Sense of responsibility

[se7en_of_nine]

Does your sense of responsibility prevent you from pursuing what you want. Like when you are the eldest in the family and your parents somehow expect you to help your younger siblings in finishing their studies and as a result you make a lot of sacrifices e.g. (overtime sa trabaho, bigay ng suweldo sa nanay, hanggang mapansin mo na matandang dalaga/binata ka na pala. :shedtears:


I am part of a :borg: collective and hence all my actions should be for the good of my :borg:brothers even if it means delaying or at times denying my own ambitions/wants. My needs are irrelevant. :bonkself:

Is this the way it is in your world? Is there a compromise?


I am :borg: Resistance is Futile

[lupuS]

Are these beliefs etched in stone? I would think they are guides, suggestions, or ideals, and not rules for which you will be sanctioned if you disobey. How can they compel you to make your needs irrelevant? Let's see how they react when you are too sick to work and need to be hospitalized, for example.

[Zenithleng]

we do have to make sacrifices for the benefit of the many. but the "many" should also be aware on what makes you happy...since you'd be working a lot more efficiently when you are.

you seem to me to be a hardworking individual who feels unappreciated for the things you do. you might want to take a break sit down and have a talk with your parents... without the presence of your younger siblings and tell them how you feel.

let them know your feelings and thoughts. maybe you can find compromise then. supporting them through something you want to do would be a start. based on your post you seem to be someone forced to do a strongly disliked job.

if this in mattes of the heart, then make it known that you are also a person capable of loving another. however, that person and what relationship you will eventually have with each other will not be a hindrance to the responsibility you have assumed in your family.

perhaps the reason they limit you is because when they allow you to think only about your needs (out of the collective), you will forget theirs. what you gotta do is to assure them that this will not happen.

[se7en_of_nine]

Originally posted by Zenithleng
you seem to me to be a hardworking individual who feels unappreciated for the things you do. you might want to take a break sit down and have a talk with your parents... without the presence of your younger siblings and tell them how you feel.



Oops. Sorry, my bad. Disregard the :borg: post. The borg is just a persona I'm using in this board. :D I do help my parents/relatives but not to the point that its all I do ( I wouldn't be posting in this board if that were true) ;). I do indulge in relatively expensive hobbies (wholesome) to the point na minsan nakaka-guilty (esp. with the current economy) :smokewink:

But I would like to thank you guys for your concern :cheers:

My original question is valid in a sense that I am aware of persons who seem to be like that and are perfectly happy.

[Zenithleng]

oic :glee:

well anyway, if they are truly happy with what they are doing then its their call.

i may be one of them too :geek: see, i finished my studies and worked for a while. but then i had to resign because my elder bros and sis are already working for like years. i was the fresh grad without much risk when resigning from work so i did.

up until lately i realized that most of my decisions are based on what is affirmed by the family. but like the others whom you might have noticed. i dont mind.

why? because i also get to give my stand in every decision. when they do not agree that is the time when we "sit down and talk about it". then we come up with compromises.

the sacrifices i do now? i can't have a carefree moment. :)
and yes i am happy whenever i know that what i am doing is for the best of the family. when they are happy, i am happy.

like i have always said...the internet is my social life. *pexadik*