Need advice: Gay flatmate

[foobar]

I'm sorry to link these two threads but I posted it in another PEx forum and thought you guys might also have input.

http://www.pinoyexchange.com/forums/showthread.php?t=213881

[Karasu]

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I read the other replies by people and all of them do have a point.

If he minds his own business and doesn't interfere with your activities, etc. then everything should be fine. PLUS, the fact that he said up front that he was gay and err... well, was totally honest about it basically proves na wala siyang pinaplanong err... monkey business about you. So there. :D

[ArnoldZ]

What about yourself? Think deeply and express yourself honestly, are you gay, bi or hetero?
Looks like your flatmate is honest and sure about his sexuality, a homo, and you aren't. And when you have to ask questions on what to do about your situation, it appears that you are not sure of yourself. A man would not have a problem dealing with the situation.
A man would know what his own priority is. a man would act accordingly with his priorities and what is important in his own life.
If people talking behind your back is important, then find someother place.
If the place is what is important, then forget what others will say.

And I have something to say about being worried about what others will say: No matter what anyone does, people will always talk and think of something behind one's back. Nobody can stop that. Tha't how people are. If what people are thinking and saying behind your back is true, then you should be the first one to know that. And that should not bother you, they are talking about what you already know about yourself. If people are thinking and talking about you things that are not true, then what's your worry? It's not true. That means that they know nothing about you but you know something about them, they are gossipers.

Your friends? Maybe they envy you. They think you would have a chance to experiment on something they all wanted to do in the first place, how about that?
Or maybe, you are surprised that your flatmate do not fall into your stereotype of a gay person and maybe you are tempted to have a relationship after all, just not sure how it will end, and what if you fall badly in love with him and he treats you just like another one of his tricks. You have complicated your life for nothing. Whatever your sexual orientation is, don't get carried, don't justify staying because of the place. Leave. Don't cross the border into an unfamiliar place you've never been before or you've never dreamt at all. Do what you have to do only when you are sure of yourself. Don't let theplace or other people decide for you.

It's no different when choosing a course or subject in your college days, you don't choose your course because the university looks good or because your friends think it is a good one for you. You choose a course because it is what yuou think you want and can handle and what you want to be doing with your future.

[wwf_stone]

so what if he's gay? so what if you share the same flat? they're right. as long as he minds his own business and doesn't interfere with what you do then it's ok. don't get in his way either to prevent arguements and conflict.

[¡ntens¡ty1214]

if you're not comfortable with the whole thing, move out.

:)