Super quiet boy needs help

[registrant]

Help me guys, what is the best job that will fit to my personality? I am in my mid 20's and I have been shifting to jobs that didn't last for months and I have piled up to 7 jobs. The problem is that I can actually converse with people around me with regards to work but I have zero sense of humor and I dont have the initiative to speak because I grew up like not speaking much. I am not a serious person I laugh at people's joke but that's all that I can do smile. :mecry:

I keep on moving because I can't last the distance of feeling other workers together while I am a loner. I wish I didn't study college and become a janitor instead so that my parents will openly accept my job.:mecry::(

[c0Rinthian]

programmer?

[registrant]

programmer?

I am not a computer talented boy :(I am just a simple college graduate. These are my choices an office clerk, a front desk clerk hotel, a cashier, collector in a non call center, a waiter, a room attendant in a ship or hotel, airport ground staff???

But if you could please give me a sitting selection because I had a foot injury that made me jobless for 1 year. So I cannot apply for standing jobs posted above. :mecry:

[lifetripper]

For a loner or melancholic person like you, nababagay na trabaho sa yo artist, programmer, researcher, writer, musician, scientist, atbp.

Tingnan mo yung skills, talents at inclination mo. Then, idevelop mo to at pwede mong gawing career. Pwede ka pang mag-aral kung gusto mo, kahit self study.

[lifetripper]

Kaya lang sa tingin ko, gusto mo mga manual at di mental jobs.

[gwaping17]

Relax. Unless you're a stand-up comic, sense of humor is something you can do without.

[Aranda_Bay]

Help me guys, what is the best job that will fit to my personality? I am in my mid 20's and I have been shifting to jobs that didn't last for months and I have piled up to 7 jobs. The problem is that I can actually converse with people around me with regards to work but I have zero sense of humor and I dont have the initiative to speak because I grew up like not speaking much. I am not a serious person I laugh at people's joke but that's all that I can do smile. :mecry:

I keep on moving because I can't last the distance of feeling other workers together while I am a loner. I wish I didn't study college and become a janitor instead so that my parents will openly accept my job.:mecry::(

Maybe it can help the others help you by posting here what were those jobs and why you left them. IMHO, you have to face and overcome your greatest weaknesses instead of finding jobs that will adapt to them.

When I was in college, I wasn't that much of a personality and preferred to take a backseat to friends who have stronger personalities. In the end I usually ebbed with the tide, go with the flow or otherwise just kept to myself. Everything changed when I started my first job in sales. It was like sink or swim for me. Pakapalan ng mukha dahil hindi lang pride nakasalalay sa akin kundi my very own livelihood.

[tigress7]

Try to learn how to program. Basically, it's just you and the PC most of the time. :) Or you can start working from home. But you know, you can't be forever like that. You have to learn to speak up and socialize. The world won't wait for you.

[registrant]

Kaya lang sa tingin ko, gusto mo mga manual at di mental jobs.

yeah please im not talented please tell me if an office clerk is the answer to it i prefer the room attendant but it is a standing position and i need a sitting job because of my injury? because i foresee that office clerks are simple persons.

[registrant]

Try to learn how to program. Basically, it's just you and the PC most of the time. :) Or you can start working from home. But you know, you can't be forever like that. You have to learn to speak up and socialize. The world won't wait for you.

I am not a computer science geek. Believe me, if I can only put Bill Gate's mind on me then I will definitely be on this job. But you see, this job is inborn.

The other thing that is I am not Sam Milby or Dennis Trillo. They are very quiet persons but they have the looks, appeal, talents, body and almost everything that their quietness overtook them because people still like them.

But who am I? I am the opposite of them :mecry: I pray to the Lord but I don't want to blame him for evrything that he has done for us. At some point I wanted to commit suicide because everything has been wrong for me, I am always nagged by my parents, i dont have friends - maybe with simple men only but they come and go and I'm starting to get old and I badly need a help.

[Aranda_Bay]

Maybe you should then. Hopefully reincarnation is true and you'll come back to life as...worse?

You're an embarassment buddy. I've seen paraplegics, people with harelips and otherwise grotesque people have more life and hope than you. Kung baga sa mga wildebeeste sa Africa, you are weak and elimination of weak individuals such as you benefits the human race in the long run.

You're a waste of bandwidth to say the least.

[registrant]

Maybe you should then. Hopefully reincarnation is true and you'll come back to life as...worse?

