Pregnant and single [Merged]

[sangria]

as if it's so uncommon.... i do not condone premarital sex but at the same time, i do not condemn those who practice it. but to those who got into 'trouble' because of it, if you do the 'right' thing, i guarantee that you'll be okay.

i am a single mother. my parents are strict.. in fact i think before i told them that i was going to have a baby, they thought i was still 'pure' (the v-word is so misused i consider it a bad word). when i was much younger, i thought that if i got pregnant out of wedlock my parents would kill me. guess what? they didn't. they forgot to sharpen the knife so it didn't get through. only joking.

when i first found out that i was positive, i was more excited than scared. my parents got mad of course but they didn't disown me like i thought they would. i was in the states when it happened. so i was able to give my mom and dad the time and space to accept what had happened to me. two days after i dropped the bomb, my mom called. you wouldn't guess what she called about. the first five minutes there was yelling and before i knew it, she was telling me that she saw a nice baby food grinder at S&R and that she already found a good yaya. how lucky was i?

i have a beatufil baby girl. if you should know, i am not with the father anymore because he didn't want to take responsibility for what happened. i'm not saying that it's all his fault. he just wasn't ready to give-up his 'life' for fatherhood i guess so here i am. single but happy.

ok what the hell is her point, you ask. here it is. if you are on the family way and are afraid of telling mom and dad, remember, your tummy's not getting any smaller and you won't be able to hide it for long. tell them. don't be afraid that they might hurt you. if your parents are sane and decent people, they wouldn't lay a finger on you (the grandchild's in your tummy, remember? ;) ) accept defeat, accept the criticisms, the blame and all... mauubusan din sila ng sasabihin. pag pagod na sila , tatanggapin na lang nila and if sinusuwerte ka, may crib pang kasama iyan. i'm sure pag-okay na kayo you'll be glad you told them and they'll be thankful they had you because binigyan mo silang magandang apo.

sana hindi mo naiisip magpa-abort. if you're considering giving your child up for adoption naman, if talagang hindi mo siya kayang palakihin, go ahead. i can't say much about it because hindi pa ako nagpapaadopt but i have an adopted sister and i must say her mom did her a favor when she gave her to us.

as for baby's dad... if he's willing to take responsibility, hey good for you. just don't get married because you got pregnant. if you have plans, great.. take your time. manganak ka muna... wala yatang maternity wedding gown. AT LALONG -LALO NANG WAG KA MAG-STAY WITH THE GUY KAHIT NA TINATANGGAP KA NIYA PERO MASAMA NAMAN UGALI NIYA AT SINUNGALING PA :) you have to be around GOOD people... nafi-feel ni baby ang vibes niyan baka paglabas niya eh nakakunot na noo niya sige ka mauuna pa sayo tumanda anak mo. eh kung yung guy naman doesn't want to have anything to do with your child, kawawa naman siya kasi iiwan mo siya and you're going to devote all your love and attention na lang to baby, RIGHT? :)

if you clicked on this thread and read through the whole thing (ang haba pala!), you're probably in the same situation i was in. like i said before, you'll be okay. goodluck :)

[Pointless]

Actually, I'm a guy, and I'm not in the same position as you are in... I'm happy that things worked out for you :)

It's just that, your baby girl won't be in a typical family anymore... Wala lang...

[sangria]

Originally posted by Pointless
Actually, I'm a guy, and I'm not in the same position as you are in... I'm happy that things worked out for you :)

It's just that, your baby girl won't be in a typical family anymore... Wala lang...

oh yeah i forgot to include the part where i say that i want my daughter to have a real family. who doesn't? but you see in my case, i didn't have a choice. i can't force on someone something that he doesn't want, right? and it's not like i didn't fight for my daughter. what i'm happy about though, is that i know i'm making the most out of what i have and i'm giving my daughter the best that i can afford.

[Sweetkay]

I am proud of you gurl! *okay*

You had the guts to keep it and raise it on your own.

You're also lucky that your parents were understanding enough.

There should be more like you around.

Bdw, I'm not in the same postion. :)

[sangria]

Originally posted by Sweetkay
I am proud of you gurl! *okay*

You had the guts to keep it and raise it on your own.

You're also lucky that your parents were understanding enough.

There should be more like you around.

Bdw, I'm not in the same postion. :)

Thanks :)

[Sweetkay]

Originally posted by sangria


Thanks :)

Welcome. :)

[K_I_N_G_S]

actually im a guy too hehe and obviously way far from ur situation, its just that.. u got nice way with words

[sneezy]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S
actually im a guy too hehe and obviously way far from ur situation, its just that.. u got nice way with words

YIHEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :glee:

[K_I_N_G_S]

sneezy: u actually made me smile on that one :D

[sneezy]

on which one? the yiheeee???

isa pa???

YIHEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! :D

[K_I_N_G_S]

sneezy kuleeeet mu dun u know at :D but in a nice way hehehe

[sangria]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S
sneezy: u actually made me smile on that one :D


yihhheeeee!!!

[Mickey2000]

http://www.mousescripts.com/clipart/images725/Characters/Mickey_Mouse/mickey08a.gif :wave: Sangria, Keep it Up!!

[degamits]

its good that yr doing good. keep it up, im sure yr daughter will grow up fine w/ or w/o a father figure.

[saywhat]

Originally posted by sangria
if you clicked on this thread and read through the whole thing (ang haba pala!), you're probably in the same situation i was in. like i said before, you'll be okay. goodluck :)

Actually, no. I'm not in the same situation, but your thread has piqued my interest. I've been thinking of having my own kid. Having a husband or marriage has never interested me. I just want to raise my own child.

So how's it like? The ups and downs of single-parenthood? :)

[K_I_N_G_S]

:D

[sangria]

Originally posted by saywhat


Actually, no. I'm not in the same situation, but your thread has piqued my interest. I've been thinking of having my own kid. Having a husband or marriage has never interested me. I just want to raise my own child.

So how's it like? The ups and downs of single-parenthood? :)

being a parent is hard but for me it has more rewards than disappointments. if you are capable of taking care of your own child, then by all means go ahead and do so. having a partner to help you with the responsibilities is a plus but it is not a necessity... especially if he's not really interested. but i must say that i do want my daughter to have someone to call daddy.

[sangria]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S
:D

:p

[sangria]

hey Mickey2000!



degamits - thanks :)

[K_I_N_G_S]

sangria:thanks 4makin me feel better :D hehe a simple smile pala from someone can make u feel better :D

[sangria]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S
sangria:thanks 4makin me feel better :D hehe a simple smile pala from someone can make u feel better :D

only my smile can do that

[BeGuiLing]

Kings and sangria .. again like what sneezy said..

yiheeeeee... :p


sangria: good to know you're okay... :D

[esofagus]

U GO GIRL!

[nala]

[i]sana hindi mo naiisip magpa-abort. if you're considering giving your child up for adoption naman, if talagang hindi mo siya kayang palakihin, go ahead. i can't say much about it because hindi pa ako nagpapaadopt but i have an adopted sister and i must say her mom did her a favor when she gave her to us.


i've had friends who've been in this same situation and have dealt with it differently... to each his own.. we have our ways of dealing with things and each situation has different circumstances .... and each of us is entitled to make our own decision.. all i can say is im glad they're happy with their decisions..

[sangria]

Originally posted by nala


i've had friends who've been in this same situation and have dealt with it differently... to each his own.. we have our ways of dealing with things and each situation has different circumstances .... and each of us is entitled to make our own decision.. all i can say is im glad they're happy with their decisions..

hello nala...

you're right. to each his own. i hope they really are happy with their decisions and that they learned from the experience and got out of the situation better people.

[sangria]

Originally posted by sangria


hello nala...

you're right. to each his own. i hope they really are happy with their decisions and that they learned from the experience and got out of the situation better people.

i just want to inject this... i didn't mean to sound self-righteous or imply that those who have abortion are bad people. i too have friends who have gone through it.

[K_I_N_G_S]

Originally posted by sangria
only my smile can do that

:D yeah ur smile :D hehe kaya pala i overslept :p

[K_I_N_G_S]

BeGuiLing:
Kings and sangria .. again like what sneezy said.. yiheeeeee
:p

:D hehe im tryin to quote also yung :p <--this one asa reply mo cant figure out which exactly the right thing :D some newbie :(

[sangria]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S


:D yeah ur smile :D hehe kaya pala i overslept :p

huh? i dont get it....

[sangria]

BeGuiLing :D

[K_I_N_G_S]

sangria:
huh? i dont get it....

:D oo nga ala nga palang sense reply ko :D hehe nice smyle u got there :D

[sangria]

Originally posted by K_I_N_G_S
sangria:


:D oo nga ala nga palang sense reply ko :D hehe nice smyle u got there :D

;)

[Aine]

Originally posted by sangria


hello nala...

you're right. to each his own. i hope they really are happy with their decisions and that they learned from the experience and got out of the situation better people.

Some of them even actually come out better people than those who choose to keep their baby.

I mean it's good how some people come out oh-so-philosophical about the whole thing being a miracle and all and how happy they are that they kept the baby. But truth is, some people just aren't ready to have children. How many times have you heard people say that "sana hindi na lang ako pinanganak". It's good that you have a job or maybe a family that can support your baby. Heck, your family can even adopt someone else's kid. That shows a lot about your financial capabilities. And money is just one aspect of the whole scenario.

Some people just aren't ready to give up what they have. When you have a child, you just cannot go out at the sudden invitation of friends or even do personal things like, say, go shopping or even to the gym without having to worry about the kid. It is selfish but you have to be ready for these things. An unhappy mom cannot raise a happy child.

Adoption, you say? Care to go visit these child welfare centers and see how many children in there? What kind of living conditions they have?

You can go on and on about how fulfilling being a mother is no matter how much you had to go through and all that ****. But girl, news flash, each case is different. And I'm glad that yours turned out for the better. But when you start to go all preachy like this...

sana hindi mo naiisip magpa-abort. if you're considering giving your child up for adoption naman, if talagang hindi mo siya kayang palakihin, go ahead. i can't say much about it because hindi pa ako nagpapaadopt but i have an adopted sister and i must say her mom did her a favor when she gave her to us

...all your joy sort of leaves a bitter taste.

Don't get me wrong though, I am not and never will be pro-abortion. But please, let's leave the self-righteous crap where it should be... and that is, within the confines of your own self.

...i didn't mean to sound self-righteous...

Just because you said so, doesn't mean it isn't so.


You had but one experience in this. Don't pretend that you are an expert. And how old is the kid? Maybe when he's a grown-up self-assured, stable, 25 year old with no excess baggage to carry and at peace with himself, you can go post again and tell us how great your decision was. But as Virginia would say, you've got a long way to go baby.

Maybe the best advice to give people currently experiencing such a thing would be to know thyself and trust thyself. Only you would know what's best for you. Pray

[sangria]

:)

[sangria]

i don't think i said it will happen to everybody. i didn't say that everybody is as lucky as i am. i just said that eventually mom and dad will find out so why keep it a secret?

i didn't tell anybody to give her baby up for adoption :) i said "if you're considering..." and in fact i didn't say much about it. i just said that in my sister's case, she's lucky. i said that the mom gave her to us. that's what i meant.. go find a suitable family for your kid.

i'm not claiming to be an expert. i admit that all i know now is based on experience.. and what an experience it is. you're right... i have a long way to go and i'm sure i have a lot more bad things to go through but that is exactly why i'm sharing my experience with others... good may also come in with the bad...

i believe that nobody is ever ready to have a child. even the ones who are dying to have children of their own. you will never know how it is until it's there already.

Just because you said so, doesn't mean it isn't so. - same applies here :)

Some of them even actually come out better people than those who choose to keep their baby. - good for them.

Some people just aren't ready to give up what they have. When you have a child, you just cannot go out at the sudden invitation of friends or even do personal things like, say, go shopping or even to the gym without having to worry about the kid. It is selfish but you have to be ready for these things. An unhappy mom cannot raise a happy child. - right again!

prayer is a given. so is faith in yourself.

[Brad Pitt]

You did the right thing, just be ready for a hard life. I doubt if you can find a partner who will be willing to take over the responsibilities of taking care of your child. Otherwise I admire your strength and convictions. Just be ready to be alone and you have to be extra smart to make it through life because you are a lone provider for yourself and your kid. Good Luck.

[sangria]

Originally posted by Brad Pitt
You did the right thing, just be ready for a hard life. I doubt if you can find a partner who will be willing to take over the responsibilities of taking care of your child. Otherwise I admire your strength and convictions. Just be ready to be alone and you have to be extra smart to make it through life because you are a lone provider for yourself and your kid. Good Luck.

i know i did. and im not really looking for a partner. i want one but im not dwelling on it. i made a choice to keep my baby and i am happy with my decision and knowing myself, i'd kill just to put food on the table for my baby. thanks for sharing your sentiments. :)

[prinsesa_luna]

pangarap ko to. :glee:

haaayyy... weird no? :rolleyes:

[may_fatima]

I am married..no kids yet. What am I doing in this thread? Nothing, just curious I guess. Recently my hubby and I had a discussion on what if a baby comes now when we feel its not yet the right time. It was a hard decision for us, but eventually reached a decision to go ahead and face the odds. I am not religious or anything but I feel strongly against abortion. Then we got to thinking about a lot of eventualities..like what wd make a woman decide to 'drop' her baby. I told him the worst scenario that wd--maybe --make me feel closest to doing it wd be if I was unmarried, and got raped. But maybe not abort the child..maybe i'd give it up for adoption.

