Why do "kuyas" harass their little sister's boyfriends? [Archive]

:Þ

Nov 8, 2001, 02:03 AM

Hey what's up with "Kuyas" harassing their little sis' suitors or BF's? Is this a Filipino Tradition or what? I just noticed this in like every (pinoy) family, when you're seeing a younger chick, you gotta "befriend" their big brothers but they will end up being a big bully anyways, and give you all kinds of sh.t and see if you can put up with them, what's up with that?

Luckily, my wife is the eldest so I didn't have to put up with those kind of crap, but when I was like 12 and had my first date, this "chick" happened to be the youngest AND THE ONLY GIRL. She had five (5) big brothers - three were US Marine Corps, one was in the US Navy and one was a drug addict. Just think about that for a moment. So imagine the torture that I had to put up with. :rolleyes:

What's up with that? Is this a Filipino tradition to always have the big dawgs harass their lil sis' suitor?

Assassin_Mage

Nov 8, 2001, 02:56 AM

I dunno..
I really do not have a sister but I had several that I adopted myself and when some of them presented their suitors to me, it is kinda like I felt I had to rough him up a bit.

I think it stems form the fact that most elder brothers are very protective of their sisters even if they dotn show it much. and harassing the suitors is kinda like one way of weeding out those who you think are not worth it. I mean if any of my sisters` suitors were not up to snuff, then I hardly think they would be able to take care of my sister when the time comes now would they?

cmars2

Nov 8, 2001, 04:39 AM

Lucky me I don't have a Kuya. :D

Shofixti

Nov 8, 2001, 04:40 AM

We're four siblings. 3 guys and a bunso (girl). She's a sophomore in UST.

KUNG SINO MAN MANLIGAW SA KANYA O MAKIPAGFLIRT MAN LANG, BABATUKAN KO!! :lol: :lol:

Steer clear of Disturbed_Kid! You hear?!!

:glee: Deads ako sa sis ko pag nabasa nya to.

Kikkomann

Nov 8, 2001, 05:15 AM

:D :D :D Wala lang... kasi it somehow let them feel na superior sila... na sila parati ang masusunod. Feel nila macho sila and para di nila gawin sayo i2 kelangan submit to their demands. Alam kasi nila na they are the one who is in authority and you can't fight back... parang ganun yun.:D :D :D

rhye_stardust

Nov 8, 2001, 06:15 AM

Originally posted by Assassin_Mage
I think it stems form the fact that most elder brothers are very protective of their sisters even if they dotn show it much. and harassing the suitors is kinda like one way of weeding out those who you think are not worth it. I mean if any of my sisters` suitors were not up to snuff, then I hardly think they would be able to take care of my sister when the time comes now would they?

I agree whole-heartedly!!
Actually, it's not really tradition. It's instinct. Kung mahal talaga ng kuya niya ang kanyang nakababatang kapatid, gagawin niya yun. It's flattering and endearing (at least, for me), because I know my kuya cares. :glee:

septerra

Nov 8, 2001, 06:32 AM

yup. thats true. I myself would have done it if only I have a kid sister but sad to say, I am the youngest. we are only two boys.

its not tradition that kuya's harass the BF of young sister, its just that they want their BF to steer clear of the "dirty" antics he would and he can do to the baby sister. remember, its a baby sister and anything can happen. one last thing, kuya's just want the BF of their baby sister to behave because if the BF feels to lax for the kuya's he tends to abuse it. That's what I believe. sorry for others, its just a habit that kuya's have. protective ba.

DELISYUS

Nov 8, 2001, 07:11 AM

Originally posted by cmars2
Lucky me I don't have a Kuya. :D

my younger bro ran after a friend of mine once...because he didn't like how my friend looked at him....

anyway, am so glad am also the eldest :)

benyaki

Nov 8, 2001, 09:13 AM

i have no sister but i have a younger friend na girl (4 1/2 years ang gap namin) and she is like a sister to me... siguro kaya lang ganun yung mga kuya e dahil mahal nga nila yung kapatid nila... sa tingin ko e karamihan ng mga lalaki e iisa lang ang takbo ng isip, so sinisiguro lang talaga ng mga kuya na walang masamang intensyon or anuman yung nanliligaw o bf ng sis... syempre karamihan naman ng mga nanliligaw o bf ng sis nila e hindi nmana ganun kakilala e.. tsaka minsan, sarap lang talagang mangtrip ng mga nanliligaw o bf ng mga nakakabatang kapatid e... hehehe... :silly:

rins

Nov 8, 2001, 09:25 AM

I agree with assassin_mage.

