If your son/daughter became Gay/Lesbian...How would you feel? [Merged]

[slurbrun]

yUP, u can say that this branched out of that other topic of mine abt. Filipinos' view on gays. Can u handle the thought of having a gay child? How ? Would u resort to beating him/her up? Would u gnash ur teeth over it? How would u handle him/her being w/ another male/female? After all, u r all future parents right? And ur reactions will ultimately affect their view of life.

[bunny]

At first, I'll probably throw a fit! But that's just normal...then later on, I'll have to learn to accept him/her. He/she's still my child after all...

[nix]

I think that over time, I've gotten rid of my bias against gays. What I can't stand are the obnoxious ones who go screaming around and flirting with guys. But then again, being obnoxious is not limited to a specific gender type, and their in-betweens.

But if one of my future children turned out to be gay, I would understand. Hey, the best artists of this world are gay. I would be disturbed somewhat at first, but after a while, I would get over with. There really isn't any question of acceptance for me for whatever happens, he will always be my son.

[JUNXB102]

Of course, I'll be stunned and disappointed at first...Pero I'm sure in the end, I can accept his decision because that's his choice and i'll respect it. My love for him na rin siguro ang mananalo in the end...

[BadGiRL]

i can't imagine a parent not having a breakdown(major or otherwise) once he or she finds out his or her beloved child is gay. but then, what's the big deal about being gay? well, am not gay but i am not going to go through nine months of pain and 20 hrs of labor just to "banish my son or daughter from my life" because of his/ her gender preference.

[MO]

i pray that it doenst happen!
i have nothing against gays but i just dont want that to happen!

[Ira]

If my child turns out to be gay, I'd be very sad. The world at present is not gay-friendly, and no parent in this world would want to have their child discriminated against based solely on his or her sexual preference. It would be upsetting, of course, because it's hard to accept something that's foreign to you-- gay kids happen to your friends and neighbors, not to you.

Ultimately, though, I will accept it. He is not an extension of me; I'm just his temporary caretaker, and how he chooses to live his life and what makes him happy is solely his decision, not mine. How arrogant of me to assume that I can dictate how he should live the rest of his life! I will just want him to carry himself with dignity; otherwise, he is free to live his life the way he wants to. Gay or not, he is my child, after everything's said and done.

[more]

I hope not but if it happen,well I'll be sad but.....he/she still will be my son/daughter and me and my wife will still love him/her. this is one of those things that you don't have any control..****'s happen you know..

[DELISYUS]

sigh.....

this is honestly one of the things i hope i won't go thru......until now that my sister has decided to go fall in love with a lesbian.....a lesbian who i think doesn't go to school and hangs out with the druggies and tambays of our streets....

whew....

and there's only one thing i can say about this........i hate it....

funny...i've never been really homophobic......but i also never really wanted someone i care about to choose this lifestyle......

of course....this doesn't change the fact that of all the people in this planet, i still love my sister the best

[maxinegirl]

i have thought about this, and i guess that i would be more sad than disappointed. i wouldn't have a breakdown or anything, and i think it would be fairly easy for me to come to terms with it... but i would be sad because, as Ira has said, i know how difficult it would be for him/her to gain acceptance in this world. i know a lot of gay people who are taken advantage of in relationships, and they have no choice but to always be on the giving end, because, sadly, that's how things are. i have also thought about how much more painful, frustrating, and unfair life may seem to him/her. but i know that as long as i raise him properly and he turns out to be a good person, whether he is gay or not will not matter to me as his mother!

[CaRaMBa]

Like some here, I would be sad. I wouldn't want it to happen, if I had a choice. But I know I don't. Anyway, I don't have anything against gays, it's just that I wouldn't want my son/daughter to go through sh*t and hell their whole lives. We have to admit that the world still discriminates and as Ira said, the world is still not gay-friendly.

I would be very sad. I'm sure that my initial reaction would be anger - I think that's just normal. I know that sons and daughters should be accepted by the parents without condition, but it's really easier said than done. But I don't think I'll disown my kid and give him/her hell for being gay.

[karlota]

kung ang tingin natin sa mundo ay hindi
gay-friendly, bakit hindi natin simulan
sa ating sarili?

tayo ang magsimulang tumanggap at pag
naipaintindi natin sa buong mundo o kahit
sa buong Pilipinas lang na ang anak nating
bading o tomboy ay may "purpose" kumbakit
siya nagkaganyan, ano pa ang problema mo?

'yung iba dito, gustong-gustong magkaroon
ng kaibigang gays, pero hate na hate magkaroon
ng anak na gays. Ewan kung ano'ng tawag sa mga
tao na may ganitong klaseng takbo ng utak.

Sa'n ba nagpapagupit ang mga nanay? Sa barbero
kaya?

[talipandas9]

I would be shocked and surprised at first but in the end, i will be very HAPPY because my son/daughter will be true to himself and live fully the life he/she chose. That's the toughest part of admitting you're gay: to be accepted first by the people you wish will understand you the most --- your family.

Being gay and admitting it is NOT THE END OF THE WORLD . So, to all the parents there who find out that they have a gay child, CHILL OUT! It doesn't mean that your beloved child becomes less as a person that doesn't deserve to be respected. He/she remains special like everybody else.

[sullen boy]

Of course not. As long as my son/daughter doesn't go around acting like the "screaming ***" or "butch" stereotype, OK lang sa akin. Because you can be gay or lesbian without being so boisterous and showy about it...

[bugsbunny]

at first syempre magugulat ako pero after the initial shock, ok na. kebs no basta lumaki siyang mabuting tao.

[Crusher]

What should really give anybody a shakedown, (7.5 in the Reichter scale), is if they learned that their father is gay! Now think about that!

[earthling]

Actually gays and lesbians are the result of personality crisis during the childhood. Parents should guide their children and understand them what sex they belong.

Another thing childhood traumas, contributed too. So parent is responsible in molding their children to avoid personality crisis in their children soon.



Earthling.....

[tRiStAn]

I'd be sad for him/her because of the prejudices of the society againts him/her. But no, I wouldn't have a breakdown. ;)

[walangdila]

nope. i guess i'll be proud - my son/daughter is special and extraordinary. :grindvl:

[Melpomene]

Like tRiStAn, I would be very sad for my child, because s/he would find a world that is not so accepting. Thus for her/his sake, I would have to be strong and supportive as a parent.

[the_FLY]

I'll introduce him to a hunk in school...:bleh:

:evilgrin:

[RevenanT]

Ms. Ira, you are a goddess.

[cmars2]

Di naman siguro breakdown. Baka ma depress lang ako at first pero kung gay talaga sya eh la na ako magagawa but to accept him as he is. He's my son di ba so dapat love ko sya that much!

[trisha jimenez]

Uhm i don't know... sana hindi coz I'm gay and I don't want my child to experience what I've been through. It's a cruel world out there and I don't want to hear stuff from him that someone teased him or physically abused him.It would be so painful for a parent to hear those diba? Pero on the brighter side, I'll accept him kasi I know that he'll be a talented human being as most gays are. Yun lang ang dapat kong paghandaan... yung mga sasabihin at gagawin ng ibang tao sa kanya whether sa school or in public places. I'll just try my best to keep him away from people like scubaotaku who would say/do something bad to him.... :) :) :) and sana by then tanggap na tanggap na ang mga gays sa lipunan... I know its far too impossible to happen though I'm keeping my fingers crossed for that....:)

[shadowboxer]

magugulat ako sa umpisa, syempre... pero nde ko sya iko-condemn! mas maigi ngang open sya saken (dahil i'm his/her mom) para mas mababantayan ko... in the sense na yung sense of security nya na dapat sa parents normally supposedly nakukuha ng mga kids, eh mararanasan nya saken. he/she needs understanding, guidance, compassion, & respect more than anything else from his/her parents, especially from moi! (naks!)

:elk:

ang tanong... magkakaanak nga ba kaya ako? :hmm:

:belat:

:crazy:

[solace]

No, I wouldn't have a breakdown.

I WOULD feel sad. It's a tough world and not everyone's open to homosexuality. As a parent, I would try my best to shield him from all the pain and harshness, but there's only so much I can do...I would accept my child for what he is. A heart to heart talk will definitely be needed just so I understand his decision. But it won't anger me, just sadden me.

It's HIS life, after all. I'm a guardian, no more, no less. I'd accept my son for who he is and support him.

[twisted1982]

If ever na magkakababy aketch! Ikamamatay ko kung magiging baklita siya. Pero syemps sa una lang! I'll equip him with the best weapons he'll need for the war of life! I have endured the cruelty of adolescent homosexuality and I am telling you it is worse than having ketong! People will hate just because they can. The government ignores you and the church condemns you. I'll prepare my son for that!

