GENDERING Process At HOME...

[DELISYUS]

ok, i am opening this thread because i cannot see anything where people can officially gripe about their parents/elders regarding the gendering process....

so, guys...let's talk :) in what ways does being a boy/girl make you feel bad at home? what privileges do you or don't you get because of your gender? are you coming from a home wherein parents have this set standards for men, and another for women????

griping, sharing, storytelling etc starts now :)

[bLaCk]

i'm an only child... and i'm a girl... and i'm one hell of a spoiled child!

basically, my parents are not that strict with me so i get to do whatever i want. My friends envied me when i was 16 kse i never had a curfew!

on the other hand, my cousins have no strict rules in their homes as well... i guess it runs in our family to be open-minded about things and treat each kid without gendering.

parang women=men lang...

:flwrface:

[tryx]

gendering??!!! whew!

anyways, people would always associate girl in doing som household chores... like cooking... i hate cooking... before, my brothers insisted on me doing it... but well, there's also this term as being gender-assertive, and i used that term... so right now i can no longerbe forced to do the cooking thing.

[Zenithleng]

i think when we were young, my parents did have delegated responsibilities by gender and by age. boys protect the girl when going out, elder sib is responsible in keeping younger sibs in check. we were assigned to the light chores by turns so everyone got to wash the dishes, clean and stuff. though the heavier chores were only for my elder brothers.

nanay didn't want us to grow up and lead our lives dependent on "helpful angels". and she is right.

however, when it comes to decisions like courses to take up in college or where to study, or which job offer to accept or where to apply...that was all left for us to think about.

boy or girl we have to call home if ever we had to stay overnight at a friends house, or stay at the dorm for the weekend due to school stuff. none of us were fond of the night life during hs up until present...so my parents didn't have to worry about those curfews.

and yes we were pretty square. :lol:

[DELISYUS]

gee, i envy you guys.....

i think my parents weren't around when liberation took place....

i must admit though that my father really expects more from my only brother....

but yeah, chores-wise, its the girls who clean and cook, and though its supposed to be my brothers chore to polish the floor, he still only seldom does it (only the real icky stuff are left to him, like throwing trash....w/c of course, our maid does....or my Mom does, and of course, being my Mom's fave...she'd let him just sleep while she carry in pails of water when we don't have water supply)

and the curfew thing...that gets to me too......my brother can come home at 6 am the following day and he won't get scolded......while if i cme home at 10 pm in 2-3 consecutive days...i would have to endure a parent-to-child talk.....

sheeshhh.......there's more butam starting to hate my bro just now so i'll stop :D