I have a kuya and I think that it's okay for him to "harrass" my suitors. It's kind of "testing" the guy na rin if he's really worth it. One example my kuya gave me is how the guy grips his hand upon introduction. :teehee:

k@r3n

Nov 8, 2001, 06:33 PM

i think na ang mga"kuya" ayaw lang nila syempre ma-hurt yung mga little sister nila... they are just being protective kasi they CARE

blackmask

Nov 8, 2001, 07:23 PM

i think we cant call it some sort of harassment...
its just kuya's way of testing the truthfullness...
of his little sister's suitor...
tsaka wag problemahin...
kuyas are not against suitors...
they are against BAD suitors...
with BAD intentions for their...
little sis...
:)

cmars2

Nov 8, 2001, 08:38 PM

I still believe na di naman talaga nang haharass yung mga kuya sa mga boyfriend or suitors ng little sister nila eh. Call them over protective but it's for your own good also. I mean, kahit na sino naman siguro magagalit kung di matino yung guy mo right? You don't need a kuya for that. :)

sheila_sy18

Nov 9, 2001, 12:10 AM

well, for me natural na ***** yun... i guess im very lucky i got 4 eldest brothers. hehehe... sabi nung isang guy he dont wanna mess up with me dami ko daw kuya... yu n ***.. jst wanna share.. :)

*keyah*

Jan 1, 2003, 04:57 AM

I have two big bros and one big sis - I'm the youngest and yes, they are protective of me when it comes to dating. They have to interview the guy first. :D

My guy understands why he had to go through those interrogations with my brothers. He said he does the same thing to his younger sister's suitors. :)

*okay*

maxieGRL

Jan 1, 2003, 06:23 AM

:beam:

this is funny. the actual harassment didn't come from my older brother but from his bandmates..also considered as my kuyas.

the first time i introduced my ex to them was at a bar where they had a gig at malate. when we arrived my kuya's band was already on stage, we went up front so that they'll know that i was already there.

the first one to notice my ex was my cousin (also in the band) signalled the other members to look at us. they all glared at my ex. to the point that the lead singer went near to us leaned forward and pointed to my ex.

it was funny. after their set, i introduced my ex to them and they looked at him from head to toe. shook my ex's hand but they all squeezed his hand. :evil_lol:

it's funny remembering little details like this.

maxieGRL

Jan 1, 2003, 06:27 AM

the only time i remember my kuya ever "harassing" a suitor of mine...

a suitor in high school asked my brother what kind of bracelet i wanted. my brother didn't like the guy because he was too arrogant for my brother's taste. so what my brother did was he told the guy if he was going to buy me a bracelet he should get one for my brother also. then my brother told him straight out that he didn't like the guy. hahaha.

takot yung guy sa kuya ko. pero ligaw pa din. okay lang kasi i turned him down din naman. kasi SOBRANG HAMBOG nung guy..i think i was really bad for his ego:evil_lol:

RöttenMind

Jan 1, 2003, 09:07 AM

kase po.. alam nila kung panu tumakbo utak ng lalake.. (some are manloloko, bolero, playboy, malibog..)

.. and maybe natatakot silang gawin sa sis nila ang ginawa nila before sa mga babae..

.. and also coz na-bully rin sila ng mga kuya ng niligawan nila before..

my ex is ok naman sa kuya ko.. they're not really close, but they talk like human.. si kuya ko nice eh.. di siya naninindak, (kse alam nya kaya ko sarili ko) pero astigas din sya.. :)

xtx

Jan 1, 2003, 09:55 AM

i have two older brothers. the eldest is very very protective. kung anu-ano ginagawa niya kapag may manliligaw ako. :glee: kaso sa suitors lang mahigpit, di naman kasi niya alam na all this time, nagkaroon na ako ng boyfriend.

i guess mahal lang talaga nya ako. and he cares for me a lot. alam nya na kasi ang mga kagag*han ng mga lalaki, ayaw niyang maging biktima ako :glee:

LaTtE`M

Jan 1, 2003, 10:17 AM

paulsky

Jan 1, 2003, 01:23 PM

kc alam ng kuya lahat ng mga kamanyakan na ginagawa ng mga manliligaw

3cylinder

Jan 1, 2003, 02:07 PM

It IS a tradition, one that tests a suitor's true intentions at that. Kasi kung hindi talaga gusto nung guy yung babae, aatras na lang yun eh. Saka kung niloloko niya lang yung babae, matatakot siya na merong gaganti sa kanya pag nagkataon

I agree it is a tradition at normal lang yun....Meron nga ako kilala na ganun eh....pero mabait naman yung kuya niya kahit malayo sa kulay niya kase yung kuya niya maitim tapos siya maputi.....:glee:
pero magkamukha pa rin silang dalawa

kc alam ng kuya lahat ng mga kamanyakan na ginagawa ng mga manliligaw

:lol:.....

flowerbee_30

Jan 5, 2003, 11:27 AM

LOL .. tell me about it .. when I was seeing my ex partner my kuya terrorised him .. the first time I took him my kuya interogated him .. everytime he was over my kuya stood in the kitchen looking towards the rumpus room watching our every move , we weren't allowed to sit close to eachother when we do he'd tell me off :( .. he was like a hawk .. he is sooooooooo over protective all the times it gets depressing and annoying

LaTtE`M

Jan 5, 2003, 01:14 PM

Originally posted by flowerbee_30
LOL .. tell me about it .. when I was seeing my ex partner my kuya terrorised him .. the first time I took him my kuya interogated him .. everytime he was over my kuya stood in the kitchen looking towards the rumpus room watching our every move , we weren't allowed to sit close to eachother when we do he'd tell me off :( .. he was like a hawk .. he is sooooooooo over protective all the times it gets depressing and annoying

Ay sobra na yan... para siyang tatay ah!

Siguro **** yang kuya mo kaya malisyoso: isip niya yung kalokohan na ginagawa niya gagawin din ng suitor mo!

flick10

Jan 6, 2003, 03:05 PM

i only do that if i dont like the guy. all big bros want the best for their little sis.
:D

flowerbee_30

Jan 8, 2003, 06:31 PM

lol .. my kuya is a great guy but he knows what guy's my ex partner's age is like so his being protective & yes big brother's always wants best for his lil sister's & offcourse big sister's want the best for her lil sister .. I am the youngest of 3 kids , my ate is 26 my kuya is 24 & me :D .. I have 2 older protective siblings ..

sweet_angel79

Jan 9, 2003, 02:26 AM

WEll, I'm glad I don't have a KUYA!!!

dixiewhiskey

Jan 9, 2003, 03:31 AM

there was this girl once na liniligawan ko, heheh... her mom and dad kinda liked me, and her female cousins kind of liked me but her three tall, basketball player type older broes were the guardians.

the last one of em (actually the youngest of all siblings but like em three he was just tall as a f'n poste, hah) was the understanding one. the older brother had arms like huge pythons and nearly crushed my hand when he shook hands with me, the other older brother was the silent type, i.e. he was always looking from the veranda or from the background, nanlilisik ang mata tuwing ihahatid ko sa bahay yung crush ko, and crunching his knuckles as if saying, lumapit ka pa ng konte, yari ka saken, heheheh...

DELISYUS

Jan 10, 2003, 04:59 PM

Partly, to protect their sister's interest by making sure only the best of the best land their sister's YES

Partly, because boys will be boys

Partly, as a coping mechanism for their own evolving awareness that their sister is also a woman (err, dunno how else to say how brothers, as male beings, also respond to their sisters sexually...somehow.... a primitive instinct that we can never curtail...but of course, am not espousing incest here ok? just saying that such an awareness can stress any brother...and he has to displace that stres somehow...and who better than the guys to which his sister may respond to?)

ckat

Jan 11, 2003, 04:13 PM

i have a kuya. it's cool though coz everyone knows who he is. at least i dont have to worry about guys bothering me.

aajao

Jan 12, 2003, 03:41 AM

sayang wala akong younger sis. :(

lunacy

Jan 12, 2003, 04:10 AM

Originally posted by Shofixti
We're four siblings. 3 guys and a bunso (girl). She's a sophomore in UST.

KUNG SINO MAN MANLIGAW SA KANYA O MAKIPAGFLIRT MAN LANG, BABATUKAN KO!! :lol: :lol:

Steer clear of Disturbed_Kid! You hear?!!

:glee: Deads ako sa sis ko pag nabasa nya to.

baliw!!! ehehehe...... buti n *** d na nag popost si DisTuRBeD_KiD_.. :lol:

i guess big bros just want to test kung sincere *** mga guys.. so far *** mga big bro ko wala pa naman tineterrorize sa mga naging BF ko.. kasi kaya ko naman i-handle.. sa ken sila malalagot pag niloko nila ako...

BayRusBoy

Jan 12, 2003, 10:31 PM

defense mechanism na ata un eh ...

:D

treach_16

Jan 17, 2003, 09:41 AM

ako baligtad my younger sis is the one who's harrassing my date!!! considering i'm her big bro! arrghhh!!!! hirap talaga pag CUTE ka!!! hahaha

treach_16

Jan 17, 2003, 09:41 AM

ako baligtad my younger sis is the one who's harrassing my date!!! considering i'm his big bro! arrghhh!!!! hirap talaga pag CUTE ka!!! hahaha

rage_within

Jan 17, 2003, 05:19 PM

just like this...

"you guys goin' out? break her heart and i'll break your neck."
---- Vin Diesel as Dom, The Fast and the Furious

penandpaper

Jan 17, 2003, 10:44 PM

Originally posted by rage_within
just like this...

"you guys goin' out? break her heart and i'll break your neck."
---- Vin Diesel as Dom, The Fast and the Furious

Hehe! Panalo 'to! :rotflmao:

:Þ

Jan 18, 2003, 01:59 PM

wow this thread magically got bumpt :D

ciccio

Jan 18, 2003, 07:11 PM

i think it's just me, a kuya, being protective. i don't want guys fooling my sister for that matter.

rage_within

Jan 19, 2003, 03:39 PM

Originally posted by penandpaper
Hehe! Panalo 'to! :rotflmao:

he he he... astig nga sa attitude e. imagine, magka-utol ka ng kasing ganda ni Jordana Brewster, kahit ano... gagawin mo para protektahan utol mo...

http://www.ciudadfutura.com/elcriticon/jordana.jpg
http://www.tiramillas.net/cine/invisiblecircus/invisible06.jpg
http://www.eonline.com/Facts/People/Photos/fs.brewster.jordan.jpg

Originally posted by ciccio
i think it's just me, a kuya, being protective. i don't want guys fooling my sister for that matter.

... but seriously, oo naman. agree ako kay ciccio. utol na mapapahamak e, ibang usapan na iyon.

(di ba, xtx? ;) )

maxieGRL

Jan 19, 2003, 03:58 PM

Originally posted by rage_within
just like this...

"you guys goin' out? break her heart and i'll break your neck."
---- Vin Diesel as Dom, The Fast and the Furious

hay nakuh! my "kuyas" feel that way around all the guys who want to court me. :rotflmao: if they were protective of me before i had a bf, now they're even worse! (esp after what my ex did to me!!) all is good naman kasi ayoko naman magpaligaw ngayon e.:evil_lol:

Dickster

Jun 5, 2003, 08:31 AM

e yung mga kuya na nanliligaw din? di ba sila nahihirapan sa kuya na nililigawan nila? Malas din naman nila kung yung kuya ng girl e nanghaharass din...

pero sabi nga nila ligawan mo muna yung pamilya bago yung type mo mismo... good shot ka sa family mas madali ang buhay mo...

Sweetkay

Jun 5, 2003, 09:05 AM

Kuya's are also guys, therefore, they have a basic idea of what is in the suitor/bf's mind and they are scared that the guy will succeed. Kaya hinaharass nila. :glee:

Demonize

Jun 5, 2003, 09:31 AM

probably because pumapayag..or tinotoletrate, ni little sister ang ginagawa ng kanyang kuya sa kanyang boyfiend

...yun lang naman yun diba?

IMAlive

Jun 5, 2003, 11:09 AM

meron sigurong kinalaman ang kasabihang:

It takes one to Know one!

pag nanghaharass mga kuya siguro kasi natatakot sila na gawin sa sisters nila mga ginagawa nila :D

LaTtE`M

Jun 5, 2003, 11:43 AM

Kuyas harass their lil sis' boyfriends because those kuyas do crazy stuff and molest girls themselves. Kung masungit kuya mo sa bf mo, malamang ********* ang kuya mo pagdating sa babae! :rotflmao:

milkyman

Jun 5, 2003, 02:11 PM

its fun, cute and the best reason of all is that i can...

f0r5aK3n

Jun 7, 2003, 06:37 AM

man, belat really comes up with the best threads.

hahaha... I really relate!

maxieGRL

Jun 9, 2003, 02:40 AM

this is funny. i just experienced this kanina..

nag-feeling nanaman yungmga pinsan ko. from my nephew's bday party, i went out on a date. my date is 6'2", 170lbs. pure muscle (gym buff kasi) and "mature" hahahaha! and my cousins were, sizing him up and all. nakakatawa kasi masmaliit sila lahat dun sa guy.

Dickster

Jun 10, 2003, 10:49 AM

kahit mas malaki pa yung date mo kesa sa kuya mo, maraming mga kuya dyan ang di magpapatalo sa date ng sister niya. feeling nila kasi yung relationship of his sister and her date is under his approval at nararamdaman nila na walang magagawa yung date mo sa kanya.

If the sister's date tried to beat or intimidate your kuya, then you can say goodbye to that person. asahan mo na pagbabawalan ka ng kuya mo na makipagkita pa dun sa lalake na yun. its just a matter of fact that when a male recieves authority of some sort, our egos (whether we like it or not) rushes in.

i guess pagpasensyahan nyo na lang. kung sa bagay pag me date naman ang mga kuya nyo you also have something to say about his date also. some of you also try to harass your kuya's date dba?

LaTtE`M

Jun 10, 2003, 10:53 AM

Ahh yes, ego trip.

But then again, ano yan, naninindak yung mga kuya? Ang jologs naman nun.

Totnak

Jun 10, 2003, 04:26 PM

Hindi naman siguro intensyon ng mga kuyang katulad ko na i-harass ang mga boyfriend's ng aming mga nakababatang kapatid...we're just giving a reminder to the guy "not to hurt my baby sister or else...." HMP!!!

Sayang na lang pagiging powerlifter ko at Jeet-Kune-Do artist ko kung di ko magagamit sa kanya.....:naughty: hehehehe....dyuk onli!!!!

Di naman sigurong masamang magpaalala di ba?

vp18

Jun 11, 2003, 08:12 AM

Kasi hinarasss din kami ng mga kuya nga mga niligawan or nililigawan namin . Eh di naman kami makaganti doon dahil baka magalit sa amin yung gf or nililigawan namin so sa mga manliligaw ng mga little sister na lang kami gumaganti . ganti gantihan lang yan :D

maxieGRL

Jul 29, 2003, 10:05 PM

my boyfriend has my brother's wholehearted approval. which is a first, he didn't like my suitors before and he didn't like my first boyfriend (now he loathes him) and my second bf was okay but my brother thought i could do better. now he approves of my boyfriend.:beam:

nakilala niya kasi e. my brother knows the him enough to know that he will take care and will cherish me.

switbebe

Jul 30, 2003, 08:19 AM

i think its more of kuyas "protecting" their sisters not "harassing". :)

the_shining

Jul 30, 2003, 04:38 PM

cuch

Jul 30, 2003, 06:45 PM

pano ba yan wala akong sis,pero 4 kami magkakapatid na lalaki,puro sixfooter and kargado,pagnanligaw isa sa amin at hinarass ng kuya nung girl,pootah,resbak na mga kapatid!:D

Dunedain

Jul 30, 2003, 08:07 PM

Originally posted by :Þ
Hey what's up with "Kuyas" harassing their little sis' suitors or BF's? Is this a Filipino Tradition or what? I just noticed this in like every (pinoy) family, when you're seeing a younger chick, you gotta "befriend" their big brothers but they will end up being a big bully anyways, and give you all kinds of sh.t and see if you can put up with them, what's up with that?

Luckily, my wife is the eldest so I didn't have to put up with those kind of crap, but when I was like 12 and had my first date, this "chick" happened to be the youngest AND THE ONLY GIRL. She had five (5) big brothers - three were US Marine Corps, one was in the US Navy and one was a drug addict. Just think about that for a moment. So imagine the torture that I had to put up with. :rolleyes:

What's up with that? Is this a Filipino tradition to always have the big dawgs harass their lil sis' suitor?

If you'd study Philippine norms, traditions, and practices of the old days, guys who have a liking to a girl has to go through the parents first. But with the change of times, mom and dad has to go out and make a living to put food on the table and keep the roof on the family's head - which leaves kuya in charge. Besides, kuya lives in the same generation of their younger siblings. They know, more or less, the good and bad of their time - especially the bad ones. It's only natural that Kuya has to protect little sister in the absence of mom and dad. It also proves his worth to the family in the eyes of the parents.

Besides, suitors are always harrassed. This is a test of their ability if they can withstand and get along with the girl's family (or better yet, the entire clan). It proves their worth.

I'mBigMe

Jul 31, 2003, 05:25 AM

Originally posted by treach_16
ako baligtad my younger sis is the one who's harrassing my date!!! considering i'm her big bro! arrghhh!!!! hirap talaga pag CUTE ka!!! hahaha
rare.
prolly it's because your sis sees something wrong in her, something conspicuously vicious you've been blind of (bec of your love for her), or she's being protective of you too. Ain't that sweet? ;)

me, i'm always protective of my kuya.
pag may pinapakilala syang girl and hindi aprub sakin, she's DISMISSED. :p

greenberet

Jul 31, 2003, 11:09 PM

hey !!! . . . i also harass my ate's suitors :D . . . most especially when they call her, i have a special routine just for them !!! :bungi: . . . and our kuya has his own subtle little way (an understatement !!! heheh) of dealing with them !!!

ayoko kasi bumagsak ang ate ko to some unworthy doofus who will just take advantage of her . . . my ate is such a great lady and her man should deserve her 100% !!!

Neon_Chaos

Aug 1, 2003, 09:25 AM

As a kuya myself, I think it's pretty unfair to say that we're just full of machismo.

Syempre, may kasamang harassment, and the usual "break her heat and I'll break your neck" treatment... but that's all because I care for my kid sis.

It's not easy being a kuya, by the way... having to be the driver/bodyguard most of the time... it's pretty damn annoying.

But I love my kid sis, the brat that she is, :) And I'd stop at nothing if I find out that some ******* breaks her heart.

phoenix14

Aug 1, 2003, 01:04 PM

uhm.. i am the only girl in the family. and im 24.

i did not have any problem with that. my kuya and my little bro are policemen but they never harrassed my bf.

good thing my whole family likes him..

kixter

Aug 1, 2003, 03:58 PM

nde nmn talaga harassing yun eh, pwera na lang kung iba na ginagawa nang mga kuya mo....

Ako, what I do is just size up the guy, ask him out of the house after dinner and then talk to him, just like friends.... and i dont usually talk about my sister... we just talk about what sports he likes, any common denominator that we may have and that's it....

panay paalala lang ako kung lalabas sila sabay hawak sa kutsilyo at tango sa lalaki non..... harrasment ba yon??? :D

k!xT3r!!!
:hiphop: