what should i do?

[nailbiter]

i brought my resumé to this company i'm really interested in working for, and this guy from their office, who accomodated me while i was there, called me and told me they would take me on a per-project basis, which actually works really well for me. no details were discussed, though, he said they'd call if they had something for me.

then this guy started to text me. i responded at first, cause he was asking me how i learned about them, when i graduated... i didn't realize early on that it was weird that i should be asked these questions through text. but the next messages just made me uncomfortable. he asked me about my day, what i liked to do for fun, said he was bored and he wanted to text with me... i think it's terribly inappropriate. now i'm not even sure if that call that he made was really in behalf of the company. and even if it was, i don't know if i'm still willing to show up.

it's actually been four days but the guy is relentless, even sending these annoying forwarded ligaw-type messages. should i tell him off? continue to ignore him? bakit ba may mga taong gan'to??!!!

[KuyaDanny]

Jerks exist everywhere - even in companies.

This behavior is unprofessional and I doubt if he is acting for his company when he does these things.

Decide if you want to raise this issue with the guy's superiors at work. If you think it's worth doing, write a letter following up your application and mention the incidents above, specifying the fellow's name. Address your letter to the guy's supervisor, and maybe they can get to the bottom of things. Be advised though that this might lead to potentially messy situations.

An alternative is to change your cellphone number so you can avoid all of the text messages.

[Ira]

I agree with Kuya Danny. Ignore him, and consider filing a complaint about his behavior. There might not even be a contractual job--he might have just been sweettalking you to get more details about you. This guy is totally unprofessional.

[aticus]

Yup. I agree with the two mods. This guy IS a jerk. Follow KD's advice.

[Kram]

I agree with the guys here. Send his company notifying what he has been doing. Although he's doing it not in bahalf of his company, the important things is that he was representing the company when he accepted your resume which includes your cell number.

[junh]

This guy is definitely taking advantage of the situation since he probably knows you want to work there.

Follow the advice of Kuya Danny and Ira. This guy should be taught a lesson on how to be a professional.

[Mymnosene]

joke.

anyway, i think you really should issue a memo to his superiors. those actions are totally unporfessional and uncalled for.

[Ira]

Oh, and don't delete his text messages if you're planning to complain. You might be asked for proof.

[CaRaMBa]

You should report it to the company. Make sure you keep all his messages. If you just have one or two, you might get ignored. But if you have a lot, then the company might just do something about it.

[Leigh]

nailbiter,

has he stopped already?
if you haven't been responding to him, he should have stopped by now. Don't feel 'guilty' about not answering his messages because he is part of the company you want to work for. It's so unprofessional for him to do that and from the message you wrote earlier, i believe he isn't the HR person....

i agree with what they all said, you should make a letter of complaint his superiors if he is still texting you, and "keep all the necessary messages" for proof.

[nailbiter]

i haven't responded, of course, but believe it or not, i still get daily bits of "poetry" from this guy. he is not an HR person, he belongs to the department i was hoping to enter. but i asked around, a high school classmate used to work there, and apparently, he's pretty important, so i don't know if the letter of complaint would make any difference. my fear is that once they read it, they'd show it to him and laugh about it.

[aticus]

Originally posted by nailbiter
i haven't responded, of course, but believe it or not, i still get daily bits of "poetry" from this guy. he is not an HR person, he belongs to the department i was hoping to enter. but i asked around, a high school classmate used to work there, and apparently, he's pretty important, so i don't know if the letter of complaint would make any difference. my fear is that once they read it, they'd show it to him and laugh about it.


Address the letter to the President of the company, cc the HR head AND the legal department. That ought to get his attention.

If you still have problems, there are some good lawyers here in PEx who can help you out.

[Ira]

Unless the guy is the company owner's son, I doubt if your letter would elicit laughs inside their company. No employee is important enough that he can't be subjected to an investigation for wrongdoings. Nothing will make them be more serious about it than an impending threat of a lawsuit (whether real or unreal). aticus is right--address the letter to highers-up, and mention that you have kept the guy's messages for proof. The guy's a class-A jerk, and unless you do something, you're not going to put a stop to what he's doing now.

By the way, have you ever asked him to stop texting you? Maybe that will also help...

[brownpau]

Something similar happened to me a few years ago, back in the days before text. I did a layout job for a literary publication at a prominent university, and I left my pager number with one of the publication's editors so he could contact me. (He was gay.)

Shortly after, I started getting erotic Pablo Neruda verses on my pager, at least once a day. I ignored them, thinking they were mis-sent.

Then, after a few days, I delivered the final layout, got paid, shook hands with the editor of the publication, and left. On my way home, I got a final Pablo Neruda page: "I am Pablo Neruda. Call me if you want more." And the guy left his name.

Uuummm, okay. Well, I just ignored it, like I did the rest of his pages. I was taken already, you see. ;)

On the other hand, he wasn't harrassing me or asking questions. Sorry, now my post sounds pretty tangential, doesn't it? :p

[KuyaDanny]

...at least brownpau's stalker had a little creativity.

[novalee]

I can totally relate! It can really make you feel uncomfortable huh?

My friend submitted my resume at SVI a month ago and I got a call shortly after that. The first one who called me and asked me to come for an exam the next day was a girl. By the way, she called around 10 pm already. Shortly after her call, this guy called me up and when I told him that someone from their co. already scheduled me for an exam, he started asking me questions like why I chose SVI, blah blah blah and then out of the blue, he asked if I have a boyfriend already (he had some mushy comments re my pic) and I go, "uhh,am I being interviewed now? and is that question part of the interview?" Needless to say, I didn't show up for the exam.

I had the same experience w/ another company not too long ago - is it EVER necessary to ask an applicant if she has a bf already during the course of the interview? I find this totally unprofessional and it makes me uncomfortable coz what if I happen to like the company and really want to work for them? I can't blow them off right there and then (like what I did w/ that SVI guy). It's a good thing I didn't like the position being offered by SVI anyway! Btw, both of them are feeling slang (barok slang if i may add) - I had to ask several times what they're talkin about because it sounded like they were eating their words. Oh well, I hope i'm not offending any pexer from SVI ha. This maybe an isolated case lang :angel: