can guys and girls be just friends?

[grounded]

Sometimes you don't expect it but it happens. Maraming friends na friends lang nga talaga pero with time, sometimes, things happen, and then you become just friends ulit. Pero you still were more than that.

[Jonny]

nah.. guys will always develop feelings....

and it's not platonic..

[Wangie]

kaya, pero the guy normally develops feeling talaga. i've had problems being the "girl next door" for the longest time cause i end up being the guys' confidante. in the end, its really hard when they fall in love and i can't reciprocate. show me one guy who can stay friends with me...as in, REALLY good friends with me, and just leave it there, i'd be happy.

[Ira]

Yes. I have a lot of guy friends. I'm not interested, they're not interested. And our friendships are working.

[Zen]

Of course you can. Why can't two people of the opposite sex be friends and not end up getting infatuated with the other, or maybe even getting in bed together? Fine, you develop love for the other person, but it can stay platonic. It WILL stay platonic if you WANT it to stay that way. I have plenty of male friends who aren't interested in anything else than a platonic relationship, and the same thing goes for me.

:)

[MO]

sure, yes you can. unless there is already vested interest before the guys becomes the girl's friend right. but the thing about guys that develop feelings for the girls is part of the "animal instinct" in us. but this does not only happen to guys right? ira, wala pang nagkakamali! hehehe

[MO]

sure, yes you can. unless there is already vested interest before the guys becomes the girl's friend right. but the thing about guys that develop feelings for the girls is part of the "animal instinct" in us. but this does not only happen to guys right? ira, wala pang nagkakamali! hehehe

[Ira]

MO: Maybe because I have a boyfriend, hmm? Akala mo lang na walang nagkakamali. I don't tell you everything.

[jepoy]

I think that it is possible for a guy and a girl to be friends. It's just that when the friendship becomes a lot stronger between two people of the opposite sex, it's really easy to misinterpret those "feelings" as something else that its not. When a strong bond exsists between two guys, its called "camaraderie". But when that same bond grows between a girl and a guy, we are too quick to assume that "romantic feelings" exsist.

[Meiji]

guys and girls can be friends. This is a world of possibilities. A guy may enjoy the company of a female friend, but it does not necessarily mean that he has romantic feelings for the girl. It's the same with a girl, she might enjoy the company of a male friend, but it does not mean that she likes him in a romantic way.

BUT there's also the possibility that they are denying what they are truly feeling inside.

[This message has been edited by Meiji (edited 11-19-1999).]

[ctv]

Of course. Kissing friends.

[BadGiRL]

yes...they can just be friends....
i have a lot of guy friends..as in super close namin.... one nga e..sobrang gabi gabi nag rereport sa akin sa phone akala ng whole family n barkada ko na nanliligaw sa akin....

i really had a hard time making them see that we are just friends and nothing more...

[jack]

yes!!! How many friends do you have from the opposite sex? You mean you were involved with all those people. I don't think that people would want to court all friends from the opposite sex. There are just people has a good potential to be a best friend but not a lover. For men, there are just women that they see they are not worthy.... i mean they might like the girl kaya lang they just can't say it or they know na walang chance. In the end, hanggang friends na lang. :)

[ctv]

PePs: O, diba mas okay kung ganoon? Friendly 'ko eh.

[This message has been edited by ctv (edited 11-21-1999).]

[Denise`]

Yes.

Maybe at one point in their friendship they may feel a bit of attraction towards the other since they spend all that time together pero hanggang dun lang yun. I guess that's one of the many "tests" good friends go through.

[kmunster]

hehe Denise` most of the time they develop di ba? lalo na if they keep on texting one another... :)

but seriously i think guys and gals are capable of staying just friends but it takes a lot of work not to fall for one another.
di ba nga proximity is one of the reasons ppl "fall" in love so if u ppl keep on being with each other (even if it is in a platonic setting) more or less magkakatuluyan kayo someday

[zimdude]

Yes they can be friends. For all the points raised above. No need to quality with a just.

[nature]

oo naman, sometime they fall in love but for the sake of friendship they keep na lang sa sarili. ano ba yon labo no, let me explain, kasi i believe in the relationship between boy and girl if they are too close to each other one or both of them might feel extra attention or feeling not in your intention pero ginagawa mo. kung ano man iyon para hindi masakit quite ka na lang. para bang personal experience ko yon a. basta ganoon yon, they can be friends forever. ;)

[kCal]

it's a matter of choice.
as they say "friends can be lovers but lovers cannot be friends"
sometimes kasi in friendship, pag nahaluan ng feelings, nag-iiba na ang takbo. if the feeling is mutual, you're lucky. but what if it's the other way around? nandyan na yung times na magkakailangan kayo, mag-iiwasan just to be able to get rid of what happened.
in most cases, a person chooses to hide his/her feelings (i know it's pretty hard!) para naman ma-maintain yung friendship. at least, in a friend sure ka na maglalast yung pagiging friends nyo. kahit mag-away man kayo, at least may chance na magkabati kayo, kasi nga tested na yung friendship. pero kung may commitment, tapos nag-away kayo, di na 100 percent yung chance na magkabati kayo. so choice talaga ang nagma-matter.

[fishball]

i have a lot of guy friends and it's all platonic..there's nothing wrong with that kind of relationship...but from what i've observed....BAT PARANG MAS MADALI MA-DEVELOP YUNG MGA GUYS?!?!..i mean...they easily misinterpret the closeness the girl is trying to have..but it's different...it's all for friendship and nothing else...helo???.. :confused: cant they sense na there's nothing there?!..na-aapektuhan 2loy frienedship.

[DaNa8]

It's possible. Marami akong male friends who are nothing mor than that. And it's nice having them.

[katie]

of course, it's possible. a guy and a girl can have a platonic relationship. i have lots of guy friends, even more than my girlfriends..and they dont like me and i dont like them either. but it's also true that guys are most likely to fall than girls. however, guy-girl friendship still exists inspite of that.. :)

[hudyat]

80% of my friends are girls... There is no attraction both sides and we still manage to do fun stuff... Iba ang feeling kong may certain spark with someone. The fun you have with friends from the opposite sex on a fun basis talaga is really different from that of fun fun with a person whom you want a relationship with.

:)

[sardonic wench]

yes. guys and girls be just friends.

[bUtTeRfInGeR]

i dont think so...di ba napanood niyo naman yung my best friend's wedding. siguro there will always be somebody -either the guy or the girl who'll end up falling for the other. mahirap kasing magstay as friends ang girl and guy.
they could stay as friends if the one who falls in love chooses to retain their friendship rather to pursue a romantic relationship. pero mahirap yon.

[Assassin_Mage]

my turn..

YES!

guy and gals can be simply friends!
And when I say friends, I mean close confidante like friendship with no sexual or other feelings involved other than pure friendship.. if you think that it is not possible, then you have been reading too many romance novels.

I will say it again.. it is possible..

[*BuTTerFly*]

of course possible!!!!!!!! :) :) :)

[jopert]

puwede yun no! hehehe! :)

[ulicqeldroma]

Originally posted by Ira:
Yes. I have a lot of guy friends. I'm not interested, they're not interested. And our friendships are working.

same here. more girl friends actually. la lang. they're a lot fun to be with and they're noisy http://www.pinoyexchange.com/lol.gif

[danhua]

Originally posted by ctv:
PePs: O, diba mas okay kung ganoon? Friendly 'ko eh.

[This message has been edited by ctv (edited 11-21-1999).]

PePs and ctv -->; puwede makipag-frens? ;)

[grounded]

What an old thread.

Yes they can be. Mali yung tanong.
I heard the question way back pa when the MTV chat thing was going on. That was about two years ago. My frist reaction was: Huh?! Of course!! What kind of a question is that?! Pero there was a time when I thought it was true.

Sometimes, you can STAY just friends, pero there is potential. Hay naku, ang gulo. Di ko malabas ang point ko. e ito..

Sa bestfriends na opposite sex, most of the time, there is something more than friendship. Maybe not now, but at some time, there was or will be. I think saying na it's always been and forever will be platonic is baloney.

Such harsh answers. Affected ba? Mahirap bang isipin na ang mga kaibigan niyo ay meron palang lihim na pag-ibig para sa inyo? Yuck? Di pwede yun eh noh! I guess I'm talking about sexual attraction then. Oops! But that's another topic already.

[hingis20]

I have taken my time to read what you guys have to say, and i think you all have point but I have noticed something, the "fallen party" ( as PePs had so thoughtfully coined a new vocabulary) have yet to raise a point and thats where I come in! Taaaaaadddddddddaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!.......
Im speaking from a recent experience, i must say, guy and gals should not mix! I forever swore off that kind of friendship, it only makes my life complicated, in the end I ended up hating him for not "responding"...
OOOOOOhhhh sad movies, always makes me cry..................

[little girl]

i guess not, kung meron man bihira siguro..pero i think girls are mostly the ones who feel something else; fall in love, and not the guys...

[frenzy]

Depends if you feel something...

[e_sioco]

I think some can because what if she already has a boyfriend or even married.

[grounded]

kahit naman married o may boyfriend doesn't limit feelings... sometimes..

[Hot Pants]

Of course they could!! But the best thing is they can be more than that!!

[aspen]

of course!!! they can. depende na lang sa guy kung walang pinipili, mapa matanda o bata, mayaman o mahirap, may ngipin o wala, diba dibs :D :D :D

[meex]

it's just annoying how these two people refuse to accept the new level they've reached. kasi, what sparks it is the realization na it doesn't matter how flawed the other person is coz you know who they truly are and you accept that. kaya lang parang nahihiya pa na aminin. it's hard nga naman talaga eh. kasi sometimes the girl (or the guy) can't really understand how their "best friend" feels eh. the question of whether or not meron ngang something bugs them too much that in the end they somewhat give up nalang kahit they still want something to happen.

did i make sense?!

grounded: i'm surprised you started this thread...

[qtpie]

totoo ba yung sinasabi nila na kaya mo nagiging friend or bestfriend ang isang tao ksi ur attracted to him/her too pero hindi mo lang ma-express??


pero its possible to have a relationship between a guy and a girl that is purely platonic...

pero iba na kapag super duper extra special close na kayo... at one point.. one will fall for the other maybe aware sila or hindi :crazy:

[GuardianKnight]

Some times its impossible for a guy and a girl not to fall in love when they're friends since they already like each other and get along pretty well. Don't you think?

[lonely_angel]

yes of course they can be just friends... :D

[jb]

there are actually 2 types of friendships betwn 2 opposite sex.

I have friends na guys pero , wala! hanggang dun lang yun! kc talagng walng feelings involved! and minsan mo lang nakakasama. Minsan, the guy is NOT boyfriend material! or simply Not ur type!

The other one is compatible kayo in some ways! there is a possibility na u cud see him in a different light after sometime, na ok naman siya.... actully, ma-iimagine mo na boyfriend siya ***** yun! specially, kung type o rin....?!?!?

[Miguelito]

sabi nung character ni billy crystal sa "when harry met sally," di pwede mangyari yan kasi "sex will always get in the way."

[spamkin101]

Originally posted by Wangie
kaya, pero the guy normally develops feeling talaga. i've had problems being the "girl next door" for the longest time cause i end up being the guys' confidante. in the end, its really hard when they fall in love and i can't reciprocate. show me one guy who can stay friends with me...as in, REALLY good friends with me, and just leave it there, i'd be happy.

my sentiments exactly!!!http://cwm.ragesofsanity.com/s/geno/rotz.gif i never go fer my guy frends no matter how kind n cute they are...i really dunno why! dats y i get ilang wen i find out that a friend plans to court me...

[^!^]

why not http://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/images/icons/icon5.gif

[katie]

Why not?

i have this guy friend who happens to be one of my bestfriends. we are really so close, na kahit siya lang mag-isa, pinapayagan sya ng nanay ko na mag-overnight sa house namin. however, it was nothing more than that...plain friends lang talaga. yung tipong incest pag naisip mo na maging romantically involved sa kanya.
we often play as bridge dun sa mga kanya-kanya naming prospect. nagkakataon pag valentine, wala kaming mga someones kaya ayun...mukmok na lang kaming dalawa.
one thing nice about having a guy friend is that he will be your man pag wala bf mo dito. hatid ka pauwi, samahan ka sa lakad mo...mga ganung bagay. hindi mo pa sya makakaaway pagdating sa boys kasi syempre iba type nya. :D

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[Moonshyne23]

yes. it's possible for a guy and girl to be just friends. truth be known all of my really really g\best friends are guys... and we're happy that way... Ü

[grounded]

Read naman some of the entries before reacting.

Guys and girls CAN BE JUST FRIENDS. sa mababaw level, syempre! kung ndi, edi ndi pwede makipag friends sa opposite sex pag "taken" ka na? pero that's not the point..

i guess you can't generalize nga pero most cases ng mag-"BEST FRIEND" ay more than friends. meron yang party na attracted sa kabila. i'm sure you've all seen "my best friend's wedding" diba? minsan pa, yang mga "best friend" na yan ay meron talagang inentions sa loob-loobin nila.. at alam nila na may possibility na one day, maging sila.. it must have crossed their minds at one point or another.. pero very few people will admit it..

nakakatuwa yung ibang entries na are saying na they have best friends and it's really nothing.. look at the way they're talking though.. wala ba talagang nangyayari dyan?

i don't know lang ah.. i'm sticking to my belief.. a guy ang a girl can't be best friends and STAY really close if walang sexual attraction there.. ayan may added condition na.. :)

[mashe62]

actually puwede naman....

i am an example, sa tagal-tagal na rin ng buhay ko dito sa mundo, isa lang ang nag-end up as a romantic relationship sa lahat ng naging kakilala ko at kaibigan kong guys... malamang ito ay sa kadahilanang ako mismo ay hindi naghahangad ng ganitong relasyon sa bawat pakikipag-ugnayan ko sa opposite sex.

ang outcome ng isang relationship, kesyo friendship sa opposite or same sex ay nakasalalay talaga sa mga taong involved... kung okay lang at talagang sa romatic side ang ending, e di doon, at kung sa pare ko, mare ko lang e di okay pa rin... kanya-kanyang diskarte talaga yan!!

[ina]

Originally posted by jb
there are actually 2 types of friendships betwn 2 opposite sex.

I have friends na guys pero , wala! hanggang dun lang yun! kc talagng walng feelings involved! and minsan mo lang nakakasama. Minsan, the guy is NOT boyfriend material! or simply Not ur type!

The other one is compatible kayo in some ways! there is a possibility na u cud see him in a different light after sometime, na ok naman siya.... actully, ma-iimagine mo na boyfriend siya ***** yun! specially, kung type o rin....?!?!?

hmm.. preho tayo ng opinyon! :D

pero sa ngayon, for me, friends ko nalang sila (mga former boylets ko ;)), pero buti nalang ok pa ang mga friendship namin..
[i](as if tinatanong ang tungkol sa :love:life ko noh? wala lang, share ko lang :D)



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[the_FLY]

Yes of course...
Reason:
Basahin nyo nlang yung posts sa taas

:evilgrin:

[charmed010]

yup! i have lots of guy friends and i'm quite fortunate coz they are all good looking and sometimes, how i wish na "sana mapansin" ako, meron din namang nanligaw but it all boils down to one thing... talagang we were all meant to be plain friends! for your info lang, wala akong naging bf coz i realized, i'd be better off being friends with them, sayang naman kasi yung friendship. :*)

[[R]c]

yah i guess, even if you wanted 2 be more than friends, and u know its never gna work out, stick with *** you have, who knows maybe ur beter as friends... and i dont c the diference between Mag on and friends... its lyk its dsame.. hehe

[MarTian^]

i have guy friends and often napapansin ko dat they don't have intentions naman...though some meron but mostly wala. i also agree with someone na nagsabi before that normally the guys fall for the girls...ewan ko lang...but yun ang napapansin ko...though there were cases din na yung girl muna...

it's very hard to keep a guy friend kasi i have this ka-close na guy before in high school na sa sobrang close namin...nag-selos pa yung nililigawan nya...buti naagapan...kasi sayang yung friendship...but ang sama kasi napagtsismisan pa kami...e hindi naman totoo...

have you guys heard of a guy dat had a crush on the girl...then he befriended her...and they became good friends but never sya nanligaw?

[space_cowgirl]

"a guy and a girl can be just friends, but in one point or another one or both of them will fall "for the other maybe too temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe... just maybe, forever

this is a really cute one, but i dont beliv in it. i had a guy bestfriend and what made our friendship special is the fact that were just friends and nothing more.

[kaila]

why not???!!! they can have a platonic friendship Ü

;)

[powerpuff]

sure they can! actually mas ok pa minsan na u have a guy friend para u can ask their opinion about other guys. :)

[the_FLY]

right now all of my female friends are just friends...nothing materializes...and those that i like are already taken...i like our friendship and we are open...i think friends of the opposite sex are more open to each other than to the same sex(this only goes for men...or at least those that i know)!

:evilgrin:

[kartoonista]

Sure, why not? As long as the trust and respect boundary is still there. :D