You're an embarassment buddy. I've seen paraplegics, people with harelips and otherwise grotesque people have more life and hope than you. Kung baga sa mga wildebeeste sa Africa, you are weak and elimination of weak individuals such as you benefits the human race in the long run.

You're a waste of bandwidth to say the least.

I need help here sir you're not in my position please bare with me. I made this thread to get help and not get cracked.

Dont underrate me because I have hope I am a newly revivied person because of God. I just need someone to help me find a suitable position that will make my career last because you are not in my shoes you dont feel how a loner feels.

There were lots of times that I attempted to remove it from my memory and work for a call center but 3 times I resigned. My other 2was on local call centers. The other was a customer officer for a telecom branch.

[tigress7]

@registrant

That mindset will not get you anywhere. As I see it, you lack self-esteem. You are your enemy. Like what Aranda_Bay said, there are other people who are way way worse than you. I suggest you change your perspective in life. I am not insulting you or anything similar to that, I just want to help you out. And I hope you listen to this advice. I know it is not that easy to change, but that is just a pathetic excuse to not try. You need to boost your self-esteem, start with that. Read tips, there are a lot on the internet. Good luck to you.

[tigress7]

Whatever job you are in, you still need to mingle with other people.

[Ice Burn]

this guy reminds me of this scene... :lol:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M1lVwpPLSx0

[Aranda_Bay]

I need help here sir you're not in my position please bare with me. I made this thread to get help and not get cracked.

Dont underrate me because I have hope I am a newly revivied person because of God. I just need someone to help me find a suitable position that will make my career last because you are not in my shoes you dont feel how a loner feels.

There were lots of times that I attempted to remove it from my memory and work for a call center but 3 times I resigned. My other 2was on local call centers. The other was a customer officer for a telecom branch.

Oooh...did I hurt your feelings?





Loser? :rotflmao:




You're looking for a superhero here? A Dr. Phil who'll have answers for all your problems? And what are you going to do if he does have the answers? Its pretty much useless if you don't have the spine to execute it. Right?







Loser? :rotflmao:










Get used to me here buddy, as you will be encountering people worse than me throughout your real (read: not virtual) life. :rolleyes:






Just give everything up.Curl up and die. Wilt. Pass away. Surrender.









Loser.

[AbulugAdventure]

TS: I agree with tigress. You have to mingle with others. Sila yung kliyente mo, makakatulong sa iyo, boss mo, ka-opisina mo, they are everywhere. Pero kung gusto mo talaga na nasa "likod" ka lang, try a programmer or any other science-based position.

[Gide0n]

mid-20's ka pa lang. mag-aral ka ng programmer o web designer. pag marunong ka na, mag freelancer ka. sa bahay ka lang magtatrabaho, kausap mo client mo sa YM/AIM/MSN/ICQ/e-mail.

bagay sa personality mo, di mo kelangan magsalita. yun nga lang, mapapamura ka sa kakulitan ng clients mo :D

[Aranda_Bay]

He neither has the will nor the inclination to learn computer based jobs as he termed it as "inborn"

So programmers are born. They are not trained!

I am not a computer science geek. Believe me, if I can only put Bill Gate's mind on me then I will definitely be on this job. But you see, this job is inborn.

If you had Bill Gates' mind, you'd be a programmer? Not even a millionaire? 'Coz Bill Gates is a billionaire. :bop:


Gusto mo maging roomboy pero hindi mo matagalan na nakatayo?


Hmmmm...


Ano kaya pwede?....


Mamalimos ka kaya? Hanap kang pwesto sa overpass?

[japspt]

home-based jobs? ayan wala ka na talagang officemate jan :)

[tigress7]

One advantage of working from home is that nobody will see you but just hear your voice. That's a good start to boost your self-esteem. :) Kahit yung walang alam sa programming sa umpisa nagiging magaling. Sanayan lang yan.

I hope you won't get mad at Aranda_Bay.

To quote Aranda_Bay

Get used to me here buddy, as you will be encountering people worse than me throughout your real (read: not virtual) life.

That is VERY true. It's reality. It's life. I know he has good intentions and is just trying to help you. Sometimes we need to hear the truth no matter how it hurts in order to improve ourselves.

:)

Good luck to you.

[sirianne]

hmmm..
dahil yan ang weakness mo..
yan siguro ang punan mo ng pansin sa ***** kung wala ka pang job..


sali ka siguro sa mga clubs like
sa mga barangy (may mga clubs ata dito), maging active ka sa simbahan nio,
or kung may kakilala kng nanaggMLM (multilevel marketing) pwede ka din sumali dun libre naman kasi ang training dun..
madami ka pang ma memeet na tao...
sanayin mo lang sarili mo..

[Aranda_Bay]

One advantage of working from home is that nobody will see you but just hear your voice. That's a good start to boost your self-esteem. :) Kahit yung walang alam sa programming sa umpisa nagiging magaling. Sanayan lang yan.

I hope you won't get mad at Aranda_Bay.

To quote Aranda_Bay



That is VERY true. It's reality. It's life. I know he has good intentions and is just trying to help you. Sometimes we need to hear the truth no matter how it hurts in order to improve ourselves.

:)

Good luck to you.

I actually don't care if he gets mad at me. I mean who the fvck is he? He just admitted here how inconsequential he is in the grand scheme of things. He just wants to go through life safe with as little obstacles as possible. He can't even stand up to an internet bully, how can he stand up to bullies in real life?

Mas mabuti pa yung maid ko kahit P3,000 lang sweldo kada buwan at hindi man lang nakatapos ng High school may diskarte sa buhay at nakakapag sideline pa ng Avon. Etong bida natin marunong gumamit ng computer nakakapag ingles dahil nakapag call center at nakakapag post sa mga Forums would rather...ah ewan!


Oh well, that's enough keystrokes I'm gonna waste in this thread as the TS may have already hanged himself. Goodnight loser! :rolleyes:

[eww14]

Guard na night shift, wala kang kakausapin, nakaupo ka pa magdamag :)

[blue_da_loo]

hay naku!! ako all day akong walang kausap well nasanay nalang ako. isa lang ako sa team noh! lol! mas maganda na meron kang kausap!

papano ka aasenso niyan? :bop:

[tigress7]

Well, let's just see his reaction then. Hoping he will do something about himself. If not, oh well at least we tried.

[japspt]

isipin mo na lang *** iba nga hirap na hirap maghanap ng trabaho...ok lang ***** sa umpisa, na resign ng resign kung di ka masaya sa work mo...pero iba na kung in a span of how many months eh nakakailang work ka na. masama nang tignan ang resume mo sa magiging prospective employer mo nyan.

[Singularity]

What I think you really want is to have the simplicity of life, something without the rush and bustle of the rat race and the dog-eat-dog mentality of life. I also know that getting out of ruts like these isn't exactly easy. If it was as easy as just willing yourself to be a better person, then it would be fine and dandy. Too bad it's not eh? People are different. For some people, they have to see psychologists to be happy. Some people kill themselves over things like grades and pay - stupid inconsequential things in the whole shebang.

Do I understand why they do that? No... but I won't judge them because I don't know how their minds work or what type of person they are. I would be a ****ing arrogant person to claim to know what a person's problem is, or even have the insight to tell them what's best. That's something they would have to decide on their own. At best, all people can do is encourage them and give them advice.

Well here is my advice. Start small and take it a step at a time. Want to be an office clerk? Go ahead. If it makes you happy... if you can live with the salary and the lifestyle. First of all why do you have to care what others think about your work? Will they be running your life? If so, don't let them. Got fired? Look for a new job. Want to work in a blue-collar field? Then do it. Hell, I think a lot of blue-collar workers are more dignified than so called "executives". Use the internet as a resource, search for possible jobs that you can have. Use it as a tool to learn more about yourself.

Me? I'd say work you should work in an NGO or a place where you can help people. That's what I did when I didn't know what to do with my life. And it did change me a lot.

[neni0hk]

try mo sumali sa pageant para ma boost *** self esteem mo haha :D

[vinoi]

dahil lang sa lumaki kang tahimik at nagkaron ng injury e mas pipiliin mo maging clerk at room attendant? taas taasan mo pangarap mo pre sayang pinag aralan mo kung sakali. sa pagkikipag usap mo palang dito halatang kulang or wala kang self esteem, mababa or walang self confidence, that will lead you nowhere dude, bata ka pa, try to mingle with other people lalo na sa mga nakakatrabho mo wag mong gawing dahilan yang injury mo mawawala din yan.

Try mo mag apply sa mga jobs na kelangan ng Interaction sa ibang tao gaya ng call center, daming mga taong makakausap dun. Or subukan mo mag apply maging barista para madami ka din makakaharap na mga tao. Kaya mo yan

[registrant]

What I think you really want is to have the simplicity of life, something without the rush and bustle of the rat race and the dog-eat-dog mentality of life. I also know that getting out of ruts like these isn't exactly easy. If it was as easy as just willing yourself to be a better person, then it would be fine and dandy. Too bad it's not eh? People are different. For some people, they have to see psychologists to be happy. Some people kill themselves over things like grades and pay - stupid inconsequential things in the whole shebang.

Do I understand why they do that? No... but I won't judge them because I don't know how their minds work or what type of person they are. I would be a ****ing arrogant person to claim to know what a person's problem is, or even have the insight to tell them what's best. That's something they would have to decide on their own. At best, all people can do is encourage them and give them advice.

Well here is my advice. Start small and take it a step at a time. Want to be an office clerk? Go ahead. If it makes you happy... if you can live with the salary and the lifestyle. First of all why do you have to care what others think about your work? Will they be running your life? If so, don't let them. Got fired? Look for a new job. Want to work in a blue-collar field? Then do it. Hell, I think a lot of blue-collar workers are more dignified than so called "executives". Use the internet as a resource, search for possible jobs that you can have. Use it as a tool to learn more about yourself.

Me? I'd say work you should work in an NGO or a place where you can help people. That's what I did when I didn't know what to do with my life. And it did change me a lot.

Thank you for your advice. I appreciated it. :)

About your question sir, because even if i dont mind about them, its so hard to live my daily life with co workers who i cannot say anything much, they will notice it and they will start buzzing about me, they will not talk to me also, they don't like me and they will go in groups even if i join with them i will look like i dont what to say who doesnt speak because i dont have much things to say with them not unless i speak to simple persons like me i have this simple sense of humor that i can relate with them. mostly simple people are simple men.

[jdash]

to TS:

keep this short message in you

"You are whatever you think you are"



that's how our mind works *okay*

[c0Rinthian]

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[~Golliwog]

Ganitong klase yung masarap buntal-buntalin sa school. :rotflmao:

[Singularity]

http://shyandquiet.com/

Try to read this blog. I think it's something similar to what you're experiencing right now. This place isn't the best place to get sympathy from people, so you would probably better off finding people who have similar problems as you do, and will understand you better.

I think you have a bit of social anxiety. It's a disorder, so it's not as easy to get rid off as just willing yourself. Try to find resources about it, I believe there are many websites dedicated to this. It will be tons more helpful than asking in these forums.

[haripoter]

Explore outside your comfort zone.
Expand your horizon.

Get out of your CAVE and get a LIFE!

[lizziebare]

Thank you for your advice. I appreciated it. :)

About your question sir, because even if i dont mind about them, its so hard to live my daily life with co workers who i cannot say anything much, they will notice it and they will start buzzing about me, they will not talk to me also, they don't like me and they will go in groups even if i join with them i will look like i dont what to say who doesnt speak because i dont have much things to say with them not unless i speak to simple persons like me i have this simple sense of humor that i can relate with them. mostly simple people are simple men.

what's wrong with being quiet? bakit ka magwoworry sa iisipin at sasabihin nila? wala kang sense of humor? eh di huwag kang humirit ng jokes. hindi naman kailangan na magpakitang gilas ka na funny and smart ka. yang simple persons na sinasabi mo, eh dun ka na lang makipag-usap. I've met a lot of quiet persons pero hindi naman kasing-awkward mo, at marunong din humirit kahit papaano. tsaka hindi lahat ng simpleng tao ay tahimik, simple is such a relative word.

you seriously need professional help.

[jay372011]

Di ko naman ma gets bakit galit sila sayo dito? I mean that is your personality and just asking for advice? Anyway....

Meron akong kamag anak na tulad mo - super first degree kami PERO HINDI KAMI NAGUUSAP SA MGA GATHERINGS:( gets mo ba yon? As in purong magkadugo kayo pero if hindi ako mag initiate ng usapan- wala talaga parehong panis ang laway namin.:lol: Ang kaibahan lang sayo - they have great jobs and are in it for 5 years or more. Bakit kaya sila na super duper mega over silent type can get and maintain their jobs - ikaw hindi? Kayo ba ng mga kamag anak mo naguusap? Kasi kami hindi talaga - ayoko na nga pumunta sa kanila dahil mamamatay lang ako sa ka boringan. Isang tanong- isang sagot. Super duper hina pa na di mo maintindihan- pero in fairness brainy sila. Baka napaparanoid ka lang kaya.

My tip try to overcome this pipi attitude and if not- mag ipon ka at mag negosyo ka. Buy and sell or sari sari store - kasi dito kahit walang talkies puwede - ituturo lang sayo ang gusto nila - suklian mo naman sila. Sa Xiamen China walang Engilish duon - puro calculator kaya in shot PUWEDE KA MAG BUSINESS. Hope nakatulong me ***.:)

[oregano]

hi registrant!

you remind me of how i was when i was in my awkward pre-teen stage (mga 11-15 years old). I was super shy and I was always assuming that people were thinking the worst of me. My parents transferred me to a different high school and it was the worst experience of my life. Feeling ko ang baduy ng tingin sakin ng mga tao. i didn't really talk much. ang kina kaibigan ko lang yung mga mukhang tahimik din. araw araw akong umiiyak kasi ayoko sa school ko. all girls school yun at maraming maarte, feeling ko tingin nila sakin pangit, corny, etc. Anyway, everyday I would cry to my mom and I BEGGED her to send me back to my old school, where the population was much smaller. But she wouldn't hear of it. Pero nung di ako tumitigil sa kakaiyak, she brought me to a child psychologist. Hehe. Pero mga naka 2 sessions lang ako. Konting usap lang naman about adjusting yung ginawa sakin.

My mother promised me that it will get better within a year and it did. By the end of my freshman year, i had friends. But sa sobrang laki ng population ng school namin, nung second year di ko na sila lahat kaklase. So parang back to zero ulit. Hay grabe. It wasn't easy. I remember being a junior in high school and still telling myself that life would've been much easier had I stayed in my old school. Nung fourth year medyo ok na ko kasi iniisip ko nalang ngek malapit na college. Pero nung college naman nanibago din ako dahil may boys na. But I eventually got over it. My point is, being comfortable with others is a long process. Even now, I still get awkward with new acquaintances. It takes time ****. But you constantly have to go through the pain, the awkwardness, just so you can get used to it. Practice makes perfect. Can you imagine, nung high school, every year ko kailangan makipagkaibigan sa ibang set of people.

somehow i can understand why maraming tao dito sa thread na to ang nagagalit sayo. EVERYONE goes through social awkwardness or shyness. I know yung iba mukhang makapal ang mukha but trust me they're also feeling a certain amount of shyness kahit papano. When we interact with people we always risk rejection. Everyone struggles with it and siguro kaya nafu-frustrate mga tao sayo is that you seem so lazy. Parang you make a big deal out of something that everybody else struggles with. I understand that it's not so easy but can you really imagine going through life missing out on the beautiful things (like friendships) just because you're too scared to go out of your comfort zone?

I'm so grateful for my mom for not allowing me to escape, for not allowing me to go back to my old school. I'm also grateful that during that part of my life, I had a super duper mega close friend who i talked with on the phone for hours everyday. she kept me sane and reassured a deeper part of me that I was still likeable, that I'm still a friend material and not loner material. If not for this transferring experience and if not for my ex best friend, I maybe would be in the same position as you are. I suggest you find someone to really really talk to. That would help build basic skills in social interaction.

Gets ko sinasabi ng mga tao dito na you have to change your perspective. I think that's the basic rule that you don't use. How you see yourself is how others will see you. Yun lang tandaan mo. If you see yourself in the way you described, man, goodluck na lang. But I really, really, really hope you get out of it.

Expose yourself more. Gawin mo yung kabaliktaran ng binabalak mo. Wag kang magtago. Lumabas ka ng sobra. I promise you it will hurt, the seeming social rejections. But I also promise you that every pain will make you stronger and less vulnerable next time. In high school, fourth year na ko nito ha, nag ka moment ako na nasabi ko sa sarili ko "Ay, ok na ko." I was comfortable na even with pretty girls and I no longer assumed they were thinking the worst of me. At di ko na friends yung mga quiet rin. Kasi tsong masyadong mababaw na standard yung tipong quiet lang kayo pareho, friends na kayo. You should gravitate towards people who share the same interests as you. So find out what you love, and seek the company of people who enjoy the same things as you.

Good luck man.

[boyaxx]

i think its already too late to change your personality, you are already at your mid-20's. its already embedded in you. mahirap na yan. your being tahimik and shy is already a part of you. For me i suggest you try to be a zookeeper or an animal trainer. No way in the world you feel 'inferior' talking only to animals.*okay*

[halohalo]

parang masyado na atang late bloomer si TS..

[Aranda_Bay]

Did somebody call...

http://i33.tinypic.com/qqertt.png

:rotflmao:

Seriously, I can't help but notice:

http://i38.tinypic.com/wraycm.jpg

:confused:

[jokerd'pogi]

si rodolfojunior26 din yan. inaasar na naman yung isa pang pexer dito. :rolleyes: