Nagkakaproblema ba anak mo sa school nya?

[amegs_VA]

Dumating kami dito sa Virginia, USA nong March, nakahabol pa ang anak ko sa school year 2000-2001. After ng spring break, nag umpisa syang pumasok as kinder. Tinawagan kami ng principal na pwede na syang mag-umpisa this school year instead of starting on September pa. So, syempre, tinawag syang "new girl" ng mga classmates nya. She hated the phrase, maybe because the way they say it. Until now, she's been telling me na she can't find "real friends". There was a time that she confided me her feelings about the "bad" kids in her school. Minsan pa nag-try syang magbigay ng pera sa ibang classmates nya na "umaaway" daw sa kanya para wag na raw syang awayin. I told her that she should always remember na kahit ano pa ang sabihin ng mga tao sa paligid nya, ang importante ay alam nya na DITO sa loob ng bahay namin ay may mga taong nagmamahal sa kanya at tatanggapin sya kung sino man sya at hindi nya kailangan bigyan ng kahit ano ang sino man para kaibiganin sya. Pero hindi pa yon tapos, pagkaraan ng ilang araw, sinabi nya na inaaway daw sya ng "the same bad kids" dahil ayaw nyang magbigay ng pera. I realized how well she's been doing, managing her own troubles in school, nong sinabi nya na, "Hindi ko talaga sila binigyan, Mommy. Sinunod ko ang mga sinabi mo. Ano ngayon kung ayaw nila sa akin, hindi ko na rin sila kakaibiganin. Marami pa akong ibang classmate na gusto akong maging kaibigan." That same night, we always pray together -- me, my husband, my daughter and her younger sister -- she prayed "Lord, sana bigyan mo ako ng tunay na kaibigan. Thank you po, Lord, dahil masaya kami ngayong araw na ito sa bahay at marami kaming mga nagawa, naglaro, nag-aral, at tumulong kaming maglinis ng bahay." As long as your children know that you offer unconditional love in your home, nothing can DESTROY them as a person....

[pobre]

My daughter who is in kinder does not bring any money to school... not even a penny. Lunch is provided.
She told me that there was this kid who was trying to bully her. What I did was talked to this kid one morning and told him that if he ever pick on my daughter, I am going to flush him in the toilet. They are become good buddies.

[amegs_VA]

Hello there, pobre! it's nice to hear from you. actually, i always prepare lunch for my daughter -- do i sound defensive? :) the money (dimes and nickels) she brought to school was in the wallet i gave her as a gift -- one reason kung bakit nag-init ang bumbunan ko :)... I want her to build her self confidence by making her believe that she can solve her problems on her own -- pero syempre, anino pa rin nya ko -- i try my best to hold my thoughts about her not being able to handle her troubles. But to make sure she'll do it right, i make it a point that i listen to the things that she's NOT telling me -- which i think is more difficult to do -- we have to know our child very well. kase minsan our child just wants us to be there for them or just to listen .... from there, I'll be able to assess if she can do it on her on.:sunnysmile:

[amegs_VA]

Hello there, pobre! it's nice to hear from you. actually, i always prepare lunch for my daughter -- do i sound defensive? :) the money (dimes and nickels) she brought to school was in the wallet i gave her as a gift -- one reason kung bakit nag-init ang bumbunan ko :)... I want her to build her self confidence by making her believe that she can solve her problems on her own -- pero syempre, anino pa rin nya ko -- i try my best to hold my thoughts about her not being able to handle her troubles. But to make sure she'll do it right, i make it a point that i listen to the things that she's NOT telling me -- which i think is more difficult to do -- we have to know our child very well. kase minsan our children just want us to be there for them or just to listen .... from thereon, somehow, I'll be able to assess if she can do it on her on.:sunnysmile:

[pobre]

Every so often, my daughter brings home lunch if she does not like what's on the school menu. Every parent wants to build up the self confidence in their child/children. I try to let her solve her own problem. One time she told me that one of her classmates is making fond of her. So, I gace my daughter three choices: 1) let him make fond of you, 2)tell your teacher, or 3) fight back. Alam mo kung ano pinili niya? Three days later, she cam home with some sand on her hair. I asked her what happened and she said that her classmate did it. I asked her what she did then. My daughter said that she took a bucket and filled it with sand and pour it on her classmate's head. Unfortunately, the teacher saw what she did and got a misbehaving ticket and lost her recess priviledge for that day. I asked my daughter if she told the teacher that the boy started it first. She said no she did not and she didn't have to. I said good for you... now you can handle yourself.

[amegs_VA]

first of all, i have to prepare lunch for my kiddo, cuz she can't have lunch at school, we were disqualified to have that privilege. the thing i want to say is, "the end does not justify the means, or the other way around." fighting back -- doesn't have to be physical and doesn't have to be harsh. Pero wala naman ako sa kalagayan ng tod mo nong nangyari yon sa kanya, kaya i can't be the judge of that, it would be unfair. i'm just stating an unsolicited opinion. i hope i didn't offend you, pareho naman tayong mom. and i believe that you're doing your best for her. good luck! :)

[pobre]

sorry... DADDY ako kaya iba ang turo ko sa anak ko. No... you did not offend me at all. Regarding lunch, either the school charge us additional $3.00 each day or bring your own lunch for the kid. Medyo may pagka Maria Clara kasi yung anak ko kayo tinuturuan kong alisin ang pagka hinhin.

[amegs_VA]

Ooops!:blush2: kaya pala..... that explains kung bakit parang brusko si "mommy". where's the mom? if you don't mind me asking :| about her lunch (oops! lunch nanaman ba pag-uusapan? :redsmile: ) i'd rather prepare her lunch myself kase nasasayang lang yong binibili nya sa school pag hindi nya nauubos :unhappy:, kase before, she buys food from the cafeteria until i realized that it's not yet practical to do that. sa tingin ko ok lang siguro yong pagiging Maria Clara nya, baka nga yon pa ang asset nya diba? sabihin mo kaya sa kanya wag nalang nya kakausapin yong boy at lalayo sya sa presence non -- para makakaiwas sya sa dalang gulo nong bad boy na yon.:chainsaw: nasa Amerika pa naman tayo, mahirap naman kung totally maging aggressive na sya at madala nya sa paglaki nya. di ba mas nakakatakot yon :hopeless: thanks sa mga reply mo, pards! :sunnysmile:

[pobre]

Mommy is with us, in-charge of other things. Siguro dapat lang yata na maging agresibo maski babae dito sa Amerika. If you notice, most if not all of the top management level women are the agressive type. I want her to be good leader and not a follower. It is very competitive here. Hindi na sila magka-away nung boy. Mabait na sa kanya.
Welcome to America.....

[amegs_VA]

pobre

Thank you sa pag welcome mo sa kin... :sunnysmile: mukang tayong dalawa lang ang nagkwekwentuhan dito a :) exclusive ba to? :) pasensya ka na, i just asked about the mom kase akala ko sya yong kausap ko, sorry ha? about being aggresive, oo, pre, maraming babae ngayon sa top management level. pero that's not what i meant about aggresiveness when i said na baka madala nya sa paglaki na especially we're here sa states. i'm sure you know what i mean. yon bang tipong violent or she might think kase na it's okay to fight-- concern lang ako ha?. and also, i just want to stress my point na kung minsan akala nating disadvantage ng personality ng mga anak natin ay pwede rin palang asset nila di ba? let's give them credit. may mga personalities din naman tayong kilala na sumikat dahil sa pagiging feminine nila diba? Uy! :) buti naman bumait na yong boy... looks like you're a good dad :wink: how young are you? me? i'm 31 years young-- young nalang instead of old hahaha. ilan ang kids mo?

[pobre]

I have two young daughters... one is between 3 and 6 and the other one is between 4 and 8. I am very old and I stop counting after 35.... maybe as old as suselle1 if not older.

[amegs_VA]

is it old to be more than 35 years of age? i don't think so... :sunnysmile:

[pobre]

Originally posted by amegs_VA
is it old to be more than 35 years of age? i don't think so... :sunnysmile:

It is when your kids ask you to play tag in the park, play hula hoop, and to carry each of them on your neck in amusement park, to name a few... 35 is very old.

[amegs_VA]

pobre
It is when your kids ask you to play tag in the park, play hula hoop, and to carry each of them on your neck in amusement park, to name a few... 35 is very old.

my huband will be 35 this coming August, tanong ko nga rin sa kanya kung anong feeling :) . hindi naman importante kung anong age mo na e, ang importante kung ano ang pakiramdam mo sa sarili mo. di ba sabi nila sa mga lalake, life begins at 40? ako nga gusto ko pa sanang magkaron ng baby boy kaya lang problema ko mahina ang heart ko. warning ng doctor na iwasan kong magbuntis pagsampa ko daw ng 30, pero bahala na si God :sunnysmile: di baleng matanda na sa idad, basta ba may pinagkatandaan naman di ba? :noteeth: yon nga lang sabi mo maraming requirements from you physically sa mga bata. di bale, sandali lang yan, mabilis namang magsipaglaki mga anak natin e. baka nga ma-miss mo yong mga ganyan :) ako rin, malapit ako sa daddy ko, kaya nong ikakasal ako, nabanggit nya na naaalala daw nya nong kinakarga pa nya ko at kinakalong... tapos ngayon, ikakasal na. magaling din syang mag gitara kaya nong nag march ako papuntang altar, sya yong naggigitara at sister ko yong kumakanta, pangit ko tuloy sa video kase iyak ako ng iyak habang naglalakad :teehee: enjoy mo nalang while it lasts. :lovestory:

[pobre]

Feeling ko matanda na ako. Inabuso ko kasi katawan ko noong bata pa ako...puyat, smoking, inom. Now, I don't smoke and I don't drink.

Having another kid??? Wow... Our hands are full with the two that we have. Besides we cannot afford to have a third one lalo na pag nagcollege na sila. Right now we pay around $15,000 a year for child care plus additional costs on their other activities like piano lessons, dancing lessons, swimming lessons, etc.
With two kids...halos mamulubi kami. That's how I named myself POBRE. We are both working parents so we don't spend so much time with our kids on weekdays.

[amegs_VA]

pobre
Feeling ko matanda na ako. Inabuso ko kasi katawan ko noong bata pa ako...puyat, smoking, inom. Now, I don't smoke and I don't drink.

Having another kid??? Wow... Our hands are full with the two that we have. Besides we cannot afford to have a third one lalo na pag nagcollege na sila. Right now we pay around $15,000 a year for child care plus additional costs on their other activities like piano lessons, dancing lessons, swimming lessons, etc.
With two kids...halos mamulubi kami. That's how I named myself POBRE. We are both working parents so we don't spend so much time with our kids on weekdays

congratulations! mahirap magpigil ng bisyo. nong nag-stop din husband ko sa paninigarilyo, nahirapan sya. pwedeng sa "tingin" mo pobre ka sa pera pero mayaman ka na sa paningin ng ibang tao dahil kaya mong suportahan ang pamilya mo. I think your children are proud to have parents like you who would do everything for them. You're trying to give your children the best of everything, kahit na minsan kapus-kapos (i know the feeling).... i call that unselfishness. And you try to make up for your lost time with them which not all parents are capable of doing. God bless your family and sana lalo pa kayong umasenso sa buhay. :sunnysmile:

[amegs_VA]

To All:

please don't hesitate to post here. this is not a private thread for me ang pobre :) . nagkakakwentuhan lang po :) kahit solved problems na okay parin, kahit hindi kayo parent pero you want to share ok lang din. kase it would help a lot to hear from you and to learn from you. kase iba-iba ang problema ng mga bata sa school, kahit anong age pa nya, sigurado he/she encounters some difficulties... whatever it is, let's talk about it. And if you are the child, then let us know kung ano ang problems nyo kung kayo ang may access dito instead of your parents. this is open to all filipinos around the world.

thanks :sunnysmile:

[KuyaDanny]

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Originally posted by pobre
My daughter who is in kinder does not bring any money to school... not even a penny. Lunch is provided.
She told me that there was this kid who was trying to bully her. What I did was talked to this kid one morning and told him that if he ever pick on my daughter, I am going to flush him in the toilet. They are become good buddies.

The best and most practical solution to bullying is to make your children learn martial arts such as Karate, Tae Kwon Do, Pekiti-Tirsia, Krav Maga, Judo or Ninjutsu. For example, if the bully tries to extort from your child and instead of money, the bully got a good roundhouse kick in the face or thrown in the dumpster using Judo moves, your child would be safe from bullies for the rest of his/her school life.