahil nga bkit anong wala syo na hinahanap nya ...hay naku bsta ayoko na ma depressed dahil lang sa walang kakwenta-kwentang tao...sigh

[littlegurl]

after the love has gone.. :bungi:

[criskyut]

i'd rather leave after the love has gone... :(

[baby_07]

i'd leave when there's no more love. As long as I love the person, i'll fight for that feeling and i'll try to save the relationship. Pero kung wala ng love, para san pa diba?

We can only do so much. But if there's still love, we can find ways to make love make everything enough. :love:

[katie]

i dont know if it's the right thing, pero ako personally, i leave when the love had gone. passive ako eh, and afraid to take risks din.

[bLuEb0o]

this is a tricky question, very difficult to answer. maybe when the love is gone na lang *****, or it depends rin upon the situation. there are times wherein you have to say goodbye even if you still love the person eh..

[bluemoon13]

why would you leave the relationship if you're still in love in the first place, di ba? leave when the relationship has fizzled na alam mong wala ng patutunguhan. pero if you leave tapos in love ka pa pala, mas nakakaloka yun. i did that once and i was bitter for the longest time. dami kong "what-ifs."

[NaWTee_FaYRee]

i wouldnt leave a guy if i still love him.

but id probably leave if im already confused. like there's a new guy that i met and im not sure if i still love the old one (my bf).

[Sweetkay]

Would you rather leave while you're in love or when the love has gone?

When the love has gone ... because I can't leave while I'm still in love ... I've done this before and it was wrong ...