What about u guys?? what's the worst scenario for u?

[alfaQ]

Sangria! I am glad that you are taking on the course of single parenthood wihtout remorse but with joy and pride in your heart.

It is not a simple responsibility. It is a tough one. If having a marriage is tough so it is with parenting. Single parenting at that is one heck of a challenge.

I am on the same boat. Got pregnant when I was abroad and was in the same situation, told my mom that I was pregnant a week prior to my arrival. No violent reaction that's because I assured them that I was happy about that decision.

As for my co-parent ( my son's father, for a lack of a better term this is what I call him better than sperm donor) we're very good friends though out of touch and no communication for almost a year now. My son is six. How old is yours?

Here are some thoughts:

1. never deny your kid of her father
2. tell her stories of how she was conceived with love
3. slowly tell her why you and her dad had to part ways
4. never ever speak ill about her father
5. if you have pix of you and him together, try to display it
6. tell her that no matter what happened... she is the best thing that ever happened to you.

Well, this may sound a lil off if you have ill feelings or prejudice against the father but, it is for your child to have a mental picture that though she doesn't have a complete family - will make her feel that she is real and that she was not unwanted...
This will somehow help her cope with the real world...
It takes time to adjust to single motherhood no matter how you brave the storm...It takes more for a child to accept the situation.

Thanks that we have our family to support us:) They somehow complete the void that our children's father vacated.

You will eventually be faced with the question from your child: Where is my father? You will have to answer it unabatedly.


When your child goes to school, there will be more challenges...
Good that I am sending my son to a good school where there is no prejudice against single parents. But when i tried to send him to a traditional school, I felt the pang of society when my son kinda lost his self-confidence and esteem because his classmates, teachers and the books would only depict of a family with a father. You have to prepare for it....
What I did, I pulled him out of that school and brought him back to Community of Learners.

Being a single parent is one helluva job but be happy about it. Like love, it is a commitment, it is a decision. No matter how rough the waters may be ... just hang on and be strong.

You have to be strong for that kid. You can e-mail me if you wish....

For now, long live the single moms.... May we be stronger without being bitter, may we raise our kids in an environment of love, may we find joy in the simple things....

As for finding a partner, ohohhhhh.... this is a little toughie!
The key is... just enjoy. Do not compromise for less and do not put your child in the line....

Love to you girl.

[JD_4_U]

Hello everyone...

I am so relieved to have found this thread. I spent the whole day trying to relate. Now i am so enlightened.

I just did my pregnancy test this morning and it was positive.. ive been feeling strange for two weeks now thats why i decided to check. I cant describe how i felt when i saw the result, i dont even know what i was thinking.. was just staring at the empty wall. Then suddenly i thought bout my wishes... one of them were to have a baby, but didnt really think it'll be this soon.

I discussed this with my bf already and he liked the idea of being a daddy and he even proposed to me, but i told him to wait. Now that i am faced with this situation.. i cant even think clearly.. maybe its too soon. But one thing I will not marry him because i'm pregnant with his child. He's the best guy you could ever ask for, but still he might think that im only marrying him just to save face and might change then.

My mum... tough one, as im the only girl in the family it'll be very hard for her to accept and it will disappoint her big time. But i never did hide my wanting a baby even out of wedlock..

Thanks guys specially to Sangria for that kind of advise.. i needed that and same goes to alfaQ. I salute you guys for being strong. I will keep you posted.

[gemyl]

so nice to see threads like this. :) kung iisipin ang dami dami na ng nasa ganitong sitwasyon. Gaya nga ng sabi nyo iba iba ang pag handle nila. Ang importante siguro gawin nila un palagay nila na dapat, tama at makakapag pasiya sa kanila. Mahirap, lalo na kapag nakakarinig ka ng mga bagay na ndi maganda sa ibang tao, lalo na kung un iba relatives mo pa. Mahirap, lalo na pag ndi mo alam papano mo mababayran lahat ng tulong ng mga magulang mo *** at para sa anak mo.

Ako din single parent, ndi ako nag isip ng abortion sa first baby ko, kasi uhmmm ***** kasama ko pa kasi un bf ko nun, kaya malakas loob ko, natanggap naman ng father ko evenually, nanay ko naman nasa saudi pa nun and ndi namin alam papano sasabihin. nun bumalik sya dito sa pinas katakut takot na iyakan ang nangyari, imagine mo naman kasi, nasa ibang bansa sya tapos pag uwi nya me apo na sya. Ndi pa dun un natapos, i got pregnant again...uhmmm kung ndi ba naman K..... hehehehehe, this time naisip ko mag pa abort, i even seek helped from my friends, pero uhmmm para sa akin ***** talaga sya, nakakahinayang kasi baby boy sya pero me hydrocephalus. uhmmm this time ndi na alam nun bf ko un sa 2nd child. to cut the story short...un nga single mommy, help pa din ako kahit papano ng parents ko financially, kasi ang hirap pala talaga!

so sa nyo dyan....saludo ako sa mga single parents, ang hirap magtrabaho ah at ang hirap magpalaki ng bata. :)

[tina11]

Originally posted by sangria
if you clicked on this thread and read through the whole thing (ang haba pala!), you're probably in the same situation i was in. like i said before, you'll be okay. goodluck :)

no, i'm not in the same boat as you and the other single mothers but i am in awe of women like you. hope other women would be courageous and empowered enough to make the right decisions when it comes to the life of their child. :)

[mac_bolan00]

from my personal observations, single mothers tend to do rather well, at least those that had careers or college degrees before.

firstly, a hang-up in love tends to make one focused on her career. i've seen this so many times.

second, a single mother is not likely to commit the same mistake twice. she'll grow old maybe tired from working but consider: she raised only one child (a BIG factor) and did not have to invest in other things needed by a big family.

in fact, i'm starting to suffer weird thoughts: that the family will someday be obsolete and in it's place, just a whole bunch of single moms working in meaningful ways to rear their kids.

talk about a 'perfect world' :D

[don't worry. my wife doesn't PEX, although she's a registered member]

[DELISYUS]

/me spanx MAC

nothing perfect in a world full of single mothers....

(i dunno... the words 'single mother' or 'single father' or 'single parent' connotes/implies that the other biological parent is aggressively against having a hand in raising a kid... and hello, we have laws naman which single moms can fall back on... and not all failed relationships naman involve unfeeling parents)

[mac_bolan00]

correction: by having only single parents, you eliminate much of the world's ills. the only advantage i see with 'keeping' two parents is shared costs.

[isle of view]

Originally posted by mac_bolan00
in fact, i'm starting to suffer weird thoughts: that the family will someday be obsolete and in it's place, just a whole bunch of single moms working in meaningful ways to rear their kids.

talk about a 'perfect world' :D



while reading the thread, and with all those opinions i'm hearing or watching or reading in TVs, radios, articles et al., i also thought of that... that there will be no 'families' in the future, but rather, single moms. most women nowadays would rather have a baby than keep a husband. i don't know why, maybe because some can't keep their responsibilities.

[zoiey]

ok...nice one..very enlightening....u said it well and i salute that.

i'm a single mother of a two-year old kid...im 26 now so that means i got pregnant when i was 24...im a career woman and last thing i want to have is a baby...but u see i realized that we really don't know what the future might bring...same with your case my mom and dad accepted me and never said a word to me when they found that out...i tried to hide everything but since we are all girls and all of them were married of course one of them confronted me and had helped me out in explaining...i tried to run away that night but realized that i had to face it...so i went back and never did i heard a word from my parents...why? my dad is a quiet guy...but of course i can feel the pain that i've caused...

oh well, enough of the flashback...the guy had plane-out and currently working in NY and not yet ready to face the commitment...and since he doesn't want to then what else can i do but to work and raise my own child...i also realized that if he was here and if he's not really ready i still would not pushed him to marry me...i never think of abortion that time i'm a pro-life i believe that the child has nothing to do with what happened and has the right to live whatever it takes...i just thought of hiding like going to some home for unwed mothers...for relief...hehe funny...but it's true i'm so depressed that time...and want to hide to not give heartaches and disappointment to my mom and dad.

well, after i gave birth i think it's great to have a kid...my life had changed...from an independent career woman that's full of night and social life to an independent single mom...i can say that it's a good thing that i've experienced so much fun when i'm single...why? cuz dealing with this one makes it more challenging...i can't imagine myself being a mother...

i was watching the "correspondents" the other night about the adoption something and there's this girl who had her baby taken by this home for abandoned babies...why? cuz she said that she's not yet ready to be a mother but after few months she went back to get her baby...i was so touched i almost cry...i never had thought of that one abandoning my own kid...

i also remember watching one episode in "the practice" wherein a case involve this lawyer who had hired somebody to be a sperm donor then when she was 8months pregnant the guy had changed his mind and want to be a father...of course the lawyer said that she doesnt want him to deal with his child since they had a contract...connection? it's about studies of population of kids who most likely to drop out of schools cuz of growing up with single parents....well, the judge said that nobody can tell if the kid will grow up as a jerk or the other way around...nobody can tell! it's how we single parents show our best to raise a chilld in a healthy environment.

not all things that are not right are wrong...it's not wrong to have a baby it's the just the way or how it happened is so wrong...but what else can i do but to face the consequences...my baby has the right to live and it's much better to be a single mom than have it aborted or abandoned and believe me conscience can kill and will be there to haunt for the rest of this life...

i also believe that it's a long way to go...we are in a country that's so conventional and i thought of migrating for the future of my kid...in western countries being a single parent is no big deal...and i guess people won't even look at my kid with this "that poor boy" look.

now i got suitors but of course i'm not yet ready for any serious relationship though i know that my kid needs a father figure while growing up...lucky enough i have my dad to help out.

it's nice to see posts like these...makes me feel comfortable well of course i can relate to everything you said. :)

[cndom sa wallet]

Losers.

It's nice to be a guy and have a free shag over some clue-less maidens.

I love earth!

[mac_bolan00]

that's nice, condom. moving out of the UAAP forum might jack your IQ one or two inches above the floor.

[soontobemom]

I wonder if any of the ladies here find themselves in the same situation as I am. I'm 28 y/o and 12 weeks pregnant with my first. When my then-bf found out that I was pregnant he asked me to have an abortion but I absolutely refused. He already has a kid with his ex and he's worried that his ex won't allow him to see his kid if she finds out. I'm not one to force myself on a guy so I just told him he can say whatever he wants to his family and friends, and he can forget about me too.

Right now I'm just enjoying my pregnancy, and I'm thankful that my family and friends are behind me all the way. I know this is not the ideal situation to raise a child but I'd rather that my baby not have a father than have a father like him.

Just sharing, kasi I noticed there are some here who are also pregnant and single :blush2:

[mac_bolan00]

you know, just my personal observation, single mothers often become very focused after giving birth. something like a scarlett o'hara. they work doubly hard at their careers or businesses that, by the time their kid reaches maturity, they're pretty well off.

kids of single parents often are reckless and sporadic. they often swerve into the fast lane. this is possibly due to the stigma they feel while still young in the neighborhood and in school (stupid catholic teachers!!!!) but they are also very mature in things that count a lot such as education, career building and personal finances. many of them are achievers.

but the bottom line is, a single mother must never scrimp on love and affection for her child (try, despite paragraph #1). that's what the shrinks say.

[«FickleMinded»]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v358/fickleminded/Mood%20Icon/friendhipbear_1.gif--good for you to stand up against your ex's decision to get rid of the baby,and to have your family and friends to support you,bec right now, you need them more than ever.Good Luck :)

[wannabe_bride]

im proud of you sis.. theres really nothing wrong being pregnant and single.. i admire you for keeping the baby.. im sorry pero napakasama ng ex mo na gusto nyang ipaabort yung innocent na baby.. kakarmahin din sha.. good luck sis.. be strong!

[felicity18]

hi sis! im 21 y.o and im giving birth this april... like you, my ex left me when i was 7 months pregnant... pero its because of our differences kung bakit siya umalis... and bad naman ng ex mo.. parang hindi nya dugo at laman *** gusto nyang ipa-abort... err!! well, there's nothing wrong naman kung magiging single moms tau... tanggap na naman ng society *** ganito... un nga lang, kahit paano, may masasabi pa din *** ibang tao na negative about us... but then, hindi tayo dapat magpaapekto sa kanila... bsta ang isipin na lang natin ay *** responsibility natin na hawak sa pagbigay ni Lord sa atin ng baby natin... blessing yan ha! and alam mo, sa ginagawa ng ex mo, malaking karma talaga ang mararanasan nya! sya ang kawawa, hindi ikaw! :)

[yvetsky]

hayeee!!! naku mga sisters nagkita-kita na naman tyo sa isa pang thread about us pregnant, single but happy :) anyways, tama lang ginawa mo, napakawalanghiya naman ng BF mo. sabagay lahat naman sila walanghiya eh, meron ba namang mabuting taong iiwan sa anak nila o ipapalaglag ang sarili nilang dugo. naniniwala akosa sinabi ng isa kong friend na single mom din, downfall ng lalaki ang pagtalikod sa mga anak nila. so saby-sabay na lang natin hintayin ang kanilang pag-bagsak :splat:

[«FickleMinded»]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v358/fickleminded/Mood%20Icon/friendhipbear_1.gif--mabuti naman at happy kayo sa mga naging desisyon nyo to keep your baby, kakarmahin talaga ang mga ex nyo,ang kakapal ng mukhang mag-advice ng abortion,palibahasa hindi buhay nila ang nakataya,kung mabaliktad kaya na sila ang magpapa-abort,siguro madaming lalaki ang titino. :bungi:

[yvetsky]

^korek ka dyan, sila kaya ang mag-paabort or mabuntis at malagay ang buhay nila sa peligro, akala ba nila porke buntis kami ganun lang yun lumalaki lang ang tiyan namin, eh inde kaya, madami kang food na iiwasan kainin dahil makakasama sa'yo at syempre sa baby, kelangan mo mag-ingat sa paglabas-labas, at pagme nangyayari sa baby sa loob ng tummy mo me peligro din sa mom. akala nila binuntis nila kami ganun na lang yun, masaya na kami :no:

alam ko na partly me kasalanan din kami sa nangyari sa amin, like sa situation ko, masyado akong nagtiwala sa BF ko na hindi ako iiwan kahit anong mangyari sa akin o sa amin, ayun kumaripas na ng takbo ang loko, sana lang pag-nadapa sya mauntog ulo nya at pagnarealize nya yun eh kung marerealize pa nya ang mali nya (which is malabong mangyari sa mga tulad nilang lalaki) eh pasensyahan na lang kami :splat:

[riAbaby]

congrats! you've been blessed... :)

[toron]

I'm so glad you're keeping the baby, best wishes and luck po!:)

[sassy_girl07]

motherhood sure is fulfilling (even if you're doing it alone). i just gave birth and i'm happy with my child. minsan lang nakaka-sad that she's not born into a complete family, pero wala akong magawa coz i can't force the dad to be part of her life if he doesn't really want to. i'll just make sure my daughter gets all the love and support she needs from my family. :)

[«FickleMinded»]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v358/fickleminded/Mood%20Icon/friendhipbear_1.gif--"Having a baby is the MOST WONDERFUL GIFT IN THE WORLD."

[soontobemom]

Hello mga sis! Thanks so much for your encouraging words...

mac_bolan00, I really hope to be a good mom. Yun nga lang yung takot ko e, na because I'll be raising my kid alone, baka hindi ko mabigay yung attention na kelangan nya. Pero papatunayan ko sa lahat ng tao (lalo na sa ex ko) na kaya kong palakihin yung anak ko ng maayos.

«FickleMinded» & wannabe_bride, thanks. Naku talaga the thought of getting rid of my baby never entered my mind :)

felicity18, I'm preparing myself for what people will say about my condition once obvious na that I'm pregnant. Pero tama ka, hindi tayo dapat magpaapekto. Chin up dapat tayo because a baby is always a blessing.

yvetsky, oo nga babalik din sa kanila yon. In the meantime, we should concentrate on happy thoughts only :D

Thanks riAbaby and toron. :blush2:

sassy_girl07, nakakalungkot nga isipin na my baby won't be born into a complete family. Pero mas mabuti naman yung ganito kaysa naman kung kunyari complete nga pero hindi naman happy. We just have to make sure na hindi magkukulang sa TLC ang mga anak natin, right? :wink:

[«FickleMinded»]

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v358/fickleminded/Mood%20Icon/friendhipbear_1.gif--Basta keep in mind na even if your baby's daddy is not around, it doesn't make him/her much less of a person or it will make him/her different to everyone.S/He still deserve all the love you could give.and btw, a family w/o a daddy ,as long as there is LOVE,is still a COMPLETE FAMILY. :)

[yvetsky]

^^ well said. thanks! nanaka-uplift ng spirit sa mga tulad naming nsa ganitong kondisyon.

Ano kaya mgEB ang mga buntis?! ang saya ***** nun! :D

[orange_tart]

«FickleMinded», tama! Sana pag lumaki na sya I can make him/her understand na kahit wala syang daddy complete pa rin ang family namin :)

yvetsky, hmm oo nga no ang saya non!

[soontobemom]

Sorry, I was the one who posted the previous post. Hindi na-logout yung previous user. Anyways, hope you guys are having a good weekend.

[mistress315]

hi soontobemom.. i just wonder why ur ex is so afraid with his ex na hindi ipakita sa kanya yung anak nya( did i get it right?).. so meaning sila pa rin nung ex nya? do you still have communication with your him ? well bilib talaga ako sa mga single moms.... just be strong for your baby ..... and i know you are,, you take care of yourself, GOD bless :)

[tina11]

a family w/o a daddy ,as long as there is LOVE,is still a COMPLETE FAMILY. :)
This is very very true. I salute all the single moms out there - you have shown admirable strength of character and you are what woman power is all about. Your sons and daughters are very lucky - more than any other babies, they were loved and wanted even before they were born :)

[soontobemom]

mistress315, i'm not really sure kung bakit sya takot na takot sa ex nya. baka sila na ulit. hindi ko nalang iniisip kasi i know hindi makakabuti sa akin yon. i just focus on making sure i'll be able to give my baby everything she/he needs pag andyan na sya.

tina11, thank you! :)

[fedster]

mistress315, i'm not really sure kung bakit sya takot na takot sa ex nya. baka sila na ulit. hindi ko nalang iniisip kasi i know hindi makakabuti sa akin yon. i just focus on making sure i'll be able to give my baby everything she/he needs pag andyan na sya.

tina11, thank you! :)


can i just say this? ang bad ng bf mo, considering na may anak na sya. eh kung yung anak nya kaya yung pina-abort? sobra syang selfish.

yun lang.

[soontobemom]

bump ko lang itong thread :D in case there are pregnant and single girls out there who are going through what we went through. just remember, everything will work out in the end. ang bonus pa, may anak ka na.

[purpleheadd07]

wow, nice to bump into this thread. i look back nga and can't help but smile, no, beam extremely just thinking about my Xan. I feel so complete now, there's nothing that i still want, aside sguro sa safer and better future for him. the past hurts and dilemma then just seem so remote now, parang how could i've felt so bad then eh ganito rin **** pala kaganda ang result. ;)

btw, napanood nyo ba yung ad sa gma (shown usually every Sunday am sa Maynila na series) yung: "pregnant? single? call blah-blah..." hehehe parang ang impersonal kse ng dating, kung ako yung preggy at single i don't think tatawag ako sa knila. :p

[estimate]

it delineates that women are vulnerable to commit mistake-grave mistake... pregnancy. whether you like it or not... you will be branded as disgrasyada, number two, patapon, kabit, the other woman, etc. it ain't exlusive to women since men could be the culprit as well.

in a failed relationship, women usually carry the burden of pain, sacrifice and taking a toll on their physical well-being if they get pregnant. hard as it may be... quite a number of pregnant women get through this kind of crisis.

I still suggest that women shouldn't succumb to sex if they aren't ready to face the consequences. men should take heed as well. how tempting is sex? really?

[purpleheadd07]

no need to rub more salt on our wounds, my dear.:rolleyes:

[estimate]

just stating the facts my dear. but you're right... those who has the wounds feel the pain. yet those who overcome the crisis become a better person, a stronger person. does anyone point to shift the blame?

[soontobemom]

wow, nice to bump into this thread. i look back nga and can't help but smile, no, beam extremely just thinking about my Xan. I feel so complete now, there's nothing that i still want, aside sguro sa safer and better future for him. the past hurts and dilemma then just seem so remote now, parang how could i've felt so bad then eh ganito rin **** pala kaganda ang result. ;)

btw, napanood nyo ba yung ad sa gma (shown usually every Sunday am sa Maynila na series) yung: "pregnant? single? call blah-blah..." hehehe parang ang impersonal kse ng dating, kung ako yung preggy at single i don't think tatawag ako sa knila. :p

I feel the same way, all the bad things that happened before dumating baby ko suddenly seem so trivial now. I don't waste time and effort now dwelling on the past and even feeling bad about SD (sperm donor) kasi now I have a wonderful life and I wouldn't have it any other way. Di ako nagsisisi sa mga decisions ko.