Sex Education [Merged]

[Econ_major]

hello guys. im just asking for some inputs and opinions on the issue of when is the most appropriate time for a child to knwo about sex. is it during childhood (7-11) or in their adolescence. coz im writing a paper about the issue. please help me !

thnks !!!

[eileen_m]

when a child turns 13

[Sweetkay]

A kid wouldn't know what to do with info like that at the age of 7. Unless of course, he or she is exposed to that kind of environment.

Tender age [12 years and up] would be the good start because this is when changes in their body start. This is when the hormones start to get in the way of the mind. This is when they start becoming curious about the opposite sex and sex itself.

Hope I was able to help.

:flower:

[YoBaKs]

12

nasabi na ni Sweetkay yung dapat kong ipo-post eh!

[st.anger]

let's face it, one way or another, children are going to know about it.

as parents, do you even believe that it's important for children to learn about it straight from your mouths? at what age should you start discussing it with them? and how?

[jazzmine22]

i think when my child starting to ask, where did she come from..and how. Ill tell her the truth then ill start teaching her the do's and dont's, just to educate her, so she'll know.

[pro_tempore]

umm... i don't have a child yet, and i'm not looking to have one anytime soon :D but i've been thinking about this.

someone close to me is actively against the teaching of sex ed in elementary schools. i'm not sure what to think about this either. what we haven't talked about is teaching the child sex ed at home. i really don't know... because while i believe it would be best for the child to learn the facts from his parents, i can easily imagine myself being euphemistic to a 4-year-old. i'll go "i'll tell you when you're older," then rack my brains thinking about going into details when s/he's 9 or so.

[shiesha]

birds and the bees.. really a hard topic to disscuss. but when my children start to ask.. i'll tell everything i know.. but you know.. excluding the nitty gritty stuff. but of corse, it comes with age.. appropriate age.. comes with appropriate information.

[GreatBop]

i'll let him use my pron collection for educational purposes.

[bleh]

Dr. Spock's answer was to tell it to them as straight as possible. i would, as scientifically as possible. hopefully i have the nat geo clips of animals having sex by then so it's easier.

i would rather demystify sex and take the thrill out of finding out about it in the wrong sources (smutty materials or sleazy friends).

[ms_derma]

that's a good suggestions bleh.. show your kids animal pictures

my parents didn't talk about it. i had to ask my mom about it now that i am in my early twenties. i was just so clueless about it all, and i was so embarrassed about it bec my dad would make it seem like it such a bad thing. so there, i think as soon as your children reaches the age of puberty, you should go ahead and de-mystify sex to your kids so they won't go looking for it

[Flaming_waters]

di naman po ako parent (high school palang po ako)... pero makikishare nalang...

my parents never discussed sex with me (which is quite normal considering the fact that i never really discuss anything with them) but i know some stuff about it... I guess kids (like me) will learn anyway even if you dont discuss it with them...

*peace*

[bleh]

in your case, Flaming_waters, since you didn't ask your parents, you prolly don't wanna find out about sex from them anyway. no meaningful conversation will result, just an awkward one.

it would be nice tho, even for conservative parents, that once they sense their children may have started exploring sexual relationships (hirap tanggapin pero nangyayari talaga sa buhay) they should sit down with their kids and have a sincere discussion with them. we have a responsibility to make our children understand the choices they are making and the consequences, and once this understanding is imparted, our children should know that the responsibility rests on their shoulders. we are only their guides, and sometimes tyrants they grow fond of rebelling against. as much as some of us would threaten children to comply, we will only be met with equal resistance over time (except in certain cases).

we'll know when our kids are ready for more responsibilities soon as they ask. we shouldn't hold back information so as not to break their trust. (pero wag namang mga bastos! hehehe)

[Sweetkay]

I think it's better if they find out from you. That way, it'll be the right info. Isa pa, pag pinigilan mo, lalong manggigil alamin e. I should know. I was that way.

Just tell it straight out. No glorified version.

[jisc]

Just want to ask the parents here, kahit na baby pa yung anak nyo o malaki na. Are you in favor on safe sex education when your children reach high school? :confused:

actually i myself dont know whether its good or not for my kids. yes i want them to learn safe sex and all, but how can they teach our kids safe sex without teaching sex? and with the degrading level of competency of our teachers, would i want them teaching my daughter about this sensitive topic?

teaching sex and safe sex is very tricky, you have to have the right timing and the right words, without inferring to them that they have permision to have sex. or even waking their senses about it. this kind of thing needs to be handled gracefully, now would i entrust that delicate education to a teacher who i dont know if she really gives a damn to my daughter?

so parents, whats your take on this? :)

[Guile]

As a 24 year old guy advising a mom:

Once your son or daughter decides to have sex, there's nothing you can do to stop it because there are tons of ways of doing it without the parents knowing it.

For example, if your son's girlfriend live in a house without her parents in it, it's a pretty much a 95% guarantee that something will happen, assuming that both of them are open to the idea of pre-marital sex.

The decision to engage or not oneself in pre-marital sex is primarily based on a person's view on sexuality, and parents, I admit, are generally not good in monitoring their son's/daughter's philosophical evolution (at least in the context of sexuality).

I know a lot of people who have experienced adventurous sex, but are hardly educated at it, at all.

In the long run, it's better for young people to be educated, since I doubt that any parent would educate their children about it at all, nor would the childrend be willing up to open up sex related conversations with their parents.

[w_boy]

As parents, we need to take a very realistic view of our world today and of our kids' physical, mental, and emotional development during their adolescent years.

Their hormones are raging and nothing is going to stop them from having sex once they have decided to do it.

Given the above, I strongly support having safe sex education taught in our schools. Our children need to be aware of the risks and the precautions they need to take should they decide to engage in sexual activities. Ignorance is our main enemy, not sex.

[easter]

actually i myself dont know whether its good or not for my kids. yes i want them to learn safe sex and all, but how can they teach our kids safe sex without teaching sex? and with the degrading level of competency of our teachers, would i want them teaching my daughter about this sensitive topic?


What a great question! The person who ultimately cares about your kids is you of course. So teaching about sex should start and stop with you! Pleas read this article.

http://www.familiesonlinemagazine.com/christian_parenting_sex.html

[Ice Burn]

The biggest mistake parents do is relying on someone else to discuss sex and sex education with your kids. Sex education should start at home.

[jisc]

maybe, if this is inevitable, then maybe i should make my kids aware of thing called sex, skip the birds and the bees and the storks stories, and just tell them i facked their mother. and at the same time, tell them that its a forbidden thing. but that would be tricky.

[Sweetkay]

I think it's important that they also get proper training in school since most Filipino parents are a bit icky on this subject.

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[familyplanning]

The relationship between population growth and development is best understood in everyday realities like food, security, health, education and housing.

Can our country meet the food requirement of its people?

If you think so, why are the majority hungry?
I need not place in statistics to prove this point; simply drive around town and you'll see what I mean.

Can our country cover the health needs of our people?

Go to public hospitals and see the facilities and hundreds of people who fall in line waiting for their turn.

Shouldn't we be sexually responsible so we do not contribute to the rising population?

Aside from that, shouldn't we get tested for STD or HIV since we are already a sexually active generation?

How about contraceptives? What's your opinion on the matter?

I know the country has alot of problems, but the simplest thing of telling your friend to use a condom, get tested, or be sexually responsible goes a long way in making our country develop faster and further.

Now, what say you? :p


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[chunkyrice]

The recent sex education controversy involving the Catholic Church’s insistence on discontinuing the implementation of DepEd’s Lesson Guides on Adolescent Reproductive Health in the High School Curriculum only proved what little concern, let alone respect they have, for the nation’s youth to be well-informed about their reproductive health and rights. The Church would rather keep students ignorant about the topic of sex, and if they were to venture into uncharted territory and make mistakes, they would pay for it dearly. The Church also decided to pass the buck onto the parents when it comes to educating their children about sex. Not only is that easier said than done, it assumes that all parents are flawless experts on the matter. As it is, “the birds and the bees” is of the most awkward topics to broach during a child’s coming-of-age, not just for the tween/teen but for mommy and daddy as well.

While people, even parents, may have made mistakes in the past and learned from them, it’s never too late for young people, if given the proper access to information through education or sheer resourcefulness, to be in-the-know about sex (for making babies) and other related issues – premarital sex, safe sex and contraception, teen pregnancy, rape/molestation, incest, abortion, child prostitution and trafficking, pornography, sexually transmitted diseases, population etc. Such smarts could either prevent many situations that they may not be physically or emotionally prepared to deal with, or help them confront and cope with unfortunate incidents.

To have or not to have sex ed also has a bearing on our population. Both our economic development and reproductive health as a nation hang in the balance on what the youth know or do not know about sex and their bodies.

1.Do you think you can educate your child/children about sex? If so, how would you go about it?

2.Do you need to train yourself to talk to your kid/s about sex? How so?

3.Do you think sex is dirty? Do you consider certain parts of the body dirty?