[babyface]

at first ***** magugulat :wow: pro d naman to the point na magagalit ako. gaya nito!:whip: opinion nya yun. he/she's just being true to his/her self db?
so, i'll respect his/her decision.:)

[the_FLY]

i'll spank his arse until he becomes straight...:bop:

but seriously...i'll try to understand him/her even though it's hard

:evilgrin:

[clone18]

well, yes and no. first i am gay so what's the point? but the fact remains that i know this is just a phase. im getting tired being gay. right now im looking for a girl who can really make me happy. if ur son turns out to be gay, let him in a manner that he will get over it by the time he reaches 20.

just a thought.

[Bea_]

No, Ok lang sa akin.
I would just wish na di nya ma eexperience mapagtawanan or ma ridicule ng ibang tao...kase I would be hurt, and it'll be ok with me if he/she is gay, as long as maging disente sha, meaning wag naman yung mga tipong naghahanap sa mga bars at kalye hehe

[Tope]

Pag nangyari yan baka pauuwiin ko na lang siya sa province namin at pag-araruhin ko na lang sya sa bukid. :D

[mistyEyed_girl]

i dunno if i'll have abreakdown or what... pero i dunno din what ill do if ever this happens...

i had the chance to watch an i-witness episode weeks ago, it was about the "baklitas", i mean they featured kids as in less than 10 year olds and some over 10 yr olds who are outright gay... and my heart just went out to them... maiiyak ka talaga...

siguro if my child wud happen to b a gay... masasaktan ako... for the fact na i know na mahihirapan sya 2 live like that, knowing d reactions and the beatings he/she wud get from people... masasaktan ako because i know na masasaktan sya sa mga sasabihin ng tao and sa pagjjudge sa kanya...

to beat the kid and/or send dem to the province wud not solve the issue.. kasi parang tinakpan mo lang ng physical pain e (kapag pinalo sila) and wala ka pa rin nagawa...

wala... siguro the best i cud do is to be a mom na parang straight din yung child ko (kahit na mahirap, i bet..)

[Ice Burn]

I'm curious to see what the responses are especially from the fathers. :)

[11# UST_guard'98]

wala pa kaming anak ng hubby ko, but we talked about. We will support him or her. We don't really mind. Basta kung saan masaya anak namin masaya kami.

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[purplemahal]

i'm very open to the fact that it can happen and if it does happen ...of course, i will be surprised but i'm sure that i will support them in every way i can...i'm glad i'm a psychology and guidance and counseling gradute....

[dudelish]

i'd be mad! it's like getting something you don't like for christmas. i'd make a big deal about it, of course. i'd probably storm out of the house, and quit talking before i say something really stupid.

but then you'd realize, he's still the same kid that i raised, and if we had a good relationship, i'm sure i can look past that.

as long as it's not my fault, you know, like those dads who pushed their sons too much they turned gay... as long as he didn't do it out of spite for me, as long as it makes him happy, i guess.

[Fairy_nd_meadow]

Truth is, I'd be disappointed, just as I will be disappointed if my child will not study long enough to finish a College degree at the very least. But he or she is still my child, and no matter who he/she chooses to be, for as long as he/she is happy, I'd be happy for him/her. :)

[stinky]

Originally posted by Fairy_nd_meadow
Truth is, I'd be disappointed, just as I will be disappointed if my child will not study long enough to finish a College degree at the very least. But he or she is still my child, and no matter who he/she chooses to be, for as long as he/she is happy, I'd be happy for him/her. :)

why would you be disappointed? unfair yata sa bata 'coz siguro nde naman nya ginusto un, s/he's just following her/his heart.

[Fairy_nd_meadow]

Originally posted by stinky
why would you be disappointed? unfair yata sa bata 'coz siguro nde naman nya ginusto un, s/he's just following her/his heart.

Well, tama ka dyan kabayan. Kaya lang, hindi mo maaalis sa akin na umasa na sana (kung lalaki sya) ay magkakaanak at magkakapamilya na parang isang tunay na ama ng tahanan. Kung babae naman, ganon din siguro.... parang gusto ko lang na naiintindihan ko ang kanyang stages sa buhay, at hindi ako mangangapa kung pano ko sya gagabayan. Alam ko rin na masasaktan sya sa pagiging gay o lesbian nya dahil sa environment, and I want to shield him/her from the pain. :(

[The_FLASH]

sorry double post... look down please....

[The_FLASH]

nasa upbringing po yan ng mga parents kong bakit nagiging bakla o lesbian ang mga anak nila..... somewhere between those childhood days eh may mga parents na gusting maging lalaki yung mga babae at gustong maging babae yung mga lalaki. oh dysfunctional yung family nila.

with proper upbringing naman di mangyayari yan....

tamang pagmamahal ang dapat ibigay sa mga bata.

kaso sa mga tv shows ngayon, movies oh ano mang type of medias na karamihan eh nakaka apekto sa mga bata.

mga kabaklaan sa tv ang mga nakikita nila. so anong mangyayari sa society natin... puro kabaklaan din....

grabeh..... be responsible parents will you??? wake up and buld a strong family values...

ang kulang kase sa atin ngayon eh yung mga responsible fathers.... nawawala na sila... puro overtime sa work.... wala ng time sa mga anak nila.... pati mothers... nawawala na din... gumigimik pa sa gabi....

[The_FLASH]

karamihan po na nabasa ko dito eh di nila alam kung ano gagawin nila. at susuportahan pa nila kung ano magiging decision nung anak nila... mali yata...

dapat sa childhood days pa lang eh ma train na sila kung alin ang tama at mali. at hindi dapat parents ang sumusunod sa mga bata.
kung ano ang gusto ng anak eh bigay luho tayo.. mali po yan...

kaya ho, hindi lang meron tayo ngayong mga dysfunctional parents pati mga bata nagiging dysfunctional din.

Proverbs 22:6
Train a child in the way he should go,
and when he is old he will not turn from it.


salamat ulit....

okies... no worries...

[Ice Burn]

In short, The_Flash, you are saying that homosexuality is purely the fault of the parents and can be curtailed...

Interesting...However, if it is purely the fault of the parents and the lack of moral upbringing and proper family values then all children of families with a homosexual child should be homosexuals since they probably have the same media exposure, same upbringing, same lifestyle exposed to, yet not all the children become homosexuals...Just a thought...

Hmmm...there seems to be more of an emphasis on gays-- acceptance, disappointments etc.. What about lesbians. How much easier, harder would a lesbian daughter be accepted?

[aajao]

i won't condemn my child nor be harsh on him/her. but i won't tolerate it. nah. :nope: children should be properly raised, from the very time he/she is capable of understanding, in all aspects: spiritually, physically, emotionally, morally.
although the environment contributes to the attitude that our children might develop, parents' role to their children is irreplaceable. learning starts at home, and the first teachers who should serve as role models are the parents themselves.
help the kids understand. they will learn things on their own, but always with the parents' guidance. ;)

ooppss... i'm not a father yet. :shutup:

[makulit_ako]

My response?


"KILL! KILL! KILL!"





:D

[aajao]

kill what? ...or is it, kill who? :hmm:

[ansons]

well, ayaw ko naman maging hypocrite, pero, siyempre sana huwag mangyari...

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[BuDwEiSeR#8]

:imu: I have a son,but If he turn gay in the near future (I cross my finger though)I't wont change anything, we still love him just the same,basta ba succesful sya and a good person,hindi naman kriminal ang pagiging bakla di bah?
Basta ba libre ako lagi sa manicure,pedicure,hot oil at kung ano ano pa...:glee:


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[miki187]

Originally posted by stinky
why would you be disappointed? unfair yata sa bata 'coz siguro nde naman nya ginusto un, s/he's just following her/his heart.

Won't YOU be dissapointed if your child becomes gay? Everyone would be i'm sure, pero you just have to accept it since its not really anyone's fault.

[the_BuGs]

hmmm mahirap sagutin yan hanga't nde pa nangyayari... pero shempre unang una dissapointed ka... at ano naging problema sa aming pagpapalaki

[sodemntough]

i know that it might be a possibilty since i have uncles who are open about their preferrence..I know that i will at first be disappointed but I know that I can also accept him. Because I love him and he is my child..

[st.anger]

how would you handle that?

[xtrbz]

one's love for his/her child should overcome that "fear/worry." Treat him/her as you would treat "any child". And make it clear to him/her as you would to any child the distinction between a male and a female.At least the child would know as he/she grows up what his/her sexuality really is and from there,hopes he/she won't commit what isn't the "norm" in the eyes of God. You see, whether gay or not, everyone commits sin. Realization is the best defense. HOpe he/she would grow up to be a spiritual person as everyone of us ought to be.

[Bea_]

I won't mind if my son would turn out to be gay if that's his sexual preference, I cannot change someone's preferences and sexuality, just because he happens to be my son. I don't own him, parents should just be there for guidance, and after sometime when the kid becomes an adult, we set them free to be by themselves, to be what they want and to choose what they need.
Mas ok na tanggapin mo kesa naman maging closet queen sya and suppressed mas nagiging wild mga ganun, tapos kapag matanda na kami saka ko madidiscover.

[cake1988]

Hi to everybody!!!

Greetings form d Lord!!!

If ever gay ang anak ko...1st I will Pray. 2nd i will always assure him na in spite gay siya i love him very much. Pero...3rd i will not encourage him na tama ang pagiging gay.

if ever talagang tuloy tuloy ang pagiging gay nya iisipin ko na lang positve things ...like its better to have a gay son..kaysa magkaroon naman ng straight na anak pero addict naman or staright na anak pero bastos sa magulang tapos yong gay son mapag-alaga naman sa parents

[riAbaby]

my child being gay wouldn't make me love him/her any less.

[toron]

I would definitely not love her/him less, but I'd try to correct that problem all the same.

[nowhereman]

Having a son, I have thought about that possibility. I wouldn't be troubled by his being gay. I'd be more concerned if he were sexually promiscuous, but that would hold true even if he were heterosexual. What's more important to my wife and I is that he grows up to be a good person who's responsible in his actions. And you can be that whether you're straight or you're gay.

[JdelaCruz]

Ayos yan! Libre gupit ng buong pamilya! :D :D :D

[freemind]

same treatment, same love, same amount of devotion...doesn't matter if he's straight or gay. I'd give him more support knowing that he'll face many hardships bec of his being gay, given that gay people are not fully accepted by the society.

[pattybee]

It would be heart-breaking at first. I guess this is a normal reaction. But at the end of the day, this is still my child and my love for her (I have a daughter) knows no bounds. Worse things could happen.

[Mordecai]

What do you mean by "gay"? A homosexual or just an iffeminate ("graceful" lang ang pagkilos)?

One needs counseling, the other still normal.

[Velvet14]

still your kid no matter what he / she become.




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[akane_xylene]

mommy, merong pinanganak na TRANSGENDER/TRANSEXUAL. Eto *** mga bata na mali ang na form na sexual organ. Nangyayari ito kapag weeks old palang ang baby sa tiyan. for example ang nangyayari, ang brain nila eh for a girl pero ang organ nila is a penis. mali d b? so may mga pinapanganak na ganon. I suggest you have your kid see a psychiatrist. kasi malaki ang suicidal incident ng mga transgenders. Napanood ko ito sa OPRAH.

Im not 100% sure correct sa mga terms ha kasi ang taggal na nung episode.

[progay]

What do you mean by "gay"? A homosexual or just an iffeminate ("graceful" lang ang pagkilos)?

One needs counseling, the other still normal.

Homosexuality needs no couselling according to the resolution of the American Psychological Association since 1973.

I believe it is homophobia and insistence on correcting homosexual orientation that needs counselling.

We have programs on counselling families who seek working on their family's collective worries on their gay children. It is the irrational fear of gayness that is the source of the problem, and not the sexuality of the child.

Sadly, there seems to be a very popular belief that homosexuality is a disease. With this belief, many gay children suffer from physical violence, unnecessary harassment and torture that they may later inflict on others when they become adults, then their bad behaviors get blamed on the homosexuality.

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[LEO24]

It His In His Genes, As They Say It Is In The Act That Makes It Bad To Be A Gay...just Make Sure When Youre Child Grows Up, He Will Not Do Dirty Things Like The Gays Are Used Doing To..i Know Some Gays Who Do Not Have Bf, Lovers Or Even Live-in Partners, It Is Immoral To Some...it What Makes Gay Bad, And I Believe It Is Written In The Bible.

[st.anger]

^HAHAHA! no more ALLCAPS for you :glee:

[Velvet14]

how would you handle that?

napaka-simple.. uunahin ko muna ang damdamin bilang ina, at uunawain ko ang anak ko ng buong puso.. Husgahan man siya ng mundong kanyang kinagagalawan.. But not me... I am not the one who will turn my back on my own child that I carried for 9 months.. and give her/him life to breath every day..

[progay]

It His In His Genes, As They Say It Is In The Act That Makes It Bad To Be A Gay...just Make Sure When Youre Child Grows Up, He Will Not Do Dirty Things Like The Gays Are Used Doing To..i Know Some Gays Who Do Not Have Bf, Lovers Or Even Live-in Partners, It Is Immoral To Some...it What Makes Gay Bad, And I Believe It Is Written In The Bible.

This is exactly the bullsh3t crap that makes the confusing love the sinner hate the sin kuno line a guaranteed cause for a gay person to become an emotional cripple all his life

He will not do the dirty things? You know some gays who do not have sex? Only narrow-minded bigots see dirt even in the cleanest things.

Instead of making a gay offspring come to terms sensibly with his sexuality, making him feel dirty will NOT ONLY not stop him from having sex with men, what will happen is he will be driven EVEN MORE into dangerous, indiscriminate and anonymous sex - mostly commercial sex - in the attempt to hide all signs from his family just to please them

i remember a british gay friend who claims the best sex partner are catholics who are so screwed-up in the "sin mentality" because the religious repression causes these men to seek even more sex and repeat the cycle of shame, guilt and violation until the gays fixate on having sex many times a day every day most days of the year

in comparison, gays who grow up with less hangups on sin but who get non-guilty sex education early in life tend to focus more on their careers and study

something to think about for uneducated or overeducated bigots...

[mhing_myaw]

ako type ko maging gay sya *** isa n ***. mron n ko boy mron p ko girl. ehehehe. ano *** feeling

[waxy]

Wow. I had a good time reading your posts. :)

Recently, I told my mom that I'm gay. She didn't get mad (thank God). She comforted me and even told me that being gay will never make me a lesser person. I felt good and lucky because she didn't take my revelation badly.

I have a gay friend though who doesn't have a "healthy" relationship with his parents. Why? Because his parents doesn't want him to be gay. They would always scold my friend and would always curse him for being gay. My gay friend hates his parents so much for not letting him to be the "REAL HIM".

I have an advise for some parents who have gay kids... Please don't be harsh on your kids. His/her social life might get affected if they will forever hide in their closets. Do you want that to happen? Just let your gay kids be themselves. That way, you and your kid will have a genuine relationship. That would be better right? At least he/she is not gonna hide anything from you. ;) Just tell your kids to be decent gays. Your kids should also know their limit on being homosexuals.

[progay]

Waxy, a very sound advice to parents everywhere

Accepting gays are not only good for families

Making gays fully participatory also boosts the bad economy of the country

If gays are made to feel bad everywhere, we will have even more reasons to leave the country and take our talents and contributions elsewhere

Even Singapore is making secret policies designed to attract gay experts into the tiny nation

[2424]

How will you deal with the situation?:D

[RosaLia]

ano man ang kahihina'tnan or kalalabasan ng bata...
Dugo at laman ko pa rin ang mananalaytay sa buong
pagka-tao niya... And of course me as a mother
and not born to be perfect... I will accept him
what or who ever will become when his turn
to be a man himself... I will let the God
be a judge for that kung maging Bakla O Tibo siya...
Because at the end of his time... my son,
will always, be God's child in Heaven

[DaNa8]

I will probably be disappointed the first time I learn about it. But he's still my child and I will accept him. I just hope he doesn't end up hurting himself in the process.

[Sweetkay]

I've actually thought this over the first time I learned I was pregnant. Tanggap ko. Tao pa rin siya, anak ko pa rin siya, at the end of the day, what matters is that he is my son and I love him. Kung bading siya, di bading. Will I be disappointed?

Not at all. Bakit ako madidisappoint? Bakla lang naman e. So he prefers men as well. Magwawala pa ako kung mamamatay tao siya o pusher. Yun mahihirapan ako tanggapin.

Being gay does not mean they are a lesser person.

[23and14]

my love for my son is unconditional. though it won't be easy at first, i will still love and accept him for who he is. i will be his numero unong kunsintidor.

Kaso lang, that scenario is the least thing i wanna happen to my son.....

[2424]

guys thanks for your opnion. it seems that all of you would difinitely accept wether your children will be a gay or a lesbian. madali naman tangapin yan e.pero lalaki kasi ako at malaking insulto para sa akin kung magiging bading man ang anak ko..lalaki kasi ako e..kung tibo man ang anak ko ok lang basta mukhang babae..pero ayoko ng bakla. siguro mostly puro babae kayo no?sa mga babae kasi ok lang magkaanak ng bakla, natutuwa pa nga sila doon e.

[DaNa8]

^^^
Hehe, kakatawa naman yung reply mo. Yup, all the replies you got are from moms. And I don't think matutuwa kami na magkaron ng anak na bading. Most of the gays nowadays also look straight too. But I don't think it's your son's fault if he prefers men over women. It's just sexual preference. He's still your son so you'll just have to learn to accept him.

[2424]

^^hehe wala pa akong anak wala pa din asawa, binata po ako..hehe..sabi na nga ba e puro nanay kayo..kasi iba talaga ang pagmamahal ng ina..sabi nga ng quote e ganito "there are 2 great kinds of love, the mothers love and the dog's"

[DaNa8]

^^^
So true, hehe. I think men are generally ma-pride that's why insulto sa kanila na magkaanak ng bading.

[darkmantra]

oks lang basta hnde magiging patapon ang buhay nila sa bandang huli.... ;) kung katulad ba naman nila, Fanny Serano, Rene Salud, Jun Incarnacion oks lang..

[sweetwahm]

I actually talked this over with mu husband when my son was born. You know, the what ifs. Hubby ko, confident na confident na di magiging bakla anak nya. Pero you never know, di ba? He said na kung ganun ang maging sexual orientation ng anak nyang lalaki (or babae), dapat yun tanggapin. Anak mo pa rin yun. Ang sa kanya lang... halimbawa bakla: maging respetable. What comes immediately to my mind is Boy Abunda and Fanny Serrano.

Syempre naman kung ikaw isang magulang, ayaw mo ng ganun. Kung lalaki, sana lalaki talaga, ang babae, babae talaga. Pero I agree with my hubby... as long as my son (or daughter, if I had one) grows up to respect themselves, respect others and be respectable people, tama na sa akin yun.

[baklita]

sa mga wagas na pusong tatanggap sa kanilang anak kahit ano
pa man ang kasarian nila... pwede akong magpaampon sanyo?
baklang-bakla po ako... 100% babae... external lalake. sus!

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[sweetwahm]

lahat kami aampon sa yo! Libre kami sa byuti parlor ha! :)

baklita, sobrang idol kita. Nakakatuwa ka naman.

[baklita]

sis sweetwahm... maraming salamat sayo. lubos nagagalak ang aking puso
sayong pag-ampon sakin. muah!

lahat din ay inaanyayahan kong dumalo saking byuti parlor at magpagupit.
*** maging suki ay libre ang unang gupit... libre tsika, libre tsismis, libre
biro at tawa. hwag kalimutan ang tip ko noh, pwede?

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[chin_08]

kailangan tanggapin at bigyan lalo n malawak n pangunawa.:)

[Ludwina]

love them for who they are

[RosaLia]

sa mga wagas na pusong tatanggap sa kanilang anak kahit ano
pa man ang kasarian nila... pwede akong magpaampon sanyo?
baklang-bakla po ako... 100% babae... external lalake. sus!

aihihihi!!!

baklita




ikaw pa... magiging kuya ate ka ng dalawa kong tsikiting...
Makaka-sundo mo ang bunso ko mahilig mag-hi-light ng
buhok tuwing papasok sa school.... Let see sa loob
ng isang buwan ilan na ba ang binili kong hair color
stylin' gel...

Yellow: sabi niya gusto niya daw maging Look -alike ni Yu-Gi-OH
Redcolor gusto daw niyang maging look alike sa Gundams Wings...
Light silver: gusto na maging Power Ranger....

iyung bunso ko mas marami pang abub'yerya sa buhok niya kesa sa akin...

[2424]

yup i understand kailangang tangapin at may malawak na pagunawa pero hangang saan?yes may mga respetado namang mga bading tulad nila ricky reyes at boy abunda, pero may mga bading na hindi. :)

[nowhereman]

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with people who are gay. Not physically, emotionally, mentally, or morally. They just have a different sexual preference. So I wouldn't find anything wrong with my son being gay. I would be worried a bit because I know that not everyone he meets will be able to accept the fact that he's gay, but in no way will I be ashamed of him or be disappointed by his sexual orientation. What's more important for me is that he grows up to be a decent and responsible person.

BUT we will get into arguments if he decides to wear women's clothing or make up. I don't really believe in the whole "man trapped inside a woman's body" thing. I think men can be gay without being "screaming *******."

[Geeboy]

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with people who are gay. Not physically, emotionally, mentally, or morally. They just have a different sexual preference. So I wouldn't find anything wrong with my son being gay. I would be worried a bit because I know that not everyone he meets will be able to accept the fact that he's gay, but in no way will I be ashamed of him or be disappointed by his sexual orientation. What's more important for me is that he grows up to be a decent and responsible person.

BUT we will get into arguments if he decides to wear women's clothing or make up. I don't really believe in the whole "man trapped inside a woman's body" thing. I think men can be gay without being "screaming *******."

I definitely agree!!!*okay* Ako masgugustuhin ko magkaanak ng gay (as noted by nowhereman) kaysa tomboi, lalo na *** mala lolit solis *** hitsura na mukhang mas lalaki pa saakin*peace*

[2424]

sa tingin ko lang e lahat kayo mga maliliit pa ang mga anak o di kaya ay single pa. wala naman masama kung bading man o tomboy ang magiging anak niyo o hindi e. i have repect for the gays, marami namang contribution ang mga gays sa mundo e..pero some gays ive lost my respect, with the likes of micheal jackson and jojo veloso..

wala namang masama kung may anak kayo na bading o tomboy e basta ba may mga kapatid pa siya na normal... e paano kasi kung ang anak mo ay iisa lang at bading pa?e di wala ng magdadala ng apeliyido mo at mapuputol na ang lahi mo diba? kung iisa lang magiging anak ko gusto ko ng anak na lalaki para may magdadala pa ng lahi ko for the future generations...at makikita ko din ang itsura ng magiging apo ko...yun lang point of view ko..kung lima lang anak ko ok lang siguro kung isa dun ay bading..pero kung nagiisa lang no way.

[darth_vader]

parang ang sakit isipin na magkakaron ako ng anak ng bading. huwag naman sana. but dito naman sa US, yung mga bading are not like the gays in the Philippines na masyadong garapal. so eventually siguro tanggap ko rin pero ngayon talaga, parang hindi ko pa kaya....hahahahaha....but of course anak ko yun and i would love him for who he is.....

but like what 2424 said, i'll make sure na lang na i can afford to have many kids so that if ever may tomboy or bading, hindi masyado masakit...

[kaylamarie]

I will probably be disappointed the first time I learn about it. But he's still my child and I will accept him. I just hope he doesn't end up hurting himself in the process.


Very well said! I'd feel the same way....

[baklita]

tanong ko laang sa bansa natin... bakit dumadami ang mga bakla eh
di **** sila nanganganak? lintek na aso ko... gusto prati nakalipistik!
bubunutan ko *** ng kilay.

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[baklita]

kung magkaanak ako ng maliit na baklita... tuturuan ko agad manggupit ng
buhok, manicure, pedicure, magpilantik ng daliri, ang tamang pagkindat at
kung paano lumakad sa entablado sa mga byuti pageant. sa tangkad ko ***
syang manalo sa miss universe gay, miss world gay, miss international gay,
miss out-of-this-earth gay. sige na't gagawa nako ng maliit na baklita...

aihihihi!!!

baklita

[eidon]

Sana totoo ang mga mabubuting nasabi dito...
Sorry to say this but i find some post here to be some kind of hypocrisy... saying that they will be disappointed and complementing it with saying that they think what would the world think about their child but deep inside it is just of themselves, thingking what would other people say to them for having such kind of child, or what kind of parents are them for not guiding their child... na magiging kahiyahiya sila sa mga kamag-anak at kaibigan nila dahil sa kanilang anak...
It is the instinct of people to think for themselves first before the others lalo na ang mga lalaki (tunay na lalaki kuno... pwede ba)...

[pilyangkikay]

hindi ko talaga alam kung ano mararamdaman ko kung maging lesbian ang bebe ko. pero ang sigurado, pinapalaki ko ang aking anak na maging bukas ang isip at may respeto sa mga tao anuman ang kanilang itsura, lahi, katayuan sa buhay at kasarian.

[DELISYUS]

i'd sure feel bad... i'd probably cry... probably go thru denial... probably rage against heaven knows what...

but in the end... hubs and I know that we're the first people to love and protect our children... and not even a sexual/lifestyle preference as huge as this one could ever take away our love for them...

but of course, we'd insist that they lead decent lives... no matter the sexual